FabSwingers.com forum: Compliments

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you like them ?

Can you accept them ?

Do you believe them when you’re given them?

My confidence took a huge nose dive during my hiatus - I’ve come back on here before losing the weight I’ve put on due to medication, and I find it hard to see myself as others might.

I love a compliment - it makes you feel wanted and desired, but the little devil on the shoulder whispers ‘they’re lying’ and then I doubt myself.

I’ve started to lose the pounds - thankfully, but even when I was lighter, I still found it difficult to believe any compliments.

It’s not a size thing - it’s a mental mindset.

Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I struggle to accept compliments as they’re given and usually feel that they’re given to reciprocate. It feels strange to just say “thank you”.

I guess in the past they’ve been given to get something from me and they don’t match how I see myself.

I’m trying to see myself more as others might but it’s a process. I sometimes think that I’m a bit broken

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I struggle to accept compliments as they’re given and usually feel that they’re given to reciprocate. It feels strange to just say “thank you”.

I guess in the past they’ve been given to get something from me and they don’t match how I see myself.

I’m trying to see myself more as others might but it’s a process. I sometimes think that I’m a bit broken

Yes!!

Compliments given so we have to give one back ??

Funny creatures aren’t we?

You’re gorgeous by the way

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I used to be terrible with compliments, but as I've got older I've been able to own my successes as well as my failures.

There's still a bit of me that spreads credit around the team, while taking personal responsibility for failures, but I'm a work in progress...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never know how to take them. The few I have had I kinda just brush them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here compliments mean nothing because people will say whatever they think you want to hear.

In real life I can take a compliment and like them in general. I come from a family that don’t really compliment each other so it’s nice to hear it from others.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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No I don't like them. I've disregarded them to me for a long long time

I accept them because people close to me want to give them, that took me a long time to learn though, automatically brushing them off is my natural reaction to them

My brain goes into literal phase and thinks well yes I knew that

On the other side I love to give them and always look for a positive in someone, even when they cannot see it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to be terrible with compliments, but as I've got older I've been able to own my successes as well as my failures.

There's still a bit of me that spreads credit around the team, while taking personal responsibility for failures, but I'm a work in progress..."

I get this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never know how to take them. The few I have had I kinda just brush them off. "

Easier to brush them off ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here compliments mean nothing because people will say whatever they think you want to hear.

In real life I can take a compliment and like them in general. I come from a family that don’t really compliment each other so it’s nice to hear it from others."

Exactly !! On here, compliments are two a Penny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t take compliments well, as rarely get or got them off the ex wife, so when I do, I usually blush.

Now I’m not shy, but very confident in myself, just when other people tell me, I don’t know how to take it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It depends who is giving the compliment and what they are complimenting.

I rarely if ever get compliments from strangers but if I do it's usually for something I've just done rather than how I look or how I behave.

On here if someone I've never spoken to before tells me I'm amazing I tend to roll my eyes because they obviously need me to reciprocate and I don't do that so those are very short conversations.

If the compliment is from a friend or someone who actually knows me I'm more inclined to accept it without question.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I feel your post completely Floro. I’ve gained quite a bit of weight over the past few months after keeping it off for six years. I’m desperate to lose it again but my mental health is all over the place and I’m an emotional eater, so I never manage more than a day or two before I’m eating rubbish again.

I don’t like compliments and I don’t believe them. I also feel that if I accept them then people will think I believe them and they’ll be laughing at me because they didn’t mean them in the first place. It’s hard work living inside my head!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I don't like them. I've disregarded them to me for a long long time

I accept them because people close to me want to give them, that took me a long time to learn though, automatically brushing them off is my natural reaction to them

My brain goes into literal phase and thinks well yes I knew that

On the other side I love to give them and always look for a positive in someone, even when they cannot see it

I give tons of compliments - all genuine too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t take compliments well, as rarely get or got them off the ex wife, so when I do, I usually blush.

Now I’m not shy, but very confident in myself, just when other people tell me, I don’t know how to take it."

Interesting ..

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I can accept them.....I think people are taking the piss. Having lost client to 5 stone. I'm still very sensitive about my wait

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends who is giving the compliment and what they are complimenting.

I rarely if ever get compliments from strangers but if I do it's usually for something I've just done rather than how I look or how I behave.

On here if someone I've never spoken to before tells me I'm amazing I tend to roll my eyes because they obviously need me to reciprocate and I don't do that so those are very short conversations.

If the compliment is from a friend or someone who actually knows me I'm more inclined to accept it without question. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here compliments mean nothing because people will say whatever they think you want to hear.

In real life I can take a compliment and like them in general. I come from a family that don’t really compliment each other so it’s nice to hear it from others.

Exactly !! On here, compliments are two a Penny"

I know this is another compliment but I enjoy your forum posts and as far as I can remember we’ve always had pleasant exchanges. I don’t play with others so that’s genuine and not an attempt to get in your pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You already know the answer to that question, I’m learning to take compliments more n more these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s taken me many, many years to break body confidence issues. Since embracing swinging, coming on here, and turning 40, I’ve come to realise that the only opinions that I truly value are those of my hubby and children. Everything/anything else is a wonderful bonus to enjoy and appreciate when it happens but not to be coveted or depended on.

Also, you have beautiful piercing eyes OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can accept them.....I think people are taking the piss. Having lost client to 5 stone. I'm still very sensitive about my wait "

Brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

Do it!!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I struggle to accept compliments as they’re given and usually feel that they’re given to reciprocate. It feels strange to just say “thank you”.

I guess in the past they’ve been given to get something from me and they don’t match how I see myself.

I’m trying to see myself more as others might but it’s a process. I sometimes think that I’m a bit broken

Yes!!

Compliments given so we have to give one back ??

Funny creatures aren’t we?

You’re gorgeous by the way

See… now I feel awkward!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never know how to take them. The few I have had I kinda just brush them off.

Easier to brush them off ?"

Yea well for me it is or I reply with a thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started a few message threads this week. Suddenly gone cold when I sent the face pic lol I'm now super paranoid about my looks. They've let me down gently to be honest. I'm not claiming to be Brad Pitt but definitely not Shrek. Clean shaven face and shaved head, so I guess those are features that can be a deal breaker for some. Keep my spirits up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You already know the answer to that question, I’m learning to take compliments more n more these days. "

You should - gorgeous eyes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s taken me many, many years to break body confidence issues. Since embracing swinging, coming on here, and turning 40, I’ve come to realise that the only opinions that I truly value are those of my hubby and children. Everything/anything else is a wonderful bonus to enjoy and appreciate when it happens but not to be coveted or depended on.

Also, you have beautiful piercing eyes OP xx"

Love this

And , thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Started a few message threads this week. Suddenly gone cold when I sent the face pic lol I'm now super paranoid about my looks. They've let me down gently to be honest. I'm not claiming to be Brad Pitt but definitely not Shrek. Clean shaven face and shaved head, so I guess those are features that can be a deal breaker for some. Keep my spirits up."

You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea - but to some you’re going to be absolutely gorgeous

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I like compliments and I always accept them as gracefully as possible. I do know the difference between genuine compliments and flim

flam though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The physical ones - eek they make me uncomfortable. I say thank you and don't believe them. I don't think I'm hideous, but no-one here can see the whole me as I can.

I've been genuinely chuffed and pleased to receive compliments about my personality and the things I say on the forum. They've helped me see I am not the person my ex said I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea - but to some you’re going to be absolutely gorgeous "

Loved the compliments you gave me x proper boost

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It depends on my mood. Sometimes I'd brush off a compliment from anyone and wallow in the "no one likes me, I'm so ugly and stupid" cries of my emo years. No compliment will pierce through that. Other times, I'm able to accept them. I like them if they're genuine and organic, truly believed.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I give compliments to lovely people. They're meant in a good way.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

In my humble opinion it depends on the situation and the way they are said...if I take them or not....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I like compliments and I always accept them as gracefully as possible. I do know the difference between genuine compliments and flim

flam though "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The physical ones - eek they make me uncomfortable. I say thank you and don't believe them. I don't think I'm hideous, but no-one here can see the whole me as I can.

I've been genuinely chuffed and pleased to receive compliments about my personality and the things I say on the forum. They've helped me see I am not the person my ex said I was. "

I understand this … my ex was awful about me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea - but to some you’re going to be absolutely gorgeous

Loved the compliments you gave me x proper boost

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends on my mood. Sometimes I'd brush off a compliment from anyone and wallow in the "no one likes me, I'm so ugly and stupid" cries of my emo years. No compliment will pierce through that. Other times, I'm able to accept them. I like them if they're genuine and organic, truly believed. "

You are beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I give compliments to lovely people. They're meant in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In my humble opinion it depends on the situation and the way they are said...if I take them or not...."

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’m fucking amazeballs, so of course I accept and can take compliments.

I am also happy to give compliments, but tend to make them more meaningful.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

On here I take compliments from complete strangers with a touch of salt as they quite often are disingenuous.

But a compliment from someone I know and I know that's it's a genuine compliment is lovely to receive. I'm not great at taking them though but they do make me smile .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sponge to compliments lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After giving a compliment what response would suffice op? Physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time or some form of gift?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m fucking amazeballs, so of course I accept and can take compliments.

I am also happy to give compliments, but tend to make them more meaningful."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea - but to some you’re going to be absolutely gorgeous "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On here I take compliments from complete strangers with a touch of salt as they quite often are disingenuous.

But a compliment from someone I know and I know that's it's a genuine compliment is lovely to receive. I'm not great at taking them though but they do make me smile ."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A sponge to compliments lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The physical ones - eek they make me uncomfortable. I say thank you and don't believe them. I don't think I'm hideous, but no-one here can see the whole me as I can.

I've been genuinely chuffed and pleased to receive compliments about my personality and the things I say on the forum. They've helped me see I am not the person my ex said I was.

I understand this … my ex was awful about me "

Takes a long time to see yourself differently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After giving a compliment what response would suffice op? Physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time or some form of gift?"

I don’t require anything after a compliment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The physical ones - eek they make me uncomfortable. I say thank you and don't believe them. I don't think I'm hideous, but no-one here can see the whole me as I can.

I've been genuinely chuffed and pleased to receive compliments about my personality and the things I say on the forum. They've helped me see I am not the person my ex said I was.

I understand this … my ex was awful about me

Takes a long time to see yourself differently. "

True

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

In a previous job I had, one of the company directors paid me a compliment by saying I was irreplaceable.

I told her that I was disappointed with her comment, because if I was irreplaceable, then there would be no chance of promotion!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

On FAB they can given one minute and taken away in the next message

Compliments are great when they come from people close or you know there’s no ulterior motive to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In a previous job I had, one of the company directors paid me a compliment by saying I was irreplaceable.

I told her that I was disappointed with her comment, because if I was irreplaceable, then there would be no chance of promotion!

Ahhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to accept compliments as they’re given and usually feel that they’re given to reciprocate. It feels strange to just say “thank you”.

I guess in the past they’ve been given to get something from me and they don’t match how I see myself.

I’m trying to see myself more as others might but it’s a process. I sometimes think that I’m a bit broken

Yes!!

Compliments given so we have to give one back ??

Funny creatures aren’t we?

You’re gorgeous by the way

Very very strange beings. Many layers. Not just what we see with our eyes as such.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On FAB they can given one minute and taken away in the next message

Compliments are great when they come from people close or you know there’s no ulterior motive to them.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends who gives them.

Customers at work thanking me for my service and telling me they've had a great time and I've made their night? I'll accept that and believe it all day long because they've bugger all reason to lie and I'm fucking great at my job.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it."

I think this place makes us doubt the genuineness of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what the compliment is and where it comes from, and ultimately if I believe it myself.

If I’ve done something well, eg at work, then if any compliment or praise comes I’ll accept it if I recognise it and think “yeah, I did ok there”.

I struggle if I don’t believe it myself - Eg “you look good” after I’ve put on weight or look a sweaty mess… nah, not having it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it."

Melting pot of a swamp really.

It's a platform where many join and dock. For many many many reason.

Deep down most want/need/desire something from here and anywhere else for that matter.

We all and most claim to be unique,special different, but we are seeking and need something external and outward from ourselves.

We don't and won't belive even I'd it could be true, coz we don't know them as such we let it pass.

Shows really where we are as a nation in this whole UK.

How we behave our words and all actions. Plays a part on us and others internally and externally.

We never really have been a nation of compliments given much or taken in. All this stems from childhood upbringing and our surrounds we are and become what we are surrounded by..

My observation. Not an expert professional study research..

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it.

I think this place makes us doubt the genuineness of people "

It does. It's sad really, however it's the cold hard truth that people say stuff to 'sweeten' people up to gain something from them.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes definitely accept complements its allways nice to get one

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it.

I think this place makes us doubt the genuineness of people

It does. It's sad really, however it's the cold hard truth that people say stuff to 'sweeten' people up to gain something from them.

I'm too old for that bollocks. I just say what I see. Can't do fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to various things I rarely believe compliments unless they are from people I know well

Its nice on here and other sites when people fab pictures but sometimes some need to be taken with pinch of salt, for me anyway

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

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Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

Do it!!

I second that, haha. I’ve been doing exactly that for 2+ years and I feel incredible

I take compliments well. I worked quite hard on my fitness for health reasons in the last 5 years, it shows and people compliment me. I accept them and give thanks.

I also like complimenting people.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I only like them when someone actually says it to my face and I feel they genuinely mean it.

We get them all the time on here in a msg, but it doesn't really mean anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once taught by my late father a stand up straight army man.

Give,share kindness compassion,a true endearing fine compliment that is very genuine to the point of what is applicable to that given situation. Not to cheap over flatter nor to persuade or convince or buy anybody's affections falsely nor to yearn or try and force anybody hand to make them like you more than possible or even more.

The art I feel in this very society here right now today is missing.

Transparent genuine true uncluttered opinions,compliments,info or more without lack of experience or knowing of much information from what sourse/sources fact fiction. Info is traveling at light speed because of the intranet!! Like on here we don't trust what people or others say or tell us. We don't know them, on a profile or pics what they post or wish to post to create an alure of impressions they wish to create for many to buy into a fictional reality. As all or most areas there will always be good,and non good. Genuine and non genuine.

As for compliments all this stems from childhood. The Uk as a nation from my observations growing up schooling to work now on here Fab to date. Has never encouraged compliments nor taken them as for what they are.

So we are on a back foot of doubt. For so many reasons. We all or most are batteling with pressure's and forces out of our control .within our body's head and from people how they deal with us. Our pics what they say. How we see and view ourselves far more.

Very very complex make up of who and what we all really are. We all or most wear so many masks the world has taught us to wear for survival in this man made jungle..

Keep smiling keep it simple. It is hard though life is a battle from within first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan of receiving them but will accept if they are genuine. On here I take them with a pinch of salt because 'your beautiful' means 'I wanna jump ya bones'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it.

I think this place makes us doubt the genuineness of people

It does. It's sad really, however it's the cold hard truth that people say stuff to 'sweeten' people up to gain something from them.

We all are affecting everyone in how what we say and do.

We all should be accountable for our actions daily.

It's a battle on here and the wider plain we live in.

Remember we humans are the catalyst for where we are here and now.

Be that positive change. And make that positive change.

We do get dragged down by the muck and scum & grime of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take compliments on my appearance very well, especially on here as it seems mendacious. A message saying I am beautiful but they can't even see my face?

I like a compliment on my personality or a non physical attribute. Probably the only compliments I like on appearance are if they are related to an outfit I am wearing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only like them when someone actually says it to my face and I feel they genuinely mean it.

We get them all the time on here in a msg, but it doesn't really mean anything."

Yes true.

How many have face to face meets and contacts. To give and say those real things.

We are in a type finger tapping phase and more disconnection is to come.

Head up chin up.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I only like them when someone actually says it to my face and I feel they genuinely mean it.

We get them all the time on here in a msg, but it doesn't really mean anything.

Yes true.

How many have face to face meets and contacts. To give and say those real things.

We are in a type finger tapping phase and more disconnection is to come.

Head up chin up.

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I’ll give compliments to ladies that dress to impress and make an effort it’s not always about the smile and I do to friends and family as I know we all have some Battle going on in our life’s and it can make our days I certainly enjoyed getting them , Am a say something nice or not at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends what the compliment is and where it comes from, and ultimately if I believe it myself.

If I’ve done something well, eg at work, then if any compliment or praise comes I’ll accept it if I recognise it and think “yeah, I did ok there”.

I struggle if I don’t believe it myself - Eg “you look good” after I’ve put on weight or look a sweaty mess… nah, not having it. "

You’re handsome

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I only like them when someone actually says it to my face and I feel they genuinely mean it.

We get them all the time on here in a msg, but it doesn't really mean anything.

Yes true.

How many have face to face meets and contacts. To give and say those real things.

We are in a type finger tapping phase and more disconnection is to come.

Head up chin up.

I’ll give compliments to ladies that dress to impress and make an effort it’s not always about the smile and I do to friends and family as I know we all have some Battle going on in our life’s and it can make our days I certainly enjoyed getting them , Am a say something nice or not at all "

What about the ladies that dress in a way that they feel good, rather to impress?

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over a year ago

In the real world where people are not after something from me yes I believe them although I'm not comfortable in excepting them .

Oh line I don't believe any compliment from someone I've not met in person as being genuine. well I certainly did not when I had more interesting pictures of myself for the world to see .

I don't join in the fab a picture or tell someone you fancy then threads on here ether .

Because I just think there a circle jerk of people saying oh you look great, oh your hot, oh yes I'd fuck you viewing it ad bullshit unfelt compliments offer in the hope of a shag .

But I guess my opinion on this says more about me than it does the people who enjoy such forum posts and compliment swapping .

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over a year ago

"In the real world where people are not after something from me yes I believe them although I'm not comfortable in excepting them .

Oh line I don't believe any compliment from someone I've not met in person as being genuine. well I certainly did not when I had more interesting pictures of myself for the world to see .

I don't join in the fab a picture or tell someone you fancy then threads on here ether .

Because I just think there a circle jerk of people saying oh you look great, oh your hot, oh yes I'd fuck you viewing it ad bullshit unfelt compliments offer in the hope of a shag .

But I guess my opinion on this says more about me than it does the people who enjoy such forum posts and compliment swapping ."

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over a year ago

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it.

I think this place makes us doubt the genuineness of people

It does. It's sad really, however it's the cold hard truth that people say stuff to 'sweeten' people up to gain something from them.

They do. I am at the point I'm so wary of meeting any men from here because of all the flannel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the real world where people are not after something from me yes I believe them although I'm not comfortable in excepting them .

Oh line I don't believe any compliment from someone I've not met in person as being genuine. well I certainly did not when I had more interesting pictures of myself for the world to see .

I don't join in the fab a picture or tell someone you fancy then threads on here ether .

Because I just think there a circle jerk of people saying oh you look great, oh your hot, oh yes I'd fuck you viewing it ad bullshit unfelt compliments offer in the hope of a shag .

But I guess my opinion on this says more about me than it does the people who enjoy such forum posts and compliment swapping ."

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over a year ago

"Depends who gives them.

On here? Nah, don't believe them. The compliment giver wants something from me, whether that's poontang, attention, whatever.

Only ones I take at face value are those on threads that won't lead anywhere or have anything to gain by saying it.

I think this place makes us doubt the genuineness of people

It does. It's sad really, however it's the cold hard truth that people say stuff to 'sweeten' people up to gain something from them.

They do. I am at the point I'm so wary of meeting any men from here because of all the flannel. "

I know what you mean

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I accept them from those I’m close to because I know they see the full picture of me as a whole.

I find them incredibly uncomfortable from strangers and have no idea what to do with them.

I just find stuff that’s aesthetic to be weird to comment on.. especially from strangers. My brains a bit odd though how it computes stuff so that’s probably a weird take on it…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I accept them from those I’m close to because I know they see the full picture of me as a whole.

I find them incredibly uncomfortable from strangers and have no idea what to do with them.

I just find stuff that’s aesthetic to be weird to comment on.. especially from strangers. My brains a bit odd though how it computes stuff so that’s probably a weird take on it…

My brain is too

You’re beautiful by the way

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I accept them from those I’m close to because I know they see the full picture of me as a whole.

I find them incredibly uncomfortable from strangers and have no idea what to do with them.

I just find stuff that’s aesthetic to be weird to comment on.. especially from strangers. My brains a bit odd though how it computes stuff so that’s probably a weird take on it…

My brain is too

You’re beautiful by the way"
Thanks

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

I rarely get any kind of compliment.

When I have gotten one, and I think a lot of people could relate to this, I remember it and occasionally think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always happy to recieve a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t take a compliment has find it hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t take a compliment has find it hard

You must get a lot of compliments for your amazing profile pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the who the what and the why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love receiving them and I love giving them. For me it's really that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you like them ?

Can you accept them ?

Do you believe them when you’re given them?

My confidence took a huge nose dive during my hiatus - I’ve come back on here before losing the weight I’ve put on due to medication, and I find it hard to see myself as others might.

I love a compliment - it makes you feel wanted and desired, but the little devil on the shoulder whispers ‘they’re lying’ and then I doubt myself.

I’ve started to lose the pounds - thankfully, but even when I was lighter, I still found it difficult to believe any compliments.

It’s not a size thing - it’s a mental mindset.

Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

You shouldn’t doubt yourself, Flo, because you’re excellent at being a hooman-bean. But, if you’re going to fuck anyone, fuck a middle-aged chubby guy with a penchant for curves and avocados.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I always appreciate a compliment. It gives me a lift, sometimes just when I need one, but only if think it’s genuine, obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate them.

99% of the time people only say them because they want something from you.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I don’t really care about them on here. People say what they think you want to hear to get in your knickers.

In real life they make me feel a bit awkward. I never know how to take them or respond. I have a friend that compliments me a lot, every time I get a bit awkward or dismissive of them, he pulls me up, so I’m slowly learning to accept and believe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate them.

99% of the time people only say them because they want something from you. "

Sometimes just a hug.

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over a year ago

"Hate them.

99% of the time people only say them because they want something from you.

Sometimes just a hug. "

I'm not a hugger

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over a year ago

I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?

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over a year ago

"I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?"

Just smile and say thank you. It's really easy. You don't have to analyse it or even believe it. Just accept it for what it is.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?

Just smile and say thank you. It's really easy. You don't have to analyse it or even believe it. Just accept it for what it is. "

This.

A simple thank you is all that is needed. It is not for us to wonder whether they mean it or not. At the end of the day they didn’t have to say anything at all.

We all have things about us, both physically and personality wise, that stand out to others that we have no clue about.

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By *_DirectorMan
over a year ago

Middle of somewhere

"Hate them.

99% of the time people only say them because they want something from you.

Sometimes just a hug.

I'm not a hugger "

That’s unfortunate

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over a year ago

"Hate them.

99% of the time people only say them because they want something from you.

Sometimes just a hug.

I'm not a hugger

That’s unfortunate

Joys of being female...I can change my mind.

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By *_DirectorMan
over a year ago

Middle of somewhere

"Hate them.

99% of the time people only say them because they want something from you.

Sometimes just a hug.

I'm not a hugger

That’s unfortunate

Joys of being female...I can change my mind."

Happens a lot then

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?

Just smile and say thank you. It's really easy. You don't have to analyse it or even believe it. Just accept it for what it is. "

Why?

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

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over a year ago

Op you op. I can relate in my own way unlike yours though.

As a person I feel unwanted and difficult to love, and then there’s the physical thing, I’m. It as young or in shape as in once was.

So, I might have someone say to my face ‘ your hot’ or something like that, and for a moment I feel lifted. Or if I talk to someone and they really engage with my conversation, I pause and think, but you don’t know my full story and I start to cry internally. My confidence is all over the place sometimes.

But, this is me and my character right now. I have my unstoppable belief in myself and that has me actually believing I am a really nice person. I’ve had and will always have my flaws. But that doesn’t make me worthless. I have confidence in that.

Also fab picks me up and puts you down. I don’t rely on it for any of this two things.

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over a year ago

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice. "

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

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over a year ago

"I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?

Just smile and say thank you. It's really easy. You don't have to analyse it or even believe it. Just accept it for what it is.

Why? "

He asked for pointers on how to accept compliments. Was just making a suggestion.

I don't see the point in making a compliment into something negative. I don't care what the motives behind them are as compliments aren't going to change my behaviour, but they're certainly nicer than being insulted. Although listening to some on here you'd think paying a compliment was the worst thing someone could do!!!

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over a year ago

"I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?

Just smile and say thank you. It's really easy. You don't have to analyse it or even believe it. Just accept it for what it is.

Why?

He asked for pointers on how to accept compliments. Was just making a suggestion.

I think the motivation behind someone's words matters a lot. Each to their own.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs. "

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

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over a year ago

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

Of course not, sugar nuts

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Physical ones on here go over my head. Other compliments are nice though.

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over a year ago

"Physical ones on here go over my head. Other compliments are nice though. "

Goes over your head? Is that because of your advanced age, Nora?

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over a year ago

"Do you like them ?

Can you accept them ?

Do you believe them when you’re given them?

My confidence took a huge nose dive during my hiatus - I’ve come back on here before losing the weight I’ve put on due to medication, and I find it hard to see myself as others might.

I love a compliment - it makes you feel wanted and desired, but the little devil on the shoulder whispers ‘they’re lying’ and then I doubt myself.

I’ve started to lose the pounds - thankfully, but even when I was lighter, I still found it difficult to believe any compliments.

It’s not a size thing - it’s a mental mindset.

Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

How about a middle aged middle heighted man

Personally ive learnt to take compliments i still get shy/blush when i get them but im learning to accept them better, i was allways the unpopular one without girlfriends when i was younger its only when i hit 30 ive really found/accept i look better with age.

Your gorgeous floro, dont think otherwise and if someone says otherwise its their insecurities that are the problem not you

Anyway how about that bonk

(i love that word)

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

Of course not, sugar nuts

Peachy Puppies, you are not going to get me to drop my Y-fronts and get my boabie and make like a helicopter just because you compliment me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Physical ones on here go over my head. Other compliments are nice though.

Goes over your head? Is that because of your advanced age, Nora?

. Cheeky. Must be. Especially when most compliments end with “for your age”

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over a year ago

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

Of course not, sugar nuts

Peachy Puppies, you are not going to get me to drop my Y-fronts and get my boabie and make like a helicopter just because you compliment me.

As if you don't drop your Y-fronts like a SHOT anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not that good with compliments as I'm a tomboy at heart so have always been just one of the boys..until recently

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

Of course not, sugar nuts

Peachy Puppies, you are not going to get me to drop my Y-fronts and get my boabie and make like a helicopter just because you compliment me.

As if you don't drop your Y-fronts like a SHOT anyway! "

Stop giving me these fan tast ic compliments Sweet Cheeks you are making me

If you don't I'm going to stop sending you a dick pic for you to waken up to every morning.

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over a year ago

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

Of course not, sugar nuts

Peachy Puppies, you are not going to get me to drop my Y-fronts and get my boabie and make like a helicopter just because you compliment me.

As if you don't drop your Y-fronts like a SHOT anyway!

Stop giving me these fan tast ic compliments Sweet Cheeks you are making me

If you don't I'm going to stop sending you a dick pic for you to waken up to every morning.

Sweet cheeks just made me shudder (and not in a good way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Physical ones on here go over my head. Other compliments are nice though.

Goes over your head? Is that because of your advanced age, Nora?

. Cheeky. Must be. Especially when most compliments end with “for your age”

Gotta take what you're given at your advanced age

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"In the past I have struggled with them as I felt embarrassed and to some extent I still do. Now I just say thank you as people are only being nice.

But in most situations here - people are not being nice. They're being manipulative. Flowery words which mean fuck all. Because they think it will open my legs.

I was thinking about them IRL.

Surely those things don't happen in here, hot stuff.

Of course not, sugar nuts

Peachy Puppies, you are not going to get me to drop my Y-fronts and get my boabie and make like a helicopter just because you compliment me.

As if you don't drop your Y-fronts like a SHOT anyway!

Stop giving me these fan tast ic compliments Sweet Cheeks you are making me

If you don't I'm going to stop sending you a dick pic for you to waken up to every morning.

Sweet cheeks just made me shudder (and not in a good way)

Sorry. I deserve a spanking for that.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

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I'm Irish we can't take a complement its a built-in thing in Irish people we just don't believe the person

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over a year ago

"I really struggle with compliments. Had a few but either make a joke or brush them aside.

I need to learn to embrace them. Suggestions?"

Just accept they don’t really mean it. They’re almost certainly just trying to butter you up, so that you’ll let them nosh you off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you like them ?

Can you accept them ?

Do you believe them when you’re given them?

My confidence took a huge nose dive during my hiatus - I’ve come back on here before losing the weight I’ve put on due to medication, and I find it hard to see myself as others might.

I love a compliment - it makes you feel wanted and desired, but the little devil on the shoulder whispers ‘they’re lying’ and then I doubt myself.

I’ve started to lose the pounds - thankfully, but even when I was lighter, I still found it difficult to believe any compliments.

It’s not a size thing - it’s a mental mindset.

Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

You shouldn’t doubt yourself, Flo, because you’re excellent at being a hooman-bean. But, if you’re going to fuck anyone, fuck a middle-aged chubby guy with a penchant for curves and avocados.

Who ??

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over a year ago

"Do you like them ?

Can you accept them ?

Do you believe them when you’re given them?

My confidence took a huge nose dive during my hiatus - I’ve come back on here before losing the weight I’ve put on due to medication, and I find it hard to see myself as others might.

I love a compliment - it makes you feel wanted and desired, but the little devil on the shoulder whispers ‘they’re lying’ and then I doubt myself.

I’ve started to lose the pounds - thankfully, but even when I was lighter, I still found it difficult to believe any compliments.

It’s not a size thing - it’s a mental mindset.

Do I just need to fuck a tall, young man to give myself a kick up the backside ??

How about a middle aged middle heighted man

Your gorgeous floro, dont think otherwise and if someone says otherwise its their insecurities that are the problem not you

Anyway how about that bonk

(i love that word)

You know where I am

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Come to bed eyes

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Yes I love compliments it’s always nice to be on receiving end of something positive

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Stunning very well put together all-round

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