FabSwingers.com forum: How do genuine guys make theirselves messages stand out?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone.

Having the difficulty getting responses here of late.

I figure it’s mostly a mix of females having 6000 shite “want to fuck” messages to sift through, and a mix of me having a shite profile and shit patter.

Now, add the above to me being here for over a year and never being verified in that time, thanks covid, and no-one wants to even chat.

So how do you other, relatively normal guys, make yourselves stand out?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's alchemy. Find Gandalf, he'll give you a potion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's alchemy. Find Gandalf, he'll give you a potion."

Instructions unclear….

*rolls for initiative*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you wrote, tart up the profile and pics - BTW I haven't looked at your profile yet.

Have a bit more confidence in yourself and your profile. There is no individual on site that is wanted by over half of the people here so lower your expectations.

Go to some socials and actually meet people and again lower your expectations and see how you get on with people, listen to how they communicate. Watch the chat threads too and see who gets the most interest and emulate their communication style and soon enough you will find what works best for you.

There is no secret formula but blowing your own trumpet or getting down on yourself are both massive turn-offs.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Be yourself. Unless you're a twat. Then don't be. We have plenty of those.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Smile and be yourself.

Good luck

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Be yourself. Unless you're a twat. Then don't be. We have plenty of those."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pair it with 7 different angles of my beautiful winky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd try to look for group socials to start with so you can get verified that way. It's up to you whether you want to go to clubs in your own as I can appreciate it can be daunting for a single male not knowing anyone. I would also say try to work on your profile to make it stand out as much as you can and see if messages come your way, you look friendly enough to be fair

Other than that, there's no real formula to getting a reply to your messages. I've pretty much stopped sending the first message because it got disheartening putting effort into sending messages to have them not read at all or read and not replied to, so I just hang about on the forums and if any messages or winks come my way, then great. Good luck!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

With a rotating dickie bow tie video on their profile.

And the bow tie won’t be around their neck……..

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"With a rotating dickie bow tie video on their profile.

And the bow tie won’t be around their neck……..

Searches Amazon...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As you wrote, tart up the profile and pics - BTW I haven't looked at your profile yet.

Have a bit more confidence in yourself and your profile. There is no individual on site that is wanted by over half of the people here so lower your expectations.

There is no secret formula but blowing your own trumpet or getting down on yourself are both massive turn-offs."

Decent advice. I’m confident enough in myself, I think haha.

Happy just being myself, but sending out messages here sometimes feels like flinging a stick into the woods.

Tried different tactics. Openly sexual. Complimentary. Funny. All hit or miss when it comes to replies or any sort of decent conversation!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be yourself. Unless you're a twat. Then don't be. We have plenty of those."

Haha, this is probably the best advice I’ll get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd try to look for group socials to start with so you can get verified that way. It's up to you whether you want to go to clubs in your own as I can appreciate it can be daunting for a single male not knowing anyone. I would also say try to work on your profile to make it stand out as much as you can and see if messages come your way, you look friendly enough to be fair

Aye. This is the exact reason for the post, and quite perfectly put. It’s disheartening making a decent effort, reading a profile and writing a witty message off their info there, to not even earn a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"With a rotating dickie bow tie video on their profile.

And the bow tie won’t be around their neck……..

Haha, Wouldn’t want to cut off the circulation!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"It's alchemy. Find Gandalf, he'll give you a potion.

Instructions unclear….

*rolls for initiative*

We have no advice, but this made us giggle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's alchemy. Find Gandalf, he'll give you a potion.

Instructions unclear….

*rolls for initiative*

We have no advice, but this made us giggle

See I can be delightful and do a funny on occasion!

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Regardless of what your message says...most women will first look at your profile, and then decide if they wish to reply. My advice is to focus more on your profile and the content you upload and less about messaging.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smile and be yourself.

Good luck "

This with lashings of patience

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"It's alchemy. Find Gandalf, he'll give you a potion.

Instructions unclear….

*rolls for initiative*

We have no advice, but this made us giggle

See I can be delightful and do a funny on occasion!

This is a gaming household (specifically, Mr KC is a gamer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know "

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Regardless of what your message says...most women will first look at your profile, and then decide if they wish to reply. My advice is to focus more on your profile and the content you upload and less about messaging.

Good luck

I’ll likely have a go over of the profile. Have a rewrite, maybe a few more pics.

Thanks man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!"

Don't be nervous just join one

If it's a dress up club then it's just like any normal night out

Just go for it I did and I've never looked back

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Try fabswingers chat rooms for your area, pop your webcam on and join in the chat..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's alchemy. Find Gandalf, he'll give you a potion.

Instructions unclear….

*rolls for initiative*

We have no advice, but this made us giggle

See I can be delightful and do a funny on occasion!

This is a gaming household (specifically, Mr KC is a gamer

Wish I had more time for D&D tbh. 2 year campaign has been on hold for a few months now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try fabswingers chat rooms for your area, pop your webcam on and join in the chat..

… but how do ensure they see my best angle?

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!"

Go to some small social events solo to meet others from the site. As long as you’re not afraid to approach people and get chatting then you’ll easily make connections. Then you will people to go to clubs with.

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

I made the mistake of deleting my account with some really nice veris only to return here. Now I have no veris. But it’s about being social. Nice banter on the forums can lead to nice chats with some ladies which can lead to other things. Finding ladies who are willing to try a first-timer can be very hit or miss but they do exist. I remember how grateful I was for my first meet. My first was essentially a lady and her bf holding an all-day open house. I stayed for the whole thing! She wasn’t the sexiest but she was really kind and incredibly horny and with an insatiable appetite for cock in both her mouth and pussy. She showed me the ropes and I’m still very grateful as I had little confidence going to my first meet.

You will find someone like her to give you yoyr lucky break eventually, but there’s no guessing who or when. Just take opportunities when they’re presented and be nice. You can’t go far wrong with ladies if you’re nice to them! Something that appears to be way too difficult for some guys believe it or not!

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

"Try fabswingers chat rooms for your area, pop your webcam on and join in the chat..

… but how do ensure they see my best angle?"

Just don't be a crotch cam and you will be totally fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!

Don't be nervous just join one

If it's a dress up club then it's just like any normal night out

Just go for it I did and I've never looked back

I’d like to think at some point I’ll just say “fuck it” and go to one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!

Do it sooner rather than later my friend life's for living and all that

Don't be nervous just join one

If it's a dress up club then it's just like any normal night out

Just go for it I did and I've never looked back

I’d like to think at some point I’ll just say “fuck it” and go to one. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!

Do it sooner rather than later my friend life's for living and all that

Don't be nervous just join one

If it's a dress up club then it's just like any normal night out

Just go for it I did and I've never looked back

I’d like to think at some point I’ll just say “fuck it” and go to one. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try fabswingers chat rooms for your area, pop your webcam on and join in the chat..

… but how do ensure they see my best angle?

Just don't be a crotch cam and you will be totally fine

Never been one for dick pics, so don’t think I’m quite ready for live video !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!

Yeah, I like to think I’m pretty approachable, open minded and can chat to anyone. Smaller socials may be the way forward. Less daunting than turning up to a club solo and being the spare prick at a wedding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!"

That would make things harder why do people think coupling up with someone would make it easier

So you go with someone

Now you have the add problem

Off if they take her fancy and not your or you take there’s but not hers

Or are you going to go as a couple and then split off and play solo and just abuse to cheaper rate for couples

And take a couples spot that could have been reserved for a real couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs and social are a single guys best friend get your self out there be know

Solo club visit is a bit daunting to me. Maybe after building up a few pals here, and accompanying them!

That would make things harder why do people think coupling up with someone would make it easier

So you go with someone

Now you have the add problem

Off if they take her fancy and not your or you take there’s but not hers

Or are you going to go as a couple and then split off and play solo and just abuse to cheaper rate for couples

And take a couples spot that could have been reserved for a real couple"

I guess maybe the idea is it’s a kind of human crutch to lean on and help each other open conversations and such.

Though, you make very valid points on why flying solo would be better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is perfectly put and exactly what I wanted to say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is perfectly put and exactly what I wanted to say. "

Yeah, it’s some great advice. Will definitely be looking into some group socials as a starting point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone.

Having the difficulty getting responses here of late.

I figure it’s mostly a mix of females having 6000 shite “want to fuck” messages to sift through, and a mix of me having a shite profile and shit patter.

Now, add the above to me being here for over a year and never being verified in that time, thanks covid, and no-one wants to even chat.

So how do you other, relatively normal guys, make yourselves stand out?"

We don’t stand out. We stand in a line, and hopefully someone will notice us. That’s how it feels in life and on fab.

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