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Help!! What am I doing wrong?

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By *ch69 OP   Man
over a year ago

croydon

Things have been very slow for me on this site especially after covid issues have now died down.

Can any of you lovely people look at my profile and suggest where I could improve? When I do reach out to anyone I like the look of it’s never a one liner.. sometimes I get a small discussion then nothing further or I’m completely ignored.

Help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mention Neighbours. They've cancelled it so you should probably update that bit.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Not going to look into your profile in detail, but one bit of advice I will give you. Get a picture for your avatar.

Others can look deeper if they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not even bother to look as you have no profile picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the first half. It mansplains what you think fab is and won't gain you any fans.

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By *akes handymanMan
over a year ago

In the Lakes

Everyone knows what fab is , you don’t need to tell them.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

I would like to see a profile pic. I hate chatting to a black silhouette. Perhaps you might like to take some more alluring pics.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"Everyone knows what fab is , you don’t need to tell them."

I've been back and had another look. I didn't even get to the bit about the Op. I was too busy feeling chastised for apparently not knowing what fab is. People are on here for very different reasons.

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By *ch69 OP   Man
over a year ago

croydon

Ok thanks all will review the comments amend..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add a profile picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile comes across a bit condescending to me. I'd definitely make it more about what you want and can offer rather than telling people what you think they should be doing.

And definitely a profile pic.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Your second paragraph is incredibly rude, patronising and condescending.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Your profile comes across a bit condescending to me. I'd definitely make it more about what you want and can offer rather than telling people what you think they should be doing.

And definitely a profile pic. "

Yes very condescending....not only to girls but also to the guys. Do you think by putting down the guys on the site implicating they're not 'hot/fit' that it will make us want you more? Some people's types might not be George Clooney or Idris Elba.

I use this site for mainly group socials....should I delete my account since it's not the way you told me to use is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a profile photo.

Don’t mansplain what fab is, it’s something different to everyone and yes, many people date on here.

I want George Clooney, I don’t want Danny Devito so please don’t tell me that I should lower my needs or standards.

I was actually quite annoyed by reading your profile, it irritated me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'please make an effort' says the man without a profile photo

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Nothing. You’re doing exactly what you consider to be appropriate.

That’s what you think that you should do.

The only thing that you’re doing wrong is asking for advice rather than taking the next step and working it out.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I didn’t want to give advice because I thought his profile gave a true reflection of his personality. Now with the advice given he can hide some of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn’t want to give advice because I thought his profile gave a true reflection of his personality. Now with the advice given he can hide some of it. "

Hmm that’s true actually.

Yeah, leave it just as it is

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By *ch69 OP   Man
over a year ago

croydon

Well thank you all for your comments… l’ll take them all on the chin and re-write my profile. For those that think it’s a reflection of me that’s a little unfair… but that’s your opinion which you are entitled to have. I’ll def remove all the bits that come across rude/condescending…. Once again thanks all…

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Well thank you all for your comments… l’ll take them all on the chin and re-write my profile. For those that think it’s a reflection of me that’s a little unfair… but that’s your opinion which you are entitled to have. I’ll def remove all the bits that come across rude/condescending…. Once again thanks all…"

Well done for actually rewriting your profile though your profile is there as a reflection of you...if you think of it as a shop window; if you don't want people to say it's a reflection of you then you should write what you want us to know about you good luck with the profile!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I didn’t want to give advice because I thought his profile gave a true reflection of his personality. Now with the advice given he can hide some of it. "

Exactly, this is why I don't give advice about removing this or that on their profile .Just let the profile the way it is. That is a true reflection of how the person thinks and is what I prefer to see rather a sanitised version.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

So thanks to all of you lot, he now has a different profile based on what you all want to see and not one that's likely to reflect who he actually is.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Are you planning on posting a profile pic ?

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By *ch69 OP   Man
over a year ago

croydon

I’m actually really glad I asked… yes some of the comments were a bit far.. but where I thought I was actually being cocky and/or funny I clearly wasn’t. So fully stand corrected and have amended the profile.

Love and peace to all…

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Your profile is your personal sales pitch to your target audience. If the effort put into it is poor, naturally the results won't correspond to your expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So thanks to all of you lot, he now has a different profile based on what you all want to see and not one that's likely to reflect who he actually is."

Good point

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