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"Pretty much all the guys I've met on here are also on tinder. I would say 33 is a prime age, quite sure you've been told that before? I guess it depends what age people you're looking for to hook up with." Considering I've not had a single like or match in over a month, 33 is probably not an attractive age :D. Unless it's something to do with my appearance. And my age range is the default one set by Tinder when I set up the account - 27 to 37 | |||
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"I’ve never used tinder so can’t comment on how it works or why you aren’t getting any matches. What I can say is I know some decent looking men who also struggle on there. I also know some fairly average men who do very well." I’ll add that all of these men are around my age and I’m older than you so it probably isn’t your age. | |||
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"Does it say on your Tinder account that you are waiting for surgery to enlarge your penis despite it looking above average size ?" Obviously not :D | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there. "Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem"Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded  | |||
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"You need one picture of you at gym, to show you are healthy and take care of your body You need one picture of you topless , to show that you are actually working out at the gym ( this should preferably be a beach picture, because you don't want to appear vain) You need one picture of you in a suit (preferably with a classy drink in your hand) to showcase you have style and you are outgoing You need one picture with a cat or a dog, to show your sensitive side (doesn't have to be your own pet- find a cat in your neighbourhood and take a selfie with it )
You need one pic...oi! are you taking notes? "You forgot exotic animal pic on holiday. | |||
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"Does it say on your Tinder account that you are waiting for surgery to enlarge your penis despite it looking above average size ?" Hahaha | |||
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"You need one picture of you at gym, to show you are healthy and take care of your body You need one picture of you topless , to show that you are actually working out at the gym ( this should preferably be a beach picture, because you don't want to appear vain) You need one picture of you in a suit (preferably with a classy drink in your hand) to showcase you have style and you are outgoing You need one picture with a cat or a dog, to show your sensitive side (doesn't have to be your own pet- find a cat in your neighbourhood and take a selfie with it )
You need one pic...oi! are you taking notes?
You forgot exotic animal pic on holiday. "Was getting to that | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded "Jokes aside, I've genuinely wondered about this, whether being loaded would get me more matches. Haha | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
Jokes aside, I've genuinely wondered about this, whether being loaded would get me more matches. Haha"More than likely but would they be the type of people you’d want to meet? | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
Jokes aside, I've genuinely wondered about this, whether being loaded would get me more matches. Haha
More than likely but would they be the type of people you’d want to meet?"At least I’d finally rap along to gold digger and say ‘that’s some real shit’ afterwards  | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
Jokes aside, I've genuinely wondered about this, whether being loaded would get me more matches. Haha
More than likely but would they be the type of people you’d want to meet?"Would beat being undatable as it stands | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
Jokes aside, I've genuinely wondered about this, whether being loaded would get me more matches. Haha
More than likely but would they be the type of people you’d want to meet?
At least I’d finally rap along to gold digger and say ‘that’s some real shit’ afterwards "Fuck the money. That right there is the dream. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem"Your right, it isn't I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range. It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio. As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
Jokes aside, I've genuinely wondered about this, whether being loaded would get me more matches. Haha
More than likely but would they be the type of people you’d want to meet?
Would beat being undatable as it stands "What else do you try other than online dating/swinging sites? | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded "There certainly is a selection of local ladies that will date offshore guys for the lifestyle and perks. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
There certainly is a selection of local ladies that will date offshore guys for the lifestyle and perks."Are you loaded/work offshore? | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself."Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now  | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
There certainly is a selection of local ladies that will date offshore guys for the lifestyle and perks.
Are you loaded/work offshore?"Mr KC was the very opposite of loaded when he worked offshore. His pay was absolute shite | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Just put a picture of you on an oil rig and they’ll assume you’re loaded
There certainly is a selection of local ladies that will date offshore guys for the lifestyle and perks.
Are you loaded/work offshore?"Loaded, no. Offshore, yes. I don't mention my job on Tinder. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now "It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
"By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? | |||
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" By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? " Same as all these sites/ apps | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
"Probably just me then. Haha. I try not to take it personally when I do that badly, but its pretty obvious I'm just not desirable enough. Shouldn't be too surprised considering some of the guys I'm up against. Female colleagues have shown me their matches, and they're like bloody models. Haha | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? "Why the imbalance here? It's the same with all the dating sites that don't charge an exorbitant amount for men. Women use them less. That's why they generally don't have to pay for access/better features. | |||
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" By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? Same as all these sites/ apps " One wonders how there are so many single gents if there are not single ladies to match? Perhaps there are more homosexual ladies than previously estimated? Perhaps ladies are happier to be single? Maybe there's a lot of "taken" chaps looking for extras?! Who knows | |||
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" By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? Same as all these sites/ apps One wonders how there are so many single gents if there are not single ladies to match? Perhaps there are more homosexual ladies than previously estimated? Perhaps ladies are happier to be single? Maybe there's a lot of "taken" chaps looking for extras?! Who knows "Single ladies will join apps when they need to. They may find someone in other ways easier first. Guys will join as well as look in other ways. It may be different for the younger age groups but older ladies are scarce. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there. "Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? "Same imbalance you get everywhere, even here. Men do the chasing with all this, women wait for the right one to chase her... It's just how it works, predominantly If you consider the number of people met from here Vs tinder, tinder wins for me by a massive margin. It's probably the same for most guys as not many of us have public face pictures on fab. Upload a dick pic to tinder and see how long you last... | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder?
Same imbalance you get everywhere, even here. Men do the chasing with all this, women wait for the right one to chase her... It's just how it works, predominantly
If you consider the number of people met from here Vs tinder, tinder wins for me by a massive margin. It's probably the same for most guys as not many of us have public face pictures on fab.
Upload a dick pic to tinder and see how long you last... "*Looks down trousers* Ummmmmm, I appear to lack a dick. Do you think they'd notice if I used Mr KC's?!  | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder?
Same imbalance you get everywhere, even here. Men do the chasing with all this, women wait for the right one to chase her... It's just how it works, predominantly
If you consider the number of people met from here Vs tinder, tinder wins for me by a massive margin. It's probably the same for most guys as not many of us have public face pictures on fab.
Upload a dick pic to tinder and see how long you last...
*Looks down trousers*
Ummmmmm, I appear to lack a dick. Do you think they'd notice if I used Mr KC's?! "That wasn't directed at you my dear, apologies! It was meant generically. But looking down your trousers made me giggle I'd ask him first... | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun. "Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder?
Same imbalance you get everywhere, even here. Men do the chasing with all this, women wait for the right one to chase her... It's just how it works, predominantly
If you consider the number of people met from here Vs tinder, tinder wins for me by a massive margin. It's probably the same for most guys as not many of us have public face pictures on fab.
Upload a dick pic to tinder and see how long you last...
*Looks down trousers*
Ummmmmm, I appear to lack a dick. Do you think they'd notice if I used Mr KC's?!
That wasn't directed at you my dear, apologies! It was meant generically. But looking down your trousers made me giggle I'd ask him first..."Looking down my trousers SHOULD make you go all funny at the knees. Or something
I'll check with Mr KC before I hijack his penis. He is usually pretty accommodating with my penis-based demands  | |||
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" By rights, there should be approximately a 50/50 split between males and females on the earth. So why the imbalance on Tinder? Same as all these sites/ apps One wonders how there are so many single gents if there are not single ladies to match? Perhaps there are more homosexual ladies than previously estimated? Perhaps ladies are happier to be single? Maybe there's a lot of "taken" chaps looking for extras?! Who knows "Obviously lots of cheaters but also I think lots of men use apps like tinder more casually. I think women looking for casual set ups or that aren’t looking for much don’t use the apps as often as women that are looking for serious stuff. Also I think men date more than one person a lot more which means I think they’re usually more active on these things. | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in. "Probably because most women on here have no desire to date a man is his mid to late 20’s, my thing with Tinder is that very few on there would be open to the idea of a ENM relationship in comparison to fab. Ideally I’d like to find a swing relationship but that’s probably not going to come until I’m in my mid 30’s at the earliest, so for now I just enjoy going to the clubs and having as much fun as possible. Only live once and all that | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in. "You seem to be doing well, so I'd keep it up . It's clearly me that's the problem, as quite a few of you seem to have no problems on tinder | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in.
You seem to be doing well, so I'd keep it up . It's clearly me that's the problem, as quite a few of you seem to have no problems on tinder"Dude please don't take this the wrong way, I mean it with good intent! But pessimism isn't attractive. Being overly optimistic isn't good either, but somewhere between might help you out a little  | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in.
You seem to be doing well, so I'd keep it up . It's clearly me that's the problem, as quite a few of you seem to have no problems on tinder
Dude please don't take this the wrong way, I mean it with good intent! But pessimism isn't attractive. Being overly optimistic isn't good either, but somewhere between might help you out a little "Don't worry, I know it's meant in a good way. But how is someone going to tell pessimism from some pictures of me? Haha. I use the same face and clothed body ones that I use on here, and a couple of me out with friends. I put myself across as well as I can | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in.
Probably because most women on here have no desire to date a man is his mid to late 20’s, my thing with Tinder is that very few on there would be open to the idea of a ENM relationship in comparison to fab. Ideally I’d like to find a swing relationship but that’s probably not going to come until I’m in my mid 30’s at the earliest, so for now I just enjoy going to the clubs and having as much fun as possible. Only live once and all that "Oh I hear you for sure. Tinder is the not the best for ENM. Fab is great! OkC is also great because they have a ‘non monogamous’/ ‘open to non monogamy’ option which helps when swiping through profiles. But yeah man, yolo, enjoy it I know the vibes | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Aberdeen is a fairly big city, don't think population density would be a problem
Your right, it isn't
I travel up once a month and probably get 3 or 4 likes for the day or two I'm up there and I'm definitely not the average Tinder age range.
It's all about how you advertise yourself. You need good pics, you need a bio.
As above, pet pics help. Dogs, motorbikes, guitars. Sell yourself.
Appreciate the thought man, but this is the same advice everyone gives and its never worked. Haha. In the pas ive put up pics of me playing my kit (I'm a drummer), had some of me with my dog etc, and had the same outcome as now
It really can be disheartening. The ladies have all the power and so much choice.
Probably just me then. Haha. I try not to take it personally when I do that badly, but its pretty obvious I'm just not desirable enough. Shouldn't be too surprised considering some of the guys I'm up against. Female colleagues have shown me their matches, and they're like bloody models. Haha"Firstly do not compare yourself to others, that, my friend is the most incorrect thing to do EVER!! secondly if you are in tinder to date and hope it builds into something else then statistically you have better odds walking round a supermarket than a dating site, if you are on tinder for a fuck and nothing else then just keep at it, stay positive too, don’t get disheartened, chin up, don’t have a target or even an end goal just be online to have fun and see what happens, the rest will just happen | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in.
You seem to be doing well, so I'd keep it up . It's clearly me that's the problem, as quite a few of you seem to have no problems on tinder
Dude please don't take this the wrong way, I mean it with good intent! But pessimism isn't attractive. Being overly optimistic isn't good either, but somewhere between might help you out a little
Don't worry, I know it's meant in a good way. But how is someone going to tell pessimism from some pictures of me? Haha. I use the same face and clothed body ones that I use on here, and a couple of me out with friends. I put myself across as well as I can "Ahhh, may have slightly misread your first post  apologies! You're a decent looking guy so I doubt it's the way you look. Just have to ride that patient train have you tried bumble as well? | |||
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"Being in London helps me mostly. And I say that genuinely because no matter how nice looking I think I am, having ‘I have a gf of 8 years and a daughter’ in my bio is not helping me get matches on there. Stick it out on there.
Being in London is irrelevant, I’ve used tinder on and off over the year based here in the capital and have had only one date through that app. Just a load of people who match but don’t even bother to reply when you message so I gave up, fab and swinging is much better in my opinion for NSA fun.
Fair. Tinder is easier to get dates from in my experience than here. I agree there are time wasters on there though. Maybe I’m doing something right and I don’t know it. As I said, my bio isn’t exactly reeling all the women in.
You seem to be doing well, so I'd keep it up . It's clearly me that's the problem, as quite a few of you seem to have no problems on tinder
Dude please don't take this the wrong way, I mean it with good intent! But pessimism isn't attractive. Being overly optimistic isn't good either, but somewhere between might help you out a little
Don't worry, I know it's meant in a good way. But how is someone going to tell pessimism from some pictures of me? Haha. I use the same face and clothed body ones that I use on here, and a couple of me out with friends. I put myself across as well as I can
Ahhh, may have slightly misread your first post apologies! You're a decent looking guy so I doubt it's the way you look. Just have to ride that patient train have you tried bumble as well?"I appreciate the sentiment but im hardly an oil painting. If I looked like you I know I'd have no problems - just have to put up with what I have I guess | |||
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"I had to delete it. Got confused like a proper oldie and swiped right on everyone "It’s ok that’s what most guys do on it I seen people just sitting with they phone just swipeing right and not even looking | |||
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"I had to delete it. Got confused like a proper oldie and swiped right on everyone
It’s ok that’s what most guys do on it
I seen people just sitting with they phone just swipeing right and not even looking "That is what I did thinking I was scrolling
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"Am I the only man that swipes left on anyone called “Karen” (Carron or any other spelling of said name)? " Careful. A Karen might see this and complain | |||
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"Am I the only man that swipes left on anyone called “Karen” (Carron or any other spelling of said name)? Careful. A Karen might see this and complain "I’ve been socially condition or something. A big sorry to all women named Karen or alternate spelling of said name. Don’t worry, you aren’t missing much x | |||
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"You need one picture of you at gym, to show you are healthy and take care of your body You need one picture of you topless , to show that you are actually working out at the gym ( this should preferably be a beach picture, because you don't want to appear vain) You need one picture of you in a suit (preferably with a classy drink in your hand) to showcase you have style and you are outgoing You need one picture with a cat or a dog, to show your sensitive side (doesn't have to be your own pet- find a cat in your neighbourhood and take a selfie with it )
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"I had to delete it. Got confused like a proper oldie and swiped right on everyone
It’s ok that’s what most guys do on it
I seen people just sitting with they phone just swipeing right and not even looking
That is what I did thinking I was scrolling
"Awww hugs it’s ok though your wonderful and awesome so they thank they lucky stars you swipe right on them I know I would | |||
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"Il never be a tinder or other dating site altho i do go on the screw fix site on occasion Does it fix you up with a screw? thats what i was told altho so far i only got hammered " Not nailed then? | |||
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"I had to delete it. Got confused like a proper oldie and swiped right on everyone
It’s ok that’s what most guys do on it
I seen people just sitting with they phone just swipeing right and not even looking
That is what I did thinking I was scrolling
Awww hugs it’s ok though your wonderful and awesome so they thank they lucky stars you swipe right on them I know I would "Oh Nat, you are just too damn lovely. Can I scoop you up and smoosh you please? | |||
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"I had to delete it. Got confused like a proper oldie and swiped right on everyone
It’s ok that’s what most guys do on it
I seen people just sitting with they phone just swipeing right and not even looking
That is what I did thinking I was scrolling
Awww hugs it’s ok though your wonderful and awesome so they thank they lucky stars you swipe right on them I know I would
Oh Nat, you are just too damn lovely. Can I scoop you up and smoosh you please? "Your welcome and yes you can anytime x | |||
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"Your not spamming swipe right anuff Here are the keys Spam swip right don’t even look at the pics or profile just swipe right on all When you finely get a match Bs them to the high heavens about your looking for a relationship and all that bl bl bl Hump and ghost And no I am not on tender or any other date site for this exact reason " Exactly | |||
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"Tinder is very click or miss. You’re not a bad looking guy so that should get you some right swipes so it may be your bio on Tinder? Hopefully you so t say you’re looking for threesomes and cream pie on there. " Haha. No my tinder bio doesn't really say much to be honest. And that's not why I don't get matches, because I know guys who have literally nothing on their profile and still get matches | |||
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"Tinder is very click or miss. You’re not a bad looking guy so that should get you some right swipes so it may be your bio on Tinder? Hopefully you so t say you’re looking for threesomes and cream pie on there. Haha. No my tinder bio doesn't really say much to be honest. And that's not why I don't get matches, because I know guys who have literally nothing on their profile and still get matches "Have you tried some pictures of you holding a fish? | |||
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"Il never be a tinder or other dating site altho i do go on the screw fix site on occasion Does it fix you up with a screw? thats what i was told altho so far i only got hammered Not nailed then? " im such a spanner online | |||
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"I am on tinder and I have matched with 2-3 girls I'm currently talking to a 25 yr old girl so u just have to be patient and not try to hard." That’s awesome | |||
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"Tinder is very click or miss. You’re not a bad looking guy so that should get you some right swipes so it may be your bio on Tinder? Hopefully you so t say you’re looking for threesomes and cream pie on there. Haha. No my tinder bio doesn't really say much to be honest. And that's not why I don't get matches, because I know guys who have literally nothing on their profile and still get matches
Have you tried some pictures of you holding a fish? "Hahaha! | |||
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"Never really been on the sites. Apparently hinge is the place to be....but I'm not on it "The app designed to be deleted. If you’re looking for love, I reckon hinge is the app to find it. | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots " i like bumbums too | |||
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"Never really been on the sites. Apparently hinge is the place to be....but I'm not on it
The app designed to be deleted.
If you’re looking for love, I reckon hinge is the app to find it. "That's really area specific, Hinge in my area is barren. London would be totally different | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots " Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. " Obviously I can only speak from a female perspective, impossible for me to speak from any other perspective. From MY point of view, tinder is full of idiots, bumble is so much better. | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. " Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? " Surely that means that the ones who actually message are the ones serious about meeting up? I love the control that women have on bumble, it works great for me | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? Surely that means that the ones who actually message are the ones serious about meeting up? I love the control that women have on bumble, it works great for me "You would think wouldn't you. I honestly can't give a good reason why so many women use bumble and not message, it's the entire premise of the app. In your case it works because you embrace it but you are far from the norm, in my experience. | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D" Use professional pictures , make them unique and stand out (I use the fact I’m alt/goth adjacent) Dress really nice I was on Tinder before meeting my gf (I met in real life) | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? Surely that means that the ones who actually message are the ones serious about meeting up? I love the control that women have on bumble, it works great for me "Not in my experience they usually exchange one or two messages then ghost. Alot of people seem to use dating sites as entertainment whilst bored at work with no intention of going any further than a few messages. | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? Surely that means that the ones who actually message are the ones serious about meeting up? I love the control that women have on bumble, it works great for me
Not in my experience they usually exchange one or two messages then ghost.
Alot of people seem to use dating sites as entertainment whilst bored at work with no intention of going any further than a few messages. "To be fair, I do tend to browse when I’m bored also. I have had some lovely dates from there though. Tinder has been “wanna fuck”? messages and a load of fuck boys and man children for me. I deleted it immediately. | |||
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"Most guys don't understand you need good pics on Tinder/Bumble etc. Most guys have a few terrible selfie or mirror pics which just don't work. You need pics of you out, doing your hobbies, socialising, and *one* clear selfie. You know, pics that show you actually have a life." To be fair nearly all my pics on tinder are selfies. I’m smiling which is good. But all but one are selfies. I also think a good clever bio is key. And an honest one that talks about things you’d like to do with someone- mine talks about going for walks and talking about revolutionary texts We’ve both read and I’ve had quite a few people bring it up at the beginning of conversation. | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D" Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? Surely that means that the ones who actually message are the ones serious about meeting up? I love the control that women have on bumble, it works great for me
Not in my experience they usually exchange one or two messages then ghost.
Alot of people seem to use dating sites as entertainment whilst bored at work with no intention of going any further than a few messages.
To be fair, I do tend to browse when I’m bored also.
I have had some lovely dates from there though.
Tinder has been “wanna fuck”? messages and a load of fuck boys and man children for me. I deleted it immediately."Hi Liking the new pics - you look great in them. | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. " It’s better in lots of ways. A more complicated app but worth it. I met a few people on there I’ve been dating for a few months. I also found there were less people on there and definitely less people my age but that isn’t a problem for you or the OP tbf. | |||
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"Was on Tinder for a week or so. It seems to put 100% importance to physical aesthetics. Of course, I didn't find a match there
Moved on to Hinge as I am looking for a long term relationship. Getting around 1 match per week and every other match translates to real dates."Nice arse! So - did you manage to break into that apartment?  | |||
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Moved on to Hinge as I am looking for a long term relationship. Getting around 1 match per week and every other match translates to real dates."Hinge is way better for looking for long term serious partners imo. Probably one of the best in terms of easyto use. It’s like OkC meets tinder. | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. It’s better in lots of ways. A more complicated app but worth it. I met a few people on there I’ve been dating for a few months. I also found there were less people on there and definitely less people my age but that isn’t a problem for you or the OP tbf. "You can go off people ya know!  | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. It’s better in lots of ways. A more complicated app but worth it. I met a few people on there I’ve been dating for a few months. I also found there were less people on there and definitely less people my age but that isn’t a problem for you or the OP tbf.
You can go off people ya know! "Lol I don’t get what you mean by this? | |||
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"Bumble is much better. I’ve had some lovely dates from there. Tinder is full of idiots Is it? That's a lady perspective. You pick and choose who messages you there so the knobbers don't get to message you. Blokes view, bumble isn't great. A few matches, maybe 10% of those bother messaging, met 2 for coffee. Yes bumble is terrible for men. Only about 5% of women bother messaging after matching and they usually say something boring like hi, how are you? Surely that means that the ones who actually message are the ones serious about meeting up? I love the control that women have on bumble, it works great for me
Not in my experience they usually exchange one or two messages then ghost.
Alot of people seem to use dating sites as entertainment whilst bored at work with no intention of going any further than a few messages.
To be fair, I do tend to browse when I’m bored also.
I have had some lovely dates from there though.
Tinder has been “wanna fuck”? messages and a load of fuck boys and man children for me. I deleted it immediately.
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"Was on Tinder for a week or so. It seems to put 100% importance to physical aesthetics. Of course, I didn't find a match there
Moved on to Hinge as I am looking for a long term relationship. Getting around 1 match per week and every other match translates to real dates.
Nice arse! So - did you manage to break into that apartment? "Thanks! Broke in successfully. But I was caught and spanked. Apparently they thought it is a punishment for me | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. " I used to love OKCupid. The concept of asking questions around all the things which matter to me and matching based on that is great. But the last time I installed it, I got 30 likes on my first day. Not one to self-loathe. But we can all see that there was definitely something wrong. The next day, I got 20 more likes. I got curious and paid the money for a month long subscription to see who those likers are. Every one of those likes came from women living in China and Vietnam 
And guess what? I stopped getting a single like after I paid for subscription. Didn't get a single like for 1 month. Once the subscription expired, I got tens of liked again. Wrote them a long negative review on play store.
It's one thing for an app to have users who are scammers. In case of OkCupid, it looked like app owners themselves are scammers. It's sad because I used to love the app before they started doing this stuff. I heard it happened after they were bought by Match dot com. | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. I used to love OKCupid. The concept of asking questions around all the things which matter to me and matching based on that is great. But the last time I installed it, I got 30 likes on my first day. Not one to self-loathe. But we can all see that there was definitely something wrong. The next day, I got 20 more likes. I got curious and paid the money for a month long subscription to see who those likers are. Every one of those likes came from women living in China and Vietnam
And guess what? I stopped getting a single like after I paid for subscription. Didn't get a single like for 1 month. Once the subscription expired, I got tens of liked again. Wrote them a long negative review on play store.
It's one thing for an app to have users who are scammers. In case of OkCupid, it looked like app owners themselves are scammers. It's sad because I used to love the app before they started doing this stuff. I heard it happened after they were bought by Match dot com."Loads of people have said this. Seems to be their business model, unfortunately. | |||
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"Are any single guys on here also on tinder? I made an account just over a month ago and still have zero matches or likes. Zero. Would be cool to hear about success stories, maybe get an idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm 33 so that could be why :D Hi op. I use OkCupid. I like it because you answer a LOT (if you can be arsed) of questions that cover anything from sexual proclivities to politics and just about anything you can think of. That way I can make sure before even chatting that potential partners are on the same wavelength re sex, politics and other things that are important to me. Means I’m chatting to less people but I much prefer that anyway. Like tinder you can only chat if you mutually like each other - so theoretically you’re not wasting your time. Not had any dates from it as yet as I’ve only just started using it properly. I used to love OKCupid. The concept of asking questions around all the things which matter to me and matching based on that is great. But the last time I installed it, I got 30 likes on my first day. Not one to self-loathe. But we can all see that there was definitely something wrong. The next day, I got 20 more likes. I got curious and paid the money for a month long subscription to see who those likers are. Every one of those likes came from women living in China and Vietnam
And guess what? I stopped getting a single like after I paid for subscription. Didn't get a single like for 1 month. Once the subscription expired, I got tens of liked again. Wrote them a long negative review on play store.
It's one thing for an app to have users who are scammers. In case of OkCupid, it looked like app owners themselves are scammers. It's sad because I used to love the app before they started doing this stuff. I heard it happened after they were bought by Match dot com."So far I’ve not had that problem. I don’t pay for the site any more though - I also found that a waste of time. No guys overseas - but just chaps I wasn’t attracted to on the whole - over a thousand of them! Sometimes wondered if I was the only woman on the site!
When I’ve liked someone I tend to send out a speculative message. They’ve almost always liked me back - which means we can then chat for free.
If you try the site again I’d suggest you try the same? X | |||
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"I reckon 3/4 are on there too, but they’ll not admit it "Been on there but its not worth it tbh | |||
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