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By *olacola OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

I have seen a few profiles saying things like ‘if I don’t reply don’t abuse me’ does that really happen? If so it’s awful! Can people be reported?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes it does.

Yes they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it does.

Yes they can."

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its the internet. Abuse is par for the course isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it does.

Yes they can."

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By *olacola OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

That’s bonkers!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use. "

I’ve got a tool you can use…

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I’ve got a tool you can use… "

Oh have you now

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use. "

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few abusive messages. It's rare now though, probably because I don't engage with many now.

One in particular, we were getting alone quite well I thought, then when I didn't reply for a few days he sent me an abusive message calling me the C word amongst other things.

The mind boggles.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun."

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They called you a "Tasmanian"?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun."

Oh god yeah. I’d even go as far as to say 60 to 70% are abusive or vile. Luckily you can usually tell by the first line in which case I don’t even open it. Just delete and block unread.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

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They called you a "Tasmanian"? "

Lol no, although I don't appreciate that either. I'm not inbred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read them, I don't acknowledge them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

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They called you a "Tasmanian"? "

Oi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

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They called you a "Tasmanian"?

Lol no, although I don't appreciate that either. I'm not inbred "

Yeesh. Harsh!

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Manners and politeness cost nothing..although it seems to be a dying art.

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

People hardly ever hear the word no these days, they're either catered for, made room for or treated as a special case, the inclusive gen. They come here get rejected and the dummies start flying. Rejection is part of life, some of us know this.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes it does happen,that's why if I reply with a no thanks I now block too .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

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They called you a "Tasmanian"?

Lol no, although I don't appreciate that either. I'm not inbred

Yeesh. Harsh!"

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

Oh god yeah. I’d even go as far as to say 60 to 70% are abusive or vile. Luckily you can usually tell by the first line in which case I don’t even open it. Just delete and block unread. "

This they’re too dumb to even mask the abuse by ensuring it doesn’t start till the second sentence.

I don’t get them often, but when I do I can often tell without reading all of the message.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I've occasionally had abusive messages as the first message. That's fun.

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They called you a "Tasmanian"?

Oi "

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Soz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People hardly ever hear the word no these days, they're either catered for, made room for or treated as a special case, the inclusive gen. They come here get rejected and the dummies start flying. Rejection is part of life, some of us know this."

I totally disagree with this, I think the men that turn abusive when you say no are probably turned down alot, and so now instantly go to the "what you think you're better than me you cunt" mindset, they think that all women are stuck up their own arses, they're the kind of men who subscribe to "it's only sexual harassment if hes not ripped/rich/good looking" ideology

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

Ah yeaahh the good old abusive message. And theyre on the forums a week later wondering what theyre doing wrong

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"They don’t get a chance to abuse me. If I’m not interested I delete and block. If people are affected by these abusive messages I really don’t know why they don’t do this. It’s not being rude it’s just a tool to use.

I’ve got a tool you can use… "

Are you the Todd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have seen a few profiles saying things like ‘if I don’t reply don’t abuse me’ does that really happen? If so it’s awful! Can people be reported?"
sadly it does !

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Nah they’re all lying

They love it really

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I’d say around 70% of polite “no thanks” replies get an abusive or nasty response.

90% of the time I reply and block so they don’t get the chance any more. Every now and again I let it go just to see how creative the abuse is.

Then if I’m in a particularly facetious mood I’ll give them a score out of 10 for the insult. there hasn’t been any worth more than 3/10 for a very long time - they always go for the obvious ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. A lot! I even nicely explained to someone once that it wasnt that they done anything wrong i just didnt want to talk... he then tried to get me in a conversation so when i repeated i didnt want to talk i then got abuse for being online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens...

I had 4 in the space of a week abusing me over my weight because I'd dare to say no. One even sent me abusive messages here, on a dating site and left an abusive veri. I've had quite a few others too...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes happens especially if people don't get what they want x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It certainly does and it happens more then you think.

I've had messages telling me 'I should kill myself as I'm a big/fat bloke'.

Why would anyone want to look at me is another.

Oh an another one was why do I bother on here, nobody's going to message you.

This is just some of the abuse I receive for putting pics up.

The best one I get, when someone replies to my messages is.... Really, get real why would someone like me even look at you.

Is a bloody good job I'm thick skinned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just asked her ladyship if she gets them on her account as its not something she talks about. Apparently it's very rare. The other day she had "there's better out there" as a response to a no thanks but that's the worst she's had in several years. She will block without reply to some so maybe she's just very good at spotting which ones to politely decline and which to block?

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admittedly its rare I get abused on here. I either let people down gently and respectfully or just delete their message without replying if not interested. I think those approaches limit any bad replies.

Anyone that looks unhinged, has any red flags in their profile or messages or gives me bad vibes I block very early on before they get chance to send any abuse x

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I have seen a few profiles saying things like ‘if I don’t reply don’t abuse me’ does that really happen? If so it’s awful! Can people be reported?"

Abuse is pretty common.

I use block, delete, report as liberally as I need to.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It certainly does and it happens more then you think.

I've had messages telling me 'I should kill myself as I'm a big/fat bloke'.

Why would anyone want to look at me is another.

Oh an another one was why do I bother on here, nobody's going to message you.

This is just some of the abuse I receive for putting pics up.

The best one I get, when someone replies to my messages is.... Really, get real why would someone like me even look at you.

Is a bloody good job I'm thick skinned. "

Omg. That’s so awful. This makes me so angry and sad at the same time! Why are people like this . And just randomly too I assume! You really do need a thick skin on here. I hope you realise they are scum of the earth sad bastards who probably spend all their life on line doing this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People hardly ever hear the word no these days, they're either catered for, made room for or treated as a special case, the inclusive gen. They come here get rejected and the dummies start flying. Rejection is part of life, some of us know this.

I totally disagree with this, I think the men that turn abusive when you say no are probably turned down alot, and so now instantly go to the "what you think you're better than me you cunt" mindset, they think that all women are stuck up their own arses, they're the kind of men who subscribe to "it's only sexual harassment if hes not ripped/rich/good looking" ideology "

Tbf, I'm in a happy, loving relationship and I subscribe to that ideology because her ladyship has admitted that the level of attraction she feels to a man affects whether she sees his behaviour as creepy or acceptable.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had abuse from guys when I have answered there first message but didn't answer there subsequent message fast enough. Some guys don't realise that you are trying to go through all your message and they are not the only one that you might message, most to say polite no. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People hardly ever hear the word no these days, they're either catered for, made room for or treated as a special case, the inclusive gen. They come here get rejected and the dummies start flying. Rejection is part of life, some of us know this.

I totally disagree with this, I think the men that turn abusive when you say no are probably turned down alot, and so now instantly go to the "what you think you're better than me you cunt" mindset, they think that all women are stuck up their own arses, they're the kind of men who subscribe to "it's only sexual harassment if hes not ripped/rich/good looking" ideology

Tbf, I'm in a happy, loving relationship and I subscribe to that ideology because her ladyship has admitted that the level of attraction she feels to a man affects whether she sees his behaviour as creepy or acceptable.

Mr"

The difference is consent, if someone at work flirts with you and you flirt back that's consensual flirting, if they flirt with and they don't flirt back but they continue to flirt with you that's creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People hardly ever hear the word no these days, they're either catered for, made room for or treated as a special case, the inclusive gen. They come here get rejected and the dummies start flying. Rejection is part of life, some of us know this.

I totally disagree with this, I think the men that turn abusive when you say no are probably turned down alot, and so now instantly go to the "what you think you're better than me you cunt" mindset, they think that all women are stuck up their own arses, they're the kind of men who subscribe to "it's only sexual harassment if hes not ripped/rich/good looking" ideology

Tbf, I'm in a happy, loving relationship and I subscribe to that ideology because her ladyship has admitted that the level of attraction she feels to a man affects whether she sees his behaviour as creepy or acceptable.

Mr

The difference is consent, if someone at work flirts with you and you flirt back that's consensual flirting, if they flirt with and they don't flirt back but they continue to flirt with you that's creepy"

Is that consent explicit? What if they misread your reaction as flirting? What if you don't consent to bring flirted with in the first place?

Mr

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