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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I’ve just come out of a very toxic relationship where I felt like that every day.

Luckily, I’m recovering now and those feelings of inadequacy are slowly leaving me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up? No

You're not pretty enough. No

Not sexy enough. No

Not funny enough. No

Not sophisticated enough. No

Not anything enough. No

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you. Never changing.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I’m great and the sooner everyone else realises this the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op Yes I do ever single day and I just tell my self I am a perfect 10

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

This is totally me.

No matter how many times someone compliments me I just don't see it myself.

I'm not changing though, this is me. I just need to appreciate myself more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I’ve just come out of a very toxic relationship where I felt like that every day.

Luckily, I’m recovering now and those feelings of inadequacy are slowly leaving me

I get that, I did. But then something happens and it puts you right back there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up? No

You're not pretty enough. No

Not sexy enough. No

Not funny enough. No

Not sophisticated enough. No

Not anything enough. No

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you. Never changing.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I’m great and the sooner everyone else realises this the better

Who said that??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Maybe in the past at times but not anymore. I’m more this is me take me or leave me these days.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hugs op Yes I do ever single day and I just tell my self I am a perfect 10"

Love that attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe in the past at times but not anymore. I’m more this is me take me or leave me these days. "

This is the approach I'm going for!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up? No

You're not pretty enough. No

Not sexy enough. No

Not funny enough. No

Not sophisticated enough. No

Not anything enough. No

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you. Never changing.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I’m great and the sooner everyone else realises this the better

Who said that??"

Seriously though. I know my strengths and my weaknesses. Whenever I’m feeling shitty I just remember what my strengths are and what I bring to the table. If people don’t like me, fuck them.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

A question OP if you will.

Do you feel that because of what you see/feel about yourself, or is it based on how you compare yourself to others or how others treat you?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Nope self love before anything else

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Maybe in the past at times but not anymore. I’m more this is me take me or leave me these days.

This is the approach I'm going for!!"

It took ages to get here. Try and get there before I did

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A question OP if you will.

Do you feel that because of what you see/feel about yourself, or is it based on how you compare yourself to others or how others treat you?

Can I go with all 3?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that’s how you feel, what hope do mere mortals like us have?

What makes the world beautiful is how different each and every on of us are. We’re not here for a long time so just buckle in and enjoy the ride!

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

I think if people are honest most of us feel like this at some point in our lives, I know I do at times

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I feel like shit at the moment because I’m injured and really struggling to get fixed and more mobile. But that’s just cosmetic. That’s something that’s doable. I’m happy with who I am and am mostly affected by how others treat me, which again I can change, by removing them. So yes. Im bloody happy with who I am. Im absolutely enough because I am the only me there is. Just as you are.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

In the past maybe but I'm frickin awesome to be around and I'm not responsible for other people not seeing that

Chin up, I think you're pretty damn amazing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel like shit at the moment because I’m injured and really struggling to get fixed and more mobile. But that’s just cosmetic. That’s something that’s doable. I’m happy with who I am and am mostly affected by how others treat me, which again I can change, by removing them. So yes. Im bloody happy with who I am. Im absolutely enough because I am the only me there is. Just as you are.

I think some people will be very grateful there's only one of me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the past maybe but I'm frickin awesome to be around and I'm not responsible for other people not seeing that

Chin up, I think you're pretty damn amazing x"

It's the bubbly personality isn't it?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"In the past maybe but I'm frickin awesome to be around and I'm not responsible for other people not seeing that

Chin up, I think you're pretty damn amazing x

It's the bubbly personality isn't it? "

I know you would be a hoot in person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the past maybe but I'm frickin awesome to be around and I'm not responsible for other people not seeing that

Chin up, I think you're pretty damn amazing x

It's the bubbly personality isn't it?

I know you would be a hoot in person

Depends on how you define "hoot"

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"A question OP if you will.

Do you feel that because of what you see/feel about yourself, or is it based on how you compare yourself to others or how others treat you?

Can I go with all 3?

Its so easy to say focus on yourself and fuck others, but thats the secret recipe.

Society constantly “reminds” us how we are not good enough through advertising, movies, TV, social media etc. We don’t help ourselves by comparing ourselves to others, their looks, their success, wealth, fame, happiness. We are always found wanting, yet life isn’t a competition. Be kind to yourself. Reflect on who you are, what you have, how you truely measure success and happiness. Understand that you are the only person who has power over yourself, no one else does.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

"This is totally me.

No matter how many times someone compliments me I just don't see it myself.

I'm not changing though, this is me. I just need to appreciate myself more."

This is totally me too. I do know that i shouldnt feel that way, but its just so hard to change how you see yourself. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is totally me.

No matter how many times someone compliments me I just don't see it myself.

I'm not changing though, this is me. I just need to appreciate myself more.

This is totally me too. I do know that i shouldnt feel that way, but its just so hard to change how you see yourself. X

It is

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"In the past maybe but I'm frickin awesome to be around and I'm not responsible for other people not seeing that

Chin up, I think you're pretty damn amazing x

It's the bubbly personality isn't it?

I know you would be a hoot in person

Depends on how you define "hoot""

Amusing, not boring and not too serious

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In the past maybe but I'm frickin awesome to be around and I'm not responsible for other people not seeing that

Chin up, I think you're pretty damn amazing x

It's the bubbly personality isn't it?

I know you would be a hoot in person

Depends on how you define "hoot"

Amusing, not boring and not too serious "

I could manage that

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Sometimes, usually when I’m in my scruffs. But at the end of the day I’m me. I quite like who I am even if nobody else does. I’m the one who has to live with my emotional self, and I like a quiet life, so I choose not to beat myself up over things I can’t really be bothered to change about myself, that maybe others wouldn’t have noticed anyway.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm enough of all those things for the people that love me for me.

I tolerate myself, and I would say that I'm not enough anything for me. That stems from being told from a very early age everything I did was wrong and not enough, and continued into toxic relationships where that sentiment was a common theme.

As long as I try to be enough of 1 thing for myself on a daily basis that's something.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

As Popeye once said "I yam what I yam and that's all what I yam."

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I think some people will be very grateful there's only one of me

Oh me too!!

but you have to like yourself first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hugs op Yes I do ever single day and I just tell my self I am a perfect 10

Love that attitude"

Thanks and yes is definitely the best way

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

"Its so easy to say focus on yourself and fuck others, but thats the secret recipe.

This is beautiful x

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

Yes and no. Depends on the moon phase, the change of wind direction and how that old woman down the road looks at me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only felt that way once in my life it wasnt the case it was just the new world we live in enforcing its will against mine and the demons ruining my mind truth is i am a great man and one day il be remembered even if its in a dream

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

YES.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I’ve just come out of a very toxic relationship where I felt like that every day.

Luckily, I’m recovering now and those feelings of inadequacy are slowly leaving me

I get that, I did. But then something happens and it puts you right back there."
just have to keep fighting to be as close to who you want to be as you can be

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

I'm absolutely not anything enough. And I feel it all the time, despite having some incredible people in my life who not only tell me I'm enough, they tell me I'm more than enough. And they show it by wanting to be around me, for no reason other than they want to be.

But feeling like you're enough has to come from inside. And sometimes I catch a glimpse of what it might feel like. I want that and I'm hoping one day I'll find it.

I hope you're ok, JAG, and I hope you catch a glimpse or more of the fact you're more than enough soon

Posh

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Nope,

Give no Soul that power over you OP

You are you

So to hell with someone else's opinion on you.

In short Ffk em and the horse they rode in on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was, that was absolutely me, life experiences, and a shitty emotionally abusive marriage led to me having very low self esteem and lack of self confidence.

I’ve done a lot of work on it, and with the help and support of others I’m coming out of it.

Some of the work I had to do myself (and it’s hard work), and some I had to do with others, but it IS possible

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I’m never enough. Never enough anything. People telling me different doesn’t change how I feel.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Not slim enough

Not able bodied enough

They're my main ones

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In some ways not enough, in other ways too much.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

I did, as I was told some of those things by an ex, I now think fuck you.

I like dogs as well.

And you are enough just the way you are. Don't change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

No, I am what I am and people either accept that or not!

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"I’m never enough. Never enough anything. People telling me different doesn’t change how I feel.

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I have big hand,, and I think you are more than enough,,

Just saying,,

Ohh and being lovely to boot is a bonus,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too busy day dreaming to notice op. Interested in what others in the thread say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self doubt is normal, but we are not always the best judges of ourselves. What you should not do is make your life miserable trying to please someone else. Be true to yourself. If that's not okay with someone, it doesn't mean you are lacking, it means they are not the right person for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some things I can influence, some I can’t.

I’m currently doing what I can to lose weight .. I can influence being fat (or not).

I wish I had a few extra inches to my cock .. I can’t influence that. I’m stuck with what nature gave me so I’ll have to enviously look in at all the big choppers out there

I’m fugly .. well I can only make the best of how I look, so while I can’t totally influence that I can try to mitigate where I can.

I used to worry. Now it is what it is.

If people want to meet me, great. If the don’t then that’s fine too, on to the next.

No point worrying about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

Don't ever think you are anything less than the amazing girl you are. From what I see of you, you are kind, funny and just generally lovely. Perfectly imperfect and uniquely you, celebrate it

You are enough.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've, for the most part, accepted my body as the way nature intended.

Would I like perfect skin, perky boobs, less belly wobble, to eat what I want and not get more belly wobble? yes...but not to the point I'd think I didn't measure up.

What am I measuring myself against anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly at work, I don't feel I measure up and suffer from serious imposter syndrome where it feels like I'll get found out and hit a ceiling. It's why I'm in a comfort zone because I genuinely think I'm not worth more money, or my skills don't measure up to others in my field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, people can say you’re enough as you are, and you absolutely are, but it’s you that has to believe it

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Unfortunately the only person that says that to me is myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relatable post OP.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Wven the most confident of people will have self doubt from time to time; it's natural..

It's how you deal with that doubt, you can either repress it and prove to yourself your doubts are unfounded or you can let doubt dominate your life.

Be brave, be bold and love yourself for who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

If you think you'd be happier changing any of those things then I would try. If not, then self acceptance has a lot of value.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up?

You're not pretty enough.

Not sexy enough.

Not funny enough.

Not sophisticated enough.

Not anything enough.

Would you try and change or just thing fuck you.

Obviously the second choice inevitably ends you becoming the crazy dog/cat lady.

Luckily I like dogs.

Pretty frequently

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