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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? Usually i just ignore or ignore and block, but when I politely decline, i always seem to get the hangry gehay bitchyness and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some turned on men don't like being turned down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some turned on men don't like being turned down."

It's free though, i thought everybody liked complimentary stuff

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I would prefer to be told thanx but ...... so I can sort things out change things if needed I would reply with a thanx for the advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t mind be turned down

Or even told

To fuck off lol

In life we all get what

We deserve and to be honest

Females of fab been quite kind

So far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually politely decline but now we never give reasons.

Our reasons are usually rejected, often badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to reply where I can. I’ve only ever had one or two guys then respond badly, but that’s what block and report is for. Most have been pretty polite and reasonable about it x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No they are either polite back or they say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing ..I always say thanks for the reply ..I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Denting someone's ego can make them lash out in various ways. Rejection is taken as a personal attack as all our insecurites get brought to the forefront and people see it as confirmation they aren't good enough. Sometimes you are just the punch bag of the straw that broke the camals back.. just walk away and don't engage in conflict.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Being bi I can honestly say women are worse when they get turned down

I’ve had some truly awful responses after a no thanks to women. Never had it with guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? Usually i just ignore or ignore and block, but when I politely decline, i always seem to get the hangry gehay bitchyness and block. "

Same goes for women, ive experienced many women getting the hump & firing abuse at me for declining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? Usually i just ignore or ignore and block, but when I politely decline, i always seem to get the hangry gehay bitchyness and block.

Same goes for women, ive experienced many women getting the hump & firing abuse at me for declining. "

I apologised!!! Sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply with a thank you and have a lovely day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Hey beautiful, love the profile and the sexy pics, was just wondering if you’d like to meet?”

“Hey there, thanks for your message, ah that’s very kind but I’m not looking to meet right now, but have a wonderful weekend.”

“Ah you stupid fat ugly bitch, I never wanted to meet you anyway you fucking whore.”

Why?! Just why?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? Usually i just ignore or ignore and block, but when I politely decline, i always seem to get the hangry gehay bitchyness and block.

Same goes for women, ive experienced many women getting the hump & firing abuse at me for declining.

I apologised!!! Sheesh "

YOU

BROKE

MY

HEART

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never had a nasty return off a guy after I say no.

I’m sure woman and other men may find a different experience, just because of all the other variables.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst I had was a couple

They asked for a face pic

I sent it and asked for one in return. They refused to send one.

They kept pushing for the meet but I said no as I wouldn't meet without the pic first.

They got abusive and stated calling me a time waster and other not so nice things

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

We respond to well written messages with a polite no thanks as we think effort should at least get that, crap messages just get blocked & deleted - this approach never gets shitty replies.

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By *ngel696969Woman
over a year ago

Farnworth

It does appear that some guys seem to think they've some sort of entitlement because of the site. Some are totally astounded when they're turned down for whatever reason even if they're 200 miles away and states they cannot travel on their profile

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By *hellebelleWoman
over a year ago

ashford


"“Hey beautiful, love the profile and the sexy pics, was just wondering if you’d like to meet?”

“Hey there, thanks for your message, ah that’s very kind but I’m not looking to meet right now, but have a wonderful weekend.”

“Ah you stupid fat ugly bitch, I never wanted to meet you anyway you fucking whore.”

Why?! Just why?! "

Have you got access to my

Block lists inbox?!

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Don’t mind be turned down

Or even told

To fuck off lol

In life we all get what

We deserve and to be honest

Females of fab been quite kind

So far "

I love the fact you wrote this in poetry form!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

People get turned down on here?

Since when?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi gorgeous, how're you? Love your pics"

"Thank you but not interested. Happy fabbing."

"Stupid cow, I didn't even ask you. Wouldn't want you anyway."

This is quite common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to be told thanx but ...... so I can sort things out change things if needed I would reply with a thanx for the advise"

I hate it when ask "but why not...?"

They can't change their height, face, arse, width, marital status, cock size, sexuality.....

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I appreciate being politely turned down!

It's actually a compliment, when someone has the Patience to read the message you sent, look at your profile, consider(however briefly) your compatability and then take the time to write back to you.

Why on earth would you be rude to someone like that!

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"I would prefer to be told thanx but ...... so I can sort things out change things if needed I would reply with a thanx for the advise

I hate it when ask "but why not...?"

They can't change their height, face, arse, width, marital status, cock size, sexuality....."

As well, no one is OWED that. (No one is owed anything, actually.)

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Being bi I can honestly say women are worse when they get turned down

I’ve had some truly awful responses after a no thanks to women. Never had it with guys "

This I have experienced especially from couples but yeah some female profiles all of a sudden go full on homophobic/trans rant

I am like shall I pass you some more salt dear for those tears

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? Usually i just ignore or ignore and block, but when I politely decline, i always seem to get the hangry gehay bitchyness and block. "

Rules of site specify no answer means no. So by ignoring you, or blocking you they are giving you an answer.

As for the hangry or bitchyness, the amount of abuse women get on here, well it’s not nice shouldn’t happen to both sides, but it does. Thicker skin should help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t know… never happened….

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's very rare, I only had a couple of really nasty ones since I've been on here.

Some ask why, I don't respond to that.

If someone told me no, I'd just block and move on.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I would prefer to be told thanx but ...... so I can sort things out change things if needed I would reply with a thanx for the advise

I hate it when ask "but why not...?"

They can't change their height, face, arse, width, marital status, cock size, sexuality....."

Height - heels/platforms

Fave - mask

Arse - pads

Width - spanx/girdle

Maritsl status - plaster over the ring/ring mark

Cock size - strap on/sheathe

Sexuality - lie

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Some turned on men don't like being turned down."

This

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

As a direct answer to the question, no, I don't think it encourages them to be rude, they were probably rude before you turned them down

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By *oah VailMan
over a year ago

Dover


"As a direct answer to the question, no, I don't think it encourages them to be rude, they were probably rude before you turned them down "

This ^^^

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast


"If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? "

No,it doesn't encourage some to be rude

Some just are rude.

Rude. Self entitled.

Arrogant. Presumptuous.

Any number of adverse adjectives,I just find their attitude laughable.

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York


"If you politely turn someone down, do you think it encourages them to be rude? Usually i just ignore or ignore and block, but when I politely decline, i always seem to get the hangry gehay bitchyness and block. "

Surely just reaffirms your decision to turn them down?

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