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By *icole 123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire

What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened to me once, I completely back away and blocked him.... it was Mr NBVN!

I am so relieved that I eventually talked it through with him and realised that he felt exactly the same.

NBVN x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

It's happened yes ..

We agreed to be good friends and hope we always will .

I guess it depends if you can sort it out in your head or not ..

Live and learn

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Personally I back off - this is something I’ve experienced on here - I’m not going to risk getting hurt and it’s unlikely that someone on here would be on the same page in wanting more than fun. To keep meeting just makes things harder moving forward

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I give my head a wobble and carry on regardless.

If you're single and so is he, cant see a problem unless he doesnt feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nuke them from Orbit. It's the only way to be sure.

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

I caught feelings for someone on here and she wisely backed away. I think she had feelings too but there was never going to be a relationship in any meaningful way

She made the right choice for me and my wife and for herself

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I like feelings .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me? I’d tell them. I’m to old and found keeping my feeling locked up hurts me.

Or I’d Join the peace core and move away. I might flip a coin of it ever comes up.

Chances of meeting anyone on fab on a regular basis is looking slim? And the fact I don’t see women in the real world, I’m safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?"

I did with one guy i met, straight away on the first meet which was a social, i had strong feelings, in fact i loved him. I didn't think he would care about me, however he did and we are still together 15 years later and still swinging

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

A guy I met from here a few times, caught feelings. When I said we could not be anything more, he threatened to beat me up. He threatened my job, threatened to stab my 11 year old son on his way back from school. Threatened to set my house on fire in the middle of the night and to run me over if he saw me. Police involved. I am extremely cautious now, obviously.

I had NO clue he could be like that, nothing we said or did indicated that he was an utter psycho. It was very scary.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"A guy I met from here a few times, caught feelings. When I said we could not be anything more, he threatened to beat me up. He threatened my job, threatened to stab my 11 year old son on his way back from school. Threatened to set my house on fire in the middle of the night and to run me over if he saw me. Police involved. I am extremely cautious now, obviously.

I had NO clue he could be like that, nothing we said or did indicated that he was an utter psycho. It was very scary. "

Christ!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have not been afflicted by this.

I've made some great friends but no actual love interests.

In the early days I thought I did once or twice, but it was a newbie phase

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

There's no right or wrong answer to this

If your definitely not looking to get involved with that person then id make my excuses and not meet them anymore

If you interested in taking things further bite the bullet and talk to him, he may be feeling the same abd be happy to become a FAB couple (you can still keep solo profiles if that works for you both)

& there's always the block option but if you've become friends that feels a little unfair

Personally for me I won't meet anyone regularly as my fear would be catching feelings & that's just something I'm absolutely not interested in

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By *icole 123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?

I did with one guy i met, straight away on the first meet which was a social, i had strong feelings, in fact i loved him. I didn't think he would care about me, however he did and we are still together 15 years later and still swinging "

That’s amazing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,(D), sat back thinking nothing would come of anything as M was with someone else and I was just a fortunate bystander/participant. Cue several months along the line, several d*unken outpourings and we are now a couple in and out of fabs and couldn't be happier. It definitely DOES happen.

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By *icole 123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire


"A guy I met from here a few times, caught feelings. When I said we could not be anything more, he threatened to beat me up. He threatened my job, threatened to stab my 11 year old son on his way back from school. Threatened to set my house on fire in the middle of the night and to run me over if he saw me. Police involved. I am extremely cautious now, obviously.

I had NO clue he could be like that, nothing we said or did indicated that he was an utter psycho. It was very scary. "

Omg,did the police do anything,jesus,what an absolute psycho,glad you’re ok x

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"A guy I met from here a few times, caught feelings. When I said we could not be anything more, he threatened to beat me up. He threatened my job, threatened to stab my 11 year old son on his way back from school. Threatened to set my house on fire in the middle of the night and to run me over if he saw me. Police involved. I am extremely cautious now, obviously.

I had NO clue he could be like that, nothing we said or did indicated that he was an utter psycho. It was very scary.

Omg,did the police do anything,jesus,what an absolute psycho,glad you’re ok x"

Yes, he is going to court.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Yes, he is going to court. "

Good.

Mine isn't as bad as that, the threats to me and my family were violent but he was a pathetic creep.

Police still in the loop though.

Always report these bastards, or crazy women too.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

So in summation it could end really really well or really really badly it would seem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings make life worth living. Communication is important i think. I’d rather risk heartbreak than missing out on happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always" express one's feelings and if rejected then that's okay. If they are accepted then that's a bonus. If they lose interest then it is better for the individual to not get hung up on something that will not happen. Hiding them and getting hung up on them leads more often to problems than the other way.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Dont say anything keep on meeting as only gets better the more you meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation, being single sometimes shots are worth taking. If you're married, those people need to back off before it enters dangerous territory. Before you say anything though, be sure your not mixing lust with actual feelings. A person could be everything your looking for or nothing worth staying for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings are ok with me. The more feelings the better.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd probably stop meeting ,as I'm already in a relationship.

It only happened once on all my fab time and we've been together over 6 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're both unattached then Id tell them. Best of luck whatever you do OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the situation, being single sometimes shots are worth taking. If you're married, those people need to back off before it enters dangerous territory. Before you say anything though, be sure your not mixing lust with actual feelings. A person could be everything your looking for or nothing worth staying for."

Wise words.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"…..Before you say anything though, be sure your not mixing lust with actual feelings. A person could be everything your looking for or nothing worth staying for."

How old are you? Wise old owl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Caught them once on a first meet - mind blown. Running was my instinct as I didnt want any relationship.

He is much younger and on paper would be no match but we are just really mad about each other, its something special and we both knew it. So he is my beau and lover still a year later We were both single sure why not.

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By *ava-voomCouple
over a year ago

Craigavon

Mrs here.

It's what happened to us,

Met in a vanilla dating site for casual fun, he introduced me to FAB. LOVED IT

Understanding the "casual thing" a little better then, we kept going with meeting each other, until suddenly we were meeting more often, or not just fucking each others brains out when we were together.

A fab friend called us out on it, and we finally talked and realised we'd cought feels. And here we are!

Best thing to ever happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if he is single and available firstly.are you getting same kind of vibes back? If both answers are yes,then life is to short nit to tell him. If he doesn't feel the same well then you know rather than going on fir months wondering x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Friend feelings fine.

More feelings I'd cut and run.

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough."

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone. "

This! And if you don’t want those things with someone, having feelings for someone doesn’t have to be scary in my opinion.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone.

This! And if you don’t want those things with someone, having feelings for someone doesn’t have to be scary in my opinion. "

Exactly. People seem so scared of feelings. If you know what you want in life it’s really not scary at all.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I just enjoy my time with that person more than others I meet. Usually it's just a infatuation, and I know that will probably go with time or I'll lose interest, find new feelings for someone else... This is what I'm telling myself anyway lol

Really does depend on the situation, and if you're both open to it developing, it's very often one sided.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I had that … one of my FWBs told me he’d fallen in love with me. I admitted the same but things got increasingly messy… and ultimately we lost the benefits and the friendship.

I’m not going to deny that I have the feels for my current FWB, but I am not making the mistake of admitting it again as I want him around for a long time… and it is a different kind of feeling. He is amazing and I’d do anthing for him (within reason haha) but it’s not the all dramatic “Romeo and Juliet” kind of scenario I had a couple of years ago. It is happy feelings. Very happy feels.

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone.

This! And if you don’t want those things with someone, having feelings for someone doesn’t have to be scary in my opinion.

Exactly. People seem so scared of feelings. If you know what you want in life it’s really not scary at all. "

Hmmmm! Definitely food for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone.

This! And if you don’t want those things with someone, having feelings for someone doesn’t have to be scary in my opinion. "

Its cool to say 'lets enjoy this time together, have an adventure and not be planning to marry or be together forever

Quite freeing actually!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Feelings aren't a disease.

I think the avoidance of them makes people sound very cold and detached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?"

I wouldn’t sleep with anyone I didn’t have feelings for.

Why would anyone?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone.

This! And if you don’t want those things with someone, having feelings for someone doesn’t have to be scary in my opinion.

Its cool to say 'lets enjoy this time together, have an adventure and not be planning to marry or be together forever

Quite freeing actually! "

Definitely. To me that's the perfect situation. Everyone always knows that’s all it will be. It’s important to be honest about that I think x

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Catching feelings is like Catching fire ...you get burnt

No No No !

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I met a guy in a club 3 years ago. From the moment I saw him I was drawn to him. We played all night. The connection was unreal. I’d never felt this before. I felt so strongly for him and kinda felt he was feeling the same. Was really intense.

Luckily for me it wasn’t one sided and he’s still all mine to this day.

Life’s to short for regrets. Go with it and see what happens.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?"
if I develop feelings I walk away. There is no place in my life for a relationship x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?

I did with one guy i met, straight away on the first meet which was a social, i had strong feelings, in fact i loved him. I didn't think he would care about me, however he did and we are still together 15 years later and still swinging

That’s amazing x"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings inevitably lead to heartache.

I'd cut and run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends upon what you're here for and your boundaries. Personally I walk away and have done so, I'm not seeking a relationship of any kind. I get how it can happen without you realising especially with great, great sex to the point where you can't enough of that person, it can be very, very tough.

I’m not seeking a relationship either. Never ever ever! You can still have feelings without wanting to marry/live with/spend the rest of your life with someone.

This! And if you don’t want those things with someone, having feelings for someone doesn’t have to be scary in my opinion.

Its cool to say 'lets enjoy this time together, have an adventure and not be planning to marry or be together forever

Quite freeing actually! "

Oh yes! And when you’re honest about that, it’s a really beautiful adventure. And you love it for what is is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?

I did with one guy i met, straight away on the first meet which was a social, i had strong feelings, in fact i loved him. I didn't think he would care about me, however he did and we are still together 15 years later and still swinging

That’s amazing x

Thank you "

Neither of us were looking for anything other than NSA fun but it just hit us

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It can make the sex better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I met TG for the first time I know there was something very special about her. Something I was never looking for but I knew that I owed it to myself to see where it took us. Luckily she felt the same way

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?"

Well.

Everyone's different and it will depend entirely on the two people involved and whether either or both is looking for something more than casual.

If just one is then it's going to be tricky and may well end in disappointment and stopping all contact. If both are actually keen it can work out no differently to how any normal vanilla relationship commences.

From personal experience on here? I ended up marrying her, so I'm probably not the best person to ask.....

A

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I want all the feels.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I want all the feels. "

Feel these

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I want all the feels.

Feel these "

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I think you must be a bit dead inside if you don't allow yourself to catch feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings do make the sex better.

It's addictive.

You meet someone that makes your heart skip a beat, their messages make you smile like a complete idiot. You wake up, you think of them. You go to sleep, you think of them.

Kissing them, feeling their body on yours, staring in their eyes you just forget everything else. It's just you and them.

But then, you have to figure out a way of not having them in your life. That part sucks.

So yeah, if you catch feelings, I'd run like hell.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I want all the feels.

Feel these

"

I do miss you!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I want all the feels.

Feel these

I do miss you! "

Cheating on me again wifey?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It entirely depends on the situation of the two people involved.

If you’re both free and single, then talk about it and work out a way forwards if at all possible.

Feelings and emotions aren’t dirty words, it’s not something to be ashamed of.

It’s only if one or both are attached or unable to take things further that it becomes messy or difficult.

As Playfully Dark said; I think it’s better to risk heartbreak than potentially lose happiness

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I want all the feels.

Feel these

I do miss you! "

Real life getting in the way a wee bit. X

I miss you too lovely.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I want all the feels.

Feel these

I do miss you!

Cheating on me again wifey? "

Busted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel way too easily...

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"When I met TG for the first time I know there was something very special about her. Something I was never looking for but I knew that I owed it to myself to see where it took us. Luckily she felt the same way "

Was it instantaneous?

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I did and I walked away... breaking my own heart as I wasn't ready to deal with it as it wasn't what I was looking for at the time but it came out of no where

Sadly he no longer speaks to me

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I want all the feels.

Feel these

I do miss you!

Cheating on me again wifey?

Busted! "

Uh oh lovers tiff

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I like feelings. Embrace them in whatever form they take and for however long a dynamic lasts. Doesn't mean I'll be boiling a bunny but equally I won't run away screaming. As long as you're all comfortable with them/they aren't being used for manipulation, they are amazing things*.

*stay tuned for more dreary endings to forum posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I met TG for the first time I know there was something very special about her. Something I was never looking for but I knew that I owed it to myself to see where it took us. Luckily she felt the same way

Was it instantaneous?

"

Good question. You know when you leave first that first time and just want to turn around and go back? Well it was like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embrace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once upon a time i was happy

Now i wont allow anyone to love me and i refuse to love anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I back off - this is something I’ve experienced on here - I’m not going to risk getting hurt and it’s unlikely that someone on here would be on the same page in wanting more than fun. To keep meeting just makes things harder moving forward

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It happens more than you think, I can think of people who met on here who in committed long term relationships with each other.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?"

As I'm part of a couple, I would back off and find alternative playmates.

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By *atfuckerbristolMan
over a year ago

Wells

Reader, I married her to paraphrase Jane Austen

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

It's a difficult one really. I have strong feels for my current fwb but have never told him as I don't deal well with rejection and the sex is too good to give up

Thing is, my face can say a thousand words without me having to. So the last time we saw each other he told me how he had to tell his other sub not to catch any feelings for him as that's not what he's after. Pretty sure that was directed at me.

Still not willing to give up the mind blowing sex and great conversation so I stay quiet and behave myself. All I can do until I find the courage to end it and move on

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd cool things, thayt were entered into on a no strings basis, unless he said something first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?"
it's complicated, because if you made it clear that you were just meeting to hook up then telling the other person you might be getting feelings might make things weird, but then again if you think both of you are in the same boat shoot your shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do if you discover you have developed “feelings “for someone that you’ve had a few meets with from fab,do you back off and make excuses,or do you still meet but don’t say anything to them?

What’s everyone’s thoughts on this?

As I'm part of a couple, I would back off and find alternative playmates. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread gives me all the feels!!

It does blindside you, doesn’t it?! Absolutely addictive. Thrilling. Surprising. Sex on fire.

Ended it about 5 times and I’d still go back for more, now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet anyone more than twice. Not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread gives me all the feels!!

It does blindside you, doesn’t it?! Absolutely addictive. Thrilling. Surprising. Sex on fire.

Ended it about 5 times and I’d still go back for more, now! "
maybe catching feeling makes it that more exciting, knowing feelings were not planned

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"So in summation it could end really really well or really really badly it would seem."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread gives me all the feels!!

It does blindside you, doesn’t it?! Absolutely addictive. Thrilling. Surprising. Sex on fire.

Ended it about 5 times and I’d still go back for more, now! maybe catching feeling makes it that more exciting, knowing feelings were not planned "

I’ve met many people from fab over the last year, most lovely and all good fun. But only one meet, I knew on the first meet it was different!

Like someone above said, you don’t have to want marriage, babies or to live with someone, to catch feelings. I now truly believe the saying, it happens when you least expect it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it with a meet I had with a MF couple I met in a bar in Brighton pre Fab

Ended up at theirs and it was one of those where it all just clicked and was pretty intense

Met a few times over that month but none of us could stop thinking of the other to the point where we discussed it and as they were married they felt it could harm that so we went our separate ways

God, that sounds like some weird 18+ film hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread gives me all the feels!!

It does blindside you, doesn’t it?! Absolutely addictive. Thrilling. Surprising. Sex on fire.

Ended it about 5 times and I’d still go back for more, now! maybe catching feeling makes it that more exciting, knowing feelings were not planned

I’ve met many people from fab over the last year, most lovely and all good fun. But only one meet, I knew on the first meet it was different!

Like someone above said, you don’t have to want marriage, babies or to live with someone, to catch feelings. I now truly believe the saying, it happens when you least expect it!!"
that's true, it's when you don't expect it, it happens and takes you by surprise. I guess that's love ish

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

To have feelings is a perfectly normal thing in every way. Its how you deal with them. If i was ever in the situation where i developed feelings them, if i wasnt able to even talk with them about it and discuss it tells me all i need to know. Even if i knew it would mean maybe not seeing them again.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It happened to me, fell head over heals, feeling was mutual so we made the decision to go exclusive.

Sadly it didn't end well, we haven't spoken for over a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happened to me, fell head over heals, feeling was mutual so we made the decision to go exclusive.

Sadly it didn't end well, we haven't spoken for over a year"

Sorry it didn't work out.

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By *ongandthickMan
over a year ago

exmouth

I think it's a good thing if you both feel the same way.I did years ago & it made the sex that much better.Nothing came of it as she was married but still swap texts at christmas.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've been on the other side of that conversation more often, but it's normally that the guy wants monogamy and starts getting jealous and playing possessive games. That's when we end up breaking up, sometimes with grace, sometimes not.

As long as you can own they are your feelings and don't put an obligation onto the other person, I don't think having feelings is the worst thing in the world!

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By *ongandthickMan
over a year ago

exmouth

Very true it's the green eyed monster that can spoil things for all .

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"It's a difficult one really. I have strong feels for my current fwb but have never told him as I don't deal well with rejection and the sex is too good to give up

Thing is, my face can say a thousand words without me having to. So the last time we saw each other he told me how he had to tell his other sub not to catch any feelings for him as that's not what he's after. Pretty sure that was directed at me.

Still not willing to give up the mind blowing sex and great conversation so I stay quiet and behave myself. All I can do until I find the courage to end it and move on"

What kind of man tells someone that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy on here on an old account, we saw each other on and off for a few years. He always felt more for me than I did for him. It could never have gone anywhere though and I ended what we had at the end of last year. We still text occasionally.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough


"It's a difficult one really. I have strong feels for my current fwb but have never told him as I don't deal well with rejection and the sex is too good to give up

Thing is, my face can say a thousand words without me having to. So the last time we saw each other he told me how he had to tell his other sub not to catch any feelings for him as that's not what he's after. Pretty sure that was directed at me.

Still not willing to give up the mind blowing sex and great conversation so I stay quiet and behave myself. All I can do until I find the courage to end it and move on

What kind of man tells someone that "

I think I preferred it to a full out rejection. I know where I stand, if it gets too much then I will have to end it

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters


"A guy I met from here a few times, caught feelings. When I said we could not be anything more, he threatened to beat me up. He threatened my job, threatened to stab my 11 year old son on his way back from school. Threatened to set my house on fire in the middle of the night and to run me over if he saw me. Police involved. I am extremely cautious now, obviously.

I had NO clue he could be like that, nothing we said or did indicated that he was an utter psycho. It was very scary. "

Wow that is nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m getting old - but when did develop feelings become “caught feelings”? Seems like a strange term. Is it some Tick Tock slang?

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

It’s happened to me twice and the second time I learned from the first time and now in a loving relationship with my partner and we have a profile on here together. As we swing together as well

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By *icole 123 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Baildon,West Yorkshire


"I think you must be a bit dead inside if you don't allow yourself to catch feelings"

I’m certainly not dead inside,far from it,but I think you get my drift…as in you want more than just sex,we have a fantastic chemistry,but I’m not sure he feels the same way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you must be a bit dead inside if you don't allow yourself to catch feelings"

In some context emotions can be a weakness. The ability to control them and the discipline to manage reaction to them is part of maturity and being evolved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think having some feelings is important, but recently I found myself catching more feelings than I was comfortable with for a FB. I was open about it with him but also backed right off and didn’t see him for a while so I could reset myself. I think it depends on the situation and relationship as to whether I’d be so open in the future though.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I don't think its as black and white as avoiding feelings... as my close friends know I'm very caring and affectionate in the right situations but I have no time or place for "love" as in relationship love. I have a complicated life and my recent dabble in being in a relationship made me realise all reasons I prefer to be single..

Also I am in love with someone and have been for best part of 25 years.... and always will be.

So I walk away if I get even a hint of wanting more from a swinging friend ( not that it's happened in the last decade) I would walk away as I can't go there anyway.

I'd never subject my disabled daughter to someone else in her home and to be honest I've got way to selfish to live with someone again.

I've got friends that I'm close enough when I want to do the things couples do... but to be honest.. I am also very happy doing things by myself. Even sharing my bed is a rarity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me a mental and intellectual connection makes the whole physical connection so much more easier and intense. If the parties involved can communicate then the issue of “feels” should be an easy one to navigate regardless of the final outcome. That’s all IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually stick with one offs. But with repeats I just walk away. I'm already in a relationship, I'm not looking for another xx

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

This is fascinating conversation for me.

I had feelings for someone I met here once, I believe he felt the same. We never talked about it but we both felt like home to each other at the time. We both gave each other something we were missing in our lives at that time. It wasn’t just amazing sex and scintillating socials but a true soul connection.

I still love him today even though life took different directions for him, he helped free me from something that was toxic and reminded me I didn’t need to be anything but myself. He loved me unconditionally just as I was. I miss that feeling a lot but I’m am so grateful I had that short time with him.

That experience helped me learn how to handle, trust and analyse my feelings now but I probably still need to practice communicating them more.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I think you must be a bit dead inside if you don't allow yourself to catch feelings

In some context emotions can be a weakness. The ability to control them and the discipline to manage reaction to them is part of maturity and being evolved.

I disagree...i am plenty mature enough thankyou, why would i want to control or manage those feelings, sometimes they just ebb and flow naturally"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind feelings and I think they are a good thing, it shows a strong connection and that's what I want. I am in a relationship though, so if I ever did feel like I was getting too close to someone I'd take a few steps back because it's the last thing I need.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I don't mind feelings and I think they are a good thing, it shows a strong connection and that's what I want. I am in a relationship though, so if I ever did feel like I was getting too close to someone I'd take a few steps back because it's the last thing I need. "

^ what she said

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Maybe I'm weird, but of course there are feelings. I don't see how you can swap bodily fluids without there being feelings? I really enjoy the time I spend with people, and that friendship will always be there, I wouldn't try to remove it.

Ok, maybe some scenarios I see, like the come fuck go type, but I guess I'm not interested in that type, I prefer to have sex with people that I have feelings for. Why would I back off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you must be a bit dead inside if you don't allow yourself to catch feelings

In some context emotions can be a weakness. The ability to control them and the discipline to manage reaction to them is part of maturity and being evolved.

I disagree...i am plenty mature enough thankyou, why would i want to control or manage those feelings, sometimes they just ebb and flow naturally"

Then there’s no issue then is there? I was responding in the context if when they creep in and were not intended or especially not desired at the outset - as in the context of a FWB, FB or other kind of meet. In someone is single and seeking emotions or open to acting upon them then that’s completely different. That’s why I said “in some context”.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Become their best friend with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never understood this ` catching feelings ’

thing.

I like feeling … I’m human. If I feel I could like them more than just a friendship with sex, then at this point in my life, I’d have that discussion.

You develop feelings - it’s not a cold, you don’t catch them

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you must be a bit dead inside if you don't allow yourself to catch feelings"
safer to feel dead than to risk living and losing it all to fate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It hasn't happened yet but I'd probably jump ship unless I knew that there was a chance they felt the same way.

Even then I'd keep it to myself until they said something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened once but obviously more careful these days as does hurt if wrong situations and do find if reprocated if is more enjoyable intense we are human so hard to stop if does happen too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh it happens just have to be mature talk about things and hopefully long term friendships and connections can happen it can be amazing

But have to be very careful as I’ve hand some problems in the past that believe me nobody wants

To go thru

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Myself and Nelly met on here, through a thread, 7 years ago and have been together ever since. It's not all bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it happens over the years theres been a few guys say thing like im falling for you and similer and im part of a couple a very happy couple we are too .. one went on to stalk (toke the story of that a zillion times on here)...we just block and move on ..we did add cctv after the stalker

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough


"It hasn't happened yet but I'd probably jump ship unless I knew that there was a chance they felt the same way.

Even then I'd keep it to myself until they said something. "

What a bitch it would be if you both like each other but are both waiting for each other to say something first

I'd still wait though, too much of a wuss lol

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It hasn’t happened and I can’t imagine that it ever would.

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By *ongandthickMan
over a year ago

exmouth


"It hasn't happened yet but I'd probably jump ship unless I knew that there was a chance they felt the same way.

Even then I'd keep it to myself until they said something.

What a bitch it would be if you both like each other but are both waiting for each other to say something first

I'd still wait though, too much of a wuss lol"
I'm sure if that was the case you'd both feel there was a connection & one would make the first move.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"It hasn’t happened and I can’t imagine that it ever would. "

Gutted Babs, gutted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont let his wife find out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me on here, met someone, he didn't want a relationship but then it became a relationship anyway, then he broke up with me during the first lockdown. Arse!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"It hasn’t happened and I can’t imagine that it ever would.

Gutted Babs, gutted.

"

We’re talking sexy times Meli not friendship love-ins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feelings aren't a disease.

I think the avoidance of them makes people sound very cold and detached "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It hasn't happened yet but I'd probably jump ship unless I knew that there was a chance they felt the same way.

Even then I'd keep it to myself until they said something.

What a bitch it would be if you both like each other but are both waiting for each other to say something first

I'd still wait though, too much of a wuss lol"

Too true but I just couldn't put it out there. Self preservation I guess

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough


"It hasn't happened yet but I'd probably jump ship unless I knew that there was a chance they felt the same way.

Even then I'd keep it to myself until they said something.

What a bitch it would be if you both like each other but are both waiting for each other to say something first

I'd still wait though, too much of a wuss lol

Too true but I just couldn't put it out there. Self preservation I guess"

Rejection would hurt me too much, that's why I'd rather stay quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think catching feelings - irrespective of where you meet the person, is a bit of a Pandora's Box.

Or maybe that's just where I am at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a guy on here on an old account, we saw each other on and off for a few years. He always felt more for me than I did for him. It could never have gone anywhere though and I ended what we had at the end of last year. We still text occasionally. "

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