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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Would any one be able to offer some advice on what I'm potentially doing wrong or what to improve on I've had an account on here for a few years but only now am I puting my full efforts in to join the swinging community hense no verifications, I've messaged quite a few couples and single females locally quite detailed messages including what I like about thier profile and having similar interests and also including a bit about my self I have yet to recive a single response the messages have been read and they haven't looked at my profile ethier it kind of dappens my spirits when I put alot of effort in and recive nothing back

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Hey OP, it's not easy for a multitude of reasons. Refer to this thread for some tips, amongst some of the lightheaded and jocular comments.

In essence: get yourself to some organised socials and meet people, introduce yourself and get verified.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1304084

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could you upload some pics where you look happy, maybe a wee smile. Right now you look kinda depressed and monogrammed, need a bit of life to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could you upload some pics where you look happy, maybe a wee smile. Right now you look kinda depressed and monogrammed, need a bit of life to you "

Yes that's what I wanted to say. But I didn't want to upset you.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You are very young and even younger looking, so to a lot of people you won’t appeal, as some may have children around your age.

Your messages, whilst you say are tailored to suit but if they are set out like a copy and paste message then a lot will be turned off by that.

I would say going to socials and clubs would be the best option as you can get your personality across.

Good luck

K

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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Could you upload some pics where you look happy, maybe a wee smile. Right now you look kinda depressed and monogrammed, need a bit of life to you

Yes that's what I wanted to say. But I didn't want to upset you. "

no worries you wouldn't upset me it's a learning curve for me as I'm new to this and it's great having advice off of members who have been here a while as they know what works best

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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"You are very young and even younger looking, so to a lot of people you won’t appeal, as some may have children around your age.

Your messages, whilst you say are tailored to suit but if they are set out like a copy and paste message then a lot will be turned off by that.

I would say going to socials and clubs would be the best option as you can get your personality across.

Good luck

K"

Thanks for the advice on attending soicals/ clubs, I always get people saying I look quite young not something I can change tho

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your profile could've been viewed in secret mode it's impossible to know

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Also, bear in mind that most women & couples will not show on who's viewed you as they'll be looking incognito.

Take on board the advice above & good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve e stated an aim to attend Kestrels so start with that. It’s usually more busy on a Sunday afternoon.

See how you actually feel about being involved with real people.

Do you have the social skills to chat comfortably with ladies and couples?

If you do then you could pick up some verifications which may help you.

Take some id along perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’ve e stated an aim to attend Kestrels so start with that. It’s usually more busy on a Sunday afternoon.

See how you actually feel about being involved with real people.

Do you have the social skills to chat comfortably with ladies and couples?

If you do then you could pick up some verifications which may help you.

Take some id along perhaps. "

Id? Wow he's not buying alcohol is he?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Like most single men here, you have found the reality may differ from your expectations. It's a good idea to Adjust them, to keep your esteem high.

Your profile is pleasant but could probably sell you better.

You're going to clubs, which is a great way to vet to know more people.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum


"You’ve e stated an aim to attend Kestrels so start with that. It’s usually more busy on a Sunday afternoon.

See how you actually feel about being involved with real people.

Do you have the social skills to chat comfortably with ladies and couples?

If you do then you could pick up some verifications which may help you.

Take some id along perhaps.

Id? Wow he's not buying alcohol is he? "

Clubs will require ID to prove he is 21 or over as he does look like he's in his early teens (which is not a bad thing as you get older )

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just a quick couple of questions. How many women from the age range of 18-35 do you think are on the site ?

Look at all of the younger women you know, can you imagine any of them signing up to this site ?

Women between those ages generally have more time to socialise, so any casual sex they may want they’ll be able to find out on the normal social scene.

My advice do the same I can’t see you getting much success on this site. You’re young and you look it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’ve e stated an aim to attend Kestrels so start with that. It’s usually more busy on a Sunday afternoon.

See how you actually feel about being involved with real people.

Do you have the social skills to chat comfortably with ladies and couples?

If you do then you could pick up some verifications which may help you.

Take some id along perhaps.

Id? Wow he's not buying alcohol is he? "

ID is used for a lot of things not just for buying alcohol, if people look under 25 (which he is) he will need to show ID when asked or he will be refused - that’s the law

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"You’ve e stated an aim to attend Kestrels so start with that. It’s usually more busy on a Sunday afternoon.

See how you actually feel about being involved with real people.

Do you have the social skills to chat comfortably with ladies and couples?

If you do then you could pick up some verifications which may help you.

Take some id along perhaps.

Id? Wow he's not buying alcohol is he? "

Clubs are very strict on their age policy. The Op looks very young I’d be amazed if he didn’t get asked for ID if he decided to try a club.

It’s great advice, shame I’m not asked anymore

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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"You’ve e stated an aim to attend Kestrels so start with that. It’s usually more busy on a Sunday afternoon.

See how you actually feel about being involved with real people.

Do you have the social skills to chat comfortably with ladies and couples?

If you do then you could pick up some verifications which may help you.

Take some id along perhaps. "

Thanks for the info my social skills are terrible but not great but once I get in to a conversation I'm fine with speaking to anyone and go quite in depth about topics it's just the approaching and starting a conversation off that's something I need to work on but hopefully being my first time other club users will make an effort to engage with me

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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Just a quick couple of questions. How many women from the age range of 18-35 do you think are on the site ?

Look at all of the younger women you know, can you imagine any of them signing up to this site ?

Women between those ages generally have more time to socialise, so any casual sex they may want they’ll be able to find out on the normal social scene.

My advice do the same I can’t see you getting much success on this site. You’re young and you look it.

"

I've come across a fair few women within that age range within a 30 mile search from my post code you never know who might sign up to this app some women like to try different things and explore whats out thie and feel part of a community nothing I can do about looking young I'm afraid

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Wrong thread. But good luck

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I'd say work on you profile more elaborate on your likes/dislikes in a lady, what you like sexually. What you want to explore etc.

Try using fab chat rooms, become regular on the forums. Check out the clubs/meet section sometimes you will find vanilla socials. Unfortunately for guys you do have to put abit more effort in but it will be worth it once you start regular banter on forums. That will build up your confidence and experience kinks x

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By *uke_1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"I'd say work on you profile more elaborate on your likes/dislikes in a lady, what you like sexually. What you want to explore etc.

Try using fab chat rooms, become regular on the forums. Check out the clubs/meet section sometimes you will find vanilla socials. Unfortunately for guys you do have to put abit more effort in but it will be worth it once you start regular banter on forums. That will build up your confidence and experience kinks x "
. Thank you I've done a little work to my profile based on your advice

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