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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So one of my brothers asked if I can help one of his friends who is elderly with her electrics. She is an elderly lady in her late 80's. Oh wow I was amazed at how so organised her house was, it was like a time warp. She has a car but she can't drive because she is too old. Yet she loves talking, well when you're elderly and on your own it's nice to have company. It's nice to be around elderly folks, it gives you a perspective of the future?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin"

Aaah, the delights of the older woman.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin

Aaah, the delights of the older woman."

It's a rarely mentioned feature but so attractive

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Currently it's not nice to be around my elderly Dad. But it's not his fault. I will just have to take the flak if it means keeping him safe.

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By *eneralPMan
over a year ago

other

Awww, I think that’s lovely.

Old people can be racist, smelly, cantankerous, judgemental and even in some cases - religious, but it’s important not to home that against them.

Joking aside, I like old people - I think it must be terribly difficult to be one of the last ones remaining from your social group and family.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

They're often remarkable people with tremendous stories and insights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One of my oldest and best friends is in his late 70's. It's good to have friends of all ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I transport a lot of elderly people (Oldest so far has been 109!) Many are incredibly proud of what they once did, some are just lonely who don't see many people, especially their families.

I was heart broken in some cases, one was blind, bed bound and living on her own in a 3 bed with just a carer coming in 3-4 times a day. She was healthy enough so she couldn't stay in hospital, we suspected her family were waiting for her to die so they can sell the house and keep the money instead of using it to pay for her care.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Currently it's not nice to be around my elderly Dad. But it's not his fault. I will just have to take the flak if it means keeping him safe. "

Is he at home now?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I transport a lot of elderly people (Oldest so far has been 109!) Many are incredibly proud of what they once did, some are just lonely who don't see many people, especially their families.

I was heart broken in some cases, one was blind, bed bound and living on her own in a 3 bed with just a carer coming in 3-4 times a day. She was healthy enough so she couldn't stay in hospital, we suspected her family were waiting for her to die so they can sell the house and keep the money instead of using it to pay for her care. "

Or she steadfastly refused to go in to care. My mum refused despite the fact that at 94 my dad was exhausted trying to look after her.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I transport a lot of elderly people (Oldest so far has been 109!) Many are incredibly proud of what they once did, some are just lonely who don't see many people, especially their families.

I was heart broken in some cases, one was blind, bed bound and living on her own in a 3 bed with just a carer coming in 3-4 times a day. She was healthy enough so she couldn't stay in hospital, we suspected her family were waiting for her to die so they can sell the house and keep the money instead of using it to pay for her care.

Or she steadfastly refused to go in to care. My mum refused despite the fact that at 94 my dad was exhausted trying to look after her."

Yes. That can be a real issue

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Love listening about their youth used to look after my first husbands grandma she told amazing tales x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin

Aaah, the delights of the older woman.

It's a rarely mentioned feature but so attractive "

Then i am remiss. You are gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're knocking on now but we still love to chat to elderly people, everyone has a story to tell and the older ones obviously have a lot more years of tales to tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a fantastic song by the late, great song writer John Prine called "Hello in There" which he wrote when he was only 22 years of age.

It was a tribute to the older generation and the great affection he personally felt for them.

Sure, old people can look in the rear view mirror a little too much at times but I think the younger generation can learn a lot from them. We all learn from each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I was a young teen I studied with Jehovas witness. They assigned me to an elder. A gentleman in his late 70's. He use to tell me stories of life back in the 40's and his Harley Davidson motor bike. The noise it made and a car carriage that was attached to it. With his girlfriend then wife. How he refused to fight in the war because of his religion. He was from Greenwich. South East London. His wife use to always bake. The smell was amazing. He was like a grand father as my real grandfather was in Vietnam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an elderly “friend” she talked a lot of drivel and was manipulative, she also drank a lot of whiskey (3 litres each week) but was adamant she wasn’t an alcoholic, she puffed on those e-cigarettes and moaned when they gave up the fight for life. She really was an old bag, but I liked her, and felt sorry for her dog. He was 9 when I met him and so reactive to other dogs to the point he just wanted to eat their legs! Despite never having received any training in his 9 years, I did just that when out with my own dog, until he realised that when my dog was running towards him it didn’t necessarily mean she was running at him…. They became friends in time, and also in time it became possible to start him at scent training classes in close proximity with other dogs, without him trying to eat them, he just barked at them instead! She died last year, and I miss the old sod.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore me. Im old and most people do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin"

Methinks you prove that adage to be wrong!!!!!!!

Obviously Mrs because Mr might be well baggy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had an elderly “friend” she talked a lot of drivel and was manipulative, she also drank a lot of whiskey (3 litres each week) but was adamant she wasn’t an alcoholic, she puffed on those e-cigarettes and moaned when they gave up the fight for life. She really was an old bag, but I liked her, and felt sorry for her dog. He was 9 when I met him and so reactive to other dogs to the point he just wanted to eat their legs! Despite never having received any training in his 9 years, I did just that when out with my own dog, until he realised that when my dog was running towards him it didn’t necessarily mean she was running at him…. They became friends in time, and also in time it became possible to start him at scent training classes in close proximity with other dogs, without him trying to eat them, he just barked at them instead! She died last year, and I miss the old sod. "

Wow 3 bottles a week. I'm planning for my Macallens to last a month. Well I'm on the wagon. Tea total now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Old people are just young people in a wrinkly skin

Methinks you prove that adage to be wrong!!!!!!!

Obviously Mrs because Mr might be well baggy!"

Lol. Nope Mr has supped at the fount v of youth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody loves a fairy when she's [forty] fifty

Nobody loves a fairy when she's old

She may still have a magic power but that is not enough

They like their bit of magic from a younger bit of stuff

When once your silver star has lost its glitter

And your tinsel looks like rust instead of gold

Fairy days are ending when your wand has started bending

No-one loves a fairy when shes old

For years I reigned in Fairy Dell

I waved my wand and waved it well

If I can't do all I did Im satisfied because

I'd sooner be a Has-Been that I would a Never Was

The face of this Immortal One to many has appealed

But gone is the illusion once you've had it soled and heeled

When you've lost your little fairy dimples

And the moth holes in your dress let in the cold

The Goblins and the Pixies turn their backs and say Hi Nixey

No one loves a fairy when she's old.

As far as I can see they try to push you off the map

When once your wand has withered and your wings refuse to flap

When you can't cast a spell without it spilling

And a fairy tale for years you haven't told

You stand there shouting What O.. but they all pass by your Grotto

Nobody loves a fairy when shes old.

They don't give you an earthly chance to make a livelihood

Theyre building council houses now in my enchanted wood

When you are past the age for Television

And the air you use is government controlled

It seems that they would sooner

Listen to a blinkin' crooner

Nobody loves a fairy when shes old.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sometimes have a natter to the neighbours. They are in their late 80s and good to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes have a natter to the neighbours. They are in their late 80s and good to talk to."

I'm lucky I have good neighbours. Every one works or are retired.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Took my mum do the dumbledore film the other day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took my Aunt when she was 75 to Disneyland in Florida. Made her go on all the rides. She nearly shit herself but loved every minute of it. Lol

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Two things I dread as I get older are the fear of having to go into a care home at some point, and also the possibility of having to give up driving.

I am however blessed with having a circle of close friends both old and young who try to keep me on the straight and narrow path.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Currently it's not nice to be around my elderly Dad. But it's not his fault. I will just have to take the flak if it means keeping him safe.

Is he at home now?"

No, still in hospital because he's not safe to be at home alone with a neck brace on. Obviously he disagrees with that. We're waiting for a rehab centre place. He keeps ringing me to shout at me, at all times of the day/night. My brother and I are visiting every other day but apparently we're neglecting him. We're doing our best.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Currently it's not nice to be around my elderly Dad. But it's not his fault. I will just have to take the flak if it means keeping him safe.

Is he at home now?

No, still in hospital because he's not safe to be at home alone with a neck brace on. Obviously he disagrees with that. We're waiting for a rehab centre place. He keeps ringing me to shout at me, at all times of the day/night. My brother and I are visiting every other day but apparently we're neglecting him. We're doing our best. "

yes you are doing your best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love elderly people and thought I would like to have worked with them, but I would be too sensitive I think when they died, as I likely would have grown fond of them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I love elderly people and thought I would like to have worked with them, but I would be too sensitive I think when they died, as I likely would have grown fond of them "

I only do so in a voluntary capacity - yeah, it's hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once an adult twice a baby

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