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"I seem quite good at it as it happens "Teach me how please | |||
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I am very good at letting go though. | |||
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"Ahhh Damn - I thought this was a Frozen sing-a-long thread
I am very good at letting go though."Sorry false advertising my bad. | |||
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"Depends on the reason for letting go I guess, I've cut people out quite easily if they've taken me for granted or taken more than they've given. Others have just drifted away, gone in a different direction with their lives. " I do have a point where I'm like nope that's enough. But I am bad at thinking I'm being melodramatic, which is quite possibly true on occasion | |||
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"There would always be a reason so I’m fine with it. Otherwise we wouldn’t be letting go I suppose. " I need to be more logical, I'm far too emotional with decision making i think. Once I have decided to let go, I've never regretted it though. | |||
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"I tend to be very forgiving of friends, maybe because I have few “true” friends that I really trust.. Having said that, I have cut out a few from my life for persistently crossing boundaries and poor behaviour " See I'm a bit too forgiving but I will cut people out. Have to ever let someone back in after you've cut them out? | |||
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"There would always be a reason so I’m fine with it. Otherwise we wouldn’t be letting go I suppose. I need to be more logical, I'm far too emotional with decision making i think. Once I have decided to let go, I've never regretted it though. " That’s good though x | |||
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"I dont have that switch in my brain to just abandon people to fate and forget them and stop caring and my loyalty would never allow it over the last few years iv seen too many close people die on me who il never get to talk to or see again without cutting off the living i will always be there for them thats who i am and always will be if i loved you in any way then im here for you you are family to me "Now I'm emotional. | |||
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"I dont have that switch in my brain to just abandon people to fate and forget them and stop caring and my loyalty would never allow it over the last few years iv seen too many close people die on me who il never get to talk to or see again without cutting off the living i will always be there for them thats who i am and always will be if i loved you in any way then im here for you you are family to me "Virtual hug from me, I hear you and been there and understand | |||
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"There would always be a reason so I’m fine with it. Otherwise we wouldn’t be letting go I suppose. I need to be more logical, I'm far too emotional with decision making i think. Once I have decided to let go, I've never regretted it though. That’s good though x" Lol just wish it didn't take me so long to get there | |||
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"I dont have that switch in my brain to just abandon people to fate and forget them and stop caring and my loyalty would never allow it over the last few years iv seen too many close people die on me who il never get to talk to or see again without cutting off the living i will always be there for them thats who i am and always will be if i loved you in any way then im here for you you are family to me
Virtual hug from me, I hear you and been there and understand "its ok im not sad but if i take a rogue booby to the head il add it to my concussion test  | |||
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"I dont have that switch in my brain to just abandon people to fate and forget them and stop caring and my loyalty would never allow it over the last few years iv seen too many close people die on me who il never get to talk to or see again without cutting off the living i will always be there for them thats who i am and always will be if i loved you in any way then im here for you you are family to me
Now I'm emotional."no need the beauty of being there is i dont have to do anything until i do | |||
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"I seem quite good at it as it happens
Teach me how please "I dont actively do anything. I think it's my personality | |||
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"I tend to be very forgiving of friends, maybe because I have few “true” friends that I really trust.. Having said that, I have cut out a few from my life for persistently crossing boundaries and poor behaviour See I'm a bit too forgiving but I will cut people out. Have to ever let someone back in after you've cut them out? " I did once, it went badly and I soon realised why I cut them out initially | |||
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"I dont have that switch in my brain to just abandon people to fate and forget them and stop caring and my loyalty would never allow it over the last few years iv seen too many close people die on me who il never get to talk to or see again without cutting off the living i will always be there for them thats who i am and always will be if i loved you in any way then im here for you you are family to me
Virtual hug from me, I hear you and been there and understand its ok im not sad but if i take a rogue booby to the head il add it to my concussion test "No worries I can do that  | |||
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"I’m a great believer in people coming into your life for a reason, some of them are supposed to be there forever and some for specific timeframes. Often in friendships/relationships we are reluctant to let people go because subconsciously we rely on them to provide us with something, love/time/support/security etc however when these friendships end we look back and realise that we need to give ourselves those things in order to grow I think friendship is a wonderful thing and should be treasured, it’s like anything - don’t expect someone to ‘fit’ through all stages of your life, people change, circumstances /marriage/kids/locations are all factors in the breakdown of friendships none the less they all mean something. I’d try and look at the positive times and smile because our time, however long made me happy xx" This post is beautiful and you have no idea how much I needed to read something like this right now. Thank you x | |||
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"Jesus you don’t reply to a message in a few days and next thing you’re being “let go”….. Its a harsh harsh world out there "Aye isn't just, who are you?  | |||
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"I’ll give people the benefit of the doubt and chance after chance if we are friends. But if it gets to the point where I feel like I’m damaging myself by keeping them in my life I cut them off. I never look back. "Yeah I get that, I think I may be bad at acknowledging when someone is toxic. | |||
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"I’m a great believer in people coming into your life for a reason, some of them are supposed to be there forever and some for specific timeframes. Often in friendships/relationships we are reluctant to let people go because subconsciously we rely on them to provide us with something, love/time/support/security etc however when these friendships end we look back and realise that we need to give ourselves those things in order to grow I think friendship is a wonderful thing and should be treasured, it’s like anything - don’t expect someone to ‘fit’ through all stages of your life, people change, circumstances /marriage/kids/locations are all factors in the breakdown of friendships none the less they all mean something. I’d try and look at the positive times and smile because our time, however long made me happy xx" Beautiful and wise words as always. I agree with treasuring precious moments | |||
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"Jesus you don’t reply to a message in a few days and next thing you’re being “let go”….. Its a harsh harsh world out there
Aye isn't just, who are you? "/cry | |||
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"I’m quite brutal, and if someone is toxic to my life, I’ll drop ‘em in a heartbeat, and walk away. " That's something I find difficult, maybe because I'm quite indecisive sometimes | |||
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"I feel no guilt if the person has brought any negativity or toxicity to my life … absolutely none. If a friendship has taken a turn due to mistakes etc .. it can be tougher " What happens if the mistakes have a toxic effect on you? This is what I kind of struggle with, I don't think they are being toxic on purpose if that makes sense? | |||
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"Personally I’m quite brutal, certainly don’t / wouldn’t loose sleep " I need to learn some brutality I think | |||
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"My close friend I used to work with and socialise with outside of work was in invited to my wedding..after accepting then arranged /agreed to a holiday with her son and said I'm not coming now. I never spoke to her since that was 9 years ago . Do I regret it no . Am I the asshole???" Most definitely not  | |||
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"Tbf our inner circle is so small it's not happened, everyone else is regarded as a acquaintance so there is not a need to have the letting go feelings, a natural fade away is perfectly acceptable. This question did make me realise that I have probably lost out of a few good friendships, because my mistrust level is so high. Definitely something I need to work on x" I get that, sometimes it's hard to let people in. Sometimes it's hard to find the balance after trust has been broken in the past x | |||
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"If someone lies to me or does something bad that I can't agree with , cut off is clean and quick... Drifting apart, I am still there if they need me... These days I tend to be the same whatever the attachment/relationship" That's really interesting there's no difference. Guess it's a mindset and knowing your boundaries. I admire that | |||
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"I’ve got really good at letting them go. I’m sick of being the one to do all the texting, arranging to catch up etc… so I’ve stopped. And heard nothing from some for years J x" Oh I did this with a "friend" unless I made contact they didn't bother. Felt too onesided, and I've left it drift. I would still speak to them if they contacted me, but I doubt they will | |||
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"For me once it's over it's over and I rarely look back with regret or sadness. " I am pretty much this as well.There is always a reason a friendship or relationship ends. | |||
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"I’ve let go of two female friendships in the last couple of years. Both permanently and both for the right reasons. I decided I was worth more than the constant head ache of being friends with these people. I was putting way more into one of the friendships than I ever got out and the final straw was when I reached out to this person for mental health help and she completely ignored me. This person had been my very best friend for 7 years and I’d supported her with her mental health issues and massively supported her business (running it for her) when she couldn’t. The other I couldn’t stand by and allow her to treat her partner (and realised she’d treated previous partners) the way she was - DV. I called the police and then walked away. That was a 20 year friendship. She was like a sister to me. I’ve felt so much better since closing the doors on those two. A massive weight has been lifted. It wasn’t easy either time, but needs mist and like I said, I decided I was worth more. x x x" Glad you did let go and move on. It was clearly the right decision for you. | |||
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"My close friend I used to work with and socialise with outside of work was in invited to my wedding..after accepting then arranged /agreed to a holiday with her son and said I'm not coming now. I never spoke to her since that was 9 years ago . Do I regret it no . Am I the asshole??? Most definitely not "Thanks glad you agree. I am the kind of person to make a clean break if something goes wrong..life's to short not to have genuine people around you who care about you. | |||
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"I’ve let go of two female friendships in the last couple of years. Both permanently and both for the right reasons. I decided I was worth more than the constant head ache of being friends with these people. I was putting way more into one of the friendships than I ever got out and the final straw was when I reached out to this person for mental health help and she completely ignored me. This person had been my very best friend for 7 years and I’d supported her with her mental health issues and massively supported her business (running it for her) when she couldn’t. The other I couldn’t stand by and allow her to treat her partner (and realised she’d treated previous partners) the way she was - DV. I called the police and then walked away. That was a 20 year friendship. She was like a sister to me. I’ve felt so much better since closing the doors on those two. A massive weight has been lifted. It wasn’t easy either time, but needs mist and like I said, I decided I was worth more. x x x Glad you did let go and move on. It was clearly the right decision for you. "Absolutely! Never been happier and more content! X | |||
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"I feel no guilt if the person has brought any negativity or toxicity to my life … absolutely none. If a friendship has taken a turn due to mistakes etc .. it can be tougher What happens if the mistakes have a toxic effect on you? This is what I kind of struggle with, I don't think they are being toxic on purpose if that makes sense? " | |||
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"I’m a great believer in people coming into your life for a reason, some of them are supposed to be there forever and some for specific timeframes. Often in friendships/relationships we are reluctant to let people go because subconsciously we rely on them to provide us with something, love/time/support/security etc however when these friendships end we look back and realise that we need to give ourselves those things in order to grow I think friendship is a wonderful thing and should be treasured, it’s like anything - don’t expect someone to ‘fit’ through all stages of your life, people change, circumstances /marriage/kids/locations are all factors in the breakdown of friendships none the less they all mean something. I’d try and look at the positive times and smile because our time, however long made me happy xx This post is beautiful and you have no idea how much I needed to read something like this right now. Thank you x" Aw you’re very welcome lovely. Xx | |||
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