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"Came across the question this morning in a staff meeting and nobody could really agree on what would be "fair". Does it mean sharing something in equal portions (even if one person hates the cake)? Does it mean considering individual needs of your kids and spending different amounts of energy and money on them depending on those? I am just in pondering mode .. so suggestions are welcome "Think it not about portions or size it more to do with need. | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up  "Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story  | |||
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"Came across the question this morning in a staff meeting and nobody could really agree on what would be "fair". Does it mean sharing something in equal portions (even if one person hates the cake)? Does it mean considering individual needs of your kids and spending different amounts of energy and money on them depending on those? I am just in pondering mode .. so suggestions are welcome
Think it not about portions or size it more to do with need. "See that is what I am wondering... but then those who receive less... would argue that it is not fair? | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story"Define fair from a womans point of view | |||
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"Came across the question this morning in a staff meeting and nobody could really agree on what would be "fair". Does it mean sharing something in equal portions (even if one person hates the cake)? Does it mean considering individual needs of your kids and spending different amounts of energy and money on them depending on those? I am just in pondering mode .. so suggestions are welcome
Think it not about portions or size it more to do with need. See that is what I am wondering... but then those who receive less... would argue that it is not fair? "Fair is not about want its about what it actually needed It's like I want sex but need a hug sort of a thing  | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view "from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair  | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view
from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair "not if its one I dont like  | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view "I am struggling with it that is why I am asking my clever forumates... I would be inclined to think fair means attending to individual needs and if there are several poeple involved it would mean a compromise between those conflicting needs? | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view
from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair
not if its one I dont like "That's it.. you tell Sam! | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view
from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair
not if its one I dont like "are you sure you wouldnt take it just incase you changed your mind at a later date  | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view
from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair
not if its one I dont like
That's it.. you tell Sam!" trust you | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view
from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair
not if its one I dont like
That's it.. you tell Sam!
trust you"You should lol | |||
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"would think where children are concerned its about being equal in your time and attention with them all.. sometimes things will crop up and one may miss out, good to remember to redress the balance cos bless em they dont forget.. heard a mum years ago in response to a child saying 'its not fair' reply 'neither is a black cat'.. sometimes life is 'unfair'.. " You are right sometimes life sucks... doesnt it... Sometimes bad thingas happen to good people, another example that life isnt always fair. | |||
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"would think where children are concerned its about being equal in your time and attention with them all.. sometimes things will crop up and one may miss out, good to remember to redress the balance cos bless em they dont forget.. heard a mum years ago in response to a child saying 'its not fair' reply 'neither is a black cat'.. sometimes life is 'unfair'.. You are right sometimes life sucks... doesnt it... Sometimes bad thingas happen to good people, another example that life isnt always fair. " sometimes shit just happens, its how you deal with that which defines a person.. anyone can be a nice person when all is rosy.. | |||
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It means equality to me - either that or a go on the Waltzers with a fit guy spinning me round | |||
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"Sharing is giving enough to shut them up Yes lol... but I want to know if it is fair.... Typical man, only heard half the story
Define fair from a womans point of view
from a womans point of view the cake is all hers and thats fair
not if its one I dont like
are you sure you wouldnt take it just incase you changed your mind at a later date "no cos that wouldnt be fair to deprive the people that would like it - purely cos I could have it | |||
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"What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine "Nah, the correct quote is "What's yours is mine, and what's mine you can keep your grubby little mitts off!" | |||
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"Surely if a group won’t agree what is fair ?, they should be challenged to define what in their mind is "unfair" and then asked to openly justify their individual view-point to the rest of the group. "Good point, Soxy - no kidding | |||
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"My mam's stock in trade answer to one of us whining "It's not fair" was always, "It's not raining" - even when it patently was pissing it down as is usually the case here in God's own country
It means equality to me - either that or a go on the Waltzers with a fit guy spinning me round "I feel there has to be an element of equality in the concept of fairness. | |||
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"Surely if a group won’t agree what is fair ?, they should be challenged to define what in their mind is "unfair" and then asked to openly justify their individual view-point to the rest of the group. Good point, Soxy - no kidding"Affro.....I guess what I was trying to say was "surely to define what is fair?, requires an answer that is unarguably rational and transparently unbiased"….  | |||
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"Came across the question this morning in a staff meeting and nobody could really agree on what would be "fair". Does it mean sharing something in equal portions (even if one person hates the cake)? Does it mean considering individual needs of your kids and spending different amounts of energy and money on them depending on those? I am just in pondering mode .. so suggestions are welcome "I had to study Contract Law many many moons ago, and the subject of 'Fairness' is central to that. The 'yardstick' was... is it fair to the man on the top of the No.8 bus... Well, I was puzzled at that one too, until the Lecturer explained that, when setting precedent, a Judge has to consider what would be fair/reasonable to 'the common man' - and the common man don't get much commoner than one who travels on the No 8 bus.... apparently..? To say it means 'equal shares' would, I imagine, mean that would refer to 'fair shares' - which is a specific derivation of 'fairness', isn't it? Where's Professor XXX when you need him??
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"Hi again Aphrodite... I think that find a workable definition of what is "fair" in regard to sharing - I can perhaps qualify it, but not quantify it... I would compare it to "equality", by looking at it this way... To share something (cake or whatever) in equal portions is "equality" - ie regardless of standing, so that nobody looses by discrimination. Beyond that, to share, with agreement, on the basis of need is "fair". If I was offered a share of cake because I was one of a group, then that would be on an equitable basis, and I would be duly grateful. But If I already had sufficient for my own needs, and was actively aware that another recipient was desperately in need, then an equitable share would not be "fair" - Most reasonable and free-thinking people would gladly give up their equitable share of something in order to be fair and benefit others. Which is why we see good deeds as "fair" - and we give to undeveloped countries, or simply to friends in need. "Fair" is not always equitable - but it is the right thing to do, while being conscious of avoiding discrimination. Sorry if that's all come out very wordy!!! " I really like that post and particularly bringing in the concept of abundance that should in theory facilitate and encourage generosity towards the needier.  | |||
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"Came across the question this morning in a staff meeting and nobody could really agree on what would be "fair". Does it mean sharing something in equal portions (even if one person hates the cake)? Does it mean considering individual needs of your kids and spending different amounts of energy and money on them depending on those? I am just in pondering mode .. so suggestions are welcome
I had to study Contract Law many many moons ago, and the subject of 'Fairness' is central to that. The 'yardstick' was... is it fair to the man on the top of the No.8 bus... Well, I was puzzled at that one too, until the Lecturer explained that, when setting precedent, a Judge has to consider what would be fair/reasonable to 'the common man' - and the common man don't get much commoner than one who travels on the No 8 bus.... apparently..?
To say it means 'equal shares' would, I imagine, mean that would refer to 'fair shares' - which is a specific derivation of 'fairness', isn't it? Where's Professor XXX when you need him??
"I think I can see where you are coming from - and the anchor here is basing fairness on the "majority need" principle? I do wonder though, and I ll stick with my cake example... whether sharing a chocolate cake by dividing it into the number of guests is fair when one person hates chocolate cake and much rather have cheese. Only cheese is nt available as the budget was spent on the cake. Silly example, I know.. just to illustrate the point? | |||
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"I think I can see where you are coming from - and the anchor here is basing fairness on the "majority need" principle? I do wonder though, and I ll stick with my cake example... whether sharing a chocolate cake by dividing it into the number of guests is fair when one person hates chocolate cake and much rather have cheese. Only cheese is nt available as the budget was spent on the cake. Silly example, I know.. just to illustrate the point?" That is exactly the public policy point! We don't all want chocolate cake, or even cheese. Some want and need other things too. The most articulate person was able to argue for cheese to be added but the person who needed salad didn't get to speak up. | |||
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"I have just finished a work call about this subject: we are arranging a debate on the language currently being used. Very spooky! This government will not use equality anymore and talks about fairness instead. There are fairness commissions all over the place now! All are trying to grasp what fair means and how we can ensure that public policy is fair. I have no answer at the moment as I think the word is being used to justify quite a lot of things that I would consider to be unfair." Every government seems to tag a key word and then twist it to meet their own needs | |||
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"I think I can see where you are coming from - and the anchor here is basing fairness on the "majority need" principle? I do wonder though, and I ll stick with my cake example... whether sharing a chocolate cake by dividing it into the number of guests is fair when one person hates chocolate cake and much rather have cheese. Only cheese is nt available as the budget was spent on the cake. Silly example, I know.. just to illustrate the point? That is exactly the public policy point! We don't all want chocolate cake, or even cheese. Some want and need other things too. The most articulate person was able to argue for cheese to be added but the person who needed salad didn't get to speak up." Hell, yes... that is yet another point, the lobbying and the level of fairness in representation. Again, if you are not able/ capable for whatever reason to fend for yourself, your rights, perceived or otherwise then the whole concept of fairness is doomed before the discussion has even begun. | |||
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