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By *abygirl6969 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

*** btw- this isn’t me shaming those that do. But I really can’t with it.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

Nope - hate it in sexual terms!

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

No it just feels wrong on all levels. But I’m not calling them who do it’s each to there own

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

When I put the charger into my daughter's iPhone it's says in a creepy voice "stick it in me daddy" ffs it makes my skin crawl.

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By *isterE ManMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Not something I look for.

Much like most prefrences, I wouldn't refuse it if they enjoyed it and actually asked.

I have kids, so the connotations are different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always thought it sounded creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

…… depends who says it…… there’s a certain DC character portrayed by an Australian actress that wore a Certain phrase on her t-shirt.

That poster was pretty popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only by my children

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

From my kids, yes.

I had a DD/lg dynamic in the past and even then, didn’t like the Daddy moniker in that dynamic.

Some do though and that’s ok, it’s not for me/us to judge others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I put the charger into my daughter's iPhone it's says in a creepy voice "stick it in me daddy" ffs it makes my skin crawl."

Hahahaha. This made me laugh more than it should…. mine just tells me ‘this accessory is not compatible’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me no, one lady did once and it completely killed it for me.

Not knocking those who do though, we all like different things.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Whenever ever I hear the word .. always makes me think of that scene in scum... right .. bank's you bastard ..I'm the daddy now...next time I'll fuckin kill ya..

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes some do. I’d run a mile and i don’t run. I find it creepy. Definitely not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes some do. I’d run a mile and i don’t run. I find it creepy. Definitely not for me "

I’d like to run up your mile…

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?"

Only by my kids and that was when they were little, on here I’m afraid it’s not for me.

Being a chap of a certain age with a hairy chest and a belly I get this a bit as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes some do. I’d run a mile and i don’t run. I find it creepy. Definitely not for me "

This, not for me either

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Yes some do. I’d run a mile and i don’t run. I find it creepy. Definitely not for me

I’d like to run up your mile… "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?"

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think. "

*certain kinks will get you a time out.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Not my cup of tea thank you.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

After listening to someone that is in that type of dynamic I can sort of understand why it’s used but it’s definitely not for me tho ..

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By *hismMan
over a year ago

Ballygonowhere

By my children,yes,from anyone else it's just creepy and financially worrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think. "

There is no way in hell I would mention some of my kink here. It's very judgemental. It's fine to fuck 10 people at a club, but god forbid anyone enjoys something that's not vanilla. I've taken stuff off my interests list because I got hassle and creepy messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, it feels really weird. If if I have a kid, they're gonna have to call me bruh or some shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no, no.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Not for me a bit too creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've ever experienced it - or wanted to. It wouldn't bother me but then it wouldn't do anything for me either.

Mr

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By *vo3003Woman
over a year ago

south

I knew a few guy who loved it. Made him so fucking hard when he was fucking me, I didn’t ask why. But I also love his big dick getting rock hard so i went with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me. It would make me feel weird.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy". "

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Fuck yes, and from the right person its even better

There is very little that beats the feeling when she is wrapped in your arms after a brutal session and she looks up at you and whispers “thank you Daddy”!

When used it conveys the authority, control, care, nurturing, safety and trust they place in you.

I much prefer it to any of the other pet names or terms of endearment used between people. They all feel hollow now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy". "

You mean not express their own opinion on a Forum meant for expressing our own opinion ?

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken stuff off my interests list because I got hassle and *creepy* messages. "

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

For me, personally, it's not a term that I am drawn to.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think. "

From what I remember when I was approached before its more about not discussing anything illegal or that refers to bodily harm as the forums are available for registered and non registered users. They do want to allow conversation, but not deal with any aggregation from upset third parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really do anything for me, but certainly doesn't upset me, I know a lot of women get pleasure from it, and if the lady is happy I am happy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think.

There is no way in hell I would mention some of my kink here. It's very judgemental. It's fine to fuck 10 people at a club, but god forbid anyone enjoys something that's not vanilla. I've taken stuff off my interests list because I got hassle and creepy messages. "

Thank you for reminding me to do better in being accepting of others x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy". "

Why? I do find it creepy. You don't and that is fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No any guy with that in their username is blocked or not replied to, not shaming anyone but just not my idea of fun

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By *aturefun63Man
over a year ago

Belper

Love being called daddy by my kids,but weird by other men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it weird...

I find it creepy....

I also find it a bit strange....

Do i care what people of Fab think of my opinion, like f##k do i...

Spank me now for being honest!

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be an enormous turn off for me personally. I know some may have different views and each to their own but I don't want anyone calling me that in a sexual context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it weird...

I find it creepy....

I also find it a bit strange....

Do i care what people of Fab think of my opinion, like f##k do i...

Spank me now for being honest! "

Over the knee you go

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I think with a certain younger age demographic it’s just a stereotyped thing to say and probably influenced by porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it weird...

I find it creepy....

I also find it a bit strange....

Do i care what people of Fab think of my opinion, like f##k do i...

Spank me now for being honest!

Over the knee you go "

Left or right?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth. "

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think.

There is no way in hell I would mention some of my kink here. It's very judgemental. It's fine to fuck 10 people at a club, but god forbid anyone enjoys something that's not vanilla. I've taken stuff off my interests list because I got hassle and creepy messages. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it weird...

I find it creepy....

I also find it a bit strange....

Do i care what people of Fab think of my opinion, like f##k do i...

Spank me now for being honest!

Over the knee you go

Left or right? "

I'm right handed so left knee it is

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A"

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x

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By *hilledGuerillaMan
over a year ago

In the monkey house

Oh Christ no. Happened once years ago and I grabbed my clothes and left.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn’t mind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

"

No

Nobody daddy

Or gran daddy

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By *hilledGuerillaMan
over a year ago

In the monkey house

It’s even worse when it’s in a fab message from another bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x"

Using a particular word isnt kink shaming at all..... its a word not a statement against those that do say it.

Just another way on here for people to start nit picking other peoples answers on a forum question.

Like being at pre school again

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I personally wouldn’t mind it "

Papi?

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine

For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A"

Did you just marmite shame?

Because that’s exactly what those deviants deserve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally wouldn’t mind it

Papi? "

Haha that’s great yeah

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties "

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x"

No you haven't Nora, it's good to have differing opinions but don't tear others down for their views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh "

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

During roll plays yeaa but I'm not trying to be labeled daddy before I got the kids me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I have been called it for several years by various people, not always humour they want actual role play which is not for me

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By *eamworkboyMan
over a year ago

Irvine


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh "

Nooooooooooooooo ffs

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Had to look up the definition of creppy because I wasn't entirely sure. So "if you say that something or someone is creepy, you mean they make you feel very nervous or frightened."

So I'm going to chastise those who do kinky shit in the privacy of their own bedrooms, for making people feel so. You naughty naughty individuals. Now go stand in the corner and think about what you're bad behaviour

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??"

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties "

•

Just like drugs; 'goes without saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x

No you haven't Nora, it's good to have differing opinions but don't tear others down for their views "

I worded that wrongly, meaning you can't have an opinion without others tearing it down it seems

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over a year ago


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person. "

Whenever I hear that word I think of the Helen Thomas ‘I’m moist’ meme that has been floating around a long time

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By *abygirl6969 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

So the overwhelming response is that it’s not a turn on for men nor women. I suspect many do like it but may also may be ashamed to say here which is weird because of the nature of this site.

I’m curious to all those who don’t like it how do they feel about being called baby? People use babe or baby ALL the time and it’s not given a second thought.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x

No you haven't Nora, it's good to have differing opinions but don't tear others down for their views

I worded that wrongly, meaning you can't have an opinion without others tearing it down it seems"

Haha I wasn’t sure which way you meant it so I didn’t reply. I think that’s true. Especially if your opinion is not a majority one.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person. "

You've not seen me do hot yoga Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x

No you haven't Nora, it's good to have differing opinions but don't tear others down for their views

I worded that wrongly, meaning you can't have an opinion without others tearing it down it seems"

Standard Fab life that lately.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x

No you haven't Nora, it's good to have differing opinions but don't tear others down for their views

I worded that wrongly, meaning you can't have an opinion without others tearing it down it seems

Standard Fab life that lately....."

Rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I knew a few guy who loved it. Made him so fucking hard when he was fucking me, I didn’t ask why. But I also love his big dick getting rock hard so i went with it. "

This , people use all sorts of fantasies in sex and are able to compartmentalise away from normal life, isn’t that why most are here?

I’ve been with women who’ve liked to call me it, they love it and get off on it, the sex is amazing so I don’t call them out on it! I don’t crave it but it’s a sexual fantasy for them, who am I to judge

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person.

Whenever I hear that word I think of the Helen Thomas ‘I’m moist’ meme that has been floating around a long time "

Hahaha. Too funny. Moister than an oyster. Smell my musk.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person.

You've not seen me do hot yoga Nora "

Hahaha. Actually beetroot faced me coming out of the gym could be described as a moist person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the overwhelming response is that it’s not a turn on for men nor women. I suspect many do like it but may also may be ashamed to say here which is weird because of the nature of this site.

I’m curious to all those who don’t like it how do they feel about being called baby? People use babe or baby ALL the time and it’s not given a second thought.

"

Exactly the same way, if someone called me "Baby" during sex, its a turn off for me.......

In everyday conversation the word "babe" is used in a totally different way altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth.

I've never been into kink shaming. What adults do in their own time consentually with others is up to them.

You'll also see people stating things like that. If something creeps someone out or they find it 'disgusting' then so long as they're purely expressing a personal opinion then that's fine. Stating that a specific act is disgusting full stop os different.

I suspect anything related to age play will often get a more general negative response than other subjects because of potential connotations with other things that go on in the world. But there's a difference between adults role playing and what happens outside of that.

I find marmite disgusting but others don't. I'll say out loud that I think it's disgusting. But thats me. If other sick, demented freaks want to eat that shit then it's all good.

A

I agree. I don’t think I’ve ever kink shamed or been offensive but if I have I would welcome being messaged and being told and I would take it on board. However I won’t lie, sugarcoat or follow the crowd when I don’t agree or like something. There is a big difference x

No you haven't Nora, it's good to have differing opinions but don't tear others down for their views

I worded that wrongly, meaning you can't have an opinion without others tearing it down it seems

Standard Fab life that lately.....

Rubbish "

Be quiet you or i'll bend you over my knee!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, last time someone said this i went floppy, ruined the moment for me.

she was 24 i was 36.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties "

How about moist?

Or maybe.....moist panties?

A

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I didn't think to check as I was reading this thread, but I wonder how many of the people vociferously against the use of "Daddy" have spanking (a sub/dom kink based on the exact same parent-figure power dynamic) listed in their interests?

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Ngl I like it when someone tells me to call them daddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person. "

I’m too young for these forums. I need to leave

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Ngl I like it when someone tells me to call them daddy."

Then you're a good girl, Princess.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"When I put the charger into my daughter's iPhone it's says in a creepy voice "stick it in me daddy" ffs it makes my skin crawl."

Lol that’s quite funny though. She’s trolling you with it totally

I find all these mommy daddy etc baby girl blah blah if it’s all tongue in cheek piss taking almost then it can be mildly amusing in right match up.

Like any weird fetish to masses it’s when people push it far or serious it’s problematic

I have a sarcastic humour so rinse people anyway in sex half the time when the sexy chat time rears it head

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person.

I’m too young for these forums. I need to leave "

Or I’m too old! Probably more the latter!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

You know everyone has to be pervert of some degree on here right

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"You know everyone has to be pervert of some degree on here right "

This checks out

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think. "

Too right

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"You know everyone has to be pervert of some degree on here right

This checks out "

At some point in life all of us are on here will need to repent to man upstairs . Ahem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very creepy, not for me. I don't want to think of a father figure at all when I'm being intimate with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer uncle albert

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"Prefer uncle albert"

Better than uncle fester

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

General is fine for me

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

Yes, but only by my babygirl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no from me bruh

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"General is fine for me "

Morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's creepy, right alongside panties

What about moist panties? Aaaarghhhhhhhhhhhh

Is that moist in general?

What about moist people??

I’ve never really thought about someone as a moist person.

I’m too young for these forums. I need to leave

Or I’m too old! Probably more the latter! "
you’re not. I’m the one that uses the language nobody gets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Prefer uncle albert

Better than uncle fester "
should always let it fester

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Ngl I like it when someone tells me to call them daddy.

Then you're a good girl, Princess. "

Thankyou daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"When I put the charger into my daughter's iPhone it's says in a creepy voice "stick it in me daddy" ffs it makes my skin crawl."

This is brilliant!

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus


"General is fine for me

Morning "

Hello there

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone. "

I hear you Steve, I think it's the word creepy that gets people into the kink. Normally you associate the word with an action that's directed towards you. For example the person was looking at me in a creepy way, the person put their hand on my waist as they tried to get to the bar was creepy. What people do in their own bedroom shouldn't creep anyone out.

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

No never happened to me

But no

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By *edsmudgeMan
over a year ago

oxford

I’m of the same opinion. As most it’s a little …

But just some clarity on a similar . Mumma? (Obvs done in a elvis accent)

And pappy? ( in a Mexican accent)

Both of which I’ve never experienced, but think I might like

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"When I put the charger into my daughter's iPhone it's says in a creepy voice "stick it in me daddy" ffs it makes my skin crawl.

This is brilliant! "

Think its a slowed down version of Stewie Griffin's voice.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Ngl I like it when someone tells me to call them daddy.

Then you're a good girl, Princess.

Thankyou daddy"

flawless, clap clap clap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I hear you Steve, I think it's the word creepy that gets people into the kink. Normally you associate the word with an action that's directed towards you. For example the person was looking at me in a creepy way, the person put their hand on my waist as they tried to get to the bar was creepy. What people do in their own bedroom shouldn't creep anyone out.

"

Absolutely. It’s between them. I love the way you’ve put this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth. "

It was a polite request. Not a demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I hear you Steve, I think it's the word creepy that gets people into the kink. Normally you associate the word with an action that's directed towards you. For example the person was looking at me in a creepy way, the person put their hand on my waist as they tried to get to the bar was creepy. What people do in their own bedroom shouldn't creep anyone out.

"

The OP actually asks what men think about being called Daddy, and by extension some women have said what effect the word has on them. The word 'creepy' in that context is an absolutely valid opinion, nothing to do with judging others private behaviour

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Ngl I like it when someone tells me to call them daddy.

Then you're a good girl, Princess.

Thankyou daddy"

You're very welcome, little one.

(How creeped out do you think people are getting... )

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone. "

Far worse has been said or done. Most people on here couldn’t stomach watching let alone participating in what we like to do, but thats the beauty of personal choice.

Its difficult at times to not take what people say personally or see it as an attack against you.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Personally speaking, not one bit, but if folks like it then they like it.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone. "

I think that language is important as is understanding.

Whilst offence might not have been meant, adding value based language can demean.

Freedom to say what you like is good but it works both ways. If I were to say that those demeaning and judging others were assholes, there would be hell to pay! It’s all value based language though.

I think that a touch of awareness goes a long way. We’re all on a swingers site and do things that general society would consider deviant. There’s enough judgement already without adding to it ourselves.

I think that the phrase; ‘your kink isn’t my kink but that’s ok’ or ‘don’t yuck someone else’s yum’, fit very well here and should be used more readily in reference to things that we might find a little less than mainstream

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By *yourselfMan
over a year ago

Heworth

No, it's creepy.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"You know everyone has to be pervert of some degree on here right

This checks out

At some point in life all of us are on here will need to repent to man upstairs . Ahem "

I used to live in a flat and the man upstairs was a complete weirdo.

Probably more of a pervert than me.

Fuck that!

A

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By *igJFromSAMan
over a year ago

Woking

Never tried it, but can see the appeal with the right partner and the right situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I think that language is important as is understanding.

Whilst offence might not have been meant, adding value based language can demean.

Freedom to say what you like is good but it works both ways. If I were to say that those demeaning and judging others were assholes, there would be hell to pay! It’s all value based language though.

I think that a touch of awareness goes a long way. We’re all on a swingers site and do things that general society would consider deviant. There’s enough judgement already without adding to it ourselves.

I think that the phrase; ‘your kink isn’t my kink but that’s ok’ or ‘don’t yuck someone else’s yum’, fit very well here and should be used more readily in reference to things that we might find a little less than mainstream"

Yes! Beautifully said _ea monkey . I love your way with words. And I’ve learned those phrases now so thank you.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy". "

But if that's how it makes them feel are you asking them to not express their feelings freely?

I have absolutely no problem with the term and clearly lots of people love it. I don't like it being said to me, it makes me cringe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I think that language is important as is understanding.

Whilst offence might not have been meant, adding value based language can demean.

Freedom to say what you like is good but it works both ways. If I were to say that those demeaning and judging others were assholes, there would be hell to pay! It’s all value based language though.

I think that a touch of awareness goes a long way. We’re all on a swingers site and do things that general society would consider deviant. There’s enough judgement already without adding to it ourselves.

I think that the phrase; ‘your kink isn’t my kink but that’s ok’ or ‘don’t yuck someone else’s yum’, fit very well here and should be used more readily in reference to things that we might find a little less than mainstream"

Absolutely, Tea.

Plenty of people on the thread found a way to say they weren't into it without adding value judgements. And no doubt for even asking people not to kink shame, there will be comeback elsewhere on the forum. As there always is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I hear you Steve, I think it's the word creepy that gets people into the kink. Normally you associate the word with an action that's directed towards you. For example the person was looking at me in a creepy way, the person put their hand on my waist as they tried to get to the bar was creepy. What people do in their own bedroom shouldn't creep anyone out.

The OP actually asks what men think about being called Daddy, and by extension some women have said what effect the word has on them. The word 'creepy' in that context is an absolutely valid opinion, nothing to do with judging others private behaviour"

Of course. But I understand why someone might be upset by the use of the term creepy here. It reads judgementally even if not intended that way. And I think although we don’t have to change the way we word things, I don’t see the harm in doing so but I do see the positives of it and they’re worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

Far worse has been said or done. Most people on here couldn’t stomach watching let alone participating in what we like to do, but thats the beauty of personal choice.

Its difficult at times to not take what people say personally or see it as an attack against you."

It is. And I do think we all have to learn that. I know I do. It’s hard to not see things as personal attacks. But you know I think the main thing is that offence was not meant and that means it resents a learning opportunity. And they’re always good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

But if that's how it makes them feel are you asking them to not express their feelings freely?

I have absolutely no problem with the term and clearly lots of people love it. I don't like it being said to me, it makes me cringe."

Despite it being said many many many times before that people find the value judgements and kink shaming unpleasant - people still keep doing it. If it was another topic - like fat people - I don't think that you'd be arguing the same thing.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Whats creepy are the lies people post.

Black and white or other filtered/wmended photos

Single profiles with photos of others

How they portray themselves being different to who they are

The two faced ness of people

Their obvious lpp or jealousy

Safe sex on their profile but all about that bareback

Not getting tested regularly

That shits creepy to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

*** btw- this isn’t me shaming those that do. But I really can’t with it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ? "

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming. "

Yes, not judgemental at all that, no way !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are quite a few names I don't like and being called Daddy is one of them. Babe, Honey, Dude, and bear, just a few to mention are not my thing.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I hear you Steve, I think it's the word creepy that gets people into the kink. Normally you associate the word with an action that's directed towards you. For example the person was looking at me in a creepy way, the person put their hand on my waist as they tried to get to the bar was creepy. What people do in their own bedroom shouldn't creep anyone out.

The OP actually asks what men think about being called Daddy, and by extension some women have said what effect the word has on them. The word 'creepy' in that context is an absolutely valid opinion, nothing to do with judging others private behaviour"

Sorry must have missed the part where I wrote, their opinions weren't valid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are quite a few names I don't like and being called Daddy is one of them. Babe, Honey, Dude, and bear, just a few to mention are not my thing."

Boy is another

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming. "

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming. "

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be "

Yep thought someone would come back with that trope.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be "

No!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"There are quite a few names I don't like and being called Daddy is one of them. Babe, Honey, Dude, and bear, just a few to mention are not my thing.

Boy is another "

Many people say being called girl is creepy/weird. I don’t mind it at all. It also doesn’t offend me that others think it’s weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ? "

Why not? It's fine to invalidate mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

For goodness sakes. If people find it creepy they find it creepy. I find it creepy. Me saying that’s disgusting you shouldn’t do that you’re weird is shaming . Me saying I find it creepy is me telling the truth. "

With you on that Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mamma?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be

Yep thought someone would come back with that trope. "

. Trope. That’s the new popular fab word. I quite like it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be

No!"

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mamma?"

Yes, baby?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now. "

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming."

Common sense finally

Sorry Dicky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be

Yes "

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be

Yes

No "

Maybe ?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ? "

No. Their feelings are perfectly valid as are those of those that feel that they’re being judged.

Freedom of expression doesn’t work just one way. You can’t express your opinion freely without expecting recourse for those opinions.

If you express your opinions with respect, then things are much better

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming."

As would I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are quite a few names I don't like and being called Daddy is one of them. Babe, Honey, Dude, and bear, just a few to mention are not my thing.

Boy is another

Many people say being called girl is creepy/weird. I don’t mind it at all. It also doesn’t offend me that others think it’s weird. "

Always knew you was a weirdo Nora

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

But if that's how it makes them feel are you asking them to not express their feelings freely?

I have absolutely no problem with the term and clearly lots of people love it. I don't like it being said to me, it makes me cringe.

Despite it being said many many many times before that people find the value judgements and kink shaming unpleasant - people still keep doing it. If it was another topic - like fat people - I don't think that you'd be arguing the same thing. "

Funnily enough, I've had this same discussion on "who likes beards" type threads. People who DON'T like beards can use some very choice language to express their outrage at what someone else does with their hair. (Apparently beards are "lazy", "untidy", "unclean", "disgusting", "smelly" and "make you look like a tramp" amongst plenty of other things)

Invariably when I've called out this kind of behaviour I'm told I'm overreacting, a snowflake, I should "man up", and that I'm out of order for trying to stifle free speech. Apparently their freedom to be really unpleasant to complete strangers trumps my right to expect the bare minimum level of common courtesy.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?"

Hate it.

I find it disgusting, but each to their own.

Mr. J

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

No. Their feelings are perfectly valid as are those of those that feel that they’re being judged.

Freedom of expression doesn’t work just one way. You can’t express your opinion freely without expecting recourse for those opinions.

If you express your opinions with respect, then things are much better "

I don’t think anyone has been disrespectful on this thread. At all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

I think the only answer is for everyone just to answer yes or no to everything on the forum. No debates, no opinions, nobody offended

What a fun place it would be

Yes

No

Maybe ? "

But, where would FAF come in to it, if we have to stick with Yes or No?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming.

As would I "

Ah well as long as you two are happy.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

No. Their feelings are perfectly valid as are those of those that feel that they’re being judged.

Freedom of expression doesn’t work just one way. You can’t express your opinion freely without expecting recourse for those opinions.

If you express your opinions with respect, then things are much better "

Thank you Tea, sums it up really well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming.

As would I "

Yes, and no one has done that so it's a shame the thread was derailed with straw man arguments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

No. Their feelings are perfectly valid as are those of those that feel that they’re being judged.

Freedom of expression doesn’t work just one way. You can’t express your opinion freely without expecting recourse for those opinions.

If you express your opinions with respect, then things are much better

I don’t think anyone has been disrespectful on this thread. At all "

I agree

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming.

As would I

Ah well as long as you two are happy. "

So we’re getting personal now? I don’t think it’s just us two either.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

To answer the OP, plenty of men do else there wouldn't be a whole dynamic surrounding it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming.

As would I

Ah well as long as you two are happy. "

Everyone should be happy, we are all alive arent we??

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

As you can see it's a very polarising topic. I'm in the it's creepy camp and block anyone asking if they can call me mummy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

Yes and anyone who expresses a personally negative view of any sexual activity in relation to whether they like it or not must be kink shaming.

So if there was a thread about fisting or double penetration or having sex with randoms at a club and I called them vile. That wouldn't get me flamed? That would be ok? Because any time I see value judgments used about other things - people are flamed. But it's fine when it's the kinky stuff because we're in the minority. Good that I know the rules now.

Expressing an opinion on whether you like something is not kink shaming others. If it is then you can't ever say you don't like a sexual activity.

As far as I have seen in this thread, no one has said 'I don't like the word Daddy and anyone who uses it needs their head examining'. I'd accept that being kink shaming.

As would I

Ah well as long as you two are happy. "

Very respectful that.

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By *unseeker100Man
over a year ago

batley


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy". "

Think it depends on the dynamic like most things if it's consensual and it's between two adults. Live and let live it's like a Chanel on the TV if it's not for you get the remote and find something you like

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Do men like being called daddy, if yes why?

Ask this on another site op and you’ll get a very very different answer.

Kinks have been shamed for a long time on this swinging site and most of those that would do something considered “very kinky” have long since left, or learned not to admit to anything.

Even talking about kinks get you a time out too. .. I think.

There is no way in hell I would mention some of my kink here. It's very judgemental. It's fine to fuck 10 people at a club, but god forbid anyone enjoys something that's not vanilla. I've taken stuff off my interests list because I got hassle and creepy messages. "

I like quite like being called Daddy, it’s kinda hot , it’s not really part of the DD/lg which I’m also into ! It’s just fun and playful in bed, I’m

Into all kinds of verbal kink though

My kids all call me by my first name!

It’s if makes you feel offended or uncomfortable even discussing it, go see your therapist!

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By *ombikerbullMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

I'm indifferent to it, If it turns my partner on then carry on.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

But if that's how it makes them feel are you asking them to not express their feelings freely?

I have absolutely no problem with the term and clearly lots of people love it. I don't like it being said to me, it makes me cringe.

Despite it being said many many many times before that people find the value judgements and kink shaming unpleasant - people still keep doing it. If it was another topic - like fat people - I don't think that you'd be arguing the same thing. "

Do you want me to apologise for reading the thread and responding to the first post that I felt I needed to respond to?

I didn't see the many many others disagreeing with you until afterwards.

But it's ok, I'm clearly the one at fault here.

Everyone is allowed an opinion, I'm allowed to voice mine. You can disagree with it.

I'm not shaming you or anyone else. I also don't care who is or isn't fat, that's their body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be SO nice if people could say that's not for me without using the word "creepy".

But if that's how it makes them feel are you asking them to not express their feelings freely?

I have absolutely no problem with the term and clearly lots of people love it. I don't like it being said to me, it makes me cringe.

Despite it being said many many many times before that people find the value judgements and kink shaming unpleasant - people still keep doing it. If it was another topic - like fat people - I don't think that you'd be arguing the same thing. "

I think the reasoning behind not liking ddlg/age play is a lot more understandable than the reason of not liking fat people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way. This is a total turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m happy to be called daddy if they liked it. Personally after having tried it is does nothing for me but it wouldn’t put me off. End of the day it’s just a word used if you are in that dynamic, but not always used if you get what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you can see it's a very polarising topic. I'm in the it's creepy camp and block anyone asking if they can call me mummy."

I reckon each to their own. But have also blocked for being asked about being called mummy. Sexually it would not float my boat at all

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"So people who find the use of that word in a sexual context *personally* creepy must have their feelings invalidated ?

No. Their feelings are perfectly valid as are those of those that feel that they’re being judged.

Freedom of expression doesn’t work just one way. You can’t express your opinion freely without expecting recourse for those opinions.

If you express your opinions with respect, then things are much better

I don’t think anyone has been disrespectful on this thread. At all "

If I were to say that all people who have sex outside of their marriage are creepy or weird, would that be viewed the same way?

I doubt it.

Respect is about using language that you’d be happy hearing yourself.

I respect the opinions of those that dislike it, I don’t respect the value based language used.

Simply because it’s a more polarising topic, doesn’t mean that value based language is ok

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"By the way I’m sorry to those that feel this descended into kink shaming. You’re free to do do what you like with consenting people. It’s not creepy or weird. Just not for me or others. Don’t think offence has been meant by anyone.

I hear you Steve, I think it's the word creepy that gets people into the kink. Normally you associate the word with an action that's directed towards you. For example the person was looking at me in a creepy way, the person put their hand on my waist as they tried to get to the bar was creepy. What people do in their own bedroom shouldn't creep anyone out.

The OP actually asks what men think about being called Daddy, and by extension some women have said what effect the word has on them. The word 'creepy' in that context is an absolutely valid opinion, nothing to do with judging others private behaviour"

And I was replying to Steve's post. And wanted on a thread that was turning into an argument. The viewpoint of why some dislike the word creepy and why.

Instead of discussing my opinion and yours on the term. And actually having a debate. It is you who has invalidated what I was saying. Please don't accuse me of something you yourself are doing, thanks

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