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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you?

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Not a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1000% yes thats kind of my entire purpose

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Call me a mug but probably yes

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Yep

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

They would be all dust so I'd get the hoover out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what kind of help they need but yeah, I probably would.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nobody’s ever hurt me bad really. Someone hurt my daughter though which indirectly hurt me and my answer would be no chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously it depends on the level of hurt they have done towards me in the past. But generally speaking I would be someone who would listen and advise them on help they can/should seek.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what they did but probably not

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Depends what they needed help with and how they hurt me I guess. I’m indecisive without more context.

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By *dventurous biMan
over a year ago

tesside

Yes, almost certainly if the hurt was an emotional hurt.

But there are people out there that I would be happy to slam the door on. Although they didn’t hurt me emotionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, but muggins here would probably say yes

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By *lohimMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

Not sure, probably. You can only be hurt of you care and that sort of thing just doesn't vanish

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

I would say yeah no worries stay there for 2 mins, shut the door and go watch gladiator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it’s there karma

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I would listen 2 wot they av 2 say first .then I would then make my decision x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe the OP means; think of the person that has hurt you most in your life. Now imagine that same person turning up at your door asking for help. Would you help them?

In my case, an ex who destroyed my life. I don't think she meant to but she is extremely self centred. Would I help her? Hell yes I would.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I believe the OP means; think of the person that has hurt you most in your life. Now imagine that same person turning up at your door asking for help. Would you help them?

In my case, an ex who destroyed my life. I don't think she meant to but she is extremely self centred. Would I help her? Hell yes I would. "

Exactly what I meant x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Course I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

No!!!! It’s only applicable to one person though & I don’t hold grudges.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as they ment the world to me at one point and is some way I still love them despite everything

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Nope.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
over a year ago

West Suffolk

I think for me it would depend on how the hurt was inflicted in the first place

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1000% yes thats kind of my entire purpose "
it wasnt an intent to cause me pain so i must forgive any caused

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If the help they required didn't require much effort from me, possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would. Not because I'm soft but because I want to keep my conscious clear and it's not in my nature to kick people when they're down

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

Nope

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

Always.

We’d never turn her away.

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

I have before...

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Yes. I've already done it.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

She wouldn't ask for my help, she knows better.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

It really does depend on the situation. If the bully from my school who made my life a misery for ten years showed up and said if he didn't get financial help from me he'd kill himself, then I'd help by buying him a rope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

To soft me

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

"Yes I would. Not because I'm soft but because I want to keep my conscious clear and it's not in my nature to kick people when they're down"

Exactly this!

If they hurt themselves I would feel guilty for the rest of my life….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

Would I what ?

help then out yes

Take them to bed never .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I'd call the police.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Did it once... to the detriment of my own mental health and it literally almost killed me, i wont do it again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She’s still my mum at the end of the day.

Or it could be my dad.

He’s still my dad at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah he's my Dad and my sister loves him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends how I had felt about them before they hurt me and what they had done.

I dont hold grudges but I dont forgive easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. The only way someone could hurt me was if I cared about them and once I care I don't stop just because they hurt me - I'm not conditional like that.

I won't put up with being hurt but taking myself out of that situation doesn't require hating the person concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends but unless it was unsafe for me to do so I think I would.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I would laugh and say sorry who are you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Forgive but don't forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would, stupid I know, but they still have part of my heart, despite the hurt caused

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No. He’s not allowed to make contact.

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By *inx.x3Woman
over a year ago

Bath

No I wouldn’t although a small part of me would want too but I still wouldn’t.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I did once. They shit on me big time. So no, next time, they're on their own. I'm not the parent, they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that everyone's behaviour reflects upon their true selves. Using someone else's behaviour to disguise or excuse your own is IMHO a sign of weak character.

If it was in my gift I'd literally help anyone that I could irrespective of what they meant to me.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

Nope. I'd watch from the window as they skulked off defeated as well.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Yes I would help in a heart beat

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Yes, because I'm a muppet

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I suppose it depends on the circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post, the only person to ever truly break my heart did just this (well a phone call rather than physical appearance), and yes I was there for them and helped them work through some stuff.

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By *oudBeSurprisedMan
over a year ago

Fife

Depends on what help they were needing.

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

Would always help especially someone who had shit on me previously, takes a bigger person to forgive and forget! X

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Yes I would and I have. Nothing financial, just an ear when they need it and some food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I probably would...I care too much at times..

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Not. A. Chance.

She was a nasty piece of work who not only assaulted my daughter, then tried to emotionally bl*ckmail me with pretending to take her own life and also told the parents of my daughters friends we split because I cheated on her.

Rant over.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Probably not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would do and have done and yet she still walked away afterwards.

I doubt i'd never help again, but don't want to be tested either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

Will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not from previous experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would always help especially someone who had shit on me previously, takes a bigger person to forgive and forget! X"

absolutely!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

If it was emotional hurt, yes I would. If it was physical, no.

I don’t like to think of anyone struggling.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Wouldn’t say I’ve been badly hurt but would absolutely help the individual to the best of my ability & willingness at that particular moment

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Yes I have and I would do it again ..

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By *ellanbennyCouple
over a year ago

cambs

Hell no.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends on the help they needed.

Phone an ambulance? Of course.

Other stuff? Highly unlikely.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I would listen to their problem and then decide. If they were about to drop dead on my doorstep then yes of course I'd help, if they were in debt and needed money then it would be no. It's all about context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't get as far as telling me, the door would stay locked.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

Well being as that person is my younger brother, I'd be torn. He's caused so much pain and trouble to so many people, not just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the person who’s hurt you the most showed up at your door desperate and begging for your help.....

Would you? "

Not anymore. Sometimes once they took advantage too many times, u just grow the thick skin to say no more

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Of course yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately, probably yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doubt it they are in a field somewhere

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Helped a lot of people lately so could do with a break to be honest. However, I wouldn't let someone struggle if they really had no one else to turn to.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I would slam the door in the face of BH, PC, TB, TW. Fk you would be the message to them.

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