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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi i've talk about my battle with depression in the past on here not easiest thing talk about as like keep my post up beat and flirty as like people to enjoy them selves

but last week had big blip ended up A and e after girl really hurt my feelings very badly at my best friends wedding and as tend go to older women as always end up get my feeling hurt by women my own age

better than i was got new job to start monday after been off with my mental health but left sour test in my mouth and hard move on from

due she said wanted a selfie with me and pressed cheeks and had heart said was sweet but distance maybe could of kissed her but didn't out of respect but ended up kissing a guy who made fun at me a school ended putting my hand through wall even though wanted hit him but last min hit the wall so hard my hand went through it end up sending my self to a and e was feeling suicidal crying on off for 2 days.

kind of wanted get this of my chest as enjoy talking people on here and like some advice how to get past this as hard get off my mind at moment and maybe not best place but some good people on here and just wanted to vent abit

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Professional help is probably what you need

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Professional help is probably what you need "
i am doing but sometimes got go out talk to some people

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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago

Ryde, Isle of Wight

I'm so sorry you've had such a horrid weekend. I wish I had some wise words of consolation but I don't. I do however know how shitty depression etc is and how things that happened early in life can stay with us forever. You are not alone in this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm so sorry you've had such a horrid weekend. I wish I had some wise words of consolation but I don't. I do however know how shitty depression etc is and how things that happened early in life can stay with us forever. You are not alone in this "
thank your sweet

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Those dip downs are particularly awful. I find I just have to weather the storm for a while until it eventually eases up a bit. Try to be gentle with yourself until that happens. And keep up with the professional help, as a load of well meaning strangers aren't usually the best place to turn.

P

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By *ess King tvTV/TS
over a year ago

KING'S LYNN


"I'm so sorry you've had such a horrid weekend. I wish I had some wise words of consolation but I don't. I do however know how shitty depression etc is and how things that happened early in life can stay with us forever. You are not alone in this thank your sweet "

The X Factor tactics work for some I hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm so sorry you've had such a horrid weekend. I wish I had some wise words of consolation but I don't. I do however know how shitty depression etc is and how things that happened early in life can stay with us forever. You are not alone in this thank your sweet

The X Factor tactics work for some I hear "
x factor ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Those dip downs are particularly awful. I find I just have to weather the storm for a while until it eventually eases up a bit. Try to be gentle with yourself until that happens. And keep up with the professional help, as a load of well meaning strangers aren't usually the best place to turn.

P

"
I know but sometimes I like help raise awareness on fab about mental health and if helps some one to talk even words from stranger can help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hope this thread helps some people also xx

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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago

Ryde, Isle of Wight


" The X Factor tactics work for some I hear "

Be kind

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Those dip downs are particularly awful. I find I just have to weather the storm for a while until it eventually eases up a bit. Try to be gentle with yourself until that happens. And keep up with the professional help, as a load of well meaning strangers aren't usually the best place to turn.

P

"

Sometimes all you can do is ride it out and keep reminding yourself it'll pass.

OP I hope it passes for you, and I hope you have professional support you can turn to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless you, you gorgeous man. Sending lots of love and strength your way . I’m in a hole myself. But we’ll be ok. I’m rooting for you buddy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that sometimes you just have to feel sad, be down, cry, hide away.

It passes.

In regards to other women hurting you, you need to be happy in yourself before you let anyone get close.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The X Factor tactics work for some I hear "

Ew allow it.

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By *ersiantugMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I was going to say that professional therapy is really hard to come by these days (thinking of depression and the level of help that is not medicinal or CBT) but I did think of anger management? That could actually be more focused and as 'easy' to get as CBT (though I respect that even cbt can be slow to get these days).

I understand the strong feelings but you've physically hurt yourself and you need to protect your own body (which ultimately means your own life of course).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are, or have been battling depression. I understand feeling low, not sure if full blown depression, more like sudden mood swings....anyway..

Just wondering, as it was a wedding, feelings and alcohol can be running high. Sometimes, I know for me, that with alcohol, I'll react to things in a way I wouldn't if sober, because I don't have a reasoned thought process and decision making ability after drinking.

It's one of the reasons I rarely drink these days, or if I do, it's with people I trust and know we won't get in situations like that.

Have you thought about not drinking (if you do drink?) It might help with clearing thoughts/being depressed.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I suffer from it but I’m in a good place now thankfully. Feel free to message me whenever you want OP. I don’t have all the answers but I’m a good listener

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

OP I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling low. Events like weddings can be triggering as you associate them with memories of others you have been to.

The Samaritans can be really helpful. As they say on their site, hope this is ok to post -

Writing an email can be a calm and safe way to work through what's on your mind. Especially if it feels too upsetting to talk about on the phone.

Samaritans volunteers answer each email that comes through to jo@samaritans.org

x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Look into healing inner trauma. There’s lots of stuff on YouTube.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This does sound like you have a good handle on your trigger(s) OP. The best thing to do for now is to avoid situations that will trigger you until you learn how to deal with it. It’s a lot g hard road but you are in the right track

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are, or have been battling depression. I understand feeling low, not sure if full blown depression, more like sudden mood swings....anyway..

Just wondering, as it was a wedding, feelings and alcohol can be running high. Sometimes, I know for me, that with alcohol, I'll react to things in a way I wouldn't if sober, because I don't have a reasoned thought process and decision making ability after drinking.

It's one of the reasons I rarely drink these days, or if I do, it's with people I trust and know we won't get in situations like that.

Have you thought about not drinking (if you do drink?) It might help with clearing thoughts/being depressed. "
have cut down was hard for me anyway as my friend is moving away also yeah not good to mix with my meds kind of lost control not proud moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Those dip downs are particularly awful. I find I just have to weather the storm for a while until it eventually eases up a bit. Try to be gentle with yourself until that happens. And keep up with the professional help, as a load of well meaning strangers aren't usually the best place to turn.

P

Sometimes all you can do is ride it out and keep reminding yourself it'll pass.

OP I hope it passes for you, and I hope you have professional support you can turn to."
thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Those dip downs are particularly awful. I find I just have to weather the storm for a while until it eventually eases up a bit. Try to be gentle with yourself until that happens. And keep up with the professional help, as a load of well meaning strangers aren't usually the best place to turn.

P

Sometimes all you can do is ride it out and keep reminding yourself it'll pass.

OP I hope it passes for you, and I hope you have professional support you can turn to."
i do thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Look into healing inner trauma. There’s lots of stuff on YouTube. "
i do look at youtube now and again but music helps and dr pimple popper helps for some reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suffer from it but I’m in a good place now thankfully. Feel free to message me whenever you want OP. I don’t have all the answers but I’m a good listener "
cheers man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bless you, you gorgeous man. Sending lots of love and strength your way . I’m in a hole myself. But we’ll be ok. I’m rooting for you buddy x"
cheers man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find that sometimes you just have to feel sad, be down, cry, hide away.

It passes.

In regards to other women hurting you, you need to be happy in yourself before you let anyone get close. "
I know need to focus on me hence why think sticking to olders ladies on fab as they're sound

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling low. Events like weddings can be triggering as you associate them with memories of others you have been to.

The Samaritans can be really helpful. As they say on their site, hope this is ok to post -

Writing an email can be a calm and safe way to work through what's on your mind. Especially if it feels too upsetting to talk about on the phone.

Samaritans volunteers answer each email that comes through to jo@samaritans.org

x "
thank you yeah got numbers and stuff didn't have on my phone as wasn't in London also thought profile pic was cake haha

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By *ampshire_guy40Man
over a year ago

hampshire

I've been struggling with depression for 4 years now and it's horrible,it all started after the loss of my parents back in 2018 they both passed within 13 days,dad went first and 13 days later mum passed.somedays I feel so low I don't even go out the flat and just curl up in a blanket on the sofa and watch TV

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been struggling with depression for 4 years now and it's horrible,it all started after the loss of my parents back in 2018 they both passed within 13 days,dad went first and 13 days later mum passed.somedays I feel so low I don't even go out the flat and just curl up in a blanket on the sofa and watch TV "
yeah been in that not best hope your in better place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are, or have been battling depression. I understand feeling low, not sure if full blown depression, more like sudden mood swings....anyway..

Just wondering, as it was a wedding, feelings and alcohol can be running high. Sometimes, I know for me, that with alcohol, I'll react to things in a way I wouldn't if sober, because I don't have a reasoned thought process and decision making ability after drinking.

It's one of the reasons I rarely drink these days, or if I do, it's with people I trust and know we won't get in situations like that.

Have you thought about not drinking (if you do drink?) It might help with clearing thoughts/being depressed. have cut down was hard for me anyway as my friend is moving away also yeah not good to mix with my meds kind of lost control not proud moment "

We all do things were not proud of. I know I have and I'm sure I'll fuck up a bunch more times too.

Nobody's perfect, all we can try and do is learn from it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are, or have been battling depression. I understand feeling low, not sure if full blown depression, more like sudden mood swings....anyway..

Just wondering, as it was a wedding, feelings and alcohol can be running high. Sometimes, I know for me, that with alcohol, I'll react to things in a way I wouldn't if sober, because I don't have a reasoned thought process and decision making ability after drinking.

It's one of the reasons I rarely drink these days, or if I do, it's with people I trust and know we won't get in situations like that.

Have you thought about not drinking (if you do drink?) It might help with clearing thoughts/being depressed. have cut down was hard for me anyway as my friend is moving away also yeah not good to mix with my meds kind of lost control not proud moment

We all do things were not proud of. I know I have and I'm sure I'll fuck up a bunch more times too.

Nobody's perfect, all we can try and do is learn from it "
yeah more when i go out drinking home I am fine don't go mad 4 pints I just get a lot lower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are, or have been battling depression. I understand feeling low, not sure if full blown depression, more like sudden mood swings....anyway..

Just wondering, as it was a wedding, feelings and alcohol can be running high. Sometimes, I know for me, that with alcohol, I'll react to things in a way I wouldn't if sober, because I don't have a reasoned thought process and decision making ability after drinking.

It's one of the reasons I rarely drink these days, or if I do, it's with people I trust and know we won't get in situations like that.

Have you thought about not drinking (if you do drink?) It might help with clearing thoughts/being depressed. have cut down was hard for me anyway as my friend is moving away also yeah not good to mix with my meds kind of lost control not proud moment

We all do things were not proud of. I know I have and I'm sure I'll fuck up a bunch more times too.

Nobody's perfect, all we can try and do is learn from it yeah more when i go out drinking home I am fine don't go mad 4 pints I just get a lot lower "

Then maybe not drinking at all is the way to go if it makes you feel worse?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are, or have been battling depression. I understand feeling low, not sure if full blown depression, more like sudden mood swings....anyway..

Just wondering, as it was a wedding, feelings and alcohol can be running high. Sometimes, I know for me, that with alcohol, I'll react to things in a way I wouldn't if sober, because I don't have a reasoned thought process and decision making ability after drinking.

It's one of the reasons I rarely drink these days, or if I do, it's with people I trust and know we won't get in situations like that.

Have you thought about not drinking (if you do drink?) It might help with clearing thoughts/being depressed. have cut down was hard for me anyway as my friend is moving away also yeah not good to mix with my meds kind of lost control not proud moment

We all do things were not proud of. I know I have and I'm sure I'll fuck up a bunch more times too.

Nobody's perfect, all we can try and do is learn from it yeah more when i go out drinking home I am fine don't go mad 4 pints I just get a lot lower

Then maybe not drinking at all is the way to go if it makes you feel worse?"
yeah went out today had 1 beer and 3 waters so good start

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By *iceHungWakefieldMan
over a year ago

there is a clue somewhere

FAB is probably not the best place to be if you struggle with rejection mate. ( I am not trying to be horrible or hurtful ) In an ideal world people would be polite and diplomatic as they would be if they were face to face with you. FAb however is littered with women & men i guess that get off on vying for attention and get a kick out of rejecting you. Its a form of payback for failings of their own relationships. Ok its a sweeping generalisation but its pretty Common. My guess is Fab is made up of 25% actual lifestyle swingers and 75% that are craving company.. i await the barrage of slapdowns.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"FAB is probably not the best place to be if you struggle with rejection mate. ( I am not trying to be horrible or hurtful ) In an ideal world people would be polite and diplomatic as they would be if they were face to face with you. FAb however is littered with women & men i guess that get off on vying for attention and get a kick out of rejecting you. Its a form of payback for failings of their own relationships. Ok its a sweeping generalisation but its pretty Common. My guess is Fab is made up of 25% actual lifestyle swingers and 75% that are craving company.. i await the barrage of slapdowns. "
don't worry about no just had good people on here in the past from my experience to talk to mate hence the post but respect your say yes a kind response on fab it does happen

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