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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... however, it happened sooner than I had hoped!

No more Mr. Hot Date, as he disapproves of my lifestyle, being on here and have more than one playmates etc...

He has his reasons, and I can appreciate why he feels the way he does.

Nevermind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bummer!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bummer!"

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Quite!

Nevermind, plenty more fish in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly....NSA fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Thats a shame Jo but then again you're better off without if hes getting all moral over you having other playmates

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Awwww sorry to here that jo. But I'm sure you'll soon find a Mr Even Hotter Date!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats a shame Jo but then again you're better off without if hes getting all moral over you having other playmates "

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That's true! However, I am feeling kind of low about having lost a playmate though, nevermind!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Awwww sorry to here that jo. But I'm sure you'll soon find a Mr Even Hotter Date!! "

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I live in hope!

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

xxhugsxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no room for exclusivity and jealousy in swinging. Sounds to me that you are well shot of him as it could have led to even greater control issues further on down the line.

I don't know why guys do this. We met a guy once, a nice looking single guy, and got along fine until he said that he could never let another man near 'his' woman. Cheeky fucker! It was like he was saying, "Your woman is a slapper and I'll shag her if you want me to but MY woman is precious and for me alone."

We never met him again.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Aw Hun, sad when a friendship ends, but you never know what is round the corner.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks peeps for your support.

I am saddened and disappointed that I was being "judged" more than anything else.

It's better this way as the others have said.

I need food NOW, and it is dinner time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant be doing with jealousy....just tell them, shut up and fuck or i will fuck your dad and give you something to really whinge about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He's not from Fab, so I can appreciate his seemingly narrowmindedness.

I must not go into a hissy fit, or appear to be a looser!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its always a bugger when someone who does it for you decides they want something more or to set rules...however, if your choice is to continue doing what you do, then it is better it is ended now and you can both do what is right for you.

As someone said,plenty more fish in the sea.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its always a bugger when someone who does it for you decides they want something more or to set rules...however, if your choice is to continue doing what you do, then it is better it is ended now and you can both do what is right for you.

As someone said,plenty more fish in the sea.xx"

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I will not be able to see him again after what he said about me, this site, and about the peeps on this site, that's for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well then it has run its course. Spare it no more thought and carry on having fun with like minded peeps.xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well then it has run its course. Spare it no more thought and carry on having fun with like minded peeps.xxx"

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Indeed

Mum is awake after a nap, so we'll be off to have some food soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jo, you know life is too short, human emotions are buried very deeply into the person you are, people can try to change, can even pretend they are happy with that change, but they won't ever be totally happy, everyone is correct, it's better to know now than later.

If he wanted exclusivity and you dont then look back upon it as fun while it lasted, and be glad it ended when it did, it's not his fault he cannot cope with a certain lifestyle choice, there are many many that cannot.

Upwards and onwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

up and on...what lovely advice lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry to here that, its always sad when a regular playmate moves on for whatever reason. One guy i see is a vanilla guy, he finds it very difficult to understand my lifestyle and i know when he finds a woman that wants a one on one relationship he will move on but it will be with my blessing as its just fun

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

cuddles to you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also sorry to hear that.. It was lovely hearing you so happy.

Fingers crossed he either see's sense or you find something to take your mind well away from the sadness..

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Sorry to hear that too but at least you were honest with the guy and didn't hide or be ashamed of your lifestyle choices - you've come through it with your integrity intact and the optimism to fight another day! All the best xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I will not be able to see him again after what he said about me, this site, and about the peeps on this site, that's for sure! "

I was going to make a comment anyway, but then Jo said the above which, imho, is the really sad thing. As somebody said, if this scene wasn't for him, then fine, not a problem. But if he stooped to throwing around derogatory remarks about Jo, and others, then I'd definitely say that you're well shot of him!

It's one thing to admit that something's not for you, but then to slag off somebody who invited you into their home, etc etc, is another matter.

I know why I'm here, and I'll admit I'm not your average swinger, but if I decide something's not for me then I'll quietly bow out.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i think its a shame but at least you have been honest which is nice these days

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your support, which is much appreciated.

You guys and girls are great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... however, it happened sooner than I had hoped!

No more Mr. Hot Date, as he disapproves of my lifestyle, being on here and have more than one playmates etc...

He has his reasons, and I can appreciate why he feels the way he does.

Nevermind "

sorry to be ignorant but i dont really know many of your forum users so dont really know about you

i take it Mr Hot Date was a guy you met off here that has now decided he dont like you playing with other people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sorry to be ignorant but i dont really know many of your forum users so dont really know about you

i take it Mr Hot Date was a guy you met off here that has now decided he dont like you playing with other people?"

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No worries!

I did not meet him via FAB, but via adult dating sites that share the same database for peeps looking for allegedly NSA fun

Hence the issue I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry to be ignorant but i dont really know many of your forum users so dont really know about you

i take it Mr Hot Date was a guy you met off here that has now decided he dont like you playing with other people?

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No worries!

I did not meet him via FAB, but via adult dating sites that share the same database for peeps looking for allegedly NSA fun

Hence the issue I guess "

sorry to say it happens a lot, i think far to many people use such NSA sites to find love, which is ok so long as the other persons looking for same, i suppose sometimes you can come onto these sites with all the intentions in the world of not felling in love, but when love hits you you cant really do anything about it, not good if the person you fall for does not feel the same about you tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sorry to say it happens a lot, i think far to many people use such NSA sites to find love, which is ok so long as the other persons looking for same, i suppose sometimes you can come onto these sites with all the intentions in the world of not felling in love, but when love hits you you cant really do anything about it, not good if the person you fall for does not feel the same about you tho "

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The irony is that we are not each other's "type" for life partners, never have been, never will.

We just enjoyed sex and the downtime in between, and he liked the food I fed him.

Anyway, I worked out that in order for him to read my profile, he must be registered on the site, so I need to be careful about what I say.

I would have blocked him if I knew his user ID

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on Jo, I'm sure you could do a good impersonation of Miss Marple!! lol

Go to it!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyway, I worked out that in order for him to read my profile, he must be registered on the site, so I need to be careful about what I say.

I would have blocked him if I knew his user ID "

Ooooo I'm sure between us we could track him down lol, PM us the details you have about him and off we'll go............... lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

LOL! I am not a bunny boiler

Don't care, won't care, onwards and upwards I'd say!

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

keep smileing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"keep smileing "

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I intend to

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

It a sad fact of life that, now matter what people say at the start of a "relationship", (in this case a NSA friendship with "benefits"), feelings can, and do change.

Just in the short time (about 11 months)we have been on here we have seen 4 relationships between swingers who have met off FAB fall by the wayside, and I dare say there will be more.

People cannot help their emotions, and I guess all you can do is move on, and put it down to experience.

At least you were honest from the start, I hope someday you find someone special to share this lifestyle with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the first site we joined when we first started, there was a lovely good looking couple we became friendly with. We had chatted and cammed many times and were arranging to go and see them when the guy of the couple messaged us. Apparently they used to meet this single guy regularly and eventually they took a shine to each other and that was that. People are only human I guess as mr sthwalescouple has said, all the more reason to make sure you are 100% secure and happy in your relationship and do this for the right reasons

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

awwww poor Jo, I've just driven through Wiltshire, if I had known I would have stopped n given you a cuddle

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

Sorry you lost a play mate Jo. Enjoyed Reading your posts and you sound like a great lady who is well thought of on year.

Hoping to get to meet you at the Xmas party and I'm sure you'll find a new play mate soon.

Keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure there a que 50 mile out the door for u jo the worlds your oyster bring your own tabasco sauce!! it is sad when u lose a playmate im so bloody careless iv lost lots lol some people deal well with the lifestyle others not so well but please keep your chin up !! xxx

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"Sorry you lost a play mate Jo. Enjoyed Reading your posts and you sound like a great lady who is well thought of on year.

Hoping to get to meet you at the Xmas party and I'm sure you'll find a new play mate soon.

Keep smiling "

should say on here!

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending, no matter the circumstances behind your initial meeting an end still causes pain in most cases.

For myself this year has been a revelation. This time last yr i was (unknowingly) about to become single from the woman i was engaged to. It tore me apart, yet the very thing that was at the root of her unhappiness - my transvestism - has now flowered and allowed me to really be me for the 1st time in my life. I even have a supportive female partner who loves me dressing and being a complete slut! We recently stepped into the swinging world and what a world it is...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"awwww poor Jo, I've just driven through Wiltshire, if I had known I would have stopped n given you a cuddle

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Good job you didn't, as I am miles away on holiday in Hong Kong at the mo!

Thanks peeps for your kind words and support

I fully intend to continue to be myself with regard to my lifestyle choices. If peeps cannot accept me for the way I am, then it is their loss, not mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw Jo his loss honey...i know it hurts and it sounded like u liked him alot but times a great healer and so is this site...onwards and upwards...Hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Aw Jo his loss honey...i know it hurts and it sounded like u liked him alot but times a great healer and so is this site...onwards and upwards...Hugs xxx"

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We were very compatible sexually for certain. However, we did not live under each other's skin.

I felt a bit sad as I shall miss having sexy fun with him, that's all

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"awwww poor Jo, I've just driven through Wiltshire, if I had known I would have stopped n given you a cuddle

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Good job you didn't, as I am miles away on holiday in Hong Kong at the mo!

Thanks peeps for your kind words and support :-

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Hope you enjoy your holiday in HongKong. I used to live there as a girl - my Dad built the underground railway system!

I fully intend to continue to be myself with regard to my lifestyle choices. If peeps cannot accept me for the way I am, then it is their loss, not mine! "

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Wow - just saw this thread Jo - and just in the space of a day, and a million posts - you are already coming across more upbeat about the whole episode.

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Forget about him for now, enjoy your holiday and find some new "friends" when you get back.

Big hugz

Debz xxx

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