FabSwingers.com forum: Monday Mental Health Check-in 30.05

By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Good morning all, how does this week find us?

I’ve not had a bad week, quite a bit of variation though. Last week I had a couple of days where I had no feelings of anxiety at all, the peace inside my head was incredible! I started a plan to be healthier, I’ve been eating better, started having cold showers and I did two workouts for the first time in months because I felt I could trust my muscles again. The last couple of days though I’ve been feeling emotionally more delicate, a bit tearful at times and am having the muscle sensations that trigger my health anxiety again. My hands seem to be particularly affected this time with strange muscle spasms and twitches. I haven’t had a propanalol in two weeks, I’ve been self-soothing, but I’m finding it difficult to do feeling like this. I’ll persevere though!

Still continued the eating better and cold showers but didn’t work out or get out for a walk all weekend, going to force myself to today though and try not to ruminate over my muscles (where the attention goes, the energy flows).

How are you feeling today? xx

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Yeah on okay, I had a surprisingly sound of mind weekend whulichnmade a change. Although it was probably to with time off earlier in the week.

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Yeah on okay, I had a surprisingly sound of mind weekend whulichnmade a change. Although it was probably to with time off earlier in the week. "

That’s good to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of love to you, OP.

I’m really crap. Can’t get over the way a partner betrayed my trust and keep replaying the moment in my head and can’t seem to escape it. Just feeling a bit sick of life tbh. Want a new job but feeling so shit from this thing that I can’t find the energy or strength. Also I’m avoiding people mostly out of shame. Which is making me anxious that I’m ruining my relationships but I can’t face talking.

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Lots of love to you, OP.

I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling

. It sounds like you feel you’re in a bit of a negative cycle of things, that can feel really tough. Sending love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done to you OP

The week started well with a couple of nice socials but then ended with a trip to hospital, not the end of the week or start of this one I wanted.

While dark thoughts are not the reason I am here they may have contributed which just makes things worse.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Always good when Lou starts a post like this

My week… blahhhhh nothing happening just bitty stuff at work and no fun at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning all

Had a bit of a wobble Saturday after a incident Friday night..

But feeling lots better now..

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Well done to you OP

The week started well with a couple of nice socials but then ended with a trip to hospital, not the end of the week or start of this one I wanted.

While dark thoughts are not the reason I am here they may have contributed which just makes things worse. "

I’m sorry to hear that, that doesn’t sound good, I hope your hospital issues are sorted soon, sending love x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Always good when Lou starts a post like this

My week… blahhhhh nothing happening just bitty stuff at work and no fun at all "

Is this your something to look forward to on a Monday morning?

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Good morning all

Had a bit of a wobble Saturday after a incident Friday night..

But feeling lots better now.."

Oh no! Glad you’re feeling better now though x

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

Chin up people , we all just got to manage it the best we can it never goes away , life goes from good to bad to okay and repeat. I’ve suffered from an early age and there’s been some dark

Times but they pass. Talk to someone it will help we’ve all got problems.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

"Always good when Lou starts a post like this

My week… blahhhhh nothing happening just bitty stuff at work and no fun at all

Is this your something to look forward to on a Monday morning?

Right now I don’t think I have anything to look forward to today

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

After finally managing to get a doctors appointment a little better, my depression and anxiety are still about however I don't feel like I'm 'going mad'. Everything I'm going through is linked

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Chin up people , we all just got to manage it the best we can it never goes away , life goes from good to bad to okay and repeat. I’ve suffered from an early age and there’s been some dark

Times but they pass. Talk to someone it will help we’ve all got problems."

There’s nothing wrong with validating how people are feeling though. I understand your comment comes from a good place but it’s dismissive of people’s suffering. This thread is a safe space for people to bring how they’re feeling and have that acknowledged without judgement

I’m glad you’re in a better place now than you were x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Always good when Lou starts a post like this

My week… blahhhhh nothing happening just bitty stuff at work and no fun at all

Is this your something to look forward to on a Monday morning?

Right now I don’t think I have anything to look forward to today

Hugs x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"After finally managing to get a doctors appointment a little better, my depression and anxiety are still about however I don't feel like I'm 'going mad'. Everything I'm going through is linked "

That’s good news! It’s such a relief when you get a little peace

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Hugs OP hope your feeling good soon I’m just in a bad place thinking I’m stuck at home unwanted and alone but will finally get out in August for the Manchester social

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

Thanks OP for posting today is a good day as I'm alive.

I am learning to accept wobbles are part of my life now.

Waking up and jumping out of bed allows me to stop the doom creeping in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to hear of your improving wellbeing OP.

I've been doing a lot better than I have been these past several weeks.

My inbox is always open to lend a person an ear

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Strange week for me, pretty ok emotionally and in my head but physically having a massive struggle with fatigue. Have had a couple of medical letters and have hospital appointments now pending which is not ideal for my headspace but I’m ok about it.

Work was super busy but good fun thankfully.

A friend has moved in for a couple of weeks whilst her new place gets painted.

Chatted with a great guy who messaged me though fab midweek and we spoke daily and arranged a meet which I postponed due to being so busy with my friend moving in and then arranged another one as I knew I really wanted to meet him and we both have busy weeks ahead so decided not to delay. I’m glad we met as we think we’ve found our fwb scenario!

Also had a great night with friends on Saturday and even had some alcohol

Sending positive vibes to all who need them x

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By *rostgiantMan
over a year ago

Chippenham

Got diagnosed on Friday with Adult Combined ADHD - explains A LOT for me haha

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

I'd don't suffer with mental health issues but my heart goes out to the folks that do.

Hope you all find yourself in a better place now things are getting back to normal.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moved away from home to care for my dad who is in the late stages of cancer.

He was doing OK until about 2 months ago when the tumor spread to his spine and he lost the use of his legs. He has seemed to become this frail old man almost over night.

He is now bed bound with only maybe 5/6 months left.

Living away from home is difficult but work is being super awesome about not being in the office, but the good will can only last so long.

The jubilee is fast approaching and the carers have requested that they only come in twice a day instead of four times a day with is making me very anxious.

I feel very lonely up here as I have not lived here for over 20 years and I don't know anyone anymore.

We are taking ot one day at a time.

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Hugs OP hope your feeling good soon I’m just in a bad place thinking I’m stuck at home unwanted and alone but will finally get out in August for the Manchester social"

Thank you x

That sounds really tough, loneliness is a horrible feeling. Sending love

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Thanks OP for posting today is a good day as I'm alive.

I am learning to accept wobbles are part of my life now.

Waking up and jumping out of bed allows me to stop the doom creeping in"

I think the acceptance is really important and it’s good that you have techniques that you’ve found work for you. I’m glad you’re ok x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Glad to hear of your improving wellbeing OP.

I've been doing a lot better than I have been these past several weeks.

My inbox is always open to lend a person an ear

Thank you! I’m glad you’re doing better too

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Strange week for me, pretty ok emotionally and in my head but physically having a massive struggle with fatigue. Have had a couple of medical letters and have hospital appointments now pending which is not ideal for my headspace but I’m ok about it.

Work was super busy but good fun thankfully.

A friend has moved in for a couple of weeks whilst her new place gets painted.

Also had a great night with friends on Saturday and even had some alcohol

Sending positive vibes to all who need them x "

What a busy week! Glad you’ve had some really positive points, I’m sorry to hear about the fatigue though, that sounds frustrating. Hoping your appointments go ok and give you some answers x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Got diagnosed on Friday with Adult Combined ADHD - explains A LOT for me haha"

Ohh! Interested to hear how you’re feeling about that, it sounds as though it makes sense and might feel like a bit of a relief? x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I'd don't suffer with mental health issues but my heart goes out to the folks that do.

Hope you all find yourself in a better place now things are getting back to normal.

Good luck.

That’s kind, thank you for the lovely thoughts x

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By *ungle VIP 1Man
over a year ago

colchester

Glad you are feeling ok and on the up, we all have good and bad days. Just have to solider on during the bad days and try to find something no matter how hard it seems to occupy your brain. Working out and eating healthier always helps but its hard. Social media and the doom and gloom news always gets me. But for the last few weeks have been in a good place. Thankyou for asking Op, its nice knowing there are good people out there. Talking is the way to go, so chin up smile and love yourself people xx

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Moved away from home to care for my dad who is in the late stages of cancer.

He was doing OK until about 2 months ago when the tumor spread to his spine and he lost the use of his legs. He has seemed to become this frail old man almost over night.

He is now bed bound with only maybe 5/6 months left.

Living away from home is difficult but work is being super awesome about not being in the office, but the good will can only last so long.

The jubilee is fast approaching and the carers have requested that they only come in twice a day instead of four times a day with is making me very anxious.

I feel very lonely up here as I have not lived here for over 20 years and I don't know anyone anymore.

We are taking ot one day at a time.

Goodness, what a difficult time for you on more than one level. I’m sorry to hear about your dad. I imagine the loneliness can compound the emotions around all of that.

I imagine if you’re uncomfortable with the idea of reduced carer visits then you’re within your rights to say that you’re sorry but you don’t think you can cope? Don’t be afraid to speak up if that’s what you need to do x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Glad you are feeling ok and on the up, we all have good and bad days. Just have to solider on during the bad days and try to find something no matter how hard it seems to occupy your brain. Working out and eating healthier always helps but its hard. Social media and the doom and gloom news always gets me. But for the last few weeks have been in a good place. Thankyou for asking Op, its nice knowing there are good people out there. Talking is the way to go, so chin up smile and love yourself people xx"

Thank you! Glad you’ve been in a better place more recently, that’s good news x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a lovely post to start the day. Sending positive thoughts to those of you struggling. I too have had a difficult time. Still get shit days but I try to focus and concentrate on the good things. I’ve got through horrible times but I’m still here and still grateful x

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"This is a lovely post to start the day. Sending positive thoughts to those of you struggling. I too have had a difficult time. Still get shit days but I try to focus and concentrate on the good things. I’ve got through horrible times but I’m still here and still grateful x"

Thank you

I’m glad things are better for you on the whole and that you’ve found things that help on your bad days x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Struggling this Monday.

Had a few setbacks, disappointments and my self esteem is down. Lots of issues to sort with family health issues and imminent decisions about care to be made. Busy time and work and little time for anything outside of that little lot. Take some comfort out of listening to other peoples issues, mainly to just have conversation.

A week for big boy pants, sucking it up and marching on

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Struggling this Monday.

A week for big boy pants, sucking it up and marching on

I’m sorry you’re struggling, that’s a lot to deal with. Hopefully you’ll be able to get some time to breathe soon x

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By *rostgiantMan
over a year ago

Chippenham

"Got diagnosed on Friday with Adult Combined ADHD - explains A LOT for me haha

Ohh! Interested to hear how you’re feeling about that, it sounds as though it makes sense and might feel like a bit of a relief? x"

Definitely relieved as I finally know the problem

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Got diagnosed on Friday with Adult Combined ADHD - explains A LOT for me haha

Ohh! Interested to hear how you’re feeling about that, it sounds as though it makes sense and might feel like a bit of a relief? x

Definitely relieved as I finally know the problem

Aww, I’m really pleased for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finally phoned for help on Saturday morning after years of saying im fine. Most embarrassing thing I've ever done but it's hopefully the start to feeling like me again

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Finally phoned for help on Saturday morning after years of saying im fine. Most embarrassing thing I've ever done but it's hopefully the start to feeling like me again "

Well done! I’m so pleased you managed to do that, it sounds like it wasn’t easy. Onwards and upwards

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Bumping up just in case anybody wants to check in x

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Thanks as always Lou for posting. Sending much respect and support from afar for everyone needing it.

Had a couple of wobbles on Sunday thinking about my late brother and didn't really feel the big match vibe on Saturday, an occasion I should have loved but didn't enjoy. Work was good today though and I have a good weekend to look forward to.

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By *tarflyLou OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Thanks as always Lou for posting. Sending much respect and support from afar for everyone needing it.

Aww, I’m sorry you had a difficult couple of days, glad things are looking up for you now though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So after the appointment with the doctor I feel like all ive done is waste there time. Was told its not mental health problems and I'm fine. Actual joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after the appointment with the doctor I feel like all ive done is waste there time. Was told its not mental health problems and I'm fine. Actual joke "

See if you can see a different Doctor...unfortunately not all of them are up to speed on Mental Health issues

Go on Google & look for groups like MIND etc...there is help out there..

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