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By *idows comfort OP   Man
over a year ago

chesterfield

Guy here looking to learn the rope would love to try candle wax to I am in Derbyshire area

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Have a look online for Shibari, incredible rope work when it’s done properly.

As for candle wax, can’t help there as is not my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look at the Birmingham bizarre bazaar or Manchester alternative market they sometimes have workshops held at those events

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Are you looking to be the waxer or waxee, so to speak? (and don't be tempted to try normal candles first- they're fookin hot!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a peer rope group in Sheffield I think. If you check F@tlife you can find rope related groups and events - plenty around. I've been to a night at Quest in Leeds where they had all the wax - might find other clubs offer that at a kink night. I've always been keen to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MasterRopeKnot on here runs rope events - he would be helpful. Think he's midlands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't use ordinary candle wax get some from a specialist shop, (you know the ones)

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

On the fourth Sunday of the month at Xtasia, Midland Peer Rope is held ranging from beginners to advanced. They're very friendly, knowledgeable and it's a great group to start.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"MasterRopeKnot on here runs rope events - he would be helpful. Think he's midlands?"

MRk is awesome.

Book/video learning is always good too:

Wax Lyrical: A Kinkster's Guide to Wax Play -Tinder Hella

SM101 - Jay Wiseman

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage - Midori

Bondage for sex - Chanta Rose

Two Knotty Boys - the YouTube

Kink University - YouTube kinkcom

As others have said the BBB and LAMchester often have workshops and teaching sessions on, as do many of the local munches.

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Don't use ordinary candle wax get some from a specialist shop, (you know the ones)"

There's a number of areas of BDSM where things are not quite how they look from the outside. Wax is one, you need to know the difference between soy and paraffin.

Another area people often get wrong is canes, don't go to the garden centre and get some 'canes', bamboo splits and the edges are like a razor. BDSM canes are generally ratten, kooboo is popular, if they break, they generally break at a knuckle. (I've never had one break, but I'm not into the more severe end of the hobby)

Ropes, it's beautiful, but some areas, especially suspension require a lot of knowledge.

Get involved in the community and learn about the specific activities you want to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't use ordinary candle wax get some from a specialist shop, (you know the ones)

There's a number of areas of BDSM where things are not quite how they look from the outside. Wax is one, you need to know the difference between soy and paraffin.

Another area people often get wrong is canes, don't go to the garden centre and get some 'canes', bamboo splits and the edges are like a razor. BDSM canes are generally ratten, kooboo is popular, if they break, they generally break at a knuckle. (I've never had one break, but I'm not into the more severe end of the hobby)

Ropes, it's beautiful, but some areas, especially suspension require a lot of knowledge.

Get involved in the community and learn about the specific activities you want to play with."

Absolutely spot on with canes and rope. I've encountered a cane from bamboo and it was nasty compared to the proper ones. Ouch! And back when I didn't know anything I let someone use some very questionable rope techniques on me. Someone who has taken the time and energy to learn properly is much more likely to find willing play partners also.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Absolutely spot on with canes and rope. I've encountered a cane from bamboo and it was nasty compared to the proper ones. Ouch! And back when I didn't know anything I let someone use some very questionable rope techniques on me. Someone who has taken the time and energy to learn properly is much more likely to find willing play partners also. "

This!

There is a reason I highlight book learning so often...

When I first joined the BDSM scene I was tied up (and suspended) by someone who was well known on the scene and even led workshops on ropework.

Turns out their book learning was lacking and I have permenant nerve damage from badly placed rope.

No matter if you want to tie or be tied... Learn as much as you can, so you can truely give informed consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I attended a number of training sessions for shabari. Safety was always drilled into us. I met some ladies that have been injured being suspended by inexperienced practitioners. Try to get proper tuition or attended a workshop.

Wax is a lot of fun. And as echoed , make sure you get the body wax. Sadly, I bought some ‘bdsm’ candles at a bdsm kink market and it wasn’t the right type at all. So buyer beware .

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract


"...and I have permenant nerve damage from badly placed rope. "

Sadly that's not as uncommon as it should be. Between the mass media encouraging everyone to try BDSM to spice up their sex lives, and us always going on about pervertables, what's a newbie to think?

For the sake of clarification, pervertables means getting the wooden spoon out the kitchen drawer, not heading down to B&Q for some rope, a box of candles and a garden cane

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract


"...Sadly, I bought some ‘bdsm’ candles at a bdsm kink market and it wasn’t the right type at all. So buyer beware "

Sadly our hobby isn't regulated. Buy a condom and it has a quality mark and a date. Buy a candle, and unless you know what soy, tallow and paraffin smells like, it really is caveat emptor! Drop the wax from very high up at the start, and I think you should try it on yourself first...but that's a debatable topic, after all I'm a sadist, not a masochist

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"...and I have permenant nerve damage from badly placed rope.

Sadly that's not as uncommon as it should be. Between the mass media encouraging everyone to try BDSM to spice up their sex lives, and us always going on about pervertables, what's a newbie to think?

For the sake of clarification, pervertables means getting the wooden spoon out the kitchen drawer, not heading down to B&Q for some rope, a box of candles and a garden cane "

Oh this was way before the days of the media encouraging people to experiment. I'm old

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Wax is a lot of fun. And as echoed , make sure you get the body wax. Sadly, I bought some ‘bdsm’ candles at a bdsm kink market and it wasn’t the right type at all. So buyer beware .

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Thats a shame, but without knowing the event or seller its hard to gauge what they were selling.

Sadly the best candle maker has long since shut up shop, but there are a few more makers out there with decent reputations.

But I would stress don’t use table candles or you are asking for serious burns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s good to see some folks who are into bdsm and are knowledgeable. I’m struggling to connect with ladies on Fabs . Although, I tend to find more connections on a popular FETIsh Life site.

Not sure if I should abandon trying on Fabs.

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract


"... I’m struggling to connect with ladies on Fabs . Although, I tend to find..."

Just a different market. E.g. a lot of ladies put spanking as one of their interests, but you have to accept that most on here have a different meaning to those who put it on a fetish specific site.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Slightly phobic about wax after a sensitive fire alarm in a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started watching a fairly informative and engaging tutorial about quick release and safe knots. It didn't really go so well - we wound up banging like a shit house door in a hurricane after less than two minutes.

We've had some feeble attempts that were pfffftttt - just keep getting distracted by animal urges.

Report card would say "definitely could do better"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started watching a fairly informative and engaging tutorial about quick release and safe knots. It didn't really go so well"

It’s always been drilled into me at the shabari workshops to have safety scissors always on hand .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started watching a fairly informative and engaging tutorial about quick release and safe knots. It didn't really go so well

It’s always been drilled into me at the shabari workshops to have safety scissors always on hand . "

Oh it wasn't safety that caused an issue, the ropes stayed in the packet

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"...Sadly, I bought some ‘bdsm’ candles at a bdsm kink market and it wasn’t the right type at all. So buyer beware

Sadly our hobby isn't regulated. Buy a condom and it has a quality mark and a date. Buy a candle, and unless you know what soy, tallow and paraffin smells like, it really is caveat emptor! Drop the wax from very high up at the start, and I think you should try it on yourself first...but that's a debatable topic, after all I'm a sadist, not a masochist "

Hobby? Some of us live it as a 24hour lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have the patience to live the lifestyle. Variety is the spice of whatever they say it is haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guy here looking to learn the rope would love to try candle wax to I am in Derbyshire area"

There is a far better suited website to your search than this one, along with several events, again listed elsewhere, in your area a quick internet search should turn up what you're looking for.

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