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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes she's right! Good head on her shoulders! X

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Well nobody's perfect... If we don't love us, how is anyone else going to love us?

Took me many years to get to this point... The older you get, the less you care!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you’ve been blessed with a wonderful daughter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are what we are, aren’t we?

There are some things we can influence and change .. some things we can’t

If you’re not happy with the things you CAN change, set about changing them

If you’re not happy with those things you can’t change, don’t worry about it

And embrace what you have at any moment in time. You only live once so make the most of it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes she's right! Good head on her shoulders! X

She’s the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well nobody's perfect... If we don't love us, how is anyone else going to love us?

Took me many years to get to this point... The older you get, the less you care!

Truth

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you’ve been blessed with a wonderful daughter...

Hell yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to be comfortable with yourself or nothing will

Ever work out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are what we are, aren’t we?

There are some things we can influence and change .. some things we can’t

If you’re not happy with the things you CAN change, set about changing them

If you’re not happy with those things you can’t change, don’t worry about it

And embrace what you have at any moment in time. You only live once so make the most of it! "

We can change things, but we can embrace the imperfections anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to be comfortable with yourself or nothing will

Ever work out"

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Your daughter is a wise one, clearly she's got a fantastic mum.

Honestly, I have imperfections like everyone else. I know that.

I'm working on them, trying to better myself but in the meantime, who I am is actually kind of dateable/fuckable. I'm an okay sort of human bean.

I can't and won't spend years hating myself and telling myself I can't do anything until I'm x, y and z. Life is too short. Besides, it's more fun when you actually live it.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

I am perfectly imperfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sounds very wise, you should be trying to not put your negative thoughts on her though depending on her age of course. There may be a time when she needs you and might think she can't talk to you as it will make you feel even worse or perhaps worsen whatever it is your being negative about. Good luck with the new you though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't imagine ever being able to say or think that I'm amazing. I am trying positive affirmations though because I don't want to be that negative around my kids or for my own sake. I'm skeptical but worth a try!

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

My imperfections are part of my ambitions and motivations, at times they are the catalysts for my drive to want more of myself ... it's my way of embracing my imperfections. For me the most important thing is to find a perfect balance and not let those imperfections get the best of me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your daughter is a wise one, clearly she's got a fantastic mum.

Honestly, I have imperfections like everyone else. I know that.

I'm working on them, trying to better myself but in the meantime, who I am is actually kind of dateable/fuckable. I'm an okay sort of human bean.

I can't and won't spend years hating myself and telling myself I can't do anything until I'm x, y and z. Life is too short. Besides, it's more fun when you actually live it."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am perfectly imperfect"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She sounds very wise, you should be trying to not put your negative thoughts on her though depending on her age of course. There may be a time when she needs you and might think she can't talk to you as it will make you feel even worse or perhaps worsen whatever it is your being negative about. Good luck with the new you though.

She can talk to me about ANYTHING

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well nobody's perfect... If we don't love us, how is anyone else going to love us?

Took me many years to get to this point... The older you get, the less you care!

Same here, I'm only just realising not to worry about what i think are bad parts of myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can't imagine ever being able to say or think that I'm amazing. I am trying positive affirmations though because I don't want to be that negative around my kids or for my own sake. I'm skeptical but worth a try!"

Our children need to see us in all shades

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My imperfections are part of my ambitions and motivations, at times they are the catalysts for my drive to want more of myself ... it's my way of embracing my imperfections. For me the most important thing is to find a perfect balance and not let those imperfections get the best of me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our children need to see us in all shades "

Yes but I don't think it's healthy for them to always hear me criticising myself. Working on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one will ever be as cruel to us as we are to ourselves. It's easier said than done but we all need to be kinder to ourselves

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Our children need to see us in all shades

Yes but I don't think it's healthy for them to always hear me criticising myself. Working on that. "

Oh definitely not, but I think it’s ok to be normal and say sometimes we do that, and it’s ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one will ever be as cruel to us as we are to ourselves. It's easier said than done but we all need to be kinder to ourselves

Completely agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

Damn right!!

I'm amazing at fucking imperfectly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

Damn right!!

I'm amazing at fucking imperfectly

Fantastic

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Imperfections are what nake us entirely unique!

Who wants to be part of the herd, when you can be unique!?

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

What a lovely response from your daughter, proof of great parenting.

I’m lucky if I get ‘k’ response from mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's all very well, but if I embrace my imperfections, there's not much left!..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Imperfections are what nake us entirely unique!

Who wants to be part of the herd, when you can be unique!?"

Love this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What a lovely response from your daughter, proof of great parenting.

I’m lucky if I get ‘k’ response from mine

I’m blessed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but if I embrace my imperfections, there's not much left!..

There’s lots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your daughter sounds very wise, and very grounded. And she's right. Us 'grown ups' should embrace the sum total of who we are, good, bad and indifferent.

It's not worth our while to let our imperfections disturb us always.

Henry David Thoreau

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your daughter sounds very wise, and very grounded. And she's right. Us 'grown ups' should embrace the sum total of who we are, good, bad and indifferent.

It's not worth our while to let our imperfections disturb us always.

Henry David Thoreau

I embrace the craziness of my brain and the fullness of my heart

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I wish someone would embrace my imperfections

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

What a wise young lady! It’s so hard though, especially when the judgement initially came from somebody else and is deeply embedded in your sense of self x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wish someone would embrace my imperfections

I’m sure someone would

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

What a wise young lady! It’s so hard though, especially when the judgement initially came from somebody else and is deeply embedded in your sense of self x"

Yes !! Exactly

We’re all working progresses

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

What a wise young lady! It’s so hard though, especially when the judgement initially came from somebody else and is deeply embedded in your sense of self x

Yes !! Exactly

We’re all working progresses "

Just keep chipping away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway. "

Yes it certainly is tough to 'embrace imperfections' as your daughter put it. I've no idea how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not perfect probably never will be I just want to find someone who will think I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not perfect probably never will be I just want to find someone who will think I am.

There will be someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not perfect probably never will be I just want to find someone who will think I am.

There will be someone "

Ile just keep my fingers crossed

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

My thoughts Floro are that you educated and nurtured your daughter in the way that you saw corect and how you would like her to feel. However you still hold the negative attitude that you were probably raised by. That there is a 'perfect image' we should all aim for. Which is why you keep coming back to 'your imperfections'?

This is just a general thought about us all as adults really.

I know I do this very thing myself with my own children. Encouraging them to embrace their feelings even the negative ones.

But me.. I struggle to listen to my own encouragement!!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My thoughts Floro are that you educated and nurtured your daughter in the way that you saw corect and how you would like her to feel. However you still hold the negative attitude that you were probably raised by. That there is a 'perfect image' we should all aim for. Which is why you keep coming back to 'your imperfections'?

This is just a general thought about us all as adults really.

I know I do this very thing myself with my own children. Encouraging them to embrace their feelings even the negative ones.

But me.. I struggle to listen to my own encouragement!!

Jo.Xx "

I didn’t have any one tell me I had to be perfect when I was younger … I was more or less on my own, probably why I have those negative thoughts

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I don't know why anyone would be talking down about themselves with their children

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know why anyone would be talking down about themselves with their children "

You do now

Kind regards

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

"I don't know why anyone would be talking down about themselves with their children "

Sometimes it's useful to point out your own faults to your children in the hope that maybe they can avoid them, if they're actions; or mitigate them if they are genetic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know why anyone would be talking down about themselves with their children

Sometimes it's useful to point out your own faults to your children in the hope that maybe they can avoid them, if they're actions; or mitigate them if they are genetic.

I actually show her that’s it’s perfectly normal to have those feelings and to never keep them to herself.

I think it’s worked - she’s pretty fabulous

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think the word 'imperfect' should be used in connection with human beings. It implies that perfection in a human exists ...it doesn't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think the word 'imperfect' should be used in connection with human beings. It implies that perfection in a human exists ...it doesn't"

I like the thinking around that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imperfections

My daughter is just the most fabulous human being. I’m saying things like ‘I can’t date’ etc etc and then she says ….. embrace your imperfections mum, they make you even more wonderful.

It’s hard though - right?

She’s right - we look and criticise ourselves way too much, when we should be saying ‘hell yes, I’m imperfect, but I’m fucking amazing anyway.

Love yourself daily!

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

I'd love to embrace your imperfections Floro xx

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Be true to yourself....it's all you got....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks lovelies

It’s been interesting

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