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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...I've just listened to a doctor say that people have different sleep cycles and sharing a bed leaves one or both chronically sleep deprived.

I feel like sleep deprivation is one of the reasons I don't want a traditional relationship where you share a bed every night. My ex didn't like the idea of not sleeping together, he said it's part of the bonding and I get that.

Maybe share a bed on days off?

How do other couples, who prefer to sleep alone, work it?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I sleep so much better with someone beside me

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We opted for a super king size and separate duvets. Seems to work pretty well ... until I start snoring...

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sleep on my own and i can confirm.. I'm definitely sleep deprived

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Hubby works night shifts (4 on 4 off) so we get the best of both worlds, although I can't say which nights I sleep better on

We also have a huge bed and both sleep the edge so it can be like sleeping alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends how quietly each person sleeps and how good the bed is. In some beds you can't tell the other person had moved. There's no hard and fast answer to this, it's what works best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We opted for a super king size and separate duvets. Seems to work pretty well ... until I start snoring...

LvM"

OMG..the snoring!! I just can't. I'd get woken up countless times during the night because of snoring.

It's my first question when interested in dating someone, how they feel about separate beds and whether they snore....

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"...I've just listened to a doctor say that people have different sleep cycles and sharing a bed leaves one or both chronically sleep deprived.

I feel like sleep deprivation is one of the reasons I don't want a traditional relationship where you share a bed every night. My ex didn't like the idea of not sleeping together, he said it's part of the bonding and I get that.

Maybe share a bed on days off?

How do other couples, who prefer to sleep alone, work it?"

The ex used to boot me to the spare room if I had an early start.

She also used to moan that I wasn't in bed with her, when I tried to reclaim some of the sheets, when I rolled over, when I got up before she woke up. You get the jist.

Other partners I've never had an issue, we made space for each other, shared the bed, slept "together".

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I have slept alone for years it's mostly cos I snore a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We opted for a super king size and separate duvets. Seems to work pretty well ... until I start snoring...

LvM"

Can I join

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By *J StathamMan
over a year ago

Manchester

That Dr and his reels are popping up everywhere

I like him tho, information given quick and easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work shifts so spend a lot of time sleeping on my own. I sleep much better on my own but prefer sleeping in the same bed as my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve struggled to understand my sleeping problems. I’ve read and tried all sorts.

I don’t feel better sleeping alone? No, it’s just the same, I wake often and sleep lightly so anything wakes me.

But there’s a nice contentment that I miss when I wake alone, nobody to hold and feel close too etc. Who doesn’t want to feel safe and comforted by someone else, even if your asleep or awake in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've chatted about this and both find that we sleep far better with someone else in the bed than when alone, 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sleep so much better alone. I don’t think I could ever have someone sleep next to me ever again.

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By *ev257Man
over a year ago

cardiff

The wife n I have been sleeping in separate beds for a few years now n we find we sleep better n also argue alot less now.

A bit silly now sleeping in same bed when have a larger than average 3 bedroom house to ourselves now kids have left home.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I’m not sleeping very well at the minute due to a shoulder injury I’m up and down all night .

I have painkillers etc in my drawer next to me so I’m not banging around stupid times in the morning and I don’t wake him .

Even tho we have spare rooms we would never sleep separately It just don’t feel right .The times when we’ve been apart I’ve struggled to get to sleep I’m just not used to not sharing my bed.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm a light sleeper and stir if he moves, so wouldn't do longer than a weekend in the same bed

A double bed with two single mattresses and seperate bedding would be nice if I considered it for the future

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I definitely sleep better alone. I don’t have overnights unless I know the person well enough. I am not a sexy sleeper

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

Even with disturbances, we both prefer to sleep together in the same bed rather than separately

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I love going to sleep and waking up beside M

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By *rDiscretionXXXMan
over a year ago

Gilfach

Foam mattresses are great at isolating movement from each other. We both sleep so much better now that we have one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...I've just listened to a doctor say that people have different sleep cycles and sharing a bed leaves one or both chronically sleep deprived.

I feel like sleep deprivation is one of the reasons I don't want a traditional relationship where you share a bed every night. My ex didn't like the idea of not sleeping together, he said it's part of the bonding and I get that.

Maybe share a bed on days off?

How do other couples, who prefer to sleep alone, work it?"

I could never sleep with another person in my bed ever again. I love having the bed to myself

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Having a little tussle over the duvet is what makes our marriage ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We opted for a super king size and separate duvets. Seems to work pretty well ... until I start snoring...

LvM

OMG..the snoring!! I just can't. I'd get woken up countless times during the night because of snoring.

It's my first question when interested in dating someone, how they feel about separate beds and whether they snore.... "

I have the exact same problem.

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