FabSwingers.com forum: Leaving to come back

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever left fab?

You’ve done the profile hiding, sticking to forums, making your profile basic, all the things to avoid leaving when you know you really should….

How long after you left did you return?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have left twice before.

Sometimes I can be impulsive but normally I just hit overload and need a time out.

If I hide it then the temptation is to look.

I’m very black or white in life and all or nothing

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

I left for a 4 year relationship. He wasn't open... which was fine.

Came back, met my now husband... we're both still here

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Never had the impulse to leave. Sometimes go into hibernation when I get bored of busy with life. That's what the hide profile thing is for right?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah loads of times. Never regretted it. I always knew I’d probably come back. Once I’ve had enough I’ve had enough. Never been bothered about losing veris so I just go every now and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left about two years ago. Came back for the sex not gonna lie.

Forums are exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve left loads of times, only twice as Dan though. Most of my other incarnations only ever lasted a couple of weeks though, flying visits when I was bored!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left a couple of times, with a 4 year gap between return.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I left for 4/5 months.

Realised after breaking contact with someone that it was their constant negativity about Fab that was getting me down as opposed to Fab itself getting me down. Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah loads of times. Never regretted it. I always knew I’d probably come back. Once I’ve had enough I’ve had enough. Never been bothered about losing veris so I just go every now and then. "

I think the veri thing is whats giving me pause for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left just as the pandemic hit, didn't see the point in staying when I was still being bombarded with messages to meet.

Back now hoping to find someone more long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left 4 times.

I'll no doubt leave again, then come back.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've left twice I think.

Maybe three times.

I come back when I need more cock,(or if I have too much to drink one night and think it's a great idea).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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im back phew

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been on long

Might not be on to much longer

Had meet today in Colchester

Only a social coffee and chat

Was really nice

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We have left a couple of times over the years, its ashame thinking back as we had quite an established profile but looking forward to building it up again

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yeah loads of times. Never regretted it. I always knew I’d probably come back. Once I’ve had enough I’ve had enough. Never been bothered about losing veris so I just go every now and then.

I think the veri thing is whats giving me pause for thought. "

Yeah that’s the problem if you go you lose them. I prefer to go though. Then just come back when I want to. I hide a lot too but that’s coz I can’t be arsed with messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it. "

Good for you!!! You're very correct though never get those who put up status or make forum posts to announce leaving.

Suppose people like to know they’d be missed?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it. "

If I want to leave I hit the delete button and type in the box. No drama.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it.

If I want to leave I hit the delete button and type in the box. No drama."

yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a singleton I left a few times. One of those I posted in the forums so people who wanted to speak still a) knew I'd gone and b) could get another way of contacting me. I was gone a good while before I ventured back. Didn't miss it. Other times I left because I just wanted to and gave no warning. Usually impulsive. Couldn't give a monkeys what anyone thinks of that.

As a couple, we've not left at all. We don't always look at fabs though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve left 4 times I think

I just knew it was time to go ….

I have been on and off since 2008 though, so it’s allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once when changed from couples profile to going solo..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it.

Good for you!!! You're very correct though never get those who put up status or make forum posts to announce leaving.

Suppose people like to know they’d be missed? "

Guess so …..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’ve left 4 times I think

I just knew it was time to go ….

I have been on and off since 2008 though, so it’s allowed "

Yeah but when you decide to go you GO! And you don’t return for months until you’re ready to come back.

Some just do it in a fit of anger/jealousy/rage/hate/pissed off …..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah left before when I just couldn't be bothered, know when I hide my profile I come back on being nosey.

Was thinking of leaving again but I've started using the forums now and it's gotten fun again.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve deleted once.. but I often just don’t log in for months at a time. I prefer it that way. My close mates know how to get hold of me so it’s no biggie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it.

Good for you!!! You're very correct though never get those who put up status or make forum posts to announce leaving.

Suppose people like to know they’d be missed?

Guess so …..

not me though. I’d just go. No fuss

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I haven’t felt a need to leave … yet

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

I have left once quite recently, then come back about 3 months later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never left. I think if it's getting too much then I just take a break, If I felt the need to leave it would be permanent.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I haven’t felt a need to leave … yet

Now you would be missed if you did but you can’t

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I left for about 4 or 5 years. A lot of shite in-between brought me back.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I haven’t felt a need to leave … yet

Now you would be missed if you did but you can’t

I won’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t felt a need to leave … yet

Now you would be missed if you did but you can’t

It should be against the law for you and Babs to leave!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I haven’t felt a need to leave … yet

Now you would be missed if you did but you can’t

It should be against the law for you and Babs to leave!"

Lol good thing we all communicate beyond fab then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just hide if I’ve had enough…. I’m not that dramatic that I need to delete and create a fuss over it.

If I want to leave I hit the delete button and type in the box. No drama."

Exactly. I have left 3 or 4 times. Never announce my departure or my arrival back. Nothing dramatic about it. I just don't need fab in my life at those times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven’t felt a need to leave … yet

Now you would be missed if you did but you can’t

It should be against the law for you and Babs to leave!

Lol good thing we all communicate beyond fab then

That may be true however you are still never allowed to leave!

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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I leave if I'm in a commited relationship and they are not interested in the lifestyle.

I regularly hide my profile and lurk about in secret

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I deleted my old couples profile when we split many years ago, and my original single profile when I wanted to avoid a nutjack. Now I just hide my profile when I'm fed up with it, mainly because I couldn't be arsed setting a new profile up if I decided to come back, and partly because I like my username and wouldn't want anyone to steal it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a few profiles over the years, I tend to leave when I’m bored with fab rather than hide my profile because I always assume I’ll never be back.

I’m not troubled by losing verifications, they aren’t so important to me.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

3 times I think.

I left for a relationship one of those times. I won’t leave again though unless it really is for good. I like my username too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and pondering doing it again

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Local to me is a woman who joined Fab for the 6th time om Monday of this week, she left on the Tuesday, rejoined on the Wednesday and has left again today, all in the space of 5 weeks.

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

If my interest level drops I just don't log - sometimes for months at a time ..

Might try the hiding thing next time but not sure how hidden you really are?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Nope, this is my first profile on here.

I have times where I don't bother logging in, but I've never been arsed to delete my profile. I'm not sure I've ever bothered deleting a profile off any site I've used.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I never left and i never had another profile, sometimes i can be weeks or months out from fabs but is due the fact sometimes i work 6 days week 12h shifts and all i just want is sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never left the site, do sometimes think about giving up on the forums, some very interesting posts though.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I've never deleted my profile. I sometimes have a break for a few weeks or months, but not left fully. It's good to know I can just come back when or if I want to.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I've hidden my profile for a couple of months needed a fab break, but haven't got to the point where I want to delete my profile yet.

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By *tinerant scribeMan
over a year ago

County Durham

Yes, because I don't normally live in the UK and it's not as useful elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deleted my old profile during covid as did not see the point of being here

Now try to engage a bit more in forums while I see if any meets may happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on my 4th profile.. cba, delete, repeat

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I left once ,for a few months in 2014 when I had a lot doing on.not gone since ,just hide myself now when I get fed up .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah left a few times over the years. Though can't say I've ever announced I'm leaving. As soon as I don't see a point in staying i'll leave again. To probably then come back again.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

This is my 4th profile since joining 5 years ago. I deleted the first due to an extremely bad experience on my first meet but joined again about 6 months later. That only lasted a couple of months and I left again because it wasn't for me.

Came back a year later and that profile was well verified and lasted 18 months but I hid it and didn't log in for almost a year because of some normal fab drama. Within weeks of coming back I deleted it and lost the 20+ veries.

Half of those had already left the site and the others were all social veries from people I hadn't spoken to since meeting so it was no great loss.

This profile has the longest life span so far and I've no plans to leave or hide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I left in 2016 and returned last June

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