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Getting back into the saddle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There was a thread similar to this a week or so ago, about having a break from swinging and starting again.

So here goes.

We haven't played in around 18 months/2 years.

The reasons were, I was ill and was having a bit of a rough ride, a close family member (a child) was admitted to hospital and luckily pulled through, about a week later a family friend was killed in a road accident and she was closer to us than our parents.

Add to that a lot of family changes.

Such is life.

Obviously with all this happening over the space of a year or so (we are currently in the process of losing another close family member to cancer as well) we haven't been in any mood or.position to want to play.

But we are both starting to feel a little urge to dip our toe in again.

The strange thing is, we both feel like we haven't done anything like this before and we are both a little anxious about starting again.

So what do we do?

Jump in with both feet and try to carry on as if nothing has happened?

Dip our toes in and hope for the best?

Stop swinging/dogging?

Any advice would be gratefully received from anyone who has experienced similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go slow and don't feel you have to jump back in. I took 6 months or so out and just went with the flow on returning. Its all about fun not numbers or having to meet for meets sake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Doc.

We wouldn't rush into anything, and we wouldn't meet just for the sake of it.

Its just a question of where to start again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks Doc.

We wouldn't rush into anything, and we wouldn't meet just for the sake of it.

Its just a question of where to start again."

Well the first option is to meet up with old friends in the scene socially and take it from there.

I am enjoying chatting to old and new friends and not rushing things its more fun that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in the same situation as yourselves, we have had a rough year with one thing or another and have put meets on to the back burner for the time being, now things are settling down we will be looking to play again!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We are always dipping back in and out, have only just started playing again ourselves after being out for just over a year.

When we come back after a break we tend to take our time and often start by catching up some friends.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are always dipping back in and out, have only just started playing again ourselves after being out for just over a year.

When we come back after a break we tend to take our time and often start by catching up some friends.

x"

Very good advice and maybe just a few socials but take it at your own pace x

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Sorry to read about all your trials.. Life throws us some bad things at times..

Is it not possible to meet someone you are familiar with just to get going again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take time out and when we get back into it we invariably go to chams on a quiet night and have no expectations before - but invariably by the end of the night are back in the swing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry to read about all your trials.. Life throws us some bad things at times..

Is it not possible to meet someone you are familiar with just to get going again. "

That is one option we have thought of.

We didn't know whether to start with a clean slate, maybe new faces, new places, or tread familiar ground.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Maybe a change? Start with a small social or party? Whatever you decide i hope you enjoy some fun in the not too distant future. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear about your bad times.

i know what you mean, if i havnt seen anyone for a while i feel a bit nervous about meeting people, only once i start seeing men again for sex then i soon get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks, much appreciated

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"There was a thread similar to this a week or so ago, about having a break from swinging and starting again.

So here goes.

We haven't played in around 18 months/2 years.

The reasons were, I was ill and was having a bit of a rough ride, a close family member (a child) was admitted to hospital and luckily pulled through, about a week later a family friend was killed in a road accident and she was closer to us than our parents.

Add to that a lot of family changes.

Such is life.

Obviously with all this happening over the space of a year or so (we are currently in the process of losing another close family member to cancer as well) we haven't been in any mood or.position to want to play.

But we are both starting to feel a little urge to dip our toe in again.

The strange thing is, we both feel like we haven't done anything like this before and we are both a little anxious about starting again.

So what do we do?

Jump in with both feet and try to carry on as if nothing has happened?

Dip our toes in and hope for the best?

Stop swinging/dogging?

Any advice would be gratefully received from anyone who has experienced similar "
Taking things slowly and meeting people who are sensitive to your needs and not pushy. Maybe have a few social meets and see?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We will take it easy and have a dabble somewhere new.

This seems to be the conclusion we have come to.

Thanks all x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

By the way, the folks who are in the same boat as us, good luck and hope things work out for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a possibility that we may dip our toes in this weekend.

Just depends on who and what we decide to do.

Just going to go at a steady pace.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It's a possibility that we may dip our toes in this weekend.

Just depends on who and what we decide to do.

Just going to go at a steady pace."

The decision to dip a toe is just the beginning. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, we have finally made a start on getting back into the saddle.

Yesterday we did something that we have wanted to do for years and Mrs Artful had some professional photos done (another thing ticked off the list) and we have joined a club which we will be visiting pretty soon.

Thanks for all the feedback and advice folks

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"So, we have finally made a start on getting back into the saddle.

Yesterday we did something that we have wanted to do for years and Mrs Artful had some professional photos done (another thing ticked off the list) and we have joined a club which we will be visiting pretty soon.

Thanks for all the feedback and advice folks "
Good for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great to hear things are sorting out for you both, have fun xxx

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Brilliant! If the professional shoot is anything like the one I had, Mrs Artful will be feeling a million dollars, and you'll also feel the benefit of that, Artful Good luck and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So glad you guys are getting back to where you want to be!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brilliant! If the professional shoot is anything like the one I had, Mrs Artful will be feeling a million dollars, and you'll also feel the benefit of that, Artful Good luck and enjoy!"

She was really nervous but eventually relaxed and she really enjoyed it.

Just put a couple on our profile to update it, I'm really proud of her

Just working up the courage and sorting some time out to do the club now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics are amazing mr un mrs artfull. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pics are amazing mr un mrs artfull. Xx"

There are great pictures!! Well done mrs art

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's warming to see your finding your feet again following a difficult time for you all..

Lovely pics... black and white pic of Mrs Art my fave

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Great news and lovely pictures. Enjoy yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all.

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