FabSwingers.com forum: Timekeeping- what is your limit?

By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

Hah.

So for the occasion today I am wearing new heels, my lovely, lovely new Kurt Geiger bag that I got out of the box today! And here I am in a pub car park killing a bit of time before I go back home after spending lots of time in traffic.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

Now, I -am- a punctual person. I work in aviation, I have to be! But today it was one thing after another at home and then I was caught in Gatwick backroads traffic. I did give this person my phone number and he said he tried to Whatsapp me but it wasn’t going through, and well, I was driving, so couldn’t communicate, and didnt have his number to call… so I park up at the pub 7 min late, and I see a barrage of abuse from him, and I am blocked!

I did go inside the pub (didn’t bother putting the heels on, hahaha he lost that treat!) to see what this was all about… but he’d already left. Or was never here in the first place? He did send a photo of a pint in the sun lol.

I am probably one of the most verified people on Fab. Another person I met a couple of days ago (lovely guy) said I am one of the most respected people on Fab (big compliment) so to be called fake and a cocktease… well…. I suppose I dodged a bullet there.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you?

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By *arah_cd_4funTV/TS
over a year ago

Ashford

For you I would have waited at least a couple hours honey. His loss I say. Xxx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting anyone for the first time, for any reason, I'd wait half an hour.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't know if I have a hard time limit but definitely longer than 7mins!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear A, his loss!

Im very very punctual but theres the occasional time something may make me late and ill phone or message those im meeting. I expect the same, on a social ill generally make myself 5 mins early generally grab a drink and give it until my drinks finished, if shes a no show im off home. I wont get narky with whoever it is... it'll just be a lesson learned and itd be hard for that particular person to earn my time

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Definitely his loss! You can’t help the traffic and 7 minutes is no time to wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a hard limit

However I usually ask them to put the address in maps so it will tell them a estimated time so I know roughly what time to expect them in case they are late and can't text because they're driving

Doubt I'd wait longer than 30 mins though especially without a call to say that they're caught in traffic or something

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Hang on -

Work in aviation and have to be punctual?

He sounds like an impatient git. His loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 minutes. 7 minute ..?

Was he having a giraffe?

Like, actually 7 minutes

Am genuinely shocked (and was 10 mins late for my last social

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Six mins 30 secs....

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Hang on -

Work in aviation and have to be punctual?

He sounds like an impatient git. His loss

I always am.

I don’t like being told off!

All airport personnel have to be on time. That planes don’t leave on time is anotheratter entirely.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Six mins 30 secs....

Aaaaw… I think it’s what happened here! Haha

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Wow all that for 7 mins late

I think you dodged a bullet there

I'd always give someone about 20 mins or until I've finished my drink .

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

you had a narrow escape from someone not worth your time

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think that's silly after 7 min and investing the effort to go there in the first place. Any adult with any life experience under their belt knows life doesn't always go to plan or schedule (especially us who are single parents). I get a lot of people are let down a lot and thus he may have been over sensitive to the feeling it may have happened again. But waiting less than 7 mins is foolish. And giving loads of abuse is fruitless and childish. It disappointing for you I bet because he seemed like a choice? But after that reaction I guess it's a block. Sorry your plans fell through.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Half an hour minimum.

Traffic these days can often be shit. Phone signals can also be terrible and yes, if one of you is driving you can't be expected to send/read messages.

Even if I'd given up and left after that half hour - why the abuse and the block? A simple " I assume something's come up and it's been half an hour so I'm off" message would suffice.

If people are that pissy that they'll run after a mere 7 minutes then more fool them.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

More than 10 mins and no text, I'd be annoyed and prob go to be honest.

Can't stand people being late

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I always try and arrive early.

I’d then make sure I was meeting somewhere there was something to do.

I would never “wait” as such, I’d pass the time having a drink, some food or a browse of fab until I was ready to leave.

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By *neoclockgunMan
over a year ago

London

What a twat.

Anyone can be a little late due to circumstances beyond their control. And if you’re driving, or on the tube, maybe on a train… you may not be able to call or text. If you were going to be half an hour late, I’m sure you would do what I would and stop so you could send an apologetic message explaining and saying you would be there as soon as possible. But 7 minutes? Come on. That’s traffic, a delayed train, a busy station, finding a parking space, etc…

I suspect the truth here is that he got cold feet, panicked, and used it as an excuse to run away.

His loss!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have waited half hour with no contact.

Longer if they'd communicated that they were running late

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By *neoclockgunMan
over a year ago

London

"I'd have waited half hour with no contact.

Longer if they'd communicated that they were running late "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pink heels are gorgeous!

I’m not sure I have a hard time limit to wait, but think I’d likely wait 15-30 mins at least without any communication. Definitely a bullet dodged if he couldn’t even wait 7 minutes!!

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

His loss hun….

I would wait half an hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SEVEN minutes?! Jeez. That's rubbish. Last date I had, I went to the wrong pub AND I was late. He came and found me. You're worth more than seven minutes. For sure.

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By *ty80Man
over a year ago

Woking

"Definitely his loss! You can’t help the traffic and 7 minutes is no time to wait. "

This is spot on

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Depends what was planned, but a drink on the way home from work then I would wait say 30mins?

But would be more than happy to rearrange for another time.

Longest I've waited was 2 hours when I had travelled 30 miles.

I gave up and went home furious at having my time wasted.

but I did listen to the explanation and give another chance.

Thankfully not meeting anybody new now so I don't need to stress about it any more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1/2 hour for me without contact.

Things happen

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Absolutely a bullet dodged if thats how he responded to a measly 7 mins late!!! Completely unnecessary. X

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We would wait for around 30 mins but maybe longer as we are a couple which avoids the issue of sitting on our own looking sad and lonely. For a first meet and because it is a Friday which in our experience always makes travelling take longer we would certainly give the benefit of the doubt and hang around for quite a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 mins.

I'm always early as I have terrible anexity. I'll get a drink and wait but if I've not heard by 30 mins after the arranged time I'd be off.

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

You gave him your number

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

Prob half an hour then leave. And his loss .. you're gorgeous!

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By *emptd2Man
over a year ago

Burgess Hill & Birmingham

I'd hang around for at least 15 mins but being on time is a bug bear of mine especially when people don't say in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say about 30 mins.. 7 mins is nothing ! What a knob !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw that’s rubbish! I’d probably wait around 25/30 minutes before I thought it wasn’t happening - unless they told me they’re running late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This almost sounds like a gag

Personally, I'd say 30-45 minutes is a fair amount to wait. You never know what might have happened and life doesn't always go according to plan!

Plus, there are people that are always fashionably 5 minutes late and that don't make them teasers and timewasters

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

7 minutes??

Someone waited an hour for me once, outside a station.

I communicated throughout and apologised.

He had travelled across London to see me and I only had a 15/20 minute bus ride, but he had already left and was underground when I realised I'd be late.

I'd wait until I finished my drink if I was left waiting with no sign of anyone turning up.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

We like yourself are the punctual types.. We would wait half hour no more unless we'd heard a valid reason to wait longer..

Totally his loss

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

He was/is clearly an idiot. 7 minutes is barely late. I'd have waited for a good hour. Especially if I'd known you were dressed up like that.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Wow... did he have a plane to catch or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 mins? What a clown

Half an hour okay but 7 mins?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you maybe dodged a bullet there! It's all meant to be fun, not worrying that if you are a few mins late you will be met with a barrage of abuse.

Brush the dust off your crown and put it back on. Negative people aren't worth your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 minutes late, I had someone wait 20 mins over for me as I was stuck in nightmare traffic, and he never complained!

Sounds like the guys got issues, and you dodged a bullet!

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

With good communication I will wait 30mins. I'm a very punctual person & value my time

After 30mins can always reschedule but it's upto them now to do that

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

If i was ever 7 minutes late for my meetings i definitely would consider myself a very happy punctual person

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

Seven minutes is no time at all.

I bet he is kicking himself now after seeing your heels and legs, oh your legs.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

As soon as I arrive I would txt or message that I am here if there is no response I would send a 2nd message after 30 minutes that I am here if still no response I would send a 3rd message after 30 minutes to say that I have been here a hour now can you please message me if I don’t hear from you in 30 minutes I assume you have had a change of heart or something has happened and you can’t make it. I feel 90 minutes is more than enough time for someone to message me back to let me know what is happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far i been waiting about 2 years and 3 months but its all good

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If they hadn't been in touch to say they were running late 20 mins would be the most I would wait.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Daft bugger. He should have had a second pint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say at least allow 50 minutes. If he had your number he could have called you.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Sounds like a lucky escape for you. I can’t imagine someone who is that highly strung and delicate over 7 minutes being much fun or good company in many situations… jeez

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By *hilm2011Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I got stood up once but waited around for an hour

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Sounds like a lucky escape for you. I can’t imagine someone who is that highly strung and delicate over 7 minutes being much fun or good company in many situations… jeez

He lost his bottle. Talked the talk, but couldn't actually go through with the meet. As for abuse, what a wank stain

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I am used to meeting people who, among themselves, refer to being on 'African Time'.

It seems to work for them and I have had to get used to it through lack of choice but where it gets silly is on occasions like christenings.

The church isn't going to be lackadaisical about time, so the actual baptism takes place as arranged at 3pm but nobody else starts showing up for the reception until about 9.30pm and, again, the church hall janitor wants everyone out by 10pm!

As a time zone, it is on a continent of its own.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Probably half hour ish, 7 mins I'm shocked at, that's no time whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 mins unless delay is communicated before the agreed time.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"You gave him your number

It looks like he didnt enter it properly as he said that his whatsapp messages weren’t being received by me? (One tick?) interesting…

But you’re right. I suppose mever again. Bullet dosged.

Thank you everyone for the lovely comments.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I had a meet arranges weds an ex f buddy happened to come into my workplace last sat and we got chatting after on txt he said do u want to meet up so I said yes and we arranges he pick me up and we go back to his which we did when f buddy's couple years ago for most part of a year! Anyways all dressed waiting gave it half hour and txt him what happened? His answer? He "forgot" I really didn't know how to answer that lol ! X

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Probably 20 mins unless I'm contacted with a good excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

by her published meets sounds like most just a chat so why even waste your time ??? I think she does enjoy the tease !!!!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I would have been irritated after 15mins and left after about 30mins. I wouldn’t have given abuse or got the hump.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

7 mins late is absolutely nothing what’s wrong with this guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"by her published meets sounds like most just a chat so why even waste your time ??? I think she does enjoy the tease !!!!

You’re clearly joking

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

I believe the moment you realise you're going to be late you should make an effort to let them know...although you didn't have his number, you could have tried and message him on fab.

Now with that being said, I usually wait 15 minutes...if I don't hear anything from them, it's safe to say they're not coming. If they had a legitimate reason for not coming or being late, I am happy to reschedule...if they say they were 30 min late because of traffic, I most likely wouldn't give them a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 years ago I arranged a meet in a pud in South Woodford for 530pm .

Now before I go any further you need to know this about me , I was raised to never leave a lady waiting so I get there for 5.15pm.

We had been chatting through messages all day and I knew the lady in question had book a hair appointment 4pm on the day .

So I arrive at the pub and to cut this story short at 6pm I message her saying and these where my exact words where the bloody hell are.

I get a message back a few minutes later saying just leaving the hair dressers now be there in about 20 minutes .

At this stag I'm pissed and I don't f-ing care she's getting it .so I send a message back saying words to the effect your taking the piss out of me by the time your get here your going to be a hour late do you think this is exceptable behavior towards me.

I got a instant message back saying words to the effect no it's not I'm so sorry please wait to 6.30 I will be there .

Now I have got to admit I didn't expect a message back but because she did message back agreeing with me .i decide to wait to dead on 6.30 thinking if she didn't show and the whole thing was a whined up it would be the first time ever I'd made a mistake in my judgement of who to meet .

She turned up I had the hump told her off again , she apologised 25 minutes later over a drink we was laughing about it , I've been topping her for 5 years now found out a good few months later that me telling her off was such massive turn on for her . she also told me she always turned up late to the first social meet as a test to see if the guys were trully dominant . I was the first guy to ever her words now mine have the balls to tell her off .

Guess you failed his test OP You may not like to here this , but good on him for walking away .you was late you should have left 10 minutes earlier .the only excuse for lateness in my book would be something like the cars just blown up .

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends if they had communicated they were running late or not to be honest.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"by her published meets sounds like most just a chat so why even waste your time ??? I think she does enjoy the tease !!!!

LMAO!

with you, probably wouldn’t even be an online chat!

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

His loss, sounds like he didn't attend. Then sent you a photo as proof to make you feel bad. A pint would if taken more than 7 mins to drink, if he'd arrived on the exact time. Take a possitive, and know that the dressing up was dobe for you, and made you feel good.

I did giggle about you most veris comment.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

I did giggle about you most veris comment. "

Why is that? Obviously I am NOT the *most* verified profile on Fab, but the summary gives a somewhat clear indication that I *will* turn up if I agree to meet someone… and the verifications are fairly consistent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you?

I did giggle about you most veris comment. "

I'm not picking on you but come on what gas he lost ... nothing but time ...his time that he valued enough to walk away from someone who couldn't be arsed to turn up on time . I admire the fella and I'm certain because he walk away that he's not lacking for female company his action prove that .

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

1/2 hour is the limit if no contact stating why they are late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1/2 hour is the limit if no contact stating why they are late."

Thats my limit to fella because that's how long it takes me to drink a pint of soda water and lime .

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Another person I met a couple of days ago (lovely guy) said I am one of the most respected people on Fab (big compliment) "

Lol

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you?

I did giggle about you most veris comment.

How could she "not be arsed" to turn up on time? OP has clearly explained what happened. Seven minutes is hardly any time, let's be honest. It's hardly enough time to wait at the bar and order a drink, FFS. When someone is driving, they cannot legally send messages or make calls and so it sounds like the OP did her utmost to inform the person.

It sounds like the individual she intended to meet was highly impatient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hah.

More fool him you’re a beautiful attractive lady

Bin it move on

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

" Guess you failed his test OP You may not like to here this , but good on him for walking away .you was late you should have left 10 minutes earlier .the only excuse for lateness in my book would be something like the cars just blown up .

She didn't sign up for a test. She signed up for a social. If you cannot understand that sometimes, completely unexpected things can cause minor delays (of 7 minutes), then you aren't living in reality. Plenty of genuine things can happen at the last minute to cause delays or cancellation. Cars blowing up is extreme to the point of being ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hah.

More fool him you’re a beautiful attractive lady

Bin it move on

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you?

Sorry wrong button lol

You’re beautiful young lady Bon him move on my time keeping not great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm waiting in a pub or a coffee shop I'd give it a good hour without hearing anything. It's a social and I'm already chilling anyway. I was once 15 minutes late, but was able to let the lady know by messaging. I had actually been early, but twigged I was at the wrong venue. Didn't realise there are two in the same city..

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

7 minutes

Sure his pint/coffee wouldn't even be downed by then.

Ridiculous.

I don't have a set time myself,

I'd order a 2nd drink and if still a no show by then, leave a msg that I'm leaving for such n such place, they can find me there or not, their loss at the end of the day.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m quite punctual and been on several dates over the last year or so. I think I have been slightly late on a couple of occasions. By late maybe 10 minutes at the worst.

If those ladies had kicked off, I’d say good riddance to them. Certainly if the shoe (even one’s not as nice as yours op) had been on the other foot I wouldn’t be too bothered and would wait for at least half an hour, longer if I received a message.

Great shoe choice Op, enjoy them

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

I think 30mins late is fine anything after needs a good reason and traffic seems fair enough, over a hour I would have left.

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By *ark_uk_1968Man
over a year ago

chertsey

Leaving a barrage of abuse and leaving after 7 minutes is not normal behaviour.

Probably best you weren't on time !

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By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

Guess the wife was asking where he was? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I live in reality alright she could be arsed to make sure she was on time , all she had to do was make sure she left 15 minutes earlier the guy most likely had a rule if your not on time it means you don't respect me enough to make sure your on time . So bye bye because the world is full of women who are.

Like I said a guy who has the balls for the lack of a better word to think like that and not put up with behavior he finds unexceptable is a guy who is not with out female company of that I'd bet my life savings on .

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By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

If you have never spoke to the guy only via text mmmmm I’d never meet anyone with out talking to them that way u know if they are bit dodgy or not telling the whole story

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

And it's normal to send a barrage of abuse to someone who arrived 7 minutes late to a social meeting? That's not normal in anyone's world, surely?

Again, you've clearly missed the OP references to unexpected delays (at home and on the roads). I once spent 7hrs sat in my car on the M6 just beyond Keele Services. We missed an appointment to collect the keys for my friends new flat. Presumably we were supposed to apparate there or something?? We expected an unexpected delay (someone died in an RTA and the motorway was closed all day). We left Birkenhead at 9am and arrived in Uttoxeter after 6pm. Should have been a 2hr drive, ish and was clear when we set off.

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

"For you I would have waited at least a couple hours honey. His loss I say. Xxx.

There’s a queue forming A.

I hope you blocked the prat.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"For you I would have waited at least a couple hours honey. His loss I say. Xxx.

There’s a queue forming A.

I hope you blocked the prat.

He blocked me! I was going to say right after I parked- I am here! And discovered I was blocked…

As it happens, there is a queue in my inbox, having, you know, a life, having gone out to dinner with family etc- I hadn’t really read my messages this evening. Someone just told me no wonder I get called names if I can’t be arsed to answer messages…

Some people are angry today!

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

I am so interested darling…

How many meets from Fab have you had?

How many? Can’t hear you babe…

None?

Ah.

Ta for the advice and the amazing life lesson.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

OP, ¿quieres una reunión con nosotros?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I bet you he was never even there.

I've never known a man not wait a reasonable amount of time.

I give it half an hour at most, but get myself a coffee in the mean time and just sit and relax.

You were obviously just an outlet for whatever issues he has. He'll probably come crawling back in a week or 3

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

The word you want to use is “unacceptable”, not “unexceptable”… in my book, literacy is as important as punctuality.

Going to leave it here, peeps- thanks a lot for all of you who took time (we all have valuable time) to reply and voice an opinion. I am glad to know I wasn’t being unreasonable. And yes, it will be back to message ping-pong of several days before deciding if I want to meet for a social…

Have a great weekend everyone.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"OP, ¿quieres una reunión con nosotros?

¡Siiiii, guapa! ¡Agendemos algo! Espero pronto poder ir a Manchester…

xxx

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"by her published meets sounds like most just a chat so why even waste your time ??? I think she does enjoy the tease !!!!

You do know not everyone documents their every move on here?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sun is shining, it’s a beautiful day, you have had flirty banter with a foxy lady who wants to meet in person, I would have sat out in the garden for at least an hour, had a pint, then onto lemonades, it’s not very often planets align like this….. his loss most definitely and even if you were two hours late and he’d left, an hour in a pub garden with good weather never killed anybody

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"For you I would have waited at least a couple hours honey. His loss I say. Xxx.

There’s a queue forming A.

I hope you blocked the prat.

He blocked me! I was going to say right after I parked- I am here! And discovered I was blocked…

Some people are angry today!

I'm sure it's not a full moon ...

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"OP, ¿quieres una reunión con nosotros?

¡Siiiii, guapa! ¡Agendemos algo! Espero pronto poder ir a Manchester…

xxx"

Tenemos ganas de verte otra vez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 mins

Flipping heck.. I'd probably give it an hour??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hah.

It is -very- rare for me to be spontaneous and meet on the day, but today I started chatting to someone who seemed ok, decent profile, literate and articulate

, so we arranged to meet for a social.

How late is too late for you? How long will you wait for a meet? I will wait half an hour no problem. I know life happens and people can be late. If it’s a bit later I guess I will be

but I’ll still wait. One hour and I will probably leave. This had never happened to me before!

All that effort in dressing up. Haha. I adore my Neon Pink Steve Madden Heels!

Do you? "

What a stupid man! He is not worth any more of your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"by her published meets sounds like most just a chat so why even waste your time ??? I think she does enjoy the tease !!!!

Of course anybody that actually would like to have a conversation in person with someone before they have decide if they want to have sex with them it's clearly a time waster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it's normal to send a barrage of abuse to someone who arrived 7 minutes late to a social meeting? That's not normal in anyone's world, surely?

Since when is calling someone a timwaster a cock tease abuse the guy is telling the OP his opinion of her after she didn't turn up on time .

She's to blame action have consequences she couldn't be arse to turn up to a meet on time , don't give me any crap about things happen.

First she could have left out at a time that gave her plenty of time to arrive on time .

Secondly she could have at anytime messaged the fella saying I'm running about 15 minutes late sorry about this please bare with me I will be there you have my word .

Two basic things that 90 precent of most human being would do as a sign of respect to the other human being they are meeting .

The OP ether choose not to do these couple of very basic things or thought I don't need to he will wait .

Ether way she's in the wrong and if it was the second reason ive list above she clearly has delusions of entitlement .

She then comes on fab writes a well written post to try and get reassurance off of here for her action .to try and reinforce her possible beliefs of entitlement and the sycophantic mob puppets of the fanny fall over themselves not thinking . Hay if she was late for a job interviews she's not getting the job what ever the reason .a extreme example but you get the picture .

Like I said Good on the fella in question for having the self believe to say. hay this is disrespectful behavior towards me I'm out of here shag or the line or not . Like I have said more than once this is a guy who I have no doubt has plenty of options so does not need to put up with any behavior he finds unacceptable .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d wait until I knew they weren’t going to show I guess.

7mins?

haha. Did his parking ticket run out and he just wasn’t prepared to pay for another?

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I'd wait 30mins max with no communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been stood up a few times and longest I’ll wait is about 15 minutes. Would never ever be abusive about it though. Life happens. Sounds like either he wasn’t really there and was deflecting, or he’s an entitled prick and you’ve dodged a bullet xx

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Someone with almost 90 verifications is clearly not a time waster.

Think yourself lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it you that stood her up on purpose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"5 years ago I arranged a meet in a pud in South Woodford for 530pm .

Now before I go any further you need to know this about me , I was raised to never leave a lady waiting so I get there for 5.15pm.

We had been chatting through messages all day and I knew the lady in question had book a hair appointment 4pm on the day .

So I arrive at the pub and to cut this story short at 6pm I message her saying and these where my exact words where the bloody hell are.

I get a message back a few minutes later saying just leaving the hair dressers now be there in about 20 minutes .

I got a instant message back saying words to the effect no it's not I'm so sorry please wait to 6.30 I will be there .

So many guys on here mistake being a dom with treating women like rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"by her published meets sounds like most just a chat so why even waste your time ??? I think she does enjoy the tease !!!!

She probably met most of them initially for socials and then had play meets later one. Obviously they're not going to verify her again once they've already left one

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Probably about 15 mins then I'd figure they weren't coming. I'd probably stick around for 15min more after that just to be sure.

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By *heArrowsCouple
over a year ago

I would wait 30 min.

But you can be clever too. When was the last time the person logged into fab or whatsapp. If I drop a message and they have been online but not replied I would give them 30 min then put my disappointment away and probably get myself a large double whopper meal and move on with my day.

I'm a very punctual person but I do know that real life doesn't care about that. Things happen

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If you promised to wear your red Louboutin’s we’d wait all day

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Well in my earlier posting on this thread I said I would wait up to 90 minutes as I would be sending a message every 30 minutes before calling it a day.Looking at a lot of the responses it seems most would wait 30 minutes.I am not sure if I have been a idiot for waiting up to 90 minutes and I may consider changing this in the future.To the OP 7 minutes late is not a lot to be late and I would say it’s his loss.