FabSwingers.com forum: Sabotage

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you deliberately sabotage friendships on fab so that you don't have to meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread, how do you define sabotage? ??

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Do you deliberately sabotage friendships on fab so that you don't have to meet anyone "

No. What would be the point?

Why would we meet anyone we didn't want to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting thread, how do you define sabotage? ?? "

. Saying or doing something that you know will kill the chat/friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread, how do you define sabotage? ??

. Saying or doing something that you know will kill the chat/friendship "

I dont think I'm guilty of it, it suspect I've been on the receiving end though.

I dont understand it really, if you lose interest, it isn't hard to just say so is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread, how do you define sabotage? ??

. Saying or doing something that you know will kill the chat/friendship "

Seems many apply that , knowingly and unknowingly.

Traits some cannot control. Most stem from childhood,trauma,experience.

people are deeper beyond only their outer looks and profiles on fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I ever do

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I want to meet people, that's why I'm here. If I don't want to meet someone I'd just be honest about it

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By *onksoozeCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I find given enough time they sabotage it for themselves

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

"Do you deliberately sabotage friendships on fab so that you don't have to meet anyone "

If we don't like the profile,chat, pic etc we are honest and say sorry not for us. We don't engage in chat where we have no intention of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find most dudes will say something that makes me feel uncomfortable to be naked and alone with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t made any regular enough friends to even get that far yet lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I find given enough time they sabotage it for themselves

I prefer to let them do this

Their true colours are never far away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I find it far simpler to have a grown up conversation to say “I’m sorry but this isn’t for me” and wish them well.

Can’t be arsed with playing games.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No if I don't want to meet someone I just tell them straight up.I don't see the point in playing games on here or in real life.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Not something I would ever consider. I'd prefer if they just said they'd changed their mind. There are some times the odd person who will chat, just to have you as a back up. That makes me wince to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I do that. Doesn't seem considerate to their feelings or fair.

Just talk to them instead

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Never be afraid of politely declining. No shame in that. We’re all grown ups after all.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don’t really speak with people with a view to meeting them or doing anything, so I don’t feel I sabotage anything.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Do you deliberately sabotage friendships on fab so that you don't have to meet anyone "

Never... they often sabotage them for us though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you deliberately sabotage friendships on fab so that you don't have to meet anyone "

A question for the OP, what would be the methodology of said sabotage? I assume a coolness in conversation or not responding as quickly or as frequently as before. - Bob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No … honesty is so important.

I have ended connections though when the other person has done/said something that doesn’t sit right with me.

If I meet someone and there’s no connection then I’ll tell them that its not going to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but when talking to someone over a long period of time I find people always say something that puts me off. I would never put my wife in a situation that we’re not 100% comfortable with.

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