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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you’re being too keen?

Where’s the line between interested and pest?

Do you like an eager beaver or are they just annoying and off putting?

Open to all I am sure it perhaps works both ways?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they abandon you to fate you pushed too hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too keen can feel a bit smothering..

I'm not sure where the line is tbh.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Pest is double/more no reply messaging on the same day for me. I don't like being chased down, but on the other side only a handful of people are allowed to put my messages on read no reply

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I tend to play it possibly too cool so I think my interest isn't obvious at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a tennis match. Hit the ball,await a reply.

Needy,desperate,shows weakness on all levels.

Abundant mindset, keep it moveing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they like you and want you. You will sure know about it.

Silence can mean many things.many,many options,shite test.

The list goes on. I think we most know deep down whats what.

Lol

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


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Define too keen please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

"

Like the purple colour taste.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"When you’re being too keen?

Where’s the line between interested and pest?

Do you like an eager beaver or are they just annoying and off putting?

Open to all I am sure it perhaps works both ways? "

Bear in mind that a lot of women get lots of messages. I get anywhere from 100 on a slow day to over 500 if I've posted a photo that people like more than the others.

I have to delete my read mail often, even if I'm chatting to the person, because when they reply, the chat history will reappear. Its a shame you can't sort the messages, or have folders you can put messages in to keep or categorise as a yes, no or maybe.

I also read messages and leave them to reply to later once I've finished getting rid of the rude, aggressive, demanding, vague or downright ridiculous messages from other people.

Also, I lose messages fast. I could have been speaking to someone last night but when I wake up there's 100 messages from others since, which pushes the conversation off the page and makes it harder to find.

Just my perspective, as far as I'm concerned, I would say "no thank you" if I wasn't interested. If my "no thank you" is ignored or argued with, I block. Some people go straight to the block without any message at all if the message they've sent me is ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

"

Haha that must be some message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message "

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared "

You hiding them in the cellar?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you’re being too keen?

Where’s the line between interested and pest?

Do you like an eager beaver or are they just annoying and off putting?

Open to all I am sure it perhaps works both ways?

Bear in mind that a lot of women get lots of messages. I get anywhere from 100 on a slow day to over 500 if I've posted a photo that people like more than the others.

I have to delete my read mail often, even if I'm chatting to the person, because when they reply, the chat history will reappear. Its a shame you can't sort the messages, or have folders you can put messages in to keep or categorise as a yes, no or maybe.

I also read messages and leave them to reply to later once I've finished getting rid of the rude, aggressive, demanding, vague or downright ridiculous messages from other people.

Also, I lose messages fast. I could have been speaking to someone last night but when I wake up there's 100 messages from others since, which pushes the conversation off the page and makes it harder to find.

Just my perspective, as far as I'm concerned, I would say "no thank you" if I wasn't interested. If my "no thank you" is ignored or argued with, I block. Some people go straight to the block without any message at all if the message they've sent me is ridiculous. "

Good use of the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

You hiding them in the cellar? "

Gosh no …. They just seem to disappear

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I try not to be overly keen, give just enough to hopefully make them want more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So …. Men

Tell me

What do you prefer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

You hiding them in the cellar?

Gosh no …. They just seem to disappear "

This is what I mean…. Too keen? Not keen enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too keen will be different for different people won't it? For me if someone keeps pushing to meet or for a friend invite - thats too keen. When I've already said I don't rush into either. If someone is still chatting and engaging with you - all good IMO. If they're straddling you...you're on your own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

You hiding them in the cellar?

Gosh no …. They just seem to disappear

This is what I mean…. Too keen? Not keen enough? "

That depends on who I talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too keen will be different for different people won't it? For me if someone keeps pushing to meet or for a friend invite - thats too keen. When I've already said I don't rush into either. If someone is still chatting and engaging with you - all good IMO. If they're straddling you...you're on your own! "

Hahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Too keen will be different for different people won't it? For me if someone keeps pushing to meet or for a friend invite - thats too keen. When I've already said I don't rush into either. If someone is still chatting and engaging with you - all good IMO. If they're straddling you...you're on your own! "

It’s why I asked… I line differing opinions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

You hiding them in the cellar?

Gosh no …. They just seem to disappear

This is what I mean…. Too keen? Not keen enough?

That depends on who I talk to "

Well…lucky are the ones being straddled haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

You hiding them in the cellar?

Gosh no …. They just seem to disappear

This is what I mean…. Too keen? Not keen enough?

That depends on who I talk to

Well…lucky are the ones being straddled haha "

Metaphorically

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bloody hell

I think I play it too cool sometimes … then this minx takes over and I’m literally straddling them in my messages

Haha that must be some message

I’d say you could ask them … but they’ve disappeared

You hiding them in the cellar?

Gosh no …. They just seem to disappear

This is what I mean…. Too keen? Not keen enough?

That depends on who I talk to

Well…lucky are the ones being straddled haha

Metaphorically "

Yes of course …. But still the interest

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Its hard on here. Normally wait for me to respond - if I'm going to, one prompt is enough in case I've forgotten or they've been lost in a barrage.

I'm utterly useless messaging and mainly only on here as a boredom buster. However, when I'm utterly direct and suggest a meet soon, most guys run a mile making me think many are just passing time with no genuine intentions. In the cases where I message random ppl and suggest a meet I'm often clearly not their type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its hard on here. Normally wait for me to respond - if I'm going to, one prompt is enough in case I've forgotten or they've been lost in a barrage.

I'm utterly useless messaging and mainly only on here as a boredom buster. However, when I'm utterly direct and suggest a meet soon, most guys run a mile making me think many are just passing time with no genuine intentions. In the cases where I message random ppl and suggest a meet I'm often clearly not their type. "

Fab world is a toughy to figure out right? Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its hard on here. Normally wait for me to respond - if I'm going to, one prompt is enough in case I've forgotten or they've been lost in a barrage.

I'm utterly useless messaging and mainly only on here as a boredom buster. However, when I'm utterly direct and suggest a meet soon, most guys run a mile making me think many are just passing time with no genuine intentions. In the cases where I message random ppl and suggest a meet I'm often clearly not their type.

Fab world is a toughy to figure out right? Ha"

Seems the world at large. A new age trend. The wind has crossed over and touched fab too.

All to do with mindsets confidence,& intentions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So …. Men

Tell me

What do you prefer?"
i like attention it gives me comfort

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Keen is good. Lukewarm is boring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keen is good. Lukewarm is boring. "

Keep it hot

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Start as you mean to go on.

Don't bombard with texts/messages, then, when you've got your dick wet, only send one text when you wake up horny.

She'll know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So …. Men

Tell me

What do you prefer?i like attention it gives me comfort "

Noted

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

If you message someone and they don't reply. Leave it at that...never send a second message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you message someone and they don't reply. Leave it at that...never send a second message."

110%

Forgive and forget.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If they send 3 messages and I don't reply. I don't get inundated, and read pretty much every msg I do get.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Too keen is obvious to me and rather off putting.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I prefer frequent messages to be honest

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"If you message someone and they don't reply. Leave it at that...never send a second message."

I agree with this on first messages. If it's read or deleted without reply, that's a polite "thanks but no thanks". No reply's a reply and all that.

But, for me, much less obvious when you know someone a bit and chatting for a while (on here or elsewhere). I still err on the side of 'less is more' as I don't want to bombard anyone, but guess I might come across as disinterested to those who like lots of messages!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Start as you mean to go on.

Don't bombard with texts/messages, then, when you've got your dick wet, only send one text when you wake up horny.

She'll know. "

Noted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Too keen is obvious to me and rather off putting."

I could see why they’d be keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needy is not sexy. Double messaging is not sexy. Telling me I'm the most beautiful thing on gods earth is not sexy.

Be cool guys, it's not that deep.

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