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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For anyone who wants a fwb, how hard is it to find one? Or do we just rely on blind luck? Is there some unseen force stopping you both from forming this type of friendship? Do you even know each other exists?

Phone apps and this place (fab) brings like minded people together doesn’t it?

I want a friend… where we play with each other’s sexy bits.

And who’s going to join in and make us jealous of you all.

Discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends like that are good aren't they. I wouldn't mind another one of those too please

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a few. But that’s largely due to having sex with friends which thankfully hadn’t turned out as badly as it might have done.

Long as we talking fwb not simple fb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your going to find one then this has to be the place. I found one on here and we had a great time. I started a relationship so after that it was friends without the benefits. No hard feelings or issues and she now has her man too and I couldn’t be happier for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like a friend like this too

A friendship that includes the sexy bits too

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've found an amazing fwb but there's much more to it than putting out an appeal via a thread. (In general op and not aimed at this thread).

You can't know if you are compatible even as friends without spending time getting to know one another.

It will never work if you put the benefits before the friendship. It's all about balance and that doesn't happen through matchmaking threads as others have attempted. It takes time and patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Friends like that are good aren't they. I wouldn't mind another one of those too please

Pxx"
I don’t know. My friends are men that either playing dnd or golf with me or chasing me for the money I owe them. Nothing sexy about them.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I've found an amazing fwb but there's much more to it than putting out an appeal via a thread. (In general op and not aimed at this thread).

You can't know if you are compatible even as friends without spending time getting to know one another.

It will never work if you put the benefits before the friendship. It's all about balance and that doesn't happen through matchmaking threads as others have attempted. It takes time and patience "

100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve got a few. But that’s largely due to having sex with friends which thankfully hadn’t turned out as badly as it might have done.

Long as we talking fwb not simple fb. "

We are talking about the friends part. Fb is lust and great sex.

A friend is about making everything a little bit brighter…and the sex is simply more wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've found an amazing fwb but there's much more to it than putting out an appeal via a thread. (In general op and not aimed at this thread).

You can't know if you are compatible even as friends without spending time getting to know one another.

It will never work if you put the benefits before the friendship. It's all about balance and that doesn't happen through matchmaking threads as others have attempted. It takes time and patience

100% "

And another. That’s 200% isn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had two regular fwb, both of whom I met via regular dating sites. We were just looking for the same thing and clicked. This place, no chance whatsoever. It's like it's a whole different mindset, and generally one averse to meeting. Go figure..

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Just hard to find anyone when you get to a certain age

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I've found an amazing fwb but there's much more to it than putting out an appeal via a thread. (In general op and not aimed at this thread).

You can't know if you are compatible even as friends without spending time getting to know one another.

It will never work if you put the benefits before the friendship. It's all about balance and that doesn't happen through matchmaking threads as others have attempted. It takes time and patience

100%

And another. That’s 200% isn’t it. "

Absofuckinglutely correct.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Just hard to find anyone when you get to a certain age "

It's not actually. I didn't join this site until I was 52 and had zero experience of a fb or fwb setup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love one but I get worried about getting too attached lol. I seem to get attached quickly to people so I’d get worried I’d force it into something more than just FWB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so hard baby...

Wait, I mean yeah. It's pretty hard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So so hard baby...

Wait, I mean yeah. It's pretty hard."

What if anything in that reply doesn’t scream innuendo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So so hard baby...

Wait, I mean yeah. It's pretty hard.

What if anything in that reply doesn’t scream innuendo? "

Errr the "I" bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they are very hard to find we have a few that have developed out of being on the scene for years so if us couples and women find it hard then alot of men simply will find it very very very hard ...

alot of guys ask for things without thinking ie time effort .. alot of guys say things to get a fuck without wanting such said things .. and add in to that mix alot on guys then cant handle there feelings ie jealousy clingy wanting more than whats on offer ...

so basically its hard for a guy to get simple meets x that by 1,000s thats how hard it is for men ... but then think how hard it is for a woman or couple to find that healthy balance needed with a third person and have the attraction as well = very very hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"they are very hard to find we have a few that have developed out of being on the scene for years so if us couples and women find it hard then alot of men simply will find it very very very hard ...

alot of guys ask for things without thinking ie time effort .. alot of guys say things to get a fuck without wanting such said things .. and add in to that mix alot on guys then cant handle there feelings ie jealousy clingy wanting more than whats on offer ...

so basically its hard for a guy to get simple meets x that by 1,000s thats how hard it is for men ... but then think how hard it is for a woman or couple to find that healthy balance needed with a third person and have the attraction as well = very very hard

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I think you just set my “I think it’s hard” bar a lot higher than it was

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's really hard! So many guys say this is what they want, but I think they confuse it with fuck buddies, they want the convenience of just hooking up but no genuine friendship.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I wouldn't tell a guy that's what I'm after cos that puts the ball at his feet to say what he thinks I might want to hear

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In my experience, FWB is always based around the benefits and not much of the friendship.

Most of these types of arrangements that I’ve seen always fall apart if the sex is removed.

I think that finding a friend that you’re attracted to but where feelings won’t develop is incredibly difficult and I don’t think that it’s something that you can just advertise for and apply for, not without it going awry somewhere fairly quickly.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Incredibly difficult. I’ve been looking for two years. I thought I found one here but nahhhh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's really hard! So many guys say this is what they want, but I think they confuse it with fuck buddies, they want the convenience of just hooking up but no genuine friendship."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Incredibly difficult. I’ve been looking for two years. I thought I found one here but nahhhh. "

Less sexy times and ended up friends? Or no friendship as what’s been described by some above, it was more FB?

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

Actively looking for a fwb on Fab isn't the answer. In my experience, you meet someone from here a few times then started doing normal, non sexual things together. The friendship develops naturally.

In the "real" world, you don't go looking for a friend- you come across people you get on with and you become friends eventually. Why should Fab be any different?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Actively looking for a fwb on Fab isn't the answer. In my experience, you meet someone from here a few times then started doing normal, non sexual things together. The friendship develops naturally.

In the "real" world, you don't go looking for a friend- you come across people you get on with and you become friends eventually. Why should Fab be any different?

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I want to come across people I get on with…

I don’t really actively look. Although this would be my preferred sex experiences here.

I’ve answered other threads in the last discussion where on FAB or the real world. Men-women can’t just be friends or people get friend zoned when they didn’t want to be. That type of thing.

I had friends when I was younger where our friendship was first (there was a group of us) and we fooled around with each other) we stayed friends when we all moved onto other people.

But your right, it’s found when you don’t expect it, I said ‘blind luck’ is what it feels like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actively looking for a fwb on Fab isn't the answer. In my experience, you meet someone from here a few times then started doing normal, non sexual things together. The friendship develops naturally.

In the "real" world, you don't go looking for a friend- you come across people you get on with and you become friends eventually. Why should Fab be any different?

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Yep, but if you're actively seeking someone on here that may ticks some boxes?

Worse than Tinder (I'd imagine), but still zero results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We looked for years to get one each but no dice. Plenty of lovely people but nobody who actually “stuck”. Either it wasn’t possible to meet many times or some guys got attachment issues with Paprika (not so many girls getting attached to Pimento, ah well).

In the end we went for a few nice guys and the odd couple for sex, which was fun when we saw people many times.

Now? Who knows - maybe just horny parties.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Fwb are like buses. There’s none. Then suddenly 3 turn up at the same time

Had someone asked me 1 month ago I had 1 fwb situation that had been ongoing for about a year now. Suddenly I’ve got 5. This is too many. It can’t last like this. Why do they call come at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's really hard! So many guys say this is what they want, but I think they confuse it with fuck buddies, they want the convenience of just hooking up but no genuine friendship."

I wouldn't look on here for anything more than a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to be friends first and then the WB added later. FWB can last for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fwb are like buses. There’s none. Then suddenly 3 turn up at the same time

Had someone asked me 1 month ago I had 1 fwb situation that had been ongoing for about a year now. Suddenly I’ve got 5. This is too many. It can’t last like this. Why do they call come at the same time"

Selfish?... Share the love

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