FabSwingers.com forum: Dating sites

By *ampshire_guy40 OP Man
over a year ago

hampshire

I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried a group social get together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on POF, Okcupid, Eharmony, match.com, and this. I don't think I've missed any out. I've had lots of date's. Their all good from my experience. I don't know really. Just be yourself and be happy. Nothing lost, nothing gained. It's a nice walk in the park is my take on the whole online dating thing. But you should keep your other profiles active, as you have a higher spectrum of potential dates/meets.

It's a numbers game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on POF, Okcupid, Eharmony, match.com, and this. I don't think I've missed any out. I've had lots of date's. Their all good from my experience. I don't know really. Just be yourself and be happy. Nothing lost, nothing gained. It's a nice walk in the park is my take on the whole online dating thing. But you should keep your other profiles active, as you have a higher spectrum of potential dates/meets.

It's a numbers game. "

Hedge your bets..

Smart thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a numbers game.

Hedge your bets..

Smart thinking."

Women do it too. They have multiple profiles on more than one site.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

It's a numbers game.

Hedge your bets..

Smart thinking.

Women do it too. They have multiple profiles on more than one site. "

#notallwomen

#notallmen

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"I know this topic has been covered before but I have tried so many dating sites like POF,eHarmony,tinder,Badoo etc and none of them work for me,I struggle to meet girls/women as I lack confidence and i can't just go upto someone and ask them out a I start to stutter my words as I get very nerves.its come to a point in my life now that I'm fed up of being lonely and lost."

Tinder has the biggest user base. But that's also a negative as there are the most guys on there too

It really is a numbers game, a harsh and cruel one at times.

Got any hobbies? Join a club. Friends of friends etc?

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I'm sorry to hear that my friend...dating apps are a weird thing as there is little of your personality you can showcase on your profile (similar to fab actually), so most matches happen based on appearance, and even those people that will first read your profile before they match (or like your profile) will be initially attracted by your picture.

I don't think dating apps work for everyone...and approaching a woman in a public place, I would never have the courage to do (so I understand that aspect)

I think the best thing do for any person in this position is to focus on themselves, and get to a point where they feel comfortable enough with themselves... I always ask myself "am I the type of person I would want to date? " and if the answer is yes, than I am content, and I am just patient until I find someone...or they find me.

Hope you find someone my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think dating apps work for everyone...and approaching a woman in a public place, I would never have the courage to do (so I understand that aspect)

Hope you find someone my friend

Yes, so true. I too hope OP does find some one nice.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Sorry you feel this way, OP. Don't let it get you down. For me, and know this always very personal, but stop "trying", if that makes sense. Focus (or find) things you enjoy and find groups where you can meet other people doing them. Just get to know people, male and female, as friends. You will relax, I would think your confidence will grow, and your social circle will widen, which is often how I've met friends that became more than friends. Trying to "date" relentlessly is tiring, imho, so just try to get to meet lots of people and have fun doing things you enjoy along the way. Good luck!

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I would certainly avoid approaching women in a public place and particularly in a non-public place! It’s clear women do not like this and you may find you’re actions are misinterpreted as being creepy or pervy.

I hear you on the dating app front. I’ve had zero luck there either. Not even so much as a date. I agree with others it’s a little one dimensional.

I’m thinking of going on meet me, which links people to shared interest groups - ie, cooking, travelling etc…

Failing that it’s luck and I wish you plenty if it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put a thread on 'Tantra' read it.

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By *ampshire_guy40 OP Man
over a year ago

hampshire

Thanks guys I just hate being lonely,my friends have all moved on and got kids and I don't see them at all.i have been to a few social meets but no luck there and when I go to a pub no one talks to u.i guess u lot are right stop trying.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

I’ve stepped away from everything, putting the energy into myself and doing the things I want to do. Maybe get stuck into some hobbies and meet people through that instead? At least you know you’ll share some things in common and the approach will be less daunting if you’re mixing with a likeminded crowd

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Thanks guys I just hate being lonely,my friends have all moved on and got kids and I don't see them at all.i have been to a few social meets but no luck there and when I go to a pub no one talks to u.i guess u lot are right stop trying."

No one said stop trying. You've got to be in it to win it.

Just don't expect anything.

Maybe come off them for a bit, refresh. New pics, new text and try again.

It can be disheartening but it can be amazing too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I hope your luck will change for the better and destiny entwines you with romance in your life that’ll keep you both happy. Stay positive.

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By *ampshire_guy40 OP Man
over a year ago

hampshire

"OP, I hope your luck will change for the better and destiny entwines you with romance in your life that’ll keep you both happy. Stay positive."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've tried every dating site going as ironic as it seems although I'm on here I do genuinely want to meet someone for a relationship. I unfortunately find that most people on dating sites are just looking for one night stands.

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By *escourtesMan
over a year ago

hereford

How well have you written your profile description on the sites? Its very important as you are selling yourself! Imagine youre selling a car, have you described it well? Photos..take some good ones, in the sunshine, well dressed makes a Big difference. Dont go on a date expecting to marry them! Just go along, you may end up as friends, or lovers or neither, often people expect too much from a transient encounter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are located looking for something serious, try Hinge and Bumble. Most young other apps you mentioned are full of spammers and scammers.

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By *ampshire_guy40 OP Man
over a year ago

hampshire

"If you are located looking for something serious, try Hinge and Bumble. Most young other apps you mentioned are full of spammers and scammers. "

On them already nothing whatsoever not even a match

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"If you are located looking for something serious, try Hinge and Bumble. Most young other apps you mentioned are full of spammers and scammers.

On them already nothing whatsoever not even a match"

I'd definitely suggest a profile refresh, better pics, better text. It's not easy but it's not impossible

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

So we're allowed to talk about dating sites but not K...I...K

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Feeld, is an option for ALT, ENM, Fetish, BDSM, D/s, dating.

Some fakes / browsers, of course, but also some genuine profiles.

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Yeah you can't mention fet. Life either apparently

What's that all about ?

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Yeah you can't mention fet. Life either apparently

What's that all about ? "

It’s not really a dating site though.

What about Facebook and Insta? WhatsApp?

It’s all social media after all?

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