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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

Seem to be the problem solver for everything on fab, someone comes along with a problem and the answer is always go to a club.

Do clubs solve their problems, have club's solved your problems or have they had the opposite result.

Just curious have a great day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started out here with Mrs S, all we were told was “go to clubs”.

Well, we did, and hated it. Never been in one since.

Like everything else, what works for one, or several, may not necessarily work for others.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I usually will say clubs or group socials

but that’s only answering posts when people are asking how do they get verifications and I think that’s probably the best way to go about it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are the best way to meet a lot of people in a short space of time. It's good to get a vibe of someone in person rather than not knowing who's going to turn up on a private meet. There are not for everyone but are a great place overall.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Essentially swingers clubs and parties are the social places to meet swingers. In some cases I'd imagine it would make some people baulk, but that depends on whether they are looking for a quick fuck or an experience.

Nothing worse than a foof hungry man at a fab pub social

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never been to one so can't comment on that part but it's only a possible solution if the geography is right.

There is no club scene over here. There are only a couple of clubs and they are only open once or twice a month for events.

They are invitation only with no walk-ins allowed so not really an option to get your foot on the ladder.

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By *leanandkeenMan
over a year ago

jarrow

Clubs are good as it’s all like minded people with the added advantage of not having to fork out for hotels or have strangers at your home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the standard you won't know unless you try idea?

Clubs offer a safety aspect for meets, and the opportunity to bale out easily if someone doesn't float your boat. It's a good way of connecting with people who may live outside your area that you wouldn't meet normally, it offers up the opportunity for engaging in potential group stuff that can be a nightmare to arrange otherwise. There's the option for those that like to watch but don't want to join in.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I've never been to one so can't comment on that part but it's only a possible solution if the geography is right.

There is no club scene over here. There are only a couple of clubs and they are only open once or twice a month for events.

They are invitation only with no walk-ins allowed so not really an option to get your foot on the ladder.

The vast majority of group socials here are only open to recently verified people. There are some that advertise as open to anyone but that in itself creates an issue as it's impossible to vet who attends those and there have been a number of reporters turn up as well as a few fabbers who are banned from official events because of their predatory behaviour.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Seem to be the problem solver for everything on fab, someone comes along with a problem and the answer is always go to a club.

Do clubs solve their problems, have club's solved your problems or have they had the opposite result.

Just curious have a great day.

From my personal experiences of visiting several clubs as a solo guy, I would say the club scene represents a hugely disappointing section of my life. For all the bs you will read in the forums about “everyone in clubs is friendly, you’ll have an amazing time”, I cannot ever agree, and would never recommend the club scene to a mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seem to be the problem solver for everything on fab, someone comes along with a problem and the answer is always go to a club.

Do clubs solve their problems, have club's solved your problems or have they had the opposite result.

Just curious have a great day.

Opposite affect!

She and I split about 18 months ago, she started going to a club with her new fb. They finished, me n her tried making things work, I attended a couple of times, she felt awkward as everyone knows her prev fb. I never really felt welcomed. Had a massive impact on us.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"Essentially swingers clubs and parties are the social places to meet swingers. In some cases I'd imagine it would make some people baulk, but that depends on whether they are looking for a quick fuck or an experience.

Nothing worse than a foof hungry man at a fab pub social

Don’t say that

we’re going to our first social this weekend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waste of money unless you go as a couple - then you can fuck each other on a sticky bed if you don't fancy anyone.

If I was a man I wouldn't go on my own. Stupidly expensive for a sniff of pussy and to be ignored/ glared at.

Woohooo!

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By *tinerant scribeMan
over a year ago

County Durham

If I go to a club on my own my interaction is generally limited but still enjoyable. You just need to know what that come-hither looks means: it could be "feel free to touch" or " go ahead and kiss me" or "have a bite". I have fucked in a gang bang, but it's not particularly exciting.

If I go with a woman fabber, it's totally different.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A few recent group socials have been 70 percent single women with only about 10 percent single men.

The majority of the women were sitting together and spent the entire night holding court to the couples and one or two men already in their circle who approached them.

There was no attempt to greet newbies or make them feel welcome.

I can only imagine clubs would be similar.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

We've been to many clubs now.. And after another underwhelming experience last weekend, we have agreed that we will avoid them for a while, unless we arrange to meet people there. Reason: We simply haven't found anybody that we found overwhelmingly attractive/clicked with ever at a club, and we end up suing rooms and just having sex together.. Now, we enjoy being watched etc.. But it isn't a novelty any more.. And we have great sex all the time at home, without driving for 45 minutes... Clubs serve a purpose, and we aren't completely throwing them on the bonfire, yet!

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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I would say it would depend on which club..I’ve been to 2 and in my experience I would say I e was a lot better than the other….although this might not directly answer the question…it’s whatever works for that person/couple

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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"A few recent group socials have been 70 percent single women with only about 10 percent single men.

The majority of the women were sitting together and spent the entire night holding court to the couples and one or two men already in their circle who approached them.

There was no attempt to greet newbies or make them feel welcome.

I can only imagine clubs would be similar. "

Not all clubs are the same

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I doubt I'd find what I'm looking for at a club.

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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Nothing worse than a foof hungry man at a fab pub social

Don’t say that

we’re going to our first social this weekend! "

Don’t be put off…all clubs/socials are different I’ve been to 2 clubs one was definitely better than the other…my advice go with an open mind and no expectations am sure it will be enjoyable xx

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

"Waste of money unless you go as a couple - then you can fuck each other on a sticky bed if you don't fancy anyone.

If I was a man I wouldn't go on my own. Stupidly expensive for a sniff of pussy and to be ignored/ glared at.

Woohooo!"

Depends, yes they can be disproportionately pricey for a guy and yes it can feel a little bit awkward at first if you go solo without knowing anybody.

But, they are good places to meet people if you're willing to put yourself out there a bit and be confident enough to be the one to break the ice.

The upside to clubs (as opposed to online messaging) is that you can actually talk to women and show that your a decent guy rather than having your message ignored or deleted because she's so sick of the 500 additional dumb messages in her inbox saying "fancy a shag" or "send me your dirty panties" etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for those seeking gangbangs. MFFF or more obviously

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Only been to 2 on the whole mainly couples but few of the women want to share it seems the men of the couple seem eager though maybe just my experiance? X

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've been to a club but it wasn't for me and I wouldn't go back on a proper night (townhouse is my local club and does a pub quiz night that I might attend occasionally, but I wouldn't go on a normal night because I wouldn't want to have sex in a club).

I really enjoy the smaller group socials and meet a lot of people that way but it rarely turns into more than an occasional chat over a coffee. Most of my meets on here which have ended in bed came from me messaging people I fancied.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Clubs can be good but they are not for everybody. We have been to clubs and had brilliant nights but equally we have been to clubs and had poor night's. It really is down to the individual, we find that you have to go regularly so that you become a known regular otherwise clubs can seem a bit of a clique. This is down to the fact that most people in a club will know one another and so will naturally chat with them, as a new person/couple you have to make the effort to move around socialising otherwise you will be left siting in the corner feeling that clubs are not for you.

We have found clubs great for chatting and meeting people but we rarely play at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't personally think they are the solution a lot of people think they are. I've only been a couple of times and whilst I enjoyed myself and would go back, I'm not in a hurry. They aren't ever going to become the center of my social life. I think, like most things, what works for some won't work for others.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Seem to be the problem solver for everything on fab, someone comes along with a problem and the answer is always go to a club.

Do clubs solve their problems, have club's solved your problems or have they had the opposite result.

Just curious have a great day.

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It did for me... and I rarely ever meet anyone outside of them.. with the exception of socials.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It appears that clubs are expensive for a man. But I do see how it would be much better to actually meet up with people than chat and make excuses or find reasons not to meet.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The main reason for directing people to clubs I see is where people are complaining about not getting meets.

I don’t think clubs will work for shy, unconfident people who expect people to approach them.

For us clubs work for events or use of their kit, but we rarely (if ever) engage in pick up play.

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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"Clubs can be good but they are not for everybody. We have been to clubs and had brilliant nights but equally we have been to clubs and had poor night's. It really is down to the individual, we find that you have to go regularly so that you become a known regular otherwise clubs can seem a bit of a clique. This is down to the fact that most people in a club will know one another and so will naturally chat with them, as a new person/couple you have to make the effort to move around socialising otherwise you will be left siting in the corner feeling that clubs are not for you.

We have found clubs great for chatting and meeting people but we rarely play at clubs."

I found some are clickier than others…found Quest very good friendly people who are happy to chat and are helpful and polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been to any (yet). Only a lot of Tantras. And you meet so many people. And more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The main reason for directing people to clubs I see is where people are complaining about not getting meets.

I don’t think clubs will work for shy, unconfident people who expect people to approach them.

For us clubs work for events or use of their kit, but we rarely (if ever) engage in pick up play."

I think this causes an issue though. Saying people who can't get meets on here should go to clubs, is surely inferring in some people's minds that sex is guaranteed at a club......

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"I've not been to any (yet). Only a lot of Tantras. And you meet so many people. And more. "

Who was this who's disappeared?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

For me free time is precious and opportunistic. Joys of work and family life. The same goes for My Girl and us as couple too. Spark and connection are very important to me. Simply my arousal is very dependent on chemistry. That's not so easy to truly judge online. Plus factor in the online life is very fickle and no shows and ghosting are frequent. So imagine you actually meet after lots of messaging and hype. You dedicate time out of you busy schedule to meet only to find there's no connection. So not only have you lost precious time (and for some of us used up a babysitter credit) but your now in an awkward, pressured situation you need to get out off.

Now the other scenario is you use your free precious time to go to a good club night. For one you don't need no planning or organisation, you just go. Lots of opportunity and you can be a social butterfly. You meet people face to face and within a few minutes you can gauge if the chemistry is right or not. If the spark is there you can go find a place to go get physical. If its not you move on and keep looking, no big deal, no awkwardness, no drama. Plus there is the possibility of having more than one encounter in one night. And even if you've not been lucky at all in the bedroom hopefully you've had a nice social night out. And of course if you've found something that works well you can swap numbers and take it out of the club with them in the future.

That's why for me I much prefer clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why for me I much prefer clubs."

Your reasons are exactly why we only go to clubs now, when we first joined we didn't want to try them and wasted so much time with messaging dealing with fantasists, no shows and ghosting that we decided to brave the clubs...

...clubs, we meet a much wider variety of people, and they all turn up. No time wasted trying to connect to someone who if and when you meet you find there's no spark. We've never had a "bad" time at a club, a couple of disappointing times but we always learned something from the experience.

Not to say we won't meet people after messages on here, just we're not likely to be the ones sending them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to say we won't meet people after messages on here, just we're not likely to be the ones sending them.

This is every long time member of fab !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m thinking of going shhhh tomorrow on my own

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Waste of money unless you go as a couple - then you can fuck each other on a sticky bed if you don't fancy anyone.

If I was a man I wouldn't go on my own. Stupidly expensive for a sniff of pussy and to be ignored/ glared at.

Woohooo!"

I learned the hard way (no pun intended)

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Waste of money unless you go as a couple - then you can fuck each other on a sticky bed if you don't fancy anyone.

If I was a man I wouldn't go on my own. Stupidly expensive for a sniff of pussy and to be ignored/ glared at.

Woohooo!"

I would disagree to some extent based on experience and I think to an extent expectation and mindset is important too. I think we all want to swing and get laid, I get that. To me when I go alone a club is a place I can relax and enjoy. Its a safe environment with added possibilities. It's unrealistic to go with the mind set your going to get sex. Just the same as it would be unrealistic to go with that mindset anywhere else like the pub for example or getting it off here. One it's the classic ratio issue and two it's a case of finding someone your attracted to. If you want a guaranteed shag then a brothel is probably the best place for you (no judgment). But having said that I've had some great times in club and there are women and couples who are looking for single men in clubs. Your club experience had a lot to do with you as a person and I get it's not for everyone. Plus just the luck of who there at the time you go.

Price for a single male is a factor when going alone. I want a good time but don't want my pants pulled down over price. So I don't go anywhere extortionate for single guys.

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