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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

I've just been chatting to a lady friend who I regularly sleep with who said tonight that I am super confident in the bedroom Ladies, is confidence a turn on or a turn off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is good. Arrogance is not

A fine line in between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s nice … but arrogance - no

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Confidence is good. Arrogance is not

A fine line in between "

Well she didn't say I was arrogant in the bedroom so I'll take it as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed fine line, some guys don't know the difference. Take what she said as a compliment

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"Confidence is good. Arrogance is not

A fine line in between "

Exactly this

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Turn on, I like a man who can lead.

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By *ecretssquirrelCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Confidence is sexy, but with that confidence you have to be a good reader of the person you're playing with.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Sexual confidence is really important!! Can’t be doing with a fumbler

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes confidence is good, sexually and socially.

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Agreed fine line, some guys don't know the difference. Take what she said as a compliment "

Already have

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal

Confidence both ways is key

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By *ecretssquirrelCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Confidence is good. Arrogance is not

A fine line in between "

Agreed

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I've just been chatting to a lady friend who I regularly sleep with who said tonight that I am super confident in the bedroom Ladies, is confidence a turn on or a turn off?"

A big turn on for me.

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Confidence is sexy, but with that confidence you have to be a good reader of the person you're playing with. "

Think I'm a good reader

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexual confidence is really important!! Can’t be doing with a fumbler"

pah and I was hoping for a fumble too

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down

Definitely a fine line. The difference being that confidence is brought out by the person you’re intimate with. Arrogance is just their illusion that they’re the best fuck you’ve ever had.

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By *ecretssquirrelCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Confidence is sexy, but with that confidence you have to be a good reader of the person you're playing with.

Think I'm a good reader "

Then take the compliment and keep up the good work

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Definitely a fine line. The difference being that confidence is brought out by the person you’re intimate with. Arrogance is just their illusion that they’re the best fuck you’ve ever had. "

I can categorically confirm that I'm sure I'm not the best fuck she's ever had! But she has invited me over again tomorrow night

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In my opinion confidence and arrogance are two different traits. A confident person is never arrogant and vice versa.

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down


"Definitely a fine line. The difference being that confidence is brought out by the person you’re intimate with. Arrogance is just their illusion that they’re the best fuck you’ve ever had.

I can categorically confirm that I'm sure I'm not the best fuck she's ever had! But she has invited me over again tomorrow night "

Then would say you’re doing something right. She obviously likes your moves.

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


" In my opinion confidence and arrogance are two different traits. A confident person is never arrogant and vice versa. "

Good theory ! I like it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t mind really. I quite like shy men too. It’s not really that important to me. More the person and whether I’m attracted to them.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Confidence and assurance - yep that works for me. I prefer a sparing partner and that often comes with a confident personality

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Confidence and assurance - yep that works for me. I prefer a sparing partner and that often comes with a confident personality "

Sparing partner? Bloody hell! I packed in boxing 32 years ago

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

If the lady is so enamoured with the Op, I wonder why you feel you have to brag about on here. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Confidence and assurance - yep that works for me. I prefer a sparing partner and that often comes with a confident personality

Sparing partner? Bloody hell! I packed in boxing 32 years ago "

Lol I mean I don’t care for whimps and doormats

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"If the lady is so enamoured with the Op, I wonder why you feel you have to brag about on here. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance!"

I didn’t see it as bragging …. It was the intro to a question he was asking. Don’t be so quick to shoot people down in flames

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"If the lady is so enamoured with the Op, I wonder why you feel you have to brag about on here. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance!

I didn’t see it as bragging …. It was the intro to a question he was asking. Don’t be so quick to shoot people down in flames "

Too right, us men don't get many compliments! And I've never been called super confident before

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley


"If the lady is so enamoured with the Op, I wonder why you feel you have to brag about on here. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance!

I didn’t see it as bragging …. It was the intro to a question he was asking. Don’t be so quick to shoot people down in flames "

We all entitled to our own opinions. You may not agree but that's how it can across to me.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"If the lady is so enamoured with the Op, I wonder why you feel you have to brag about on here. There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance!

I didn’t see it as bragging …. It was the intro to a question he was asking. Don’t be so quick to shoot people down in flames

We all entitled to our own opinions. You may not agree but that's how it can across to me. "

Indeed we are…. It was just an unnecessary comment the OP didn’t call for

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

Definitely a turn on, and also a necessity...I need putting back in my place occasionally

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Definitely a turn on, and also a necessity...I need putting back in my place occasionally "

Oooooooo!!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Definitely a turn on, and also a necessity...I need putting back in my place occasionally "

Surely not!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?


"Definitely a turn on, and also a necessity...I need putting back in my place occasionally

Surely not! "

I know! Who would ever think it when I'm so demure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, I like a man to be very confident sexually. Otherwise nothing would happen.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Good to be confident but not overly so that you start becoming arrogant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing sexier than a guy who sees what he likes and takes it.

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By *ean counter OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Nothing sexier than a guy who sees what he likes and takes it."

If I like I take !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing sexier than a guy who sees what he likes and takes it."

I fear that this will be interpreted wrong by some single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing sexier than a guy who sees what he likes and takes it."

When I finish my stretch for bank robbery can I message you ?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

It is a turn on, but not always what I am looking for...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been chatting to a lady friend who I regularly sleep with who said tonight that I am super confident in the bedroom Ladies, is confidence a turn on or a turn off?"

Some men are confident how to make ALL women squirt....

Depends on the man. Confidence can be sexy or disrespectful.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've just been chatting to a lady friend who I regularly sleep with who said tonight that I am super confident in the bedroom Ladies, is confidence a turn on or a turn off?

Some men are confident how to make ALL women squirt....

Depends on the man. Confidence can be sexy or disrespectful. "

To me that's arrogance. A confident man would ask if the woman wanted to then ask her to show him how best he could help her. An arrogant man just assumes he knows.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too. "

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"I'm not cocky I'm confident, and when you tell me I'm the best it's a compliment "

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Nothing sexier than a guy who sees what he likes and takes it."

If I see one slice of cake left it's mine

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me. "

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been chatting to a lady friend who I regularly sleep with who said tonight that I am super confident in the bedroom Ladies, is confidence a turn on or a turn off?

Some men are confident how to make ALL women squirt....

Depends on the man. Confidence can be sexy or disrespectful.

To me that's arrogance. A confident man would ask if the woman wanted to then ask her to show him how best he could help her. An arrogant man just assumes he knows. "

Fair point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans "

Humans?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans

Humans? "

Not many but there’s a few

The rest are animals

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans

Humans? "

I'm using that loosely

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I've just been chatting to a lady friend who I regularly sleep with who said tonight that I am super confident in the bedroom Ladies, is confidence a turn on or a turn off?

Some men are confident how to make ALL women squirt....

Depends on the man. Confidence can be sexy or disrespectful.

To me that's arrogance. A confident man would ask if the woman wanted to then ask her to show him how best he could help her. An arrogant man just assumes he knows. "

Surely a confident man would just do what he usually does and see if it happens naturally first and if it doesn't ask if they ever do squirt and if so what usually helps make it happen

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans

Humans?

Not many but there’s a few

The rest are animals "

I ate a whole packet of biscuits at breakfast

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans "

Yup, and some hide it at all costs. It's off putting and/or pitiful.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Having the confidence to say you're unsure, nervous or to express vulnerability is good too.

I'd much rather see a degree of vulnerability. That's the main difference between confidence and bravado, to me.

Everyone is vulnerable, we're all humans

Humans?

Not many but there’s a few

The rest are animals "

https://youtu.be/xat1GVnl8-k

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