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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I couldnt exactly pick a side, though i do empathise for johnny A LOT, ive been in the exact same kind of relationship with my previous ex. Reason why i cant pick a side is i did see some things during johnnys questioning that left me thinking "oh that cant look good for johnny". That being said i do also understand that its likely a result of being around such a toxic person (exactly how it turned out with my ex). That sort of toxicity is infectious and will make you do things youd never do.
I had always tried to be a good communicator and civil in previous relationships, but with my last ex the stonewalling, denial of responsibility, gaslighting etc. it made me lose my mind. Couldnt think straight, always made to believed i was the one in the wrong, even became the target for an incident that my ex had caused resulting in my car being vandalised numerous times.
The trial itself was a total clown show from ambers side and her team, almost comical at times, but its sole purpose for being made public was a publicity stunt to highlight domestic violence against men. I do wonder though if its to fight back at the inflated societal sympathy towards women being victims and mem being the perpetrators. As its gotten to state of toxic sexism against men being abused and society just says "man up" and shrugs at any sight of abuse against men. I saw that during my domestic abuse therapy, a social experiment was conducted in public and literally everyone seeing a man getting hit and shouted at by woman, just watched and giggled to themselves. Meanwhile when the gender roles were reversed, ppl rushed over to help the woman while the man was confronted by onlookers.
Hopefully the trial being made public has done some good for the male gender to gain back some ground and respect in soceity, and make other ppl aware that theyre perspective of domestic abuse needs readjusting to accommodate men as well.
What a brave and honest post. People can be quick to judge and make judgements. I hope you were able to get justice.
In the Heard v Depp case I think there was blame on both sides but he has shown more dignity after the trial by keeping quiet whereas she is still harping on about it."
Thanks, i have no issue talking about what i went through, even the times where it looks bad on me but when ppl understand the situation its easy to see how someone can be dragged into a toxic situation and come out looking like the bad guy (like myself and johnny). You can see that in the tiral between amber and johnny in the UK when johnny was portrayed as the abuser.
There was one particular altercation between me and my ex in my car, where she kept my house keys from me when i refused to drive her to the train station after how shitty she was being to me. I wanted to go back inside and get back to sleep as i was very tired from a night shift. I tried to get them back from her, eventually snatching them from her hand which caused one fo the keys to cut her hand, no bigger than a cat scratch. But that lead to her calling for an ambulance to take me away and have me checked by the mental health team as we had just gone to see them that same day around 2am for my mental health. Of course she said she was assaulted... so police came instead, almost tased me, took me in for questioning and gave me a caution for battery, leading me to have a criminal record.
After speaking about the whole situation with a friend of my father whos a criminal defence lawyer, he said i should never have that caution in the first place. Police took the situation out of context, and saw it as an opportunity to make me a statistic and call it there without further investigation.
Unfortunately my ex has gotten away with everything shes done to me and also manipulated me into taking my name off the tenancy of the place we had together and then made me homeless. I lost a lot to that relationship and its taken me almost 2 years to recover from it.
Ive seen a number of news feeds about amber banging on about the whole thing and its truly pathetic, i actually feel some pity for her, totally delusional and desperately trying to claw back some dignity. Im just glad to see johnny can get his life back on track |
