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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

"

Being over your age range, and those of many others, it’s started to dawn on me that maybe you do.

You are a long way off that age btw

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Naaahhhhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

Being over your age range, and those of many others, it’s started to dawn on me that maybe you do.

You are a long way off that age btw"

Ah I think I've hit it

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By *xplorer666Man
over a year ago

Bolton

As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women "

I'm sorry but this reply has cracked me up!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women "

And yet

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

just be me, doesn't matter about age :P

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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Your still fuckable

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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No. Control the controllables. My own behaviour is controllable. Age is not controllable (once you've changed it once on here!)

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Undateable - yes. Too set in your ways, know what you want, wont settle or compromise, have your own nuances

Unfuckable - depends. Its about finding someone you want to fuck that wants to fuck you. If what you want isn’t compatible with what wants you, and you are not willing to address that, then your options remain low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women "

Wise words from a lady of ... 24

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Nope... I feel way sexier now than I have ever felt I have been, before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think only Smiths fans fit into this catagory

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope... I feel way sexier now than I have ever felt I have been, before "

Go you x

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

40 used to seem like the main cutoff age for lots of profiles...then suddenly 45 was the new 40- coincidently, just after i turned 46

While you're always fuckable on here, it will slowly shift towards the interest just being mainly from those you rather not

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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You shouldn't accept either if you are capable live life!!

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women "

We’re old/elderly …

For some reason no one looked at me in my 20s… and now I am having the time of my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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Yes you do.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

We sincerely hope not! We only discovered each other and the lifestyle relatively recently.. Be sad to think we missed the boat..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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Never. No matter how much rejection we experience. There is ALWAYS someone who is attracted to you regardless xx

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By *an de LyonMan
over a year ago

welling


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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Maybe you get to a certain point in life rather than a certain age, when you’ve had so many knock backs and disappointments. But that is generally when life surprises you…from personal experience anyway…

From your profile you are definitely very fuckable though

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We'll have to let you know as and when we teach that stage of our lives. In the meantime, people are still interested in us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe yes if in a dead-end relationship, but otherwise most definitely not since plenty fish in the sea keen to be lured by bait...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naaa il always be worth a ride until i get arthritis in my fingers then il be useless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep lol

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Oh god yes. Seems like you hit a certain age, and your put in the elderly box. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, More the opposite it’s easy if you really put your mind to it. Insecurities are universal we just have to realise that

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Nope I don't think so. Well maybe when I'm older but at the moment I am enjoying life.

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By *arco_pMan
over a year ago

Hednesford


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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in my view if there is an attraction between two people, age is just a number, its that sexual desire xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Undatable

Unfuckable

Unlikeable

Unloveable

All the unables

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Undatable

Unfuckable

Unlikeable

Unloveable

All the unables

"

Unattainable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Undatable

Unfuckable

Unlikeable

Unloveable

All the unables

Unattainable "

At least you're not unfashionable

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By *iPythonMan
over a year ago

In my pants

Finally a thread I can resonate with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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I can't believe you're referring to yourself here? A quick look through your pictures and you are both very dateable and extremely fuckable.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"Undatable

Unfuckable

Unlikeable

Unloveable

All the unables

"

These are untrue-able

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Why oh why are so many people so down on themselves on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both? "

Checking your photos, you are no way at that age.... Yet...

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think the optimum age for the site it around 40. As we have gotten older it has become harder to attract those that we would like to meet and a lot of those who express a wish to meet us are not to our taste. It is the way things are as we all age.

We have already set our leaving date for when Alexis hits 60.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fuckably awesome. And will remain so until I’m pushing up the daisies.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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I won't accept that I am too old for either. I'm going down fighting and so should you OP. You are neither of those "un-ables". Forget dating as its just to stressful, just fuck and get what you want. You never know, you might find the right person for dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, at 57 Judging by the lack of attention I get from ladies and couples, I’m on the swinging scrap heap

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By *art time deviantsCouple
over a year ago

The mighty fax


"I think the optimum age for the site it around 40. As we have gotten older it has become harder to attract those that we would like to meet and a lot of those who express a wish to meet us are not to our taste. It is the way things are as we all age.

We have already set our leaving date for when Alexis hits 60."

This is 100 percent true..... once you approach 50 the pool of people looking for your age shrinks drastically as a guy or a couple....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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I damn right to refuse it, and I’m not going out with out a fight!!!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Why oh why are so many people so down on themselves on here?"

I agree! It’s draining. It’s all I see on here lately and why I’m not on here much.

Op - I’ve no idea. I would suggest try and be more positive. If you think like that you may come across like that which probably doesn’t help x

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

I was lead to believe I was by a rather negative person.

Turns out she was wrong. A lot of it is in your head, positive thoughts and all that jazz.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't agree that age has anything to do with it. I didn't join here until i was 52 and age has never been an issue or even a topic for discussion.

If you convince yourself that people aren't interested because of your age or any other issue and have decided before chatting to them that they won't be interested, that level of negativity will carry through into each and every conversation and that in itself will be the reason people aren't interested.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

No one is undateable or unfuckable, they might just have to dig very deep into the trash to find someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't have thought so.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I feel both

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women

We’re old/elderly …

For some reason no one looked at me in my 20s… and now I am having the time of my life! "

You are in no way old, or elderly!

I’m pretty sure that people looked when you were in your 20s too, but maybe you just didn’t see them?

Regardless, enjoy now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Undatable...yes

Unfuckable... Im not there yet ( I don't think)

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

No, life always surprises you. I'm getting more invites to play now than I ever did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm five years older than you and I think I've had more interest since I turned 50 than I ever had. So not unfuckable it would appear even if I feel that way sometimes.

I think I may be undateable but I doubt it's my age that's the problem.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Absolutely not.

There are always people on the same boat in your own age bracket.. we age together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not.

There are always people on the same boat in your own age bracket.. we age together. "

Agree with you same what i was about to post there always somebody out there for us and maybe even more than one if we lucky lol

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yea pretty much.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would disagree, I'm 45, that's obvious on here but in real life I look a bit younger, but it's made no difference to my "appeal" and I've probably been more active in the last year than say my late 30s.

As long as they don't go on about it, I've embraced the "older woman" thing. I do like setting them straight on a few things, but I see it as an opportunity to educate and learn.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

I’m about 4 years away from it

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

We would definitely have missed the boat then! Whilst we are not looking for 'dates'. We have great times when we are out and as much fun and/or fucking as anyone else.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

I am a male and aged 68. There are very few females on here looking for someone my age. Yes I do get some profile views . Sometimes send message or even get a message. I do live in hope though. It is a numbers game on here for males. So my age is at the bottom of requirements etc for most females.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’ve thrown myself on the scarp heap

Up to a few years ago I thought I was a sex goddess… now not so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems I’m heading that way

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford


"I’ve thrown myself on the scarp heap

Up to a few years ago I thought I was a sex goddess… now not so much "

You will always be a goddess Sandybeach

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I’ve thrown myself on the scarp heap

Up to a few years ago I thought I was a sex goddess… now not so much

You will always be a goddess Sandybeach "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel both "

You are beautiful, with awesome boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it "

Couldn’t agree more at the moment. My confidence about how I look is soaring, and with it, seemingly, comes attention from others.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

It seems I’m undateable, but I’m told I’m still very fuckable

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By *orny guy 6630Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

Going by my record on here, I'm completely unfuckable lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it "

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on. "

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else


"Undateable - yes. Too set in your ways, know what you want, wont settle or compromise, have your own nuances

Unfuckable - depends. Its about finding someone you want to fuck that wants to fuck you. If what you want isn’t compatible with what wants you, and you are not willing to address that, then your options remain low."

This is a great answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

Think already there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

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But you're neither, i can prove it to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow."

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

There'll always be someone who'll fuck me. Dating is a whole different ball game.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I certainly am, but Debra is very much in demand! It’s just the way life is.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I wouldn't look on here for a potential boyfriend.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?"

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?"

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell. "

Spoiler alert!!!!!

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell. "

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

Spoiler alert!!!!!"

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women

And yet "

Please, for the love of god don’t say you think you’re ok

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester


"As a woman you will never reach an age where a guy doesnt want to fuck you. Plenty of guys love old women

And yet

Please, for the love of god don’t say you think you’re ok "

*old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief? "

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense. "

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity. "

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable?

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Is 33 too young to be feeling like I’m undateable/unfuckable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is 33 too young to be feeling like I’m undateable/unfuckable?

"

Yes. FGS man it's ridiculously young! It's this bloody site which makes people feel that way.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable? "

Because you can't or won't help yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable?

Because you can't or won't help yourself?"

Why does it bother you if someone else has little confidence? I see people all the time on here who struggle with it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Find your way and make the life you want

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable?

Because you can't or won't help yourself?

Why does it bother you if someone else has little confidence? I see people all the time on here who struggle with it. "

We obviously need fixing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable?

Because you can't or won't help yourself?

Why does it bother you if someone else has little confidence? I see people all the time on here who struggle with it.

We obviously need fixing "

Is that it? Huh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have friends who are in there late 70s who helped us get into swinging 28+ years ago they are still meeting and playing regular by regular i mean weekly they both look in there early 60s see see them in clubs often .... we also know of a 84 year old lady who vists one club and she brill very picky but always seems to get who she want .... age is just a number dont forget as you get older those around you do too so if your a swinger and know loads then you carry on...

its only a problem for the guys for the same reason for most guys the sheer number of you yeah sure alot of women and couples will give in but also a lot will carry on ...

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable?

Because you can't or won't help yourself?

Why does it bother you if someone else has little confidence? I see people all the time on here who struggle with it. "

Coming from someone with low confidence like myself, maybe I'm hoping that what I'm trying to do for me isn't just a load of rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet and not intending to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, I just accept that the number of people that find me undateable/unfuckable may reduce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single guy nearly 60 I realise the options are fewer and having my own prefs thrown in too almost impossible

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island


"Is 33 too young to be feeling like I’m undateable/unfuckable?

Yes. FGS man it's ridiculously young! It's this bloody site which makes people feel that way. "

To be fair, in my personal experience it isn’t just this site, my confidence was shot to pieces when an ex decided to get abusive, so really working on moving past that and dealing with it.

That and realising my own self worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on.

It's not an instant fix for sure but there has has to be a turning point, you've got to start believing and then the rest can follow.

Why do you have to start believing if you think it's false?

If you can't believe in yourself, who else will?

Why should it matter if other people believe in me? I'm not Tinkerbell.

This purely about confidence though. How can you be confident without belief?

I just answered your q. Why do I need other people to believe in me? So it doesn't matter if I do. I see this all the time and it makes no sense.

I never said you "needed" others to believe in you but if you are negative then others will feel your negativity.

Yes, I know. That's why I said I am undateable?

Because you can't or won't help yourself?

Why does it bother you if someone else has little confidence? I see people all the time on here who struggle with it.

Coming from someone with low confidence like myself, maybe I'm hoping that what I'm trying to do for me isn't just a load of rubbish. "

Ah. Well what works for one person may not work for another. I hope your approach helps you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is 33 too young to be feeling like I’m undateable/unfuckable?

Yes. FGS man it's ridiculously young! It's this bloody site which makes people feel that way.

To be fair, in my personal experience it isn’t just this site, my confidence was shot to pieces when an ex decided to get abusive, so really working on moving past that and dealing with it.

That and realising my own self worth. "

Ah, I commiserate with your experience . I am four years out of it myself and it still has an effect. Turning off their voice in your head is tough! I wish you well with it

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I think I'm dateable but fuckable? Doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For what it's worth I think it's the negative mindset that makes someone harder to date and less attractive. I don't get people who are so down on themselves. It's all in your hands to change it

I agree with you. I am very down on myself and I can see that makes me less attractive. I'm not sure why you don't get it though? There are many reasons that people have low self esteem. Often going back years and years. Not simple to fix - it's a not a switch you turn on. "

I don't get it as much as negative people probably don't get why I'm so up myself. That's how it works I think.

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By *ompyjcMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Based on here I'd say I'm both but I seemed to do alright the past. Who knows, it's all about taste

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Don’t think it’s my age that makes me unfuckable.

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

"

You must be digging for compliments surely? Because I don't think you are at an age where you have to start worrying. Assuming there isn't some deep seated cuntery going on beneath your eminently fuckable exterior you don't have to worry about either and then it wouldn't be age related anyway. An inability to get laid or have/sustain a relationship has nothing to do with age. I would say in fact, the quality of both has increased with age, for me personally.

My grandmother died suddenly at eighty one, her biggest complaint towards the end was that her recent illness had caused the longest dry spell of her life, a whole month! She should be an inspiration to everyone who wants to age disgracefully /salute

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By *axmanaterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sadly it is dawning on me that I may be both

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Dont need to get to that age. ..here after a wile no replys lol meaning no f...lol

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

"

Throughout my adult life I've alternated between the two; I think confidence and general happiness during any particular point in your life affects both.

I doubt age has much to do with it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

"

I’ve been told a few times recently I’m undateable but definitely not unfukkable.

You just gotta really be into women and enjoy it all , not just sex but the whole journey, if you lose the excitement and energy for that, you will lose your mojo & for sure you will become unfuckable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at any age you can do both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as my profile says 'woman' there will always be men who ask to fuck me.

Only the word 'woman'. Everything else is irrelevant.

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

I always feel this way and when I get a meet or dates and people want me I get nervous cos find strange anyone would even want me.

When I do get meet or anything I probably work harder to please and pleasure cos am greatful anyone would want this old fat guy.

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

Being over your age range, and those of many others, it’s started to dawn on me that maybe you do.

You are a long way off that age btw

Ah I think I've hit it "

There no way you have hot that age op

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth


"Undatable

Unfuckable

Unlikeable

Unloveable

All the unables

"

Definitely none of those your hot sexy and much more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Undateable no, just not gone looking properly

Unfuckable, seems that way recently due to being overweight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you get to a certain age and accept that your both?

You must be digging for compliments surely? Because I don't think you are at an age where you have to start worrying. Assuming there isn't some deep seated cuntery going on beneath your eminently fuckable exterior you don't have to worry about either and then it wouldn't be age related anyway. An inability to get laid or have/sustain a relationship has nothing to do with age. I would say in fact, the quality of both has increased with age, for me personally.

My grandmother died suddenly at eighty one, her biggest complaint towards the end was that her recent illness had caused the longest dry spell of her life, a whole month! She should be an inspiration to everyone who wants to age disgracefully /salute"

Definitely didn't start this thread for compliments, it was a genuine question!

Low confidence/self esteem/negativity has a lot to do with it and over the years I have worked on it , I'm still working on it, since I posted I've thought about the undateable/ unfuckable bit.

When it comes to the sex side of guess im picky and I've learnt that I can enjoy sex and should enjoy it when was in my 20s had meaningless 1 night stands and I don't want that crap sex again. So I've realised .not unfuckable I just am a fussy fucker lol

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

More than age we think it all depends on how you look after yourself and present yourself as well as what people on the site are looking for.

The ‘interesting’ thing is that most profiles have bigger leeway on lower ages than higher ages. Someone whose 45 might have 25-50 as their age range where they’d meet someone 20 years younger but only 5 years older. That seems very common.

Everyone is fuckable it’s just finding the right people.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

No there is someone for everyone. You just need to find them. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been both

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