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By *ermbi OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Does society consider you less of a man if you don't have kids? Sometimes I think people look at pity at you if you don't and other guys seem to see it as a failing? Am I wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be assumed as a lack of fertility or verility.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not a clue. They can take a hike if they think that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The opposite can also be true. People see a softer side to you when they see you with kids and make assumptions from that.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Or if you dress like a ladie

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm society and I don't think that.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have three kids from two different women. I must be the manliest of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do bareback.How did you come to conclusion op?

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I actually think it's women who are looked down upon if they enter their mid 30s and they have no children...

A healthy man can easily have children into his 50s.

Also society is less likely to care about a man not having children, as long has he is successful or has a purpose in his community...

It's mostly your family or close friends that keep trying to push you into having kids, because they think that is what brings happiness to your life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tot ever thought about it tbh i see it more a rogue lion effect

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I actually think it's women who are looked down upon if they enter their mid 30s and they have no children...

A healthy man can easily have children into his 50s.

Also society is less likely to care about a man not having children, as long has he is successful or has a purpose in his community...

It's mostly your family or close friends that keep trying to push you into having kids, because they think that is what brings happiness to your life..."

Is true.

People who judge me can take a hike too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find family far more judgemental than wider society, mostly why I tell them all to fuck off and keep their nose out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have kids of my own but my ex did and brought those up from babies ,the real men were nowhere to be seen until they hit 18 lol then ....

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I've spawned no crotch fruit.

But I'm a Dad.

If your definition of a real man is someone who has fathered a child then maybe some should man the fuck up and actually show an interest in their offspring instead of avoiding them since birth.

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Who cares what society think its non of their business.

I've no kids and had the snip about 3yrs ago. I'm 48 I don't want a kid now I'd be 70 when they might leave home if they could afford it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, why would people think such a thing! I've never encountered that. No-one is less of anything if they don't have kids.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"God, why would people think such a thing! I've never encountered that. No-one is less of anything if they don't have kids. "

Apparently I'm a monster for not wanting kids. It's wild.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does society consider you less of a man if you don't have kids? Sometimes I think people look at pity at you if you don't and other guys seem to see it as a failing? Am I wrong?"

I’ve not heard of any negative comments towards those without kids. I’m sure no one sits in judgement about such things, everyone is too busy with their own lives OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God, why would people think such a thing! I've never encountered that. No-one is less of anything if they don't have kids.

Apparently I'm a monster for not wanting kids. It's wild."

Oh ffs. People are bonkers!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"God, why would people think such a thing! I've never encountered that. No-one is less of anything if they don't have kids.

Apparently I'm a monster for not wanting kids. It's wild.

Oh ffs. People are bonkers!"

Yup. People can take a hike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think you’re wrong although I’m my experience with others this isn’t the case. In my experiences, men have the freedom to choose and be open about whether they want kids and not feel as though it is attached to how much of man they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know quite a few single men with multiple children...

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I’d have thought most people would consider you extremely fortunate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have children out of choice and stick firmly by not wanting any, I've never noticed it having any affect on my dating or sex life however

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I wouldn't think that at all.

But then, I was constantly judged for not having kids, even though I announced from a very young age that I never wanted them.

In fact, as someone above said, I'd class you lucky. Most of my friends with kids do nothing but moan about them.....

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield


"Does society consider you less of a man if you don't have kids? Sometimes I think people look at pity at you if you don't and other guys seem to see it as a failing? Am I wrong?"

I remember my late uncle having rumours about him being gay because he was 40 odd and not married or a father.

Forget what society thinks OP

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I’d have thought most people would consider you extremely fortunate "

This is actually the feedback I get from breeding couples in my social circle

Personally, I would have liked to have had children so I usually tell them the grass is always greener.

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By *oodoodMan
over a year ago

Suffolk / Essex borders

I just say I've done my bit for the planet by not having any.. If anything you should be applauded for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or if you dress like a ladie"

this

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I just say I've done my bit for the planet by not having any.. If anything you should be applauded for it "

Hear, hear! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many people obsessing about what other think of them.

Stone Age mentality.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I am a good Uncle and that's enough for me. Not bothered what others think of me to be honest.

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Fuck what anyone else thinks. I don't have kids and have never wanted them.

Most parents I know seem to look at my lifestyle with envy. Not that I'd ever suggest they were wrong to have kids.

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By *ermbi OP   Man
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Thanks for the comments everyone. Nobody has ever said it and I personally don't give a damn what people think but I just wanted to find out if there was a perception out there.

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