FabSwingers.com forum: A couple of major differences between guys and gals I’ve noticed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I would say that on the whole, I’m a polite, respectful and intelligent guy. I’m pretty competent when it comes to social interactions and I have a good sense of humour.

But…deep down, I’m dying to send pictures of cock to women that I fancy. I don’t do it unless asked to. That would just be rude and having read chats on here and individual profiles, it seems that unsolicited pics of that nature are most unwelcome. Unwelcome but seemingly very common.

Why is that? As men do we have some kind of exhibitionist gene? A primal urge in the lizard brain to get it out and display it in its full glory?

Another thing is dirty phone calls. I think they are soooooo horny and thought that women would too but apparently not that much. Again, reading individual profiles, it seems a lot of men are into them but not so many women.

Anyone got any thoughts?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No, but bookmarking to see other men’s thoughts on the matter

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Worship the cock!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I’m attracted to a guy’s face first rather than what he packs down below & as for the sexy phone chats it does absolutely nothing for me who got the time for that crap

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm a bloke and have no desire to do either of these things... I suspect that occasionally people vary in their desires.

Cal

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

You need to behave in the same way you would if you approached a lady in a pub. Sure as hell you wouldn't walk up to them with your cock hanging out so why would you do it in a first message on here?

Also the dirty phone calls don't usually do much for a woman, as 90% of the time we are probably walking round the supermarket doing the weekly shop whilst you're on the other end of the phone banging one out!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Some sweeping generalisations there.

Personally I can think of nothing worse than phone sex but maybe that's just me.

I've no desire to send my cock or even a picture of it to anyone I haven't already met.

I've seen lots of women with status updates looking for phone sex and I've seen lots of womens profiles encouraging men to send cock pics.

I've even had a few messages from week verified women's fannies.

At least I'm assuming that's who sent them because there was little or nothing in the message to invite a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bloke and have no desire to do either of these things... I suspect that occasionally people vary in their desires.

Cal"

Same here… Complete opposite to the OP.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I'm not sure, OP. I guess all of us on here with pics have some kind of "exhibitionist" streak, but I wouldn't call my self an exhibitionist, and definitely don't have an innate urge to send the d-pic!

Phone sex also doesn't really do it for me, but suspect I'm in the minority there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No interest in either activity, but to each their own. Flirty chats are fun though, all part of the build up - Bob

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Is it because for some guys that's the only opportunity they'll get to present their penis to a woman?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Some sweeping generalisations there.

Personally I can think of nothing worse than phone sex but maybe that's just me.

I've no desire to send my cock or even a picture of it to anyone I haven't already met.

I've seen lots of women with status updates looking for phone sex and I've seen lots of womens profiles encouraging men to send cock pics.

I've even had a few messages from week verified women's fannies.

At least I'm assuming that's who sent them because there was little or nothing in the message to invite a response."

*Well verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it because for some guys that's the only opportunity they'll get to present their penis to a woman?"

Ouch, a withering put down but a fair estimation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’ve sent one dick pic in my life and that was as a joke to my wife.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Some sweeping generalisations there.

Personally I can think of nothing worse than phone sex but maybe that's just me.

I've no desire to send my cock or even a picture of it to anyone I haven't already met.

I've seen lots of women with status updates looking for phone sex and I've seen lots of womens profiles encouraging men to send cock pics.

I've even had a few messages from week verified women's fannies.

At least I'm assuming that's who sent them because there was little or nothing in the message to invite a response.

*Well verified"

Yeah sorry about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to show someone, talk about it and wobble it about a bit if they ask me to but do not have any burning desire to do without it.

Quite like just chatting, in fact I have had on person lose interest in me on here as I didn't provide enough dirty chat for them. My own fault but was being polite and just talking.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Some sweeping generalisations there.

Personally I can think of nothing worse than phone sex but maybe that's just me.

I've no desire to send my cock or even a picture of it to anyone I haven't already met.

I've seen lots of women with status updates looking for phone sex and I've seen lots of womens profiles encouraging men to send cock pics.

I've even had a few messages from week verified women's fannies.

At least I'm assuming that's who sent them because there was little or nothing in the message to invite a response.

*Well verified

Yeah sorry about that

Next time at least say hello

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It just means that if you were born in the 1960’s you’d of been one of them blokes walking round the local park in just a mac near the bushes. Or something very similar OP

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By *tinerant scribeMan
over a year ago

County Durham

I like the idea of taking pictures of myself that hide nothing, but I don't like, don't take, and don't send cock pics. There's a distinction to be made, isn't there? Nudes that show cocks also show a lot of other things. Cock pics often don't.

I have enjoyed dirty phone calls but I don't try to make them happen. They've always happened after a first meet, usually well after.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Happy to show someone, talk about it and wobble it about a bit if they ask me to but do not have any burning desire to do without it.

Quite like just chatting, in fact I have had on person lose interest in me on here as I didn't provide enough dirty chat for them. My own fault but was being polite and just talking. "

Everyone’s different though. I’d lose interest if someone started chatting like that to me. Just be yourself is the best way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve come to the conclusion that lots of men send unsolicited dick pics (even when the profile clearly states it to) in order to get a thrill or some kind of sexual kick from knowing that a woman has looked at it (even against her will). There can be no other reason, especially if you know that the receiver does not welcome it.

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It just means that if you were born in the 1960’s you’d of been one of them blokes walking round the local park in just a mac near the bushes. Or something very similar OP

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isn’t it even called cyber flashing or something like that?

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By *ixi n DogCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I don't get the urge to send cock pics to people who I think look good after seeing pictures of them on here.

Our aim on here as a couple is to find other people of similar mindsets to get to know and maybe have actual sex with. Sending a pic of my knob to random strangers don't seem the best way to achieve it.

What's special about a picture of a cock on a phone screen when the Internet is full of pictures and videos of them?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"It just means that if you were born in the 1960’s you’d of been one of them blokes walking round the local park in just a mac near the bushes. Or something very similar OP

isn’t it even called cyber flashing or something like that? "

Exactly, you catch my drift

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Ok so I would say that on the whole, I’m a polite, respectful and intelligent guy. I’m pretty competent when it comes to social interactions and I have a good sense of humour.

Why is that? As men do we have some kind of exhibitionist gene? A primal urge in the lizard brain to get it out and display it in its full glory?

Anyone got any thoughts?"

•

I'll abstain for now.

However, I do like those wardrobes in your photo. Are they from BoConcept™?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't feel a urge to show everyone my dick, I just do it on certain days of the week because of peer pressure. Never really been into dirty phone calls to get off, I'd rather watch a video

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha. I like to think of I ever sent a cock pic unsolicited, I need my head feeling…. (Or my cock either would work.)

But I do see profiles asking for dic pics to not waste time. So maybe search them out op. Or is that not a thrill when they ask.

This reminds me, I need to check if mine is still alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve come to the conclusion that lots of men send unsolicited dick pics (even when the profile clearly states it to) in order to get a thrill or some kind of sexual kick from knowing that a woman has looked at it (even against her will). There can be no other reason, especially if you know that the receiver does not welcome it.

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often."

I sort of agree with this. Most men wouldn’t run up to a woman and flash her so I don’t get why so many send dick pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

I sort of agree with this. Most men wouldn’t run up to a woman and flash her so I don’t get why so many send dick pics."

I don’t know. Honestly I wouldn’t have thought it was a thing if so many women hadn’t experienced it. Maybe doing it electronically gives some kind of sense of anonymity?? I don’t know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

I sort of agree with this. Most men wouldn’t run up to a woman and flash her so I don’t get why so many send dick pics.

I don’t know. Honestly I wouldn’t have thought it was a thing if so many women hadn’t experienced it. Maybe doing it electronically gives some kind of sense of anonymity?? I don’t know. "

I know there’s been a change in the law recently but I’m not sure of the specifics but as far as I’m concerned it’s should be a sexual offence. That includes on this website too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

I sort of agree with this. Most men wouldn’t run up to a woman and flash her so I don’t get why so many send dick pics.

I don’t know. Honestly I wouldn’t have thought it was a thing if so many women hadn’t experienced it. Maybe doing it electronically gives some kind of sense of anonymity?? I don’t know.

I know there’s been a change in the law recently but I’m not sure of the specifics but as far as I’m concerned it’s should be a sexual offence. That includes on this website too."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"…

I know there’s been a change in the law recently but I’m not sure of the specifics but as far as I’m concerned it’s should be a sexual offence. That includes on this website too."

really. Where would you draw the line on sexual advances on here then, before it is classed as inappropriate behaviour?

*asking for a friend who constantly flirts…..

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I have never had the urge or the inclination to send a photograph of my cock, irrespective of whether I fancy them or not.

"Dirty phone calls" hold no mystique for me whatsoever. I'm not into virtual sex or cheap thrills.

I'm just a plain and simple send (or receive) a "hand crafted message" type of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending unsocilated photos to people who hasn't asked is dodgy ground now. Just beware. In response to the question, some women do some women don't. It depends what the other person likes etc, which on an site is difficult. But you wouldn't randomly her your d out in public to a lady, however lots of people wouldn't plaster there semi naked photos in the street either, but it happens on here..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"…

I know there’s been a change in the law recently but I’m not sure of the specifics but as far as I’m concerned it’s should be a sexual offence. That includes on this website too.

really. Where would you draw the line on sexual advances on here then, before it is classed as inappropriate behaviour?

*asking for a friend who constantly flirts….."

It’s difficult but i reckon sending a picture of your cock without permission probably shouldn’t be allowed.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

There are a lot of women who like to receive the cock pics. I often wonder if any women would meet someone purely on the fact they like their cock. I’d do a thread if I could be arsed. Genuinely interested.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm an exhibitionist... go figure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it matters im like you I'm clean well presented and polite I offer a lot like paying hotel costs and social events but still feel im stabbing in the dark recently had a hotel meet payed for and she never showed up but I will not let that be a bad judgment call and wil not reflect on the nice people on here who have stipulated profiles just be patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often."

It's a very misogynistic thing to do to women. Sending them unsolicited photos of your genitals that they have to view without consent - it's a power kick. I don't care what site it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"…

I know there’s been a change in the law recently but I’m not sure of the specifics but as far as I’m concerned it’s should be a sexual offence. That includes on this website too.

really. Where would you draw the line on sexual advances on here then, before it is classed as inappropriate behaviour?

*asking for a friend who constantly flirts….."

It’s pretty simple. If you want people to see your cock have it in your public pics. They can then choose to look at it. Sending it unsolicited is taking away that choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

It's a very misogynistic thing to do to women. Sending them unsolicited photos of your genitals that they have to view without consent - it's a power kick. I don't care what site it is "

It must be, I can’t think of any other reason why you’d do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any cock pics, and no desire to take any, let alone send them. As for phone sex, unless you find Worzel Gummidge sexy, I may struggle...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

It's a very misogynistic thing to do to women. Sending them unsolicited photos of your genitals that they have to view without consent - it's a power kick. I don't care what site it is

It must be, I can’t think of any other reason why you’d do it. "

Neither can I. Sometimes men send 4 or 5. Wtf?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

When I had a single profile I never sent a cock pic on here. I want to engage someone’s brain first and foremost - still do.

Someone’s genitalia only becomes attractive if I find the person engaging in chat.

Myself and C have had phone sex but again it’s only sexy as I fancy her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

It's a very misogynistic thing to do to women. Sending them unsolicited photos of your genitals that they have to view without consent - it's a power kick. I don't care what site it is

It must be, I can’t think of any other reason why you’d do it.

Neither can I. Sometimes men send 4 or 5. Wtf? "

Exactly!! I get regularly “ I know you say you don’t want dick pics but here’s mine”. It’s crazy. It’s like they can’t help themselves. Wtf indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I would say that on the whole, I’m a polite, respectful and intelligent guy. I’m pretty competent when it comes to social interactions and I have a good sense of humour.

Why is that? As men do we have some kind of exhibitionist gene? A primal urge in the lizard brain to get it out and display it in its full glory?

Anyone got any thoughts?"

I don't think no I no a lot of woman would enjoy a flirty chat on the phone and a odd just for them cock picture but now here's the killer bit OP. Most women like that sort of thing after they have decided they bloody well fancy you not before .

It not rocket science fella it's just common sense to anyone who has spent any real time with and around women .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do get the op's thoughts about wanting to send dick pics, but I do at least ask if it's ok to send first, and I don't tend to send a cock pic as an opening message! I have some on my profile if anyone's that interested. Phone sex doesn't really do anything for me, I don't like my phone voice anyway, and I'd rather be there in person if there's fun to be had!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eeeeeerm elephant enters room

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"Ok so I would say that on the whole, I’m a polite, respectful and intelligent guy. I’m pretty competent when it comes to social interactions and I have a good sense of humour.

Why is that? As men do we have some kind of exhibitionist gene? A primal urge in the lizard brain to get it out and display it in its full glory?

Anyone got any thoughts?"

I look at the face and the dick. No pics, no attention.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Anyone sends me a dick I’ll assume they are a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a serious post I have some opinions tbf

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often.

It's a very misogynistic thing to do to women. Sending them unsolicited photos of your genitals that they have to view without consent - it's a power kick. I don't care what site it is "

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"You need to behave in the same way you would if you approached a lady in a pub. Sure as hell you wouldn't walk up to them with your cock hanging out so why would you do it in a first message on here?

Perfect!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Here, have summa that!! *shoves cock in a woman's face*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To old to be sending pictures of Percy

That’s only a one to one thing

Don’t talk dirty to lady’s

Unless I’m doing the clothes washing

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Ok so I would say that on the whole, I’m a polite, respectful and intelligent guy. I’m pretty competent when it comes to social interactions and I have a good sense of humour.

Why is that? As men do we have some kind of exhibitionist gene? A primal urge in the lizard brain to get it out and display it in its full glory?

Anyone got any thoughts?"

I have literally zero interest in that

So much so, I just block anyone that asks for those kinda pics

Don’t think it’s entirely a guy thing

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

No to sending a dick pic…I have never sent a vagina picture as my introduction to a new conversation, it’s not the prettiest of things to be receiving.

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By *un Times 1Man
over a year ago

coventry

No not into phone sex at all? Horses for courses, I guess.

Nothing for me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Anyone sends me a dick I’ll assume they are a dick. "

This!!!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I can only assume that men who do this do not get to show it in person, to willing viewers, very often."

I would agree with this.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Male entitlement...they believe that possessing a penis will guarantee them sex

"Here it is! Now let's fuck!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuinely think men do this because it’s about their disregard for women and women’s experience. Men do horrible things that hurt and traumatise women for the sake of possibly getting their dick wet. It’s why they don’t just send dick pics, they’re persistent afterwards and obnoxious and vile. It’s rooted in misogyny. And it’s not genes. Or because men are wired different. That shit is taught. We live in a world that teaches to hate women. But it also teaches men that these things are ok. They’re a part of being a man. Being overly sexual is normal because men are just naturally like that

And all that shit has led to some really racist tropes as well might I add. Which have historically had unbelievably vile consequences. We just need to let go of the idea that men treat women badly because they’re naturally just different and overly sexual and start properly holding men accountable and changing the way we raise boys and how we raise boys to interact with women and girls. "

I'm sorry this is complete cods wallop no one taut me to hate women I don't know what world you live in but it bears no resemblance to the world your describing and every male roll model ive ever known would knocked my fucking head off if I dared to do any of the shit you describe guys doing to women . Do not get how a mottle crew of both sexs not just men choose to behave on the Internet mixed up with how the majority of human being behave in the real world because its not the same by a long shot .

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Who said that? I can’t find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said that? I can’t find it "

Me.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Who said that? I can’t find it "

My guess would be the removed post about 5 posts up

Dunno whose teaching all men to hate women. Lots of single mums out there. Huge % of teachers are women. Are they doing it?

Are mums ignored by young boys and they only pay attention to their father if he hates women?

Genuinely asking because I can only speak from my experience of definitely not being taught by anyone to hate women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Except, it is. And I know that by

listening to women

This shit is being exaggerated apparently but the experiences of women tell us that the math ain’t mating.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Who said that? I can’t find it

Me.

Oh right! I couldn’t see it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Except, it is. And I know that by

listening to women

This shit is being exaggerated apparently but the experiences of women tell us that the math ain’t mating. "

Can’t agree with you on this one Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said that? I can’t find it

My guess would be the removed post about 5 posts up

Dunno whose teaching all men to hate women. Lots of single mums out there. Huge % of teachers are women. Are they doing it?

Are mums ignored by young boys and they only pay attention to their father if he hates women?

Genuinely asking because I can only speak from my experience of definitely not being taught by anyone to hate women "

Ah yes. You’re right. The world doesn’t teach us to hate women. Or any group for that matter. It’s just the way it is. No wait. It’s just not really happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Except, it is. And I know that by

listening to women

This shit is being exaggerated apparently but the experiences of women tell us that the math ain’t mating.

Can’t agree with you on this one Steve "

We don’t have to. It’s my opinion. You’ve got yours. It is what it is

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Except, it is. And I know that by

listening to women

This shit is being exaggerated apparently but the experiences of women tell us that the math ain’t mating.

Can’t agree with you on this one Steve

We don’t have to. It’s my opinion. You’ve got yours. It is what it is"

Oh I know. I’m just saying. Strong words. Unfair words in my opinion.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Who said that? I can’t find it

My guess would be the removed post about 5 posts up

Dunno whose teaching all men to hate women. Lots of single mums out there. Huge % of teachers are women. Are they doing it?

Are mums ignored by young boys and they only pay attention to their father if he hates women?

Genuinely asking because I can only speak from my experience of definitely not being taught by anyone to hate women

Ah yes. You’re right. The world doesn’t teach us to hate women. Or any group for that matter. It’s just the way it is. No wait. It’s just not really happening. "

I think nature makes us very tribal and we hate anyone that’s not part of “us”

I’d imagine it was much worse before society was there to teach us anything. Blaming it entirely on society and nothing on nature seems a little naive

The whole nature vs nurture thing. So I don’t totally disagree, I just think your being a little optimistic that all people are perfect creatures until society corrupts them

But as you say, just opinions, would be silly if we tried to back them up

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"When I had a single profile I never sent a cock pic on here. I want to engage someone’s brain first and foremost - still do.

Someone’s genitalia only becomes attractive if I find the person engaging in chat.

Myself and C have had phone sex but again it’s only sexy as I fancy her.

Mr KC definitely doesn't have the urge to send cock pics. A few are exchanged between us but not often.

We used to enjoy phone sex, back in the days when he worked away for weeks at a time and WhatsApp wasn't a thing. Anything cyber/phone sex related is only exciting if it's someone you know and you know how to turn them on. It just seems weird with a stranger.

And unsolicited dick pics - we agree with earlier posts on it being a form of control etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think nature makes us very tribal and we hate anyone that’s not part of “us”

I’d imagine it was much worse before society was there to teach us anything. Blaming it entirely on society and nothing on nature seems a little naive

The whole nature vs nurture thing. So I don’t totally disagree, I just think your being a little optimistic that all people are perfect creatures until society corrupts them

But as you say, just opinions, would be silly if we tried to back them up

Maybe I am. I see a lot of ‘humans aren’t born racists’ posts all the time. And I suppose I don’t think humans are born misogynists. Or abusive. Or any of that shit. I know there’s a gendered element to these things. That pattern cannot be denied. I am sure it’s not being exaggerated. And to me, I don’t think that some of us are just born it. And some aren’t. I am being hopeful here. Because the other is to essentially suggest that these experiences are inevitable. And I completely reject the idea that the traumas people face like this are inevitabilities. And as I said. Those ideas about these things being natural have had historically justified some pretty racist shit that I’m definitely not with.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I think nature makes us very tribal and we hate anyone that’s not part of “us”

I’d imagine it was much worse before society was there to teach us anything. Blaming it entirely on society and nothing on nature seems a little naive

The whole nature vs nurture thing. So I don’t totally disagree, I just think your being a little optimistic that all people are perfect creatures until society corrupts them

But as you say, just opinions, would be silly if we tried to back them up

Could we agree it’s a bit of both maybe?

People can be born racists, because tribal instincts teach us anyone not in our tribe could be danger. That could be people we don’t know, people that look different, anything

But, people can also be raised racist, and influenced by society to be racist.

And they can be raised to not be that way too.

Remember, somewhere out there is a wasp that knows it has to find a spider, not kill the spider, just inject its eggs into it so the eggs can eat the spider alive

No one taught it that. No society raised it that way. It’s purely instinct. If you think instincts don’t exist and effect how we are, science disagrees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in a bad mood and realise the tone of some of my replies may seem short. They’re not. I apologise if they seem it.

I’m out

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

As for my take on the dick pic. I think it’s just a poor attempt at shooting your shot that is made worse by anonymity.

So easy to send out 100 dick pics and hope for the best. Zero risk of actual rejection. You know, face to face rejections.

There’s probably some tribal instincts there too that an erect penis is like monkey talk for “I’m into you”

But I’ve never done it. Ever. Not a single dick pic. And if youve got brains you should know they don’t like it. So I do find it weird they continue to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said that? I can’t find it

My guess would be the removed post about 5 posts up

Dunno whose teaching all men to hate women. Lots of single mums out there. Huge % of teachers are women. Are they doing it?

Are mums ignored by young boys and they only pay attention to their father if he hates women?

Genuinely asking because I can only speak from my experience of definitely not being taught by anyone to hate women

Ah yes. You’re right. The world doesn’t teach us to hate women. Or any group for that matter. It’s just the way it is. No wait. It’s just not really happening. "

Your talking about a minority of individuals as if there the majority we are goung to have to disagree I will post no more on this topic because your views are offence to me as a person because I am from minority community myself who have suffer at the hands of others throughout history and i was taut to never paint everyone with the same brush because to do so makes me no different than those would paint me in that way .

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I think nature makes us very tribal and we hate anyone that’s not part of “us”

I’d imagine it was much worse before society was there to teach us anything. Blaming it entirely on society and nothing on nature seems a little naive

The whole nature vs nurture thing. So I don’t totally disagree, I just think your being a little optimistic that all people are perfect creatures until society corrupts them

But as you say, just opinions, would be silly if we tried to back them up

Could we agree it’s a bit of both maybe?

People can be born racists, because tribal instincts teach us anyone not in our tribe could be danger. That could be people we don’t know, people that look different, anything

But, people can also be raised racist, and influenced by society to be racist.

And they can be raised to not be that way too.

Remember, somewhere out there is a wasp that knows it has to find a spider, not kill the spider, just inject its eggs into it so the eggs can eat the spider alive

No one taught it that. No society raised it that way. It’s purely instinct. If you think instincts don’t exist and effect how we are, science disagrees "

People can born a racist. I’ve heard it all now. What a load of bollocks.

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over a year ago

I’m sorry if I’ve upset you. I’m not saying all men are this way. I am literally just saying that these experiences are frighteningly common amongst men. And I think, in all seriousness, deflecting to the idea that there are good men out there or that not all men are bad, does nothing but actually undermine the experiences of A LOT of women. Not really gonna get into it because I’m not in a good mood and I don’t want to offend you further.

Enjoy your evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy your evening. "

But you was you were putting whole groups of people into nice little boxes. the nazis done the same thing in the second world war it not about being upset its about my blood boiling .I'm logging of now to cool off any respect I had for you as a human being before tonight is gone after the cods wallop I've read in your posts in this thread .

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Enjoy your evening.

Chill bro, he’s said he’s out, made comments in a bad mood, and the guy even deleted it the comment just as someone was quoting it

He’s done the adult thing and outted. You’ve made your point. Let’s chill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy your evening.

Ignoring the racism Steve mentioned, you're choosing to ignore what women report here and elsewhere. You have no right to do that. You don't know what it's like for women. You're not listening if you think that men don't send misogynist, sexist, nasty messages here. You're not paying attention if you think many women aren't made to feel like sexual objects on here and in real life. And that shit is learnt. I'm a single mum and I work hard to teach my boys the right way to treat women.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I would say I have an exhibitionist side but I have no desire to send a picture of my cock to a woman ever.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Oh and phone sex or cam sex does nothing for me. Prefer a cuppa.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

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I know there’s been a change in the law recently but I’m not sure of the specifics but as far as I’m concerned it’s should be a sexual offence. That includes on this website too.

really. Where would you draw the line on sexual advances on here then, before it is classed as inappropriate behaviour?

*asking for a friend who constantly flirts…..

It’s pretty simple. If you want people to see your cock have it in your public pics. They can then choose to look at it. Sending it unsolicited is taking away that choice. "

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