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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is this a proper reason for saying you don't want to have some fun or be in a relationship with someone or is it just a polite way of saying no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this a proper reason for saying you don't want to have some fun or be in a relationship with someone or is it just a polite way of saying no? "

It's both a polite way and a proper reason. They just don't see you in that way, so only friends, not sex friends

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think it's just a polite way of saying you have no sexual interest in someone.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

For me. It's saying I like you but I don't want to get sexually intimate with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have had it said to me more in kink than swing and the kink would not involve sex.

While I understand it mostly, for me there has to be a level of friendship for kink, even a one off scene to work and I would have hoped that the friendship would be strong enough to last if the kink scene did not work out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a hint. A nice polite hint nothing will happen. It’s a hard pill to swallow op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I friendzone almost everyone now its safer than them falling in love with me

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I have had it said to me more in kink than swing and the kink would not involve sex.

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I would be the same. My kink doesn't involve sex, the act of a scene is enough pleasure to satisfy me, and I wouldn't enjoy it if we didn't have a attachment friendship first

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have had it said to me more in kink than swing and the kink would not involve sex.

While I understand it mostly, for me there has to be a level of friendship for kink, even a one off scene to work and I would have hoped that the friendship would be strong enough to last if the kink scene did not work out. "

Friends don't have to do stuff just because they're your friend.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"I have had it said to me more in kink than swing and the kink would not involve sex.

While I understand it mostly, for me there has to be a level of friendship for kink, even a one off scene to work and I would have hoped that the friendship would be strong enough to last if the kink scene did not work out. "

You don't need to understand why, this is someone else's decision.

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By *lan4FFUUNNMan
over a year ago

Genoa Italy and Liverpool

A bit of both really.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

A polite way of saying there is no spark for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have had it said to me more in kink than swing and the kink would not involve sex.

While I understand it mostly, for me there has to be a level of friendship for kink, even a one off scene to work and I would have hoped that the friendship would be strong enough to last if the kink scene did not work out.

Friends don't have to do stuff just because they're your friend. "

I never said they did. What I was saying was that being friends would be a reason I would be comfortable with asking them to try something. It's their choice.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

In my world it means, I like you, I’ll still sleep with you, but I’m not gonna fall in love with you. I guess.

Or am I doing it wrong?

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"In my world it means, I like you, I’ll still sleep with you, but I’m not gonna fall in love with you. I guess.

Or am I doing it wrong? "

I think that's a different friend zone entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the back up zone op

Its a polite way off saying

I like you but your not my first second or 3 or 4 choices

But if all else fails I can fall back on it

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p what makes you think you have been friendzoned? Some things do take time. Sorry no time though to read the full thread!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"o/p what makes you think you have been friendzoned? Some things do take time. Sorry no time though to read the full thread!"

Being told we are good friends and they worry trying some fun would ruin the friendship

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I have had it said to me more in kink than swing and the kink would not involve sex.

While I understand it mostly, for me there has to be a level of friendship for kink, even a one off scene to work and I would have hoped that the friendship would be strong enough to last if the kink scene did not work out. "

Fuck sake hit delete

For me there are two basis for any scene:

Its who you are doing it with not what you are doing thats important.

Its what you are doing not who you are doing it with thats important.

It may be your friends are more into the who than the what when they scene?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"o/p what makes you think you have been friendzoned? Some things do take time. Sorry no time though to read the full thread!

Being told we are good friends and they worry trying some fun would ruin the friendship "

Then that's all you need to know.

If someone doesn't want to get intimate because they think it will adversely affect an existing friendship then why would you want to put it at risk.

Some things are more important than getting jiggy or naked with someone. Friendship is definitely one of them.

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By *licia_2021TV/TS
over a year ago

Ashby De La Zouch


"In my world it means, I like you, I’ll still sleep with you, but I’m not gonna fall in love with you. I guess.

Or am I doing it wrong? "

I prefer your explanation

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

In terms of kink, I think there are a number of things to be considered.

What was the basis of entering into the kink relationship? Was it sexual or was it on a service basis? The latter rarely morphs into the former, but the former regularly changes into the latter.

Has one of you changed the basis of the relationship, or are they reaffirming the basis of the relationship?

Personally, I don't need to be friends with a person to do a kink scene with them. I have done stuff at clubs with people I barely met. I tie people at peer rope that I have met there. There just needs to be the right energy. The same with longer term play. Only in a distinct D/S relationship would friendships be needed. I think people fail to distinguish between safety, being precious, and having a preference.

Friendship is about doing things with people and being connected. Not being parked out of harms way.

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