FabSwingers.com forum: Can you be arsed?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't join in those threads.

I agree with your point about single men but if they dare complain ...

Anyway, marry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't join in those threads.

I agree with your point about single men but if they dare complain ...

Anyway, marry.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"

Nope.

Don't think I ever did when on here as a single and certainly wouldn't now.

Don't see the benefit of saying I'd kiss/fuck/pass/smother in cheese on a thread. The only likely outcome is unwanted messages.

Many will say yes to anything female with a pulse in the hope of getting a wet deck, even if there's no profile photo and a one line bio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"
i cant be arsed cos im too busy to message anyone

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Nope. Absolutely cannot be arsed.

I fancy very rarely. It would be lovely if I fancied someone and they fancied me back. But do I need or want attention from everyone? No.

I find those threads absolutely same old same old. Much of it bordering disingenuous.

I join in threads where I can have a chuckle that’s it. Or be grumpy like I sound now

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Not a fan of the attention seeking threads either.

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By *hilledGuerillaMan
over a year ago

In the monkey house

I have a nosy on those threads, wink a few times, fab some pics and occasionally say the obligatory “I’m in”. Rarely get a fab or a wink from them but it’s always nice when I do.

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By *emptd2Man
over a year ago

City centre

"BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"

Even without participating in the threads you'd still get way more attention than the average looking guy in here.

I don't post in the threads all to often as I imagine that would get boring but every once in a while can't be too bad.

It's for fun after all. If you're not enjoying it anymore then find something else that entertains you on the forums.

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over a year ago

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

There was a big long thread about a similar subject yesterday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone rate my profile please?

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

Totally understand where your coming from, the only reason i join them now is just for the fact of boredom , i'ts the same people each time, surely by now they've already been hotlisted , fabbed or told i'd like to fuck etc

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nah I can’t be arsed. For no other reason than I just cannot be arsed. I get why people like them though. I’m not overly interested in the “what strangers think of me” type threads. I know what those who matter think of me. And I think the compliments ones/say something nice are too arse licky for me. However I enjoy doing the secret service and I quite like the “my mate”

Ones. They’re actually fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I join them now and again, yes sometimes I think what's the point but others I get nice surprises. It's just a bit of light hearted fun or dissapointment

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham/Telford

I tend to join in a few if them fir a few weeks and then end up giving them a wide berth for a while.

I use it as a bit of light hearted fun... because as a bloke my inbox doesn't get infiltrated so it doesn't impact me as much as the ladies!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Nope. Absolutely cannot be arsed.

I fancy very rarely. It would be lovely if I fancied someone and they fancied me back. But do I need or want attention from everyone? No.

I find those threads absolutely same old same old. Much of it bordering disingenuous.

I join in threads where I can have a chuckle that’s it. Or be grumpy like I sound now

You can't be me sorry

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

Haha I’m the only one I know who says “makes my fucking teeth itch”. Never heard anyone else say it before

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

Like you OP I did join in with them and I still do, but to a much lesser extent now.

I Fab photos as some of them are very good and really artistic.

I think I will do a Dr and reinvent myself, then basque in the glory of my dad bod.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I can’t be arsed exactly for the same reasons as you, OP. I used to get into a right flap for never being mentioned in the popular threads or not getting messages on the “postie” threads.

So now I just come and lurk and read and chip in whenever. All my Fab action/meets is and always has been off the forums/fora.

I still attend the socials cos I love them.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Nope.

Don't think I ever did when on here as a single and certainly wouldn't now.

Don't see the benefit of saying I'd kiss/fuck/pass/smother in cheese on a thread. The only likely outcome is unwanted messages.

Many will say yes to anything female with a pulse in the hope of getting a wet deck, even if there's no profile photo and a one line bio.

A wet deck is dangerous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I join in and sometimes I don’t. , I can’t be assed because I’m not going to join in later int he thread anyway. Other times i do because I have got the time to pop back and give a back and forth to anyone who has, against all the odds in the world replied to me.

There’s a time when you realise the energy you get out is less than you are putting, and it is exhausting…fab is lucky I have stamina..

But posting in a who fancies me thread as a bloke is hilarious… I had one today. 1. And that knocked me off my feet because I never get any unless I send first. But maybe that’s just me. Maybe other men get loads of messages first, i suspect some do - some don’t.

Op, like you I enjoy it all, it’s good fun.

I’m not here to figure Fab out, I’m here to have a good time with good people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"

Personally we don’t give a flying flamingo if ignored etc etc,we’re not members of the Fab elite gang ( nor want to be) we’re just us in this little secret hobby & it’s just a bit of fun in the forum(s) take it or leave it so to speak .But I dare say some need to be liked ,I should imagine for their self esteem . Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

Haha I’m the only one I know who says “makes my fucking teeth itch”. Never heard anyone else say it before

I often say 'it makes my shit itch'

But yep OP, I don't participate in these threads either for the reasons you stated. But I would rather one genuine friend than a 100 superficial one's

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't have a problem with those threads though they're a bit of light-hearted fun.

I can understand how they might make people feet left out though

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

Haha I’m the only one I know who says “makes my fucking teeth itch”. Never heard anyone else say it before

I often say 'it makes my shit itch'

But yep OP, I don't participate in these threads either for the reasons you stated. But I would rather one genuine friend than a 100 superficial one's

Ah see you’re much cruder than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

Haha I’m the only one I know who says “makes my fucking teeth itch”. Never heard anyone else say it before

Oh really? I say it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a fan of kids arse threads “xyz is amazing”, not that they aren’t amazing but it’s desperately transparent and cringy which makes my teeth itch.

Not a fan of “do xyz if you’d meet”, if people want to meet, they will and it won’t be because they’ve joined a thread.

Not a fan of “who is the best xyz” or “who has the best xyz body parts”. It’s all in the spirit of good hun but I find it either cringe or meh.

I’m not a great bar for these things though as I can’t be arsed with much these days

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

I like interesting debate, dogs, sleep and egg McMuffins in the morning.

I’m easily pleased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

I like interesting debate, dogs, sleep and egg McMuffins in the morning.

I’m easily pleased

You should have said, I’d have given you one in the morning

*I know, I know!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to always participate in these kinds of threads as they were just light hearted fun and flirtation which quite often led onto a chat with someone.

I find that these days I am becoming a lurker regarding the forums. It's purely because 'I can't be arsed'. I refresh the page and then go off to do something else or chat via my direct messages.

It's a cyclical thing with me, I dare say in the near future I will go through a phase of being involved in many threads again but for now I am happy with my level of activity.

NBVN x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. I used to, but it's not my style and I'm no longer bothered with fitting in for the sake of it

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

I like interesting debate, dogs, sleep and egg McMuffins in the morning.

I’m easily pleased

You should have said, I’d have given you one in the morning

*I know, I know!!!!

She would only want your cream for coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't join in those threads.

I agree with your point about single men but if they dare complain ...

Anyway, marry.

Torn on whose MOH I want to be

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I used to always participate in these kinds of threads as they were just light hearted fun and flirtation which quite often led onto a chat with someone.

I find that these days I am becoming a lurker regarding the forums. It's purely because 'I can't be arsed'. I refresh the page and then go off to do something else or chat via my direct messages.

It's a cyclical thing with me, I dare say in the near future I will go through a phase of being involved in many threads again but for now I am happy with my level of activity.

NBVN x"

That's because there's no status quo threads NBVN

Maybe a tad fab anti social at the moment.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I get bored with them.

They are ok to dip into once or twice but the novelty soon wears off. I can see why they are popular though so have nothing against them as it makes people smile and feel good about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't join in those threads.

I agree with your point about single men but if they dare complain ...

Anyway, marry.

Marry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be arsed with them.

Then again I rarely come in the forums as much as I used to previously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. Absolutely cannot be arsed.

I fancy very rarely. It would be lovely if I fancied someone and they fancied me back. But do I need or want attention from everyone? No.

I find those threads absolutely same old same old. Much of it bordering disingenuous.

I join in threads where I can have a chuckle that’s it. Or be grumpy like I sound now

I need to think of more threads where people can be grumpy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts are that I do this shit because I low-key hate myself. And look for reasons to confirm negative things about me. So- I think I’m ugly, I’ll do this thread where I know I’ll get no attention and it will confirm I am in fact ugly. See. Told you. It is so unhealthy but I can’t help it

Also I find like I like them because I enjoy making others, especially other men, feel seen. So I join ones and try and message guys I see on here a lot. And I try and fab the lads. Even if I’m not seen so much or fabbed or messaged. But tbf as I said above, I genuinely don’t expect validation in those threads because I genuinely have a low opinion of myself

Anyway- get yourself in the face pic Friday thread so I can put my face in your box, OP.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Funnily enough I've posted in a couple today after a long period of abstinence. I bit of boredom, a bit of validation, trying to be more social on here.

Maybe I should stick to the last song thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

I like interesting debate, dogs, sleep and egg McMuffins in the morning.

I’m easily pleased

You should have said, I’d have given you one in the morning

*I know, I know!!!!

She would only want your cream for coffee

It’s like a scene from 9 1/2 weeks in front of a fridge…..

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There was a big long thread about a similar subject yesterday.

Oops

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Just depends on my mood and then will

Do lots of different threads to just chatter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not in

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

I like interesting debate, dogs, sleep and egg McMuffins in the morning.

I’m easily pleased

You should have said, I’d have given you one in the morning

*I know, I know!!!!

She would only want your cream for coffee

It’s like a scene from 9 1/2 weeks in front of a fridge…..

I remember that movie, damn I'm old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure would bother with such threads

Notice on others that may contribute to that often someone more popular may post pretty much what I have said, just worded differently.

Do enjoy engaging on some threads but not popularity ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it short, what are you a fan of?

I like interesting debate, dogs, sleep and egg McMuffins in the morning.

I’m easily pleased

You should have said, I’d have given you one in the morning

*I know, I know!!!!

She would only want your cream for coffee

It’s like a scene from 9 1/2 weeks in front of a fridge…..

I remember that movie, damn I'm old

Sshhhhh. That makes me old too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm .."

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I can barely be arsed to participate or reply in threads anymore.

Fab fatigue perhaps? Much more a lurker now and even then can rarely be arsed

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We post in the forums but usually get ignored...its not a problem as we concentrate on messages and sexual encounters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My thoughts are that I do this shit because I low-key hate myself. And look for reasons to confirm negative things about me. So- I think I’m ugly, I’ll do this thread where I know I’ll get no attention and it will confirm I am in fact ugly. See. Told you. It is so unhealthy but I can’t help it

Anyway- get yourself in the face pic Friday thread so I can put my face in your box, OP.

I hardly know what to say to that - it seems masochistic to do that. You spend an inordinate amount of time here being positive to other people - spare some of that for you? (And you don't need a special thread to get my face in your box, ya daftie)

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm ..

I wasn't saying anything against those types of threads. Except that I think those who are struggling somewhat here may find them hard going. My ego hasn't been crushed, but I've spoken to some single guys who did feel disappointed. And I can understand why. For me, I just got fed up and bored."
yeah totally understand what you mean I always think if someone’s struggling or having a tough week maybe these types of threads should be avoided..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't join in those threads.

I agree with your point about single men but if they dare complain ...

Anyway, marry.

Torn on whose MOH I want to be

MOH?

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"I can barely be arsed to participate or reply in threads anymore.

Fab fatigue perhaps? Much more a lurker now and even then can rarely be arsed

Ditto. Thread topics seem to be recycled at an ever quickening rate too. I am finding Tinder conversations about tonight's dinner/weather/Netflix watchlists to be more interesting recently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nah I can’t be arsed. For no other reason than I just cannot be arsed. I get why people like them though. I’m not overly interested in the “what strangers think of me” type threads. I know what those who matter think of me. And I think the compliments ones/say something nice are too arse licky for me. However I enjoy doing the secret service and I quite like the “my mate”

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab fatigue perhaps?…."

I’m starting to feel that… so much potential to meet people and it fizzles out. I don’t mean sex meets, just everyone is impossible to socialise with. Distance, diaries and bunch of other excuses and reasons.

The threads become just an outlet, and that begins to look less inviting each day.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is. "

Yeah I guess. When I do the secret service I feel a bit bad for the people who don’t get one. But if I make them up it defeats the object I suppose. It’s a difficult one. Especially when people moan on the actual thread about it and I think “it’s not my fault!”

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is.

But then again I do think people shouldn’t join if it’s going to make them feel like that. A lot of people enjoy it. Also a lot join and don’t bother sending any themselves so it’s swings and roundabouts really x

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is.

You shouldn’t feel bad, Nora. After all, don’t shoot the messenger…

But it’s true. It’s always the same messages for the same people. *yawn* I don’t even open the postie or my mate threads.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is. "

There’s always more ‘in’ than messages so many people just rock up and don’t send anything but expect to receive

another funny part of fab.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is.

There’s always more ‘in’ than messages so many people just rock up and don’t send anything but expect to receive

another funny part of fab. "

Yes! Totally

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over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ones. They’re actually fun

The "my mate" ones can be fun but often turn into messages for half a dozen people and no-one else. It's just how it is.

You shouldn’t feel bad, Nora. After all, don’t shoot the messenger…

But it’s true. It’s always the same messages for the same people. *yawn* I don’t even open the postie or my mate threads. "

Aw you should do. You’d get lots I reckon!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, I do think it could be for a single man and I posted similar yesterday.

I don't find those threads any different to people taking over threads with conversation that could be messaged privately or ones that are for a friendship group. It's not really for me but I can see what people get out of it.

I quite like the "what do you think of me" because I'm a curious soul and they're a good way to interact, the fab a fella ones because I can post something tongue in cheek and make someone feel noticed. Fpf is good when you're a nosy bitch.

I think I'm at a point where I'm quite content, I'm a bit foratigued and I don't need or want attention/validation from those who don't really know me.

Oh and don't even get me started on people who are in and don't bother to reply (then complain that no one messaged them, cheeky sods) or get upset when they don't get anything and haven't sent anything. That does get an eyeroll from me*.

*as much negative emotion as I can give a forum action.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yes, I do think it could be for a single man and I posted similar yesterday.

I think I'm at a point where I'm quite content, I'm a bit foratigued and I don't need or want attention/validation from those who don't really know me.

*as much negative emotion as I can give a forum action."

Foratigued

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over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

I think the only one I do regularly is the face pic Friday. Occasionally I do others if bored, ultimately, I can see how people may feel left out. I’m more curious of the women who get fawned over constantly and the men who sometimes will respond to many women in ways that is a ‘come on’ - I wonder what they get out of it. It seems like a cycle of emptiness and actually worse than what they imagine they can get by doing less. "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

If I'm in mood which is often I will comment and yes often get skipped/ignored but don't mind that! And yes think the single guys get alot of this across the site!just look at if as a bit of fun and big pinch of salt x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like you OP I did join in with them and I still do, but to a much lesser extent now.

I Fab photos as some of them are very good and really artistic.

I think I will do a Dr and reinvent myself, then basque in the glory of my dad bod.

I shall watch out for your reinvention!

I like the photo ones more than anything else. Of course Not So Posh does the BEST ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can’t be arsed exactly for the same reasons as you, OP. I used to get into a right flap for never being mentioned in the popular threads or not getting messages on the “postie” threads.

So now I just come and lurk and read and chip in whenever. All my Fab action/meets is and always has been off the forums/fora.

I still attend the socials cos I love them.

Perhaps I shall meet you at one in the future

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"I can’t be arsed exactly for the same reasons as you, OP. I used to get into a right flap for never being mentioned in the popular threads or not getting messages on the “postie” threads.

So now I just come and lurk and read and chip in whenever. All my Fab action/meets is and always has been off the forums/fora.

I still attend the socials cos I love them.

Perhaps I shall meet you at one in the future

It’d be my pleasure

I had to travel in April and missed out on the last Manchester Social, but perhaps I can make another one in the future!

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

No don't join those kind of threads they're pointless. Well the only point is ego boosting and some have big enough egos as it is

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over a year ago

"I can’t be arsed exactly for the same reasons as you, OP. I used to get into a right flap for never being mentioned in the popular threads or not getting messages on the “postie” threads.

So now I just come and lurk and read and chip in whenever. All my Fab action/meets is and always has been off the forums/fora.

I still attend the socials cos I love them.

Perhaps I shall meet you at one in the future

It’d be my pleasure

I had to travel in April and missed out on the last Manchester Social, but perhaps I can make another one in the future!

I missed it in April as well, really hope to make another this year and meet some peeps!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Never joined in on them because they seem repetitive, boring and a waste of time for me.

Every guy rates every girl 8/10 minimum. Lots of 10/10. It all feels so fake. Like they are threads made for simps

Then you get the message question, post answer. What’s the point? Just a thread of random stuff? “17” - “probably avocados but I’m not sure” - “yeah I have actually”. I don’t get it.

Plus, I come on here to either kill 5 minutes at work, or to try to contribute to a conversation that interests me. Rating the person above doesn’t interest me.

Imagine a rate me thread that was honest. When people start getting 2/10 and 0/10. That’s why it feels so fake to me. No one’s being honest

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Like you OP I did join in with them and I still do, but to a much lesser extent now.

I Fab photos as some of them are very good and really artistic.

I think I will do a Dr and reinvent myself, then basque in the glory of my dad bod.

I shall watch out for your reinvention!

I like the photo ones more than anything else. Of course Not So Posh does the BEST ones.

I think you mean pervin on a daily basis there OP.

Oh the BEST, not just the best eh.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I'm in mood which is often I will comment and yes often get skipped/ignored but don't mind that! And yes think the single guys get alot of this across the site!just look at if as a bit of fun and big pinch of salt x"

The last time I joined in with three different threads and was skipped on all three. And internally I just thought - can't be arsed anymore!

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over a year ago

"Like you OP I did join in with them and I still do, but to a much lesser extent now.

I Fab photos as some of them are very good and really artistic.

I think I will do a Dr and reinvent myself, then basque in the glory of my dad bod.

I shall watch out for your reinvention!

I like the photo ones more than anything else. Of course Not So Posh does the BEST ones.

I think you mean pervin on a daily basis there OP.

Oh the BEST, not just the best eh.

Moi, perv?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No don't join those kind of threads they're pointless. Well the only point is ego boosting and some have big enough egos as it is"

I 100% agree with you on this. I don't participate in those types of threads for this reason.

Mrs

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

The last time I joined in with three different threads and was skipped on all three. And internally I just thought - can't be arsed anymore!"

Yes can be daunting! Don't spend quite so much time here now weather is getting nice so much to do in garden or on my cycle rides walks etc! Take care lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't join in those threads.

I agree with your point about single men but if they dare complain ...

Anyway, marry.

Torn on whose MOH I want to be

MOH?

Maid of honor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway- get yourself in the face pic Friday thread so I can put my face in your box, OP.

It could be. I’d never considered it like that. Loving yourself is a journey though. I’m on the journey at least.

Oh my face is definitely heading to your box now

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I lurk on all threads mostly now and yes definitely cannot be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never really been someone who has joined in heavily with those threads since I've been here, but I've completely stopped over the past year or so. If I fancied some validation they were always enjoyable, but I've stopped caring so much about what other people think, even if that is something positive. I'd much rather let people's opinion/message etc come in a more natural way.

I don't know if that sounds negative ^ but overall I do think they are a good way to get people interacting and they are harmless... just not for me.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"No don't join those kind of threads they're pointless. Well the only point is ego boosting and some have big enough egos as it is

I 100% agree with you on this. I don't participate in those types of threads for this reason.

Mrs"

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Like you OP I did join in with them and I still do, but to a much lesser extent now.

I Fab photos as some of them are very good and really artistic.

I think I will do a Dr and reinvent myself, then basque in the glory of my dad bod.

I shall watch out for your reinvention!

I like the photo ones more than anything else. Of course Not So Posh does the BEST ones.

I think you mean pervin on a daily basis there OP.

Oh the BEST, not just the best eh.

Moi, perv?

Oui vous. You keep flooding my inbox asking for a daily dick pic. And don't go denying it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The last time I joined in with three different threads and was skipped on all three. And internally I just thought - can't be arsed anymore!

Yes can be daunting! Don't spend quite so much time here now weather is getting nice so much to do in garden or on my cycle rides walks etc! Take care lovely x"

You do love your cycle rides, Candy! Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm ..

I wasn't saying anything against those types of threads. Except that I think those who are struggling somewhat here may find them hard going. My ego hasn't been crushed, but I've spoken to some single guys who did feel disappointed. And I can understand why. For me, I just got fed up and bored.yeah totally understand what you mean I always think if someone’s struggling or having a tough week maybe these types of threads should be avoided.."

I've seen quite a few guys posting this week who're struggling a bit and that would be my advice. It stings if you're not in the right frame of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No don't join those kind of threads they're pointless. Well the only point is ego boosting and some have big enough egos as it is"

I can’t speak for anyone other than myself but this place does nothing to contribute to my ego in any way. Messages from strangers that I’m not interested in or comments on a thread do nothing to boost my ego. Why would they? It’s always nice for someone to say nice things, of course it is but that’s about it when it’s a stranger that I’ll never meet.

Now if a certain someone in my life was to give me compliments and send me messages, I’d be over the moon and my head would be the size of the earth but strangers I don’t know or have sexual interest in? Nah.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"I've never really been someone who has joined in heavily with those threads since I've been here, but I've completely stopped over the past year or so. If I fancied some validation they were always enjoyable, but I've stopped caring so much about what other people think, even if that is something positive. I'd much rather let people's opinion/message etc come in a more natural way.

I don't know if that sounds negative ^ but overall I do think they are a good way to get people interacting and they are harmless... just not for me. "

Having been a real admirer of yours for a while, I do have to say this:

Gotta love your avatar pic!

it’s Fab!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm ..

I wasn't saying anything against those types of threads. Except that I think those who are struggling somewhat here may find them hard going. My ego hasn't been crushed, but I've spoken to some single guys who did feel disappointed. And I can understand why. For me, I just got fed up and bored.yeah totally understand what you mean I always think if someone’s struggling or having a tough week maybe these types of threads should be avoided..

I've seen quite a few guys posting this week who're struggling a bit and that would be my advice. It stings if you're not in the right frame of mind. "

This has surprised me a bit. I never really thought people take some of the threads so seriously. I honestly just see all of it as just a laugh. If I’m not mentioned or missed out I don’t even give it a second thought. I think it’s a shame people don’t join things for fear of this

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over a year ago

I don't know if that sounds negative ^ but overall I do think they are a good way to get people interacting and they are harmless... just not for me.

Having been a real admirer of yours for a while, I do have to say this:

Gotta love your avatar pic!

it’s Fab!

Aweee thank you lovely!! I just hope the mods don't delete it when they realise I am not actually a lemon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way I see it is this place is for fun, when it stops being fun then need to find something else to be doing. Those that like to spend their time belittling others need to realise it is people on the other side of the screen.

As for me well am an attention whore so please fab my pics, marry me, put me up as your screensaver or just print my pic out and use on your dartboard.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We join in now and again to show we join in.

At the end of the day a couple isn’t going to be anyones first choice. Most singles are going to look and fawn over singles and we get that, as we were singles here ourselves.

We already have each other to fawn over so the necessity to LPP people isn’t needed for us. So it’ll be meant if we do

The forums are there, for us, to jump in and get involved in some posts and keep an eye out for friends, potentially make new friends and have fun

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Are those threads a bit cheesy/repetitive? Yes. But are they also just a bit of light hearted fun? Yes. Both things are true. I join in when I'm in the mood but just as happy to let them pass me by if I CBA.

Sure it's nice to get the odd compliment, but also not going to worry when the inbox remains resolutely empty or if no-one notices "I'm in"! Easy come, easy go (and I don't rely too much on Fab to determine what I think of myself; I know what I like and don't like already). But I've only been a forum user for a few months so maybe I'm still in my honeymoon period.

I think it's really sad if anyone is upset by them though, and would hope the vast majority of us aren't. But without them we're left with rants about mad scientists or foodbanks, where some of the comments are much more depressing than not being on someone's hotlist to me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm ..

I wasn't saying anything against those types of threads. Except that I think those who are struggling somewhat here may find them hard going. My ego hasn't been crushed, but I've spoken to some single guys who did feel disappointed. And I can understand why. For me, I just got fed up and bored.yeah totally understand what you mean I always think if someone’s struggling or having a tough week maybe these types of threads should be avoided..

I've seen quite a few guys posting this week who're struggling a bit and that would be my advice. It stings if you're not in the right frame of mind.

I do think there's a difference for those who don't have a ready stream of admirers - winks, messages, Fabs. I can see from the messages I receive, the chats I have and threads here that many people (men mainly) have sometimes spent a long time without feeling desirable. Day after day , week after week without a message, Fab or even an acknowledgment in a thread which should be for all - those things sting. I will leave the argument that perhaps people shouldn't be here in that case. Because we are all looking for connection in one way or another. Aren't we?

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over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"

Well you look more than hot enough to me

Get your point about not being arsed i'm the same now all that effort for nowt really so stopped, just comment or join in on the odd thread now.

I started a thread about how depressing and deflated being ignored can get,had to hide behind the sofa with a tin hat on,,,,still wearing said hat ,just in case

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm mainly here to perv the pictures and videos....too old for most of the ladies

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I never go into these types of threads but if it makes other’s happy and puts a smile on someone’s face then where’s the harm ..

I wasn't saying anything against those types of threads. Except that I think those who are struggling somewhat here may find them hard going. My ego hasn't been crushed, but I've spoken to some single guys who did feel disappointed. And I can understand why. For me, I just got fed up and bored.yeah totally understand what you mean I always think if someone’s struggling or having a tough week maybe these types of threads should be avoided..

I've seen quite a few guys posting this week who're struggling a bit and that would be my advice. It stings if you're not in the right frame of mind.

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just join in with forum/cam room chat. Cannot recall when I last sent a 'first' message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

That's the spirit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

That's the spirit

I try to play down my happy go lucky bubbly personality as I know that can be a bit annoying.

Maybe I've gone too far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum? "

I think the ones that aren't so competitive are where newbies and lurkers and others can flourish a bit? Popularity threads are great for very few people.

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over a year ago

"I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

That's the spirit

I try to play down my happy go lucky bubbly personality as I know that can be a bit annoying.

Maybe I've gone too far."

Fucking Pollyanna!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

That's the spirit

I try to play down my happy go lucky bubbly personality as I know that can be a bit annoying.

Maybe I've gone too far."

Just be you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

That's the spirit

I try to play down my happy go lucky bubbly personality as I know that can be a bit annoying.

Maybe I've gone too far.

Fucking Pollyanna!

I did consider that for my fab name actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what you are saying totally and tbh I’m at that point too though I still join in occasionally for a laugh but it’s not overly funny when you get passed by every time.

I do have to make sure I’m in the right frame of mind when I do join though as for a guy it can be soul destroying at times. I think it’s even worse as part of a couple when it’s yet another reason for people to ignore you

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over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Well you look more than hot enough to me

Get your point about not being arsed i'm the same now all that effort for nowt really so stopped, just comment or join in on the odd thread now.

I started a thread about how depressing and deflated being ignored can get,had to hide behind the sofa with a tin hat on,,,,still wearing said hat ,just in case

Thank you, but I am not one of the popular women who gets mentioned and I am absolutely fine with that. I'm not being ignored, that's not why I started the thread. I have a vagina thus I get attention. And thus it's easier for me to say that some people find some threads deflating - for me, they're just tiresome and boring mostly.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum?

I think the ones that aren't so competitive are where newbies and lurkers and others can flourish a bit? Popularity threads are great for very few people. "

Agree, but what would those threads look like that wouldn't cause the OP too much work? Not that I'm lazy or anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can't be arsed.

The who fancies who threads are based on popularity. Or if you put a pity post about getting ignored then you'll get replies.

Women are full of ego, men are full of expectation.

Plus no one's really that interesting to make me be arsed.

That's the spirit

I try to play down my happy go lucky bubbly personality as I know that can be a bit annoying.

Maybe I've gone too far.

Fucking Pollyanna!

I did consider that for my fab name actually. "

Still time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum?

I think the ones that aren't so competitive are where newbies and lurkers and others can flourish a bit? Popularity threads are great for very few people.

Agree, but what would those threads look like that wouldn't cause the OP too much work? Not that I'm lazy or anything

I find all the threads that I start require work. Why I don't start many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only been on hear

Two weeks and already

Bored

Just my opinion

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum?

I think the ones that aren't so competitive are where newbies and lurkers and others can flourish a bit? Popularity threads are great for very few people.

Agree, but what would those threads look like that wouldn't cause the OP too much work? Not that I'm lazy or anything

I find all the threads that I start require work. Why I don't start many.

Lol same which is why I haven't started one in ages. Looked at one my old ones the other day, think I cause arguments oops

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum?

I think the ones that aren't so competitive are where newbies and lurkers and others can flourish a bit? Popularity threads are great for very few people.

Agree, but what would those threads look like that wouldn't cause the OP too much work? Not that I'm lazy or anything

I find all the threads that I start require work. Why I don't start many.

Lol same which is why I haven't started one in ages. Looked at one my old ones the other day, think I cause arguments oops "

Right trouble maker you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hear you, but what kind of threads would help them get involved in the forum?

I think the ones that aren't so competitive are where newbies and lurkers and others can flourish a bit? Popularity threads are great for very few people.

Agree, but what would those threads look like that wouldn't cause the OP too much work? Not that I'm lazy or anything

I find all the threads that I start require work. Why I don't start many.

Lol same which is why I haven't started one in ages. Looked at one my old ones the other day, think I cause arguments oops "

Well, a bit of controversy never hurt anyone

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"

Kinda summed it up. That and in a couple the messages you do get always seem to get aimed at the female. Though I am aware more pics of Mr Choir are required to improve this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are those threads a bit cheesy/repetitive? Yes. But are they also just a bit of light hearted fun? Yes. Both things are true. I join in when I'm in the mood but just as happy to let them pass me by if I CBA.

And threads about profiles, dicks,

races AND more! I started a thread about childhood teddies a while back - I think those kinds of threads aren't depressing or competitive.

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over a year ago

And threads about profiles, dicks,

races AND more! I started a thread about childhood teddies a while back - I think those kinds of threads aren't depressing or competitive. "

I love a nice teddy thread

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?"

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

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over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event. "

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

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over a year ago

And threads about profiles, dicks,

races AND more! I started a thread about childhood teddies a while back - I think those kinds of threads aren't depressing or competitive.

I love a nice teddy thread"

I know there's an innuendo in there...

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over a year ago

And threads about profiles, dicks,

races AND more! I started a thread about childhood teddies a while back - I think those kinds of threads aren't depressing or competitive.

I love a nice teddy thread

I know there's an innuendo in there..."

No I like a teddy bear nothing pervy for once

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts."

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??

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over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts."

You must do with a willy that big ha ha

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over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??"

This is true

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

I'm the leader, I'm the leader, I'm the leader of the gang, I am

I'm the leader, I'm the leader, well, there's no one like the man I am

I can take you high as a kite every single night

I can make you jump out of bed standing on my head.....

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

And threads about profiles, dicks,

races AND more! I started a thread about childhood teddies a while back - I think those kinds of threads aren't depressing or competitive. "

Yes, that's all true. I missed the one about teddies, which is a shame, as I loved mine!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Not really.

Some threads I do, it can depend if the thread interests me or if people are being dicks and need calling out.

For the most part I just enjoy sitting back, watch the LPP and those who doth protest too much.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've said before in other threads that I stopped taking part in validation threads a long time ago because I was completely ignored.

I stopped taking part in face pic Friday threads when I received a xenophobic reply from the couple who started one of them.

I used to ask questions in the ask in private threads and never once got a question back from someone who wasn't already on my friends list. Quite a few of my questions were never answered on the threads either.

As an experiment once I deliberately fabbed and winked every woman and couple on seperate fabathon and winkathon threads. I didn't get a single fab or wink in return.

All that proved to me was that so many people have no intention of actually taking part in the spirit of those threads and are only there for their own validation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how bored I am really.

If I'm feeling a little troublesome I'll derail them with talk of cake or ducks or something

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends how bored I am really.

If I'm feeling a little troublesome I'll derail them with talk of cake or ducks or something

Or even

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over a year ago

And threads about profiles, dicks,

races AND more! I started a thread about childhood teddies a while back - I think those kinds of threads aren't depressing or competitive.

I love a nice teddy thread

I know there's an innuendo in there...

No I like a teddy bear nothing pervy for once

Well you can tell me about your teddy in a DM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??"

I wouldn't call it a gang myself, but you are a popular forumite Nora. Despite your age.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??

I wouldn't call it a gang myself, but you are a popular forumite Nora. Despite your age.

I’m a spring chick!

. I don’t think popular is the word, more known well because I’ve been here since the dinosaurs

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??

I wouldn't call it a gang myself, but you are a popular forumite Nora. Despite your age.

I’m a spring chick!

. I don’t think popular is the word, more known well because I’ve been here since the dinosaurs

It's your thirst for cock Nora, that's what you're known for

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

I have fun in the forums if I get a response great if not oh well

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??

I wouldn't call it a gang myself, but you are a popular forumite Nora. Despite your age.

I’m a spring chick!

. I don’t think popular is the word, more known well because I’ve been here since the dinosaurs

It's your thirst for cock Nora, that's what you're known for

That’ll be it

. But only pretty ones

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"When I first joined, I would participate in all the participatory threads - am I on your hotlist, ooooft, fab your fave photo, ask public / answer private, fab a fella Thursday. Etc etc.

I can't be arsed anymore because:

If I fab all the fellas on a Thurs, I get unwanted messages even if I say please don't.

On all the popular type threads I get skipped every time for people hotter than me. Not just once, every time I've joined in.

I send in more questions and secret compliments than I ever get. 3-4 times the number.

Each time one of these threads is posted now, I just think meh. What's the point? I cannot be arsed.

BUT BUT BUT I do get fabs, I get messages, I get attention anyway - I am ok. But if I was a single guy habitually ignored - I'd find it pretty depressing.

Thoughts?

Hi op. Tbh I’ve become one of the invisible people on the forums - it’s rare anyone responds to something I’ve posted.

It doesn’t affect me other than it means I post less - and therefore become even more invisible.

Eventually I’ll probably stop using the forums at all unless I’m putting my name down for an event.

Well I would respond but am too old

Nah honestly it doesn't matter who you are on here if your not in the gang you will rarely get an answer to posts.

I’m definitely not in any gang and I get answers and comments to my threads??

I wouldn't call it a gang myself, but you are a popular forumite Nora. Despite your age.

I’m a spring chick!

. I don’t think popular is the word, more known well because I’ve been here since the dinosaurs

It's your thirst for cock Nora, that's what you're known for

That’ll be it

. But only pretty ones

Yes only the Michelin star type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a learning curve to be had here. Searching forums for some advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely a learning curve to be had here. Searching forums for some advice."

Searching the forums for advice, really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely a learning curve to be had here. Searching forums for some advice.

Searching the forums for advice, really?

It's not going well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never. Just CBA!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rare I do those threads for the same reason it’s why I just bonce along and post random stuff

Everyones and a while I throw a compliment out there to someone

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I do still enjoy the forums and occasionally comment, but never in the Secret Service or who's hot type threads, not for any other reason than i feel i don't know people well enough on here and there are definitely those who do tend to stick together and are friends and therefore only reply to each other...but it doesn't bother me one way or another

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Same here OP sometimes. And just being me. I am most probably that last 2% that disappears like a fart in the wind

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Hmm, I kinda go through phases. I leave them alone for a while then I must get withdrawal or something and get sucked back in for a little while until the disillusionment seeps in again. But I have similar issues with most of the forum stuff, the inane nonsense bores me, there are certain forum users who I have learned to not even open the threads they start because I know how annoyed I will get by them and then if you comment on the precious few interesting ones and it’s just lost so I end up often not even checking back on the ones I have posted in. It feels like an exercise in futility most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all those who have commented so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to feel the same way as you definitely experienced it on occasion where I've felt passed over and ignored. I then realised that I joined them when I was feeling low and in need of a pick-me-up that it could help, or just compound the lowly feeling further. Now I'll only join if I really feel like putting the effort in and if I'm not bothered about the responses I get

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over a year ago

"I used to feel the same way as you definitely experienced it on occasion where I've felt passed over and ignored. I then realised that I joined them when I was feeling low and in need of a pick-me-up that it could help, or just compound the lowly feeling further. Now I'll only join if I really feel like putting the effort in and if I'm not bothered about the responses I get

Yes, you're right FH. I need to check my mood better before I logon. If I'm pissed off or a bit upset - not ideal. Although it does help to be snarky to a cockwomble or two sometimes.

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