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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost a couple of years ago now, I would say. I used to cry quite a bit when I was younger, but not really done much since

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By *otNewMan
over a year ago

Nearby

18 months ago, mum's funeral.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Lost contact with my first childhood girlfriend after moving from the area. Discovered from her best friend recently she had actually passed away aged 25.

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By *am450Man
over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Almost a couple of years ago now, I would say. I used to cry quite a bit when I was younger, but not really done much since"

Bro, it’s so weird. I used to cry all the time as well. Now I struggle to? Have you felt the need to cry?

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By *am450Man
over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London

This morning life really sucks at times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"18 months ago, mum's funeral."

Bless you. That’s tough. I’m sorry . Nothing made you want to since then?

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

This morning and every weekday morning before that when the alarm for work goes off at 5

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my dalmatian was put to sleep I really cried, it was the hardest thing to do as been my best friend for 15 years.

Then on the way out a bunch of hoodrats thought they take the piss, I flipped and smacked one with a fire extinguisher that was at the store entrance and walked away, not sure what I did the rest of that day or week

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Nearly two weeks ago. My MH was getting a bit much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry all the time, the slightest thing sets me off. Even the Lloyd's advert makes me well up. Guess i'm either a big softy or i just love horses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lost contact with my first childhood girlfriend after moving from the area. Discovered from her best friend recently she had actually passed away aged 25."

That’s awful. Sorry to hear that. I’m glad you were able to feel the emotions though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over two years ago after the death of my partner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This morning life really sucks at times "

Sending love and strength

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Last March for 2 different reasons

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This morning and every weekday morning before that when the alarm for work goes off at 5"

Relatable. sending love my man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When my dalmatian was put to sleep I really cried, it was the hardest thing to do as been my best friend for 15 years.

Then on the way out a bunch of hoodrats thought they take the piss, I flipped and smacked one with a fire extinguisher that was at the store entrance and walked away, not sure what I did the rest of that day or week"

Shit. Sorry about your doggo pal. That’s tough.

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By *orthing1Man
over a year ago

worthing

I never cried from early teens onwards even at the most horrendous event. But now as I get older I well up at undercover boss or equally stupid TV

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nearly two weeks ago. My MH was getting a bit much"

Crying helps I find. I feel lighter afterwards. Sending love to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cry all the time, the slightest thing sets me off. Even the Lloyd's advert makes me well up. Guess i'm either a big softy or i just love horses. "

This is good though. I think it’s good to be able to cry more. And to feel emotion like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Over two years ago after the death of my partner"

That’s so shitty. Sending love! hope you can cry if you need to. Whenever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last March for 2 different reasons "

Love to you man. . Hope you’re ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never cried from early teens onwards even at the most horrendous event. But now as I get older I well up at undercover boss or equally stupid TV"

I hear that. I have been struggling to cry for years. Undercover boss is emotional though

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Last March for 2 different reasons

Love to you man. . Hope you’re ok"

Yeah all is good now dude . Cheers

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I watch, This Is Us; Tears guaranteed every time.

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By *igJFromSAMan
over a year ago

Woking

About two months ago when we had the family dog put down, before that i don't remember.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Yes over some serious stuff but some silly stuff too

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Afew years ago when my friend died

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year is tear free so far. So I am lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost my German shepherd last year just before his 12th birthday. He was my partner in crime. Cried like a baby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Almost a couple of years ago now, I would say. I used to cry quite a bit when I was younger, but not really done much since

Bro, it’s so weird. I used to cry all the time as well. Now I struggle to? Have you felt the need to cry?"

I don't think so, I feel like my mentality has changed a lot as I got older. Even with serious life events, I've been trying to get things back to normal as quickly as possible as opposed to processing it which crying is part of.

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

If we’re talking about a real proper sobbing cry it was when my dog was really Sick with diabetes and was 50/50 he pulled through and gets cuddles all the time

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Nearly two weeks ago. My MH was getting a bit much

Crying helps I find. I feel lighter afterwards. Sending love to you "

Cheers buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Almost a couple of years ago now, I would say. I used to cry quite a bit when I was younger, but not really done much since

Bro, it’s so weird. I used to cry all the time as well. Now I struggle to? Have you felt the need to cry?

I don't think so, I feel like my mentality has changed a lot as I got older. Even with serious life events, I've been trying to get things back to normal as quickly as possible as opposed to processing it which crying is part of."

I hear that. It’s like a coping mechanism maybe? What works for you though, works. Keep doing it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I watch, This Is Us; Tears guaranteed every time."
I have heard this show does that to the toughest of people. Maybe I need to watch it to get the waterworks going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"About two months ago when we had the family dog put down, before that i don't remember. "

Death really gets to us. Sorry to hear that. . Do you feel like other things, not death, don’t hurt as much?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes over some serious stuff but some silly stuff too"

It’s good to have that balance though, Bjorkish! I think that’s super healthy

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I got a bit emotional watching the end of "Spider-man no way home" ...my eyes were watering a little bit, but only for a second.

Crying...actually crying it's been 2 years

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Afew years ago when my friend died"

That’s tough. Sorry pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol? "

Saturday, it's been a stressful week.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This year is tear free so far. So I am lucky. "

Nice! Is that because you haven’t been able to or because you’ve not needed to?

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By *ig-Bull-EssexMan
over a year ago

Southend

In February.

Had a bad day and nearly did something stupid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If we’re talking about a real proper sobbing cry it was when my dog was really Sick with diabetes and was 50/50 he pulled through and gets cuddles all the time "

Glad he pulled through and he gets all the cuddles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got a bit emotional watching the end of "Spider-man no way home" ...my eyes were watering a little bit, but only for a second.

Crying...actually crying it's been 2 years "

I hear that. I welled up watching Ozark the other day but nothing came of it.

How comes so long between crying? Have you wanted to?

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Probably when my uncle died 15 years ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol?

Saturday, it's been a stressful week. "

Do you feel better for it. I hope you’re ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In February.

Had a bad day and nearly did something stupid."

But you didn’t. And we’re all glad for that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably when my uncle died 15 years ago "

Jesus Russ? 15 years. Big hugs man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol?

Saturday, it's been a stressful week.

Do you feel better for it. I hope you’re ok "

Fine now, it's good to let it out and things are never as bad as you fear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol?

Saturday, it's been a stressful week.

Do you feel better for it. I hope you’re ok

Fine now, it's good to let it out and things are never as bad as you fear. "

I really struggle to. I sit there with it. I talk about it. I feel it coming. Then nothing. I don’t get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This year is tear free so far. So I am lucky.

Nice! Is that because you haven’t been able to or because you’ve not needed to? "
I have not needed to. Time does heal, you still see the wounds, but it doesn’t sting as much. That’s how I see it.

It’s actually mental health month and I feel lucky when I hear other stories.

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By *igJFromSAMan
over a year ago

Woking


"About two months ago when we had the family dog put down, before that i don't remember.

Death really gets to us. Sorry to hear that. . Do you feel like other things, not death, don’t hurt as much?"

No they don't hurt as much, because in most cases they're fixable in some way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around 10 months ago

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Mr4 here...Cried when my my Mum died and cried because i couldn't attend her funeral and cried in anger when ...well you can all guess the reason why ? and had afew tears last night due to seeing a very very very special Lady ( my sister in law) due to remembering all the 100% amazing things she'd done when i was a child along with my dear departed brother !! and all the amazing memories they'd given me and my siblings and afew tears on Brighton seafront due to some truly great memories and a dear friend and afew tears seeing Gary Numan live ( at last )

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I cry quite easily...often at silly things (songs etc), but then don't cry when you might expect it.

I had a very brief cry yesterday - I caught a bit of 'Three Men and a Baby' on TV (tangent: 80s' classic!) and it just brought back some really happy memories about childhood and some sadder memories about adulthood and I was off. Not for long, but there you go.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"I got a bit emotional watching the end of "Spider-man no way home" ...my eyes were watering a little bit, but only for a second.

Crying...actually crying it's been 2 years

I hear that. I welled up watching Ozark the other day but nothing came of it.

How comes so long between crying? Have you wanted to? "

Not sure if I wanted to, but definitely needed to...however there's just an emotional disconnect in me regarding crying...it's like for almost 30 years I was told that men don't cry, or that I need to man up, and most times I showed sadness and tears I've been made to feel as O should be ashamed about it... and then about 5 years ago society just decided that it's actually OK for me to show tears...I'm still trying to adapt to the change, I guess

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth


"When my dalmatian was put to sleep I really cried, it was the hardest thing to do as been my best friend for 15 years.

Then on the way out a bunch of hoodrats thought they take the piss, I flipped and smacked one with a fire extinguisher that was at the store entrance and walked away, not sure what I did the rest of that day or week"

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

Watched the fault in our stars for the first time last week… blubbering mess ensued.

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

Last week in truth. Sad times.

Most I’ve ever cried was at a mates funeral long ago now, my (now ex) wifes school friend & he became a great family friend who everyone liked. He left a lovely wife, a one year old baby & he was only 26.

I cried all through the funeral, the wake & into the evening. An awful day. I may have to change the first line to today now.

Guys, talk more, it does help!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I last properly cried after an orgasm with C a while back I guess it was a wave of emotions, we were developing our feelings, the intensity of the sex and the closeness I felt was powerful…I’m not sure C knew what to do so we hugged it out

I tend to shed a tear when I’m happy with something…I’ve surprised C or we’ve done something together that’s been special…just my emotions spilling out..

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 2 things in my life ever made me feel the need one was 30 years ago another was too many losses of people i was close to but rest assured il never let anyone close enough to make me feel that vulnerable again its horrible makes you tired and gives you a blocked nose and everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 19 and watched bridge to terrabithia while high

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By *ingerrNutsMan
over a year ago

Poole

About 4 years ago. Life just got on top of me. I was standing in my kitchen and just broke down and collapsed to the floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watched the fault in our stars for the first time last week… blubbering mess ensued. "

Movies are a real killer. The Fountain (Rachel Weiss/Hugh Jackman) had me sobbing uncontrollably at the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I broke yesterday, I lost access to my son due to an alcoholic parent I’m having to care for because it’s not safe my kid being around him now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had tears in my eyes watching the conclusion of Picard S2 last night , but if you mean actual whole body sobbing that'll be 2015. There was a lot of heartbreak, change and the death of a loved one that year. Sobbing was a daily occurrence for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't done that for a while. Was very close to it a few months back when I opened up about my past though. It was obviously to the other person that it was tough for me and I got a lovely cuddle afterwards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This year is tear free so far. So I am lucky.

Nice! Is that because you haven’t been able to or because you’ve not needed to? I have not needed to. Time does heal, you still see the wounds, but it doesn’t sting as much. That’s how I see it.

It’s actually mental health month and I feel lucky when I hear other stories. "

This is beautiful. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"About two months ago when we had the family dog put down, before that i don't remember.

Death really gets to us. Sorry to hear that. . Do you feel like other things, not death, don’t hurt as much?

No they don't hurt as much, because in most cases they're fixable in some way or another. "

I hear that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Around 10 months ago "

Tough. That’s a long time. Hope it’s because you’ve not needed it and not wanted to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Mr4 here...Cried when my my Mum died and cried because i couldn't attend her funeral and cried in anger when ...well you can all guess the reason why ? and had afew tears last night due to seeing a very very very special Lady ( my sister in law) due to remembering all the 100% amazing things she'd done when i was a child along with my dear departed brother !! and all the amazing memories they'd given me and my siblings and afew tears on Brighton seafront due to some truly great memories and a dear friend and afew tears seeing Gary Numan live ( at last ) "

Sad times and happy times but so good to hear that you can let that emotion out. It’s so healthy! Love that for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel since Covid lockdowns Iv just become numb to the point I’m sad. But can’t cry. 2.5 yr ago I cried.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cry quite easily...often at silly things (songs etc), but then don't cry when you might expect it.

I had a very brief cry yesterday - I caught a bit of 'Three Men and a Baby' on TV (tangent: 80s' classic!) and it just brought back some really happy memories about childhood and some sadder memories about adulthood and I was off. Not for long, but there you go. "

I get that. Sometimes when you’re expecting a cry you can’t get it out. Maybe because you’re so on top of coping with those things that you manage those times well? It’s good to be able to get it out though I think

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Oh I cry often, mostly at films/books

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got a bit emotional watching the end of "Spider-man no way home" ...my eyes were watering a little bit, but only for a second.

Crying...actually crying it's been 2 years

I hear that. I welled up watching Ozark the other day but nothing came of it.

How comes so long between crying? Have you wanted to?

Not sure if I wanted to, but definitely needed to...however there's just an emotional disconnect in me regarding crying...it's like for almost 30 years I was told that men don't cry, or that I need to man up, and most times I showed sadness and tears I've been made to feel as O should be ashamed about it... and then about 5 years ago society just decided that it's actually OK for me to show tears...I'm still trying to adapt to the change, I guess "
I hear that. That’s real. It’s hard to cry when you’re socialised into thinking that you shouldn’t cry. It’s a massive unlearning and a lot of work. I feel like I’ve unlearned a lot of the internalised bad gender box shit but I still struggle to cry. It’s a journey. Hopefully we get there though.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"This morning life really sucks at times "

Hugs man.things will get better bud. John

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Watched the fault in our stars for the first time last week… blubbering mess ensued. "

Ooo I have heard this also has that effect on people. Glad you are able to cry at films and things like that though. And that it’s so recent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterday. Sometimes it's good to just let it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last week in truth. Sad times.

Most I’ve ever cried was at a mates funeral long ago now, my (now ex) wifes school friend & he became a great family friend who everyone liked. He left a lovely wife, a one year old baby & he was only 26.

I cried all through the funeral, the wake & into the evening. An awful day. I may have to change the first line to today now.

Guys, talk more, it does help!

"

Bless you that sounds like a tough time. Glad you were able to feel that emotion though. And that you still do. You’re so right, talking does help. I think being able to cry helps too.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"When my dalmatian was put to sleep I really cried, it was the hardest thing to do as been my best friend for 15 years.

Then on the way out a bunch of hoodrats thought they take the piss, I flipped and smacked one with a fire extinguisher that was at the store entrance and walked away, not sure what I did the rest of that day or week"

Been there walking two of my babies over the rainbow bridge. I cried so much after the last one i could not possibly have another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely ball up though wish could let it out

Think last time got teary was watching the repair shop, some of the stories or family connections can set me teary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I last properly cried after an orgasm with C a while back I guess it was a wave of emotions, we were developing our feelings, the intensity of the sex and the closeness I felt was powerful…I’m not sure C knew what to do so we hugged it out

I tend to shed a tear when I’m happy with something…I’ve surprised C or we’ve done something together that’s been special…just my emotions spilling out..

K"

K, this is beautiful. Thanks for sharing. I’m so happy to hear that you can be so open with your emotions, especially with your partner. My partner is the only person that’s seen me cry since I was like 15. You’re strong. So strong. Keep letting them spill out, gorgeous man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only 2 things in my life ever made me feel the need one was 30 years ago another was too many losses of people i was close to but rest assured il never let anyone close enough to make me feel that vulnerable again its horrible makes you tired and gives you a blocked nose and everything "

It does all those things. But it makes you feel lighter I find. And makes you feel better in time. It’s a part of getting through tough times I think

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

At a mates funneral last year. We been frinds since five years old. Life bloody sucks at times. Left two young kids to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was 19 and watched bridge to terrabithia while high "

. Good film that.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I had some tears a few days ago but really crying, that's less than 2 years. But today isn't over yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"About 4 years ago. Life just got on top of me. I was standing in my kitchen and just broke down and collapsed to the floor"

Man, that’s deep. I know life can be a lot cant it? I am glad you were able to let all those feelings out. And I hope it helped you process and get through them.

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By *ill1966Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Last real cry was when I split with wife and not seeing children and saying good night, daft but hey,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I broke yesterday, I lost access to my son due to an alcoholic parent I’m having to care for because it’s not safe my kid being around him now"

I’m really sorry man. Really sorry. Just sending lots of love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had tears in my eyes watching the conclusion of Picard S2 last night , but if you mean actual whole body sobbing that'll be 2015. There was a lot of heartbreak, change and the death of a loved one that year. Sobbing was a daily occurrence for a while. "

Long time ago. But I hope if you needed to let it out you could. Sorry you had a tough time but hope the crying helped you through it. Shows strength.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two days ago whilst thinking about my wife who passed away in Dec 2020

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Haven't done that for a while. Was very close to it a few months back when I opened up about my past though. It was obviously to the other person that it was tough for me and I got a lovely cuddle afterwards "

Being embraced when you’re nearing tears or showing emotion like that is so important. That’s beautiful that you have that. And that you’re able to talk about your past.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel since Covid lockdowns Iv just become numb to the point I’m sad. But can’t cry. 2.5 yr ago I cried. "

That’s tough. I think covid has messed up a Lot you’re right. Hope we can get back to being our emotional selves soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh I cry often, mostly at films/books "

That’s beautiful. Very beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yesterday. Sometimes it's good to just let it out "

Super happy for you. Yes it so is. And I’m glad you do.

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

A few months ago, driving home from work and a certain memory popped into my head. Before I knew it the tears were a rolling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rarely ball up though wish could let it out

Think last time got teary was watching the repair shop, some of the stories or family connections can set me teary. "

I wish I could. I wish you could. But teary is ok for now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At a mates funneral last year. We been frinds since five years old. Life bloody sucks at times. Left two young kids to "

That’s awful. Really awful. I’m sorry to hear that. Hope the tears helped grieve. They do represent how much he meant to you at least

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had some tears a few days ago but really crying, that's less than 2 years. But today isn't over yet. "
it all counts I guess. But proper cries, the ugly ones, I think they’re the ones that get it all out. All the pain. It’s out or at least at the front, to be dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last real cry was when I split with wife and not seeing children and saying good night, daft but hey,,"

Not daft! That’s serious. I’m glad you were able to feel those emotions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Two days ago whilst thinking about my wife who passed away in Dec 2020 "

that’s beautiful. Really sorry about your wife x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A few months ago, driving home from work and a certain memory popped into my head. Before I knew it the tears were a rolling. "
god I hate when things creep up on you like that. Hope you feel ok though

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

A good few years ago. I worry I’m too rational and logical

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol? "

Yep, wish I could.... Think I'd feel better for it but as soon as it all wells up... It goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had tears in my eyes watching the conclusion of Picard S2 last night , but if you mean actual whole body sobbing that'll be 2015. There was a lot of heartbreak, change and the death of a loved one that year. Sobbing was a daily occurrence for a while.

Long time ago. But I hope if you needed to let it out you could. Sorry you had a tough time but hope the crying helped you through it. Shows strength. "

You're a breath of fresh air round these parts, Steve.

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By *J StathamMan
over a year ago

Manchester

About 2 decades now.

Even when theres times i think they should fall, they dont

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

This morning, and yesterday, a couple of other times this month already too, probably some more later on. So many times over the last six months and probably many more to come.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Quite recently. I can’t remember exactly when but if and when I get emotional I do cry.

I’m human and there’s no shame in showing emotions, whatever your gender.

I hate the implication from society that guys don’t or shouldn’t express their feelings

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"At a mates funneral last year. We been frinds since five years old. Life bloody sucks at times. Left two young kids to

That’s awful. Really awful. I’m sorry to hear that. Hope the tears helped grieve. They do represent how much he meant to you at least"

They do. We were more like brothers. Still have his mob number on my phone. Just cannot delete it fuck i miss him.

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By *nimal007Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *nimal007Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

2018 My dog died

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Gotta be a few months, I like it was just through frustration with work tbh

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By *lectrumMan
over a year ago

south shields

The other day watching the green mile

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I’d say I’m quite an emotional fella. However, tears seem to come easy for trivial stuff while proper emotional heart wrenching stuff I seem to dry up.

All quite bizarre.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I can hold it back, but I can easily cry at some animal videos on insta

Thedodo do very sad rescue videos and that’s an easy cry for me

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By *ociferu69Man
over a year ago

oban

Over 20 years ago....granmother died...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who stayed dry eyed at My Octopus Teacher then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two years ago when my dog died, I also had a bottle and half of Jack daniels

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"I can hold it back, but I can easily cry at some animal videos on insta

Thedodo do very sad rescue videos and that’s an easy cry for me "

ah shit you know what, last time I teared up was probably watching those videos with the babies that see their parents for the first time with glasses or hearing implants. I'm a soft sod.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avengers Endgame

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I think I must be emotionally retarded as I didn't even cry at my mum's funeral. I came close but no tears fell. I feel I never shed a tear for her.

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By *am450Man
over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London


"This morning life really sucks at times

Sending love and strength "

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By *hubbycheckerMan
over a year ago

Porstmouth

Litrally about a week ago, it's tuff being a man, your expected to carry on regardless. Stay strong brothers its not forever and the fact your not afraid to speak up when your feeling alone makes you more of a man. It's OK not to be OK remember

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A good few years ago. I worry I’m too rational and logical "

You’re not. But I hope you can cry when you next need to or want to. Let that shit out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol?

Yep, wish I could.... Think I'd feel better for it but as soon as it all wells up... It goes. "

I feel this too. It’s so frustrating. Feels like I’m broken. Maybe I am. But you’re certainly not. Hope you can get it out soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had tears in my eyes watching the conclusion of Picard S2 last night , but if you mean actual whole body sobbing that'll be 2015. There was a lot of heartbreak, change and the death of a loved one that year. Sobbing was a daily occurrence for a while.

Long time ago. But I hope if you needed to let it out you could. Sorry you had a tough time but hope the crying helped you through it. Shows strength.

You're a breath of fresh air round these parts, Steve. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"About 2 decades now.

Even when theres times i think they should fall, they dont"

That’s rough man. I’m sorry. Hopefully they come back to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I realised I’ve still got 118 days left on my paid membership on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This morning, and yesterday, a couple of other times this month already too, probably some more later on. So many times over the last six months and probably many more to come. "

That’s tough but I’m glad you’re getting it out. Stay strong my gorgeous friend. Better days are coming

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quite recently. I can’t remember exactly when but if and when I get emotional I do cry.

I’m human and there’s no shame in showing emotions, whatever your gender.

I hate the implication from society that guys don’t or shouldn’t express their feelings "

Absolutely Tea you’re so right. It’s important that you let it out when it comes. And I wish that more men felt like they could. But we as men also have to build that space for one another. We’ll get there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"2018 My dog died "

I’m sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gotta be a few months, I like it was just through frustration with work tbh"

Work will get you. I’m sorry. But when you gotta let it out, you gotta let it out

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"Gotta be a few months, I like it was just through frustration with work tbh

Work will get you. I’m sorry. But when you gotta let it out, you gotta let it out "

Absolutely mate, stops me shouting at folk there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The other day watching the green mile "

Never seen it. But I hope you felt better after

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d say I’m quite an emotional fella. However, tears seem to come easy for trivial stuff while proper emotional heart wrenching stuff I seem to dry up.

All quite bizarre."

That is quite bizarre. But I bet really common. At least you get them come out at some point. Maybe sometimes it’s actually more emotion than you realise coming out at the time too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can hold it back, but I can easily cry at some animal videos on insta

Thedodo do very sad rescue videos and that’s an easy cry for me "

Animal stuff gets me everytime. But don’t hold it in man let it all out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Over 20 years ago....granmother died..."
20 years, that’s long. You gotta get those feelings out man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Two years ago when my dog died, I also had a bottle and half of Jack daniels "

Whatever you gotta do to cope. Sorry about your dog

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Avengers Endgame "

That was a sad one wasn’t it. TS

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I must be emotionally retarded as I didn't even cry at my mum's funeral. I came close but no tears fell. I feel I never shed a tear for her. "

You will when the time is right to let it out. And it doesn’t mean that you didn’t love her or anything that you didn’t. You were just figuring shit out

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By *ananabrumMan
over a year ago

castle bromwich

I'm holding so much in, I shed a a single tear almost daily but I just can let it all out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Litrally about a week ago, it's tuff being a man, your expected to carry on regardless. Stay strong brothers its not forever and the fact your not afraid to speak up when your feeling alone makes you more of a man. It's OK not to be OK remember "

. This is so true. It’s ok to not be ok. I wish more men knew that and really believed that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I realised I’ve still got 118 days left on my paid membership on here "

Lmao don’t worry, it’ll be over before you know it!

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By *hubbycheckerMan
over a year ago

Porstmouth

I think as men we feel embarrassed to cry out loud and by that I mean really let it out loud cry one that actually realeses the pain your feeling inside

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm holding so much in, I shed a a single tear almost daily but I just can let it all out "

It’s hard. But it’s gonna come out. Hopefully soon. Must be hard holding that shit in. I know I find it tough.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"I never cried from early teens onwards even at the most horrendous event. But now as I get older I well up at undercover boss or equally stupid TV"

Yep happy tiers gets me every time under cover boss just some one doing something good.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I never cry maybe once every few years but cried about a month ago watching someone close to me slip away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think as men we feel embarrassed to cry out loud and by that I mean really let it out loud cry one that actually realeses the pain your feeling inside "

Yeah. The one where you’re just sobbing uncontrollably and it feels like it’s never gonna ever stop because what you’re feeling is so sad. We always do the couple of tears, wipe it away and say I’m ok. But feeling emotion is ok. It’s healthy. And I think can be helpful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never cried from early teens onwards even at the most horrendous event. But now as I get older I well up at undercover boss or equally stupid TV

Yep happy tiers gets me every time under cover boss just some one doing something good."

I hear that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never cry maybe once every few years but cried about a month ago watching someone close to me slip away "

That’s tough. I’m sorry you went through that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my wife passed away 15 years ago

When my mum passed away 30 years ago

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By *hubbycheckerMan
over a year ago

Porstmouth

I think as men we feel embarrassed to cry out loud and by that I mean really let it out loud cry one that actually realeses the pain your feeling inside

Yeah. The one where you’re just sobbing uncontrollably and it feels like it’s never gonna ever stop because what you’re feeling is so sad. We always do the couple of tears, wipe it away and say I’m ok. But feeling emotion is ok. It’s healthy. And I think can be helpful.

100%

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

About 2 weeks ago when I eventually broke my silence about being groomed when I was 14

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I never cry maybe once every few years but cried about a month ago watching someone close to me slip away

That’s tough. I’m sorry you went through that "

I’ts okhat they’re not dead , it’s addiction, but thank-you

Dedicated to all the tough guys

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_kvvNXuDRYI

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

I cry at the merest emotional moment in a movie,been like that since my mum died.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cried last week while at my nieces boyfriends first gig with his band. I felt an overwhelming sense of pride. I generally cry at the silliest of things. Emotional movies. Stories of people being kind to others ect.

Yet at a funeral of a loved one. NOTHING.

I am definitely broken.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

This morning, one of my supervises confided some awful news in me. I felt for her and my eyes welled up.

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By *ay10Man
over a year ago

cambridge


"When did you last cry? It’s been months since I last cried. And before that it was years. And I’ve been really upset in that time but the tears don’t fall. Even when I wish they would. Anyone else feel broken like that lol? "
I lost my 12 year old dog a month ago....I don't have kids and he was like my child.... don't think I've ever been so heartbroken in all my life...I cried for fucking days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a time i never knew how to cry but now I only need to see a weetabix advert and the tears are rolling

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Mr KC - honestly cannot remember...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need a good cry rn but nothing’s coming.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"I need a good cry rn but nothing’s coming. "

I felt this way a couple of weeks ago. I went to CBT and my therapist got me to write a worry script out for what was bothering me - basically just what the issue was and why it was upsetting me. It worked really well for me in unblocking whatever it was (I do usually cry easily though so realise it might not work for everyone) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if it all gets to much and I have a plummet in my mood, I then have an argument with the wife and I have to go and find a quiet space for a hour or 6

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (H) never used to cry at all. I used to be 'as strong as an ox' as they used to say. But we had some great problems with next doors a few years back. Ended up with a nervous breakdown. Still not over it as these feelings catch up with me from time to time. I'm working my way back up there but it's a hell of a steep climb. D is very understanding though as she went through it too. It didn't effect her in the same way as me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a week ago for.....reasons

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Last night, because.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

This morning. Pure relief as I bookended a very difficult part of my life (hopefully)

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

last night watching the news that poor boy killed by the dog, both for him and his parents

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

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