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"Positives in here! Great with the assignment and also starting your CBT again. Sorry about your health and how it’s triggering your anxiety. Hope the CBT helps and any other techniques that you have used to manage your anxiety before. I’m finally feeling like I’m coming out the other side of this rough patch. But we will see whether that’s true over the next few days. Stressful time at work coming up. But I had some productive conversations with people and myself about my poly life and not committing to more than I can manage. And seeing the Raphael exhibition with one of my partners on Friday. So yeah. Lots to look forward to. More than to be anxious about rn for once. "Thank you for the kind thoughts! I get so frustrated because I’m very self-aware so am rational enough to recognise the anxiety and what it’s doing to me and responsible for, but feel powerless to get any control over it! I guess that’s always the difficult part
I’m glad things are feeling better for you and you’ve got some things to look forward to! Hopefully you’ll cope through the oncoming stresses! xx | |||
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"CBT is awesome so is EFT." I had quite a few sessions and found it helpful, we were just in the middle of unpacking my trauma when I had to cancel a session then I was busy and the weeks got away on me! I’m excited to be going back. I’ve not experienced EFT but I’m training to be a person-centred counsellor and so I’m aware of it. I also found acupuncture really helpful but I just don’t have the money for everything sadly! | |||
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"Stressed but managing for now" I hear you, sending love x | |||
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"And breathe ….. all of you, assignments in! Well done mark it as complete on the list, you know that list you have in your head of things to do…. Write it down, all of it, but don’t let the list beat you with a stick, it is your mountain but you have got this. Whilst you might never beat anxiety you are very dangerous when you write stuff down, because that’s a plan "  | |||
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"CBT is awesome so is EFT. I had quite a few sessions and found it helpful, we were just in the middle of unpacking my trauma when I had to cancel a session then I was busy and the weeks got away on me! I’m excited to be going back. I’ve not experienced EFT but I’m training to be a person-centred counsellor and so I’m aware of it. I also found acupuncture really helpful but I just don’t have the money for everything sadly!" Tapping is great for calming anxiety but for deeper traumas you need an expert. | |||
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"CBT is awesome so is EFT. I had quite a few sessions and found it helpful, we were just in the middle of unpacking my trauma when I had to cancel a session then I was busy and the weeks got away on me! I’m excited to be going back. I’ve not experienced EFT but I’m training to be a person-centred counsellor and so I’m aware of it. I also found acupuncture really helpful but I just don’t have the money for everything sadly! Tapping is great for calming anxiety but for deeper traumas you need an expert." Definitely. I think I probably underestimate the depth of trauma and expect more of myself in terms of recovery ability and speed than is reasonable | |||
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"Honestly?? Like shit. Had 2 strange dreams over the weekend. Saturday night I dreamt I survived a plane crash. And last night dreamt I was a ghost and my ex was the only 1 who could hear me. Confidence is getting to an all time low. Just need to distract myself. Take my mind off her" I’m glad you could be honest, and I’m sorry you’re struggling. Dreams can be strangely powerful. Hope you can find some time for some self-care x | |||
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"Honestly?? Like shit. Had 2 strange dreams over the weekend. Saturday night I dreamt I survived a plane crash. And last night dreamt I was a ghost and my ex was the only 1 who could hear me. Confidence is getting to an all time low. Just need to distract myself. Take my mind off her I’m glad you could be honest, and I’m sorry you’re struggling. Dreams can be strangely powerful. Hope you can find some time for some self-care x" Me too babe. Xx | |||
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"Another week has flown by! I managed to get my assignment handed in for the deadline on Friday but I’ve had a jittery few days. My muscles have been feeling weak and shaky since I used them to do some gardening on Saturday and I’ve been having tremors/shaking during the night which I haven’t had for a while. It’s always difficult because it triggers my health anxiety fears of having a degenerative neurological condition. I’m almost sure it’s caused by anxiety but there’s always that ‘what if?’ lurking. Anyway, I’m restarting sessions with my CBT therapist today so hopefully can make some progress! What about you? How are you feeling today? " I hope you start to feel better soon Anxiety is a bitch.Excercise really helps me im too knackered to get anxious Best wishes xx | |||
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honestly? im not okay.
just trying to distract myself every minute of the day, and carry on, as always.
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Great news on your assignment. Have you had your thyroid checked and or menopausal blood work?
Great news on the CBT and remembering that it doesn't always need to be fixed, but you have achieved ways of coping better is awesome
I'm in chrysalis mode atm, implemented lots of change last week and am just waiting for everything to become stable again, so I can move on with my next chapter | |||
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"Well done everyone on the successes. Rome was never built in a day and mental health is the same. To fix our issues we need time and patience and we also have to accept that other bits will break in the process. There is no utopia, just a happy stable state. As for me it’s been a difficult week, family health issues have been prevalent and a rollercoaster this week, that have demanded a lot emotionally and time wise. Relationship issues are working themselves out and we have found a path that suits everyone however it’s early days. I had a very self aware week so realise how out of shape I am and how disgusted I am with my appearance so this will be a self loathing week. Finally there is a big restructure at work so thinks are up in the air with the prospect of a bad manager and even redundancy in the cards. With all that its a good job I have understanding friends Time for a deep breath and strap on my big boy pants before taking on this week
Good luck folks and if anyone needs to talk just shout!"I’m sorry things have been tough but glad a few things are a little better atm, even if there’s the possibility of more tough times ahead x | |||
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"Well done on the assignment OP There are so many different things that can help people these days and it's case of seeing what works. Being a strange week with the odd batch of dark thoughts but mostly feeling of ugh. Had a therapy task which will be interesting to see how that goes. " Thank you! I’m sorry things haven’t been great for the past week. Good luck with the therapy task! x | |||
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"Another week has flown by! I managed to get my assignment handed in for the deadline on Friday but I’ve had a jittery few days. My muscles have been feeling weak and shaky since I used them to do some gardening on Saturday and I’ve been having tremors/shaking during the night which I haven’t had for a while. It’s always difficult because it triggers my health anxiety fears of having a degenerative neurological condition. I’m almost sure it’s caused by anxiety but there’s always that ‘what if?’ lurking. Anyway, I’m restarting sessions with my CBT therapist today so hopefully can make some progress! What about you? How are you feeling today? I hope you start to feel better soon Anxiety is a bitch.Excercise really helps me im too knackered to get anxious Best wishes xx"Thank you! Sadly exercise makes me worse at the moment because of the issue with my muscles being weak which then triggers the worrying thoughts about my health. It’s possibly the thing that I’m most sad about because I used to love working out and feeling strong. I’m going to raise it today in therapy x | |||
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"morning op. well done on your assingment
honestly? im not okay.
just trying to distract myself every minute of the day, and carry on, as always.
Px "I’m sorry you’re not feeling ok, that actually sounds exhausting. Sending love x | |||
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"Another week has flown by! I managed to get my assignment handed in for the deadline on Friday but I’ve had a jittery few days. My muscles have been feeling weak and shaky since I used them to do some gardening on Saturday and I’ve been having tremors/shaking during the night which I haven’t had for a while. It’s always difficult because it triggers my health anxiety fears of having a degenerative neurological condition. I’m almost sure it’s caused by anxiety but there’s always that ‘what if?’ lurking. Anyway, I’m restarting sessions with my CBT therapist today so hopefully can make some progress! What about you? How are you feeling today? " I have been having one to one sessions for 2 years, I am doing the beep tone reformating therapy | |||
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Great news on your assignment. Have you had your thyroid checked and or menopausal blood work?
Great news on the CBT and remembering that it doesn't always need to be fixed, but you have achieved ways of coping better is awesome
I'm in chrysalis mode atm, implemented lots of change last week and am just waiting for everything to become stable again, so I can move on with my next chapter "Thank you! I’ve had my thyroid checked recently but not menopausal bloods, I’m pretty convinced I’m perimenopausal but my hormones have always been all over the place anyway and I’ve only recently had my Mirena coil out because of the havoc it was playing with my mental health. I’ve also been told that bloods to detect menopause are unreliable because the levels are up and down anyway so a lot of doctors won’t even offer to do them. I should probably look into it more but the thought of it feels exhausting! Your changes sound exciting! Hope they all work out the way you want them to! x | |||
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"Another week has flown by! I managed to get my assignment handed in for the deadline on Friday but I’ve had a jittery few days. My muscles have been feeling weak and shaky since I used them to do some gardening on Saturday and I’ve been having tremors/shaking during the night which I haven’t had for a while. It’s always difficult because it triggers my health anxiety fears of having a degenerative neurological condition. I’m almost sure it’s caused by anxiety but there’s always that ‘what if?’ lurking. Anyway, I’m restarting sessions with my CBT therapist today so hopefully can make some progress! What about you? How are you feeling today? I have been having one to one sessions for 2 years, I am doing the beep tone reformating therapy " That sounds interesting, can’t say it’s one I’ve come across before. Are you finding it helpful? | |||
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"Another week has flown by! I managed to get my assignment handed in for the deadline on Friday but I’ve had a jittery few days. My muscles have been feeling weak and shaky since I used them to do some gardening on Saturday and I’ve been having tremors/shaking during the night which I haven’t had for a while. It’s always difficult because it triggers my health anxiety fears of having a degenerative neurological condition. I’m almost sure it’s caused by anxiety but there’s always that ‘what if?’ lurking. Anyway, I’m restarting sessions with my CBT therapist today so hopefully can make some progress! What about you? How are you feeling today? " I was told cbt can undo counseling | |||
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"Another week has flown by! I managed to get my assignment handed in for the deadline on Friday but I’ve had a jittery few days. My muscles have been feeling weak and shaky since I used them to do some gardening on Saturday and I’ve been having tremors/shaking during the night which I haven’t had for a while. It’s always difficult because it triggers my health anxiety fears of having a degenerative neurological condition. I’m almost sure it’s caused by anxiety but there’s always that ‘what if?’ lurking. Anyway, I’m restarting sessions with my CBT therapist today so hopefully can make some progress! What about you? How are you feeling today? I was told cbt can undo counseling " In what way?! | |||
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"Well today has been a shit show. However, I feel better today than I did this morning. Got my next tattoo booked, walked a mile to the pub. Now enjoying a relaxing night. However!! Anyone who’s feeling low still, I’m here if you need to chat" Glad there have been some positives for you in there! x | |||
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"I’m in a much better place than I was before…… happy days "That’s good to hear… xx | |||
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"I’m in a much better place than I was before…… happy days "Great news! | |||
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"Hi everyone. Im having a wierd time atm, lots of different feelings. My dad is in hospital, finally getting better thankfully, but it did look a bit dire before. So obviously im worried about my dad, but that comes with some guilt for not having a close relationship with him and not feeling he loves me. But then joy at hearing him say that he loves me, as i dont remember him ever saying that to me. But im also finding it triggering as i was in hospital for a month this time 6 years ago after an overdose. I also had lots of delusions and hallucinations while i was in icu, not pleasant ones, and they were so real its like they actually happened to me. And then i also feel guilty for being selfish and this bringing negative thoughts to me when it should all be about my dad. Ive only mentioned this to one friend. I feel people would look at me badly if i told them. Im sorry for such a long post, on a thread i dont normally post to, but have admired from afar for a while x "I’m glad your dad is doing better x That sounds like a lot of big feelings to be dealing with. Please don’t feel guilty, if there’s anything I’ve learned at all, it’s if we’re feeling it then it’s valid. Give yourself a little self-compassion, that sounds like a really scary experience and I’m not surprised it’s coming back to you now xx | |||
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"Hi all,im Tel recently spent a few months in hospital with multiple organ failure i nearly died tree times! Now im home im so weak i cant move around for more than 20 mins! But i am still alive so i just have to hopefully build my strength back but been told improvement wont be 100 percent ever these next two years will remain hard! " Hi Tel, I’m sorry you had to go through that, it sounds really traumatic for you and your wife. I guess that will take some getting over. And it’s absolutely fine to post here about it, I think the link between physical and mental health is overlooked far too often x | |||
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"I am in a much better place than I was several weeks ago... Did a lot of research which really helped with the situation & person that was so badly affecting my mental health.. I now feel in control of myself again & see things a lot more cleary.. "Good for you! This is lovely to hear x | |||
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"I've been in a good place so far this week. Weird how being in poor health last week took away the feeling of anxiety... because inwas feeling that bad I literally didn't give a fuck about anything So yeah, that's kind of come into this week. " I’m glad you’re feeling better, it’s strange how anxiety works! x | |||
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"Good work on the assignments and for the sterling work in this thread, OP. Sounds a lot like anxiety playing its devious games to me, but good that it’s being looked into .
Sounds like a few others are in a good place too, which is always good to hear ."Thank you! x | |||
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"Sorry I know my post was about health but i have a massive weight to deal with,my wife was told by my doctors that I very prob would last the night! We have a 6 month old daughter! " Hi Tel, Take strength from the fact you did survive and you are on a long road to recovery. Try to live each day to the max and treasure the fact you are still with us
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"I am in a much better place than I was several weeks ago... Did a lot of research which really helped with the situation & person that was so badly affecting my mental health.. I now feel in control of myself again & see things a lot more cleary.. "That’s great news once you get control of the situation you’re in a much stronger place  | |||
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"Sorry I know my post was about health but i have a massive weight to deal with,my wife was told by my doctors that I very prob would last the night! We have a 6 month old daughter! Hi Tel, Take strength from the fact you did survive and you are on a long road to recovery. Try to live each day to the max and treasure the fact you are still with us
Find a chat buddy you can vent to in your dark moments. Friends like that are priceless "Thank you ! | |||
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