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"I find it a bit aggressive when profiles are written in capitals with lots of exclamation marks" We agree with you.  | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. " Don't suppose they do  | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. " ...bad for your teeth | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. " Do grumpy ones? | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. " Is that a Jimmy Savile quote? | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. ...bad for your teeth "But good for the soul. | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. Do grumpy ones? " Are you calling me grumpy?  | |||
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" it's worth just saying screw it now and then " Is that your opening message ? Or is it "Let's screw" | |||
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" it's worth just saying screw it now and then Is that your opening message ? Or is it "Let's screw" " I don't think I could be that forward in a opening message unless their status says something like "fuck me now" | |||
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"Hopefully we come across as a friendly enough couple or maybe we don't, but do you find some profile's a bit hostile, unapproachable and just cant imagine messaging them even though you could be what they are looking for. Have a great weekend all. "I’ve always found your profile very approachable! | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. " Lies, I was a shy kid and got loads of sweets because people felt sorry for me  | |||
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"Umm isn't that part of the filtering process... If you don't find a profile inviting [to you], then you wouldn't reach out? Just like mine won't appeal to all.. I don't think you can be a one size fits all? " I never thought twice about talking to you and you're one of the most lovely and sexy people on here  | |||
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"You have a great profile,a lot of profiles have a lot of negativity No this or that,but never read an aggressive profile.have a great weekend "Thank you. | |||
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"One persons 'unapproachable' is another's 'decisive'. 'specific' and 'clear'. Some people like their profile to be descriptive rather than fluffy. What some see as a demand others will see as a personal preference or taste. Words can be taken in many different ways depending on the reader and their perception of the intended message. At the end of the day if a profile doesn't appeal to you then move on. There's a strong possibility that it's done the job it was intended to and the fact it's put you off was actually intentional.
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"One persons 'unapproachable' is another's 'decisive'. 'specific' and 'clear'. Some people like their profile to be descriptive rather than fluffy. What some see as a demand others will see as a personal preference or taste. Words can be taken in many different ways depending on the reader and their perception of the intended message. At the end of the day if a profile doesn't appeal to you then move on. There's a strong possibility that it's done the job it was intended to and the fact it's put you off was actually intentional.
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"What I find unapproachable when looking at a couples profile is that if not all but at least 99% are all of the female half. " There was a profile like that recently, lots of shots of an attractive woman, and the profile said basically no sex with the woman | |||
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"Hopefully we come across as a friendly enough couple or maybe we don't, but do you find some profile's a bit hostile, unapproachable and just cant imagine messaging them even though you could be what they are looking for. Have a great weekend all. "You come across as wonderful Couple up front and honest | |||
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"Hopefully we come across as a friendly enough couple or maybe we don't, but do you find some profile's a bit hostile, unapproachable and just cant imagine messaging them even though you could be what they are looking for. Have a great weekend all.
You come across as wonderful Couple up front and honest "Thank you. | |||
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"Hopefully we come across as a friendly enough couple or maybe we don't, but do you find some profile's a bit hostile, unapproachable and just cant imagine messaging them even though you could be what they are looking for. Have a great weekend all. "There's been one or two who complain about nobody contacting them, but then you look at the profile and their filters are set to meet practically no-one. | |||
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"Yeah their are times I’ve read profiles and then been slightly put off messaging them as they come across as aggressive which is the complete opposite of us." You do come across as very approachable to be fair. | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though " You need to try harder mr sane. | |||
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"Be like me, don’t read profiles "Oh but I have too. | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though You need to try harder mr sane. "Ok I will. I'm thinking about just making my profile text "fuck off" | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though You need to try harder mr sane.
Ok I will.
I'm thinking about just making my profile text "fuck off" "May give the wrong impression as it adds to the mystery. | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though You need to try harder mr sane.
Ok I will.
I'm thinking about just making my profile text "fuck off"
May give the wrong impression as it adds to the mystery."I can't win can I  | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though You need to try harder mr sane.
Ok I will.
I'm thinking about just making my profile text "fuck off" "It doesn't work. | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though You need to try harder mr sane.
Ok I will.
I'm thinking about just making my profile text "fuck off"
May give the wrong impression as it adds to the mystery.
I can't win can I "Nope | |||
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"Yeah their are times I’ve read profiles and then been slightly put off messaging them as they come across as aggressive which is the complete opposite of us. You do come across as very approachable to be fair." Thanks so do you x | |||
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"I hope mine puts people off. The odd one still slips through though You need to try harder mr sane.
Ok I will.
I'm thinking about just making my profile text "fuck off"
It doesn't work. "Might for me as I'm a single male I don't have boobs to flash at anyone | |||
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"Hopefully we come across as a friendly enough couple or maybe we don't, but do you find some profile's a bit hostile, unapproachable and just cant imagine messaging them even though you could be what they are looking for. Have a great weekend all. "You've got a lovely profile, it's very welcoming. Nice photos also  | |||
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"No. I look at pics and veris. Some people are dyslexic, autistic, aspergers, etc etc and see and write things differently. If I fancy him them I'll send him a message regardless of what and how he writes, after all it's only after getting to know someone that you can truly deem them to be cunts or not "C and I will usually message (or wink first) at anyone we fancy, our biggest problem, as this lovely lady astutely says, is I often get stuck what to write at all. I'm autistic and because I can't put myself across well, often get frozen with what to put. P | |||
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"Hopefully we come across as a friendly enough couple or maybe we don't, but do you find some profile's a bit hostile, unapproachable and just cant imagine messaging them even though you could be what they are looking for. Have a great weekend all.
You've got a lovely profile, it's very welcoming. Nice photos also "Thank you. | |||
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 I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes  | |||
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"Yes, a fair few profiles come across as unapproachable, usually when they start and end with a massive list of don't or go out of their way to mention their 'professional status'. Still, that's only our opinion." 100% | |||
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"Yeah, I hate shouty profiles, especially ones that tell you everything that you should be. Even when I fit all of their "requirements" it just feels like they arent seeing me as a real complex human and instead are judging me like a piece of meat at a market. Even when judged as "good enough" or indeed "perfect", I still feel like I am being judged and that doesnt work for me. I feel like it would be much better to send a simple "not for me" reply message rather than making loads of people feel like they arent good enough because of silly physical stuff like height, weight, ethnicity or penis length. It just feels mean. I also find it funny when people tell you in their profile what kind of message to send... Shh!! Please dont tell them how to come across as reasonable human beings!! I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes "Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong | |||
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"Yeah, I hate shouty profiles, especially ones that tell you everything that you should be. Even when I fit all of their "requirements" it just feels like they arent seeing me as a real complex human and instead are judging me like a piece of meat at a market. Even when judged as "good enough" or indeed "perfect", I still feel like I am being judged and that doesnt work for me. I feel like it would be much better to send a simple "not for me" reply message rather than making loads of people feel like they arent good enough because of silly physical stuff like height, weight, ethnicity or penis length. It just feels mean. I also find it funny when people tell you in their profile what kind of message to send... Shh!! Please dont tell them how to come across as reasonable human beings!! I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes
Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong "Haha yeah, and yours is teensy  | |||
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"One persons 'unapproachable' is another's 'decisive'. 'specific' and 'clear'. Some people like their profile to be descriptive rather than fluffy. What some see as a demand others will see as a personal preference or taste. Words can be taken in many different ways depending on the reader and their perception of the intended message. At the end of the day if a profile doesn't appeal to you then move on. There's a strong possibility that it's done the job it was intended to and the fact it's put you off was actually intentional.
A"I’d agree with this! The OP’s profile bio is short and sweet. No unapproachability at all. Sometimes i think fab should just do away with profile bios and give more selection filters. You can have a war and peace length bio or ‘will fill in later’ and someone will have a problem | |||
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"Yeah, I hate shouty profiles, especially ones that tell you everything that you should be. Even when I fit all of their "requirements" it just feels like they arent seeing me as a real complex human and instead are judging me like a piece of meat at a market. Even when judged as "good enough" or indeed "perfect", I still feel like I am being judged and that doesnt work for me. I feel like it would be much better to send a simple "not for me" reply message rather than making loads of people feel like they arent good enough because of silly physical stuff like height, weight, ethnicity or penis length. It just feels mean. I also find it funny when people tell you in their profile what kind of message to send... Shh!! Please dont tell them how to come across as reasonable human beings!! I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes
Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong
Haha yeah, and yours is teensy "Wow, your profile is as long as the Maastricht Treaty  But it's full of good vibes. | |||
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"Yeah, I hate shouty profiles, especially ones that tell you everything that you should be. Even when I fit all of their "requirements" it just feels like they arent seeing me as a real complex human and instead are judging me like a piece of meat at a market. Even when judged as "good enough" or indeed "perfect", I still feel like I am being judged and that doesnt work for me. I feel like it would be much better to send a simple "not for me" reply message rather than making loads of people feel like they arent good enough because of silly physical stuff like height, weight, ethnicity or penis length. It just feels mean. I also find it funny when people tell you in their profile what kind of message to send... Shh!! Please dont tell them how to come across as reasonable human beings!! I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes
Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong
Haha yeah, and yours is teensy "Your pics are awesome but I’d never know what you’re like because the profile is loooooooooong. Not saying this as a slight against you so please don’t take offence!?!?!, When you say teensy…. You’re talking about my profile right….. | |||
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"Yeah, I hate shouty profiles, especially ones that tell you everything that you should be. Even when I fit all of their "requirements" it just feels like they arent seeing me as a real complex human and instead are judging me like a piece of meat at a market. Even when judged as "good enough" or indeed "perfect", I still feel like I am being judged and that doesnt work for me. I feel like it would be much better to send a simple "not for me" reply message rather than making loads of people feel like they arent good enough because of silly physical stuff like height, weight, ethnicity or penis length. It just feels mean. I also find it funny when people tell you in their profile what kind of message to send... Shh!! Please dont tell them how to come across as reasonable human beings!! I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes
Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong
Haha yeah, and yours is teensy
Your pics are awesome but I’d never know what you’re like because the profile is loooooooooong.
Not saying this as a slight against you so please don’t take offence!?!?!,
When you say teensy…. You’re talking about my profile right….."Yes, Im aware its long and that is off putting for some, but I have had some really nice messages from exactly the right kind of people, so it does the job!!  As someone was saying before... its a way of filtering. Some people will see my profile and decide not to message me (or will message me without reading and I will just delete them!) and that is exactly as it should be
As for what is teensy... I am definitely refering to your profile! I always read first and only look at pics if Im interested, so I cant comment on the size of any of your physical attributes | |||
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"Yeah, I hate shouty profiles, especially ones that tell you everything that you should be. Even when I fit all of their "requirements" it just feels like they arent seeing me as a real complex human and instead are judging me like a piece of meat at a market. Even when judged as "good enough" or indeed "perfect", I still feel like I am being judged and that doesnt work for me. I feel like it would be much better to send a simple "not for me" reply message rather than making loads of people feel like they arent good enough because of silly physical stuff like height, weight, ethnicity or penis length. It just feels mean. I also find it funny when people tell you in their profile what kind of message to send... Shh!! Please dont tell them how to come across as reasonable human beings!! I want people to send a message however they want so that I can filter out all the people who think its a good idea to send one-liners or abuse!
My profile is Looooooong, but I hope it gives good vibes
Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong
Haha yeah, and yours is teensy
Your pics are awesome but I’d never know what you’re like because the profile is loooooooooong.
Not saying this as a slight against you so please don’t take offence!?!?!,
When you say teensy…. You’re talking about my profile right…..
Yes, Im aware its long and that is off putting for some, but I have had some really nice messages from exactly the right kind of people, so it does the job!! As someone was saying before... its a way of filtering. Some people will see my profile and decide not to message me (or will message me without reading and I will just delete them!) and that is exactly as it should be
As for what is teensy... I am definitely refering to your profile! I always read first and only look at pics if Im interested, so I cant comment on the size of any of your physical attributes "I remember reading yours a couple of weeks ago and thinking it was a good one. Nothing wrong with a long profile, it's the overly-aggressive ones I don't like! | |||
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"No. I look at pics and veris. Some people are dyslexic, autistic, aspergers, etc etc and see and write things differently. If I fancy him them I'll send him a message regardless of what and how he writes, after all it's only after getting to know someone that you can truly deem them to be cunts or not "also its propaganda i could be an angel or a chump what bullshit i type wont change that | |||
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"I saw one the other day that said something about one of the couple being an ex model so they can be picky!! Not sure if that was an airfix model or what but I popped a quick block on them. Way too up they're own arses for me. " | |||
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"No. I look at pics and veris. Some people are dyslexic, autistic, aspergers, etc etc and see and write things differently. If I fancy him them I'll send him a message regardless of what and how he writes, after all it's only after getting to know someone that you can truly deem them to be cunts or not "Absolutely this! ^ Body language accounts for a majority of human interaction but is obviously absent from the written word, so what we read can often be misleading. I would like to think our profile has the right balance of written information with pics showing us as we really are visually. Having said that, constructive comments are always welcome as are messages. | |||
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"No. I look at pics and veris. Some people are dyslexic, autistic, aspergers, etc etc and see and write things differently. If I fancy him them I'll send him a message regardless of what and how he writes, after all it's only after getting to know someone that you can truly deem them to be cunts or not
Absolutely this! ^
Body language accounts for a majority of human interaction but is obviously absent from the written word, so what we read can often be misleading.
I would like to think our profile has the right balance of written information with pics showing us as we really are visually.
Having said that, constructive comments are always welcome as are messages. "Your profile is excellent | |||
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"Shy kids don't get sweets. or caught by the child catcher "Don't be shy and be quick on your feet and you'll be good. | |||
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