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"Hey I know I might be the wrong sex to comment on this but I was recently talking with a lady that has recently went through it, she said she lost her sex drive for a short time and it came back twice as bad, I dident want to ask any more questions or anytning just out of respect that I dident know much about the subject but I hope you get everything back to how it once was " What a lovely comment. OP this him I can't really offer any help other than to say I Hooe it's temporary and you get your mojo back soon. X | |||
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"Sorry to hear this. I'm perimenopausal and my sex drive fluctuates. Speaking to your gp is a good start. I've read that low levels of testosterone causes lack of libido. Maybe ask them about that " This ^. You will need to be on the correct level of estrogen before they will prescribe testosterone though, if they prescribe it at all. Have you used the balance app to track if you’re on the right amount at the moment? | |||
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"According to a friend of mine who went through the exact same experience, testerone was a game changer, something you have to mention to your GP though. The more women who vocalise and normalise this the better for everyone." What does testerone mean? Is that not what hrt is ? | |||
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"Hey I know I might be the wrong sex to comment on this but I was recently talking with a lady that has recently went through it, she said she lost her sex drive for a short time and it came back twice as bad, I dident want to ask any more questions or anytning just out of respect that I dident know much about the subject but I hope you get everything back to how it once was " Thanks your that lovely comment | |||
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"Sorry to hear this. I'm perimenopausal and my sex drive fluctuates. Speaking to your gp is a good start. I've read that low levels of testosterone causes lack of libido. Maybe ask them about that " Yah I might do but costs a small fortune every time I see the gp. | |||
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"Hey I know I might be the wrong sex to comment on this but I was recently talking with a lady that has recently went through it, she said she lost her sex drive for a short time and it came back twice as bad, I dident want to ask any more questions or anytning just out of respect that I dident know much about the subject but I hope you get everything back to how it once was What a lovely comment. OP this him I can't really offer any help other than to say I Hooe it's temporary and you get your mojo back soon. X" Thank you. I hope so too x | |||
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"Sorry to hear this. I'm perimenopausal and my sex drive fluctuates. Speaking to your gp is a good start. I've read that low levels of testosterone causes lack of libido. Maybe ask them about that This ^. You will need to be on the correct level of estrogen before they will prescribe testosterone though, if they prescribe it at all. Have you used the balance app to track if you’re on the right amount at the moment? " Never heard of the app. Thanks. I'll have to take a look at that. | |||
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"I'm going through the menopause and have no sex drive at all, I'm unable to use hrt due to having cancer in the past. Hopefully we will find our libido and it comes back with avengence. Hopefully you'll feel being yourself soon. " Have you spoken to a menopause specialist. Most Gp’s are not sufficiently trained in menopause/hrt, a lot of women have been told they can’t have it, when I fact they can. There’s some Facebook support groups with some extremely knowledgeable (and well trained) women on there….? | |||
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"Sorry to hear this. I'm perimenopausal and my sex drive fluctuates. Speaking to your gp is a good start. I've read that low levels of testosterone causes lack of libido. Maybe ask them about that This ^. You will need to be on the correct level of estrogen before they will prescribe testosterone though, if they prescribe it at all. Have you used the balance app to track if you’re on the right amount at the moment? Never heard of the app. Thanks. I'll have to take a look at that." Don't know if theirs such a thing here in Ireland but I'll take a look. Thanks x | |||
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"Most prescribed HRT is oestrogen and/or progesterone, testerone is only added in once the balance is right for the other two, from what I understand. Worth asking for bloods to check your levels. All the best with it and hope you get your mojo back " Thanks. I'll look into this. | |||
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"According to a friend of mine who went through the exact same experience, testerone was a game changer, something you have to mention to your GP though. The more women who vocalise and normalise this the better for everyone. What does testerone mean? Is that not what hrt is ?" The usual HRT only replaces oestrogen and progesterone. But testosterone also often takes a nose dive. Its not talked about as much because its thought of as a “male” hormone. But both sexes have it, just in different quantities. There have been a few programmes on it in recent years, week or two ago was: Davina McCall: Sex, Mind and the Menopause On Ch4 should be in catch up, worth a watch. | |||
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" I’ve been going through it for couple years. It fluctuates some times I’m literally dead waste down for few weeks then have months where I can’t get enough. What I’ve noticed is my body has changed internally bar the obvious use of lube from time to time even though the inside is as turned as normal. Inside is more sensitive so when internal toys fingers are used it’s got to be more gentle than the usual smashing of the game controller on a boss fight otherwise it’s painful If anything the sex drives good but fuck me im just more exhausted than normal " Yes! I'm like that too, inside is more sensitive and the usual play is now too rough! We're finding new ways! Somedays it's great others it's like nothing turns me on! | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is?" It means you've completed sex and should give it up now | |||
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"Hi there great post I was just going to post something similar regarding lack of libido due to antidepressants. I will read on with interest hope you also get your mojo back " Thank you and same to you. | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? It means you've completed sex and should give it up now " My worst nightmare has just turned up to say hello does anyone have any rope? | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is?" Very very rare that any man makes me orgasm, don’t care how good or gorgeous they are. I can do it myself in minutes though | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Very very rare that any man makes me orgasm, don’t care how good or gorgeous they are. I can do it myself in minutes though " Thank god for that !! Thought I'd lost my touch Something to work on then ! | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is?" Yes. I don't orgasm (with a man). Also certain meds can affect the ability to orgasm. | |||
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"Definitely speak to your GP. I’ve had barely any sex drive for a couple of years now. Thought I may have been peri menopausal but went for a private consultation with hormone screening, egg scanning, the lot and nope, I’m not. Don’t know what my issue is. Good luck to you, hope you get sorted " Thank you. Hope you get to the bottom of your issues too | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Very very rare that any man makes me orgasm, don’t care how good or gorgeous they are. I can do it myself in minutes though " Do you ever show the bloke how you like it? | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Yes. I don't orgasm (with a man). Also certain meds can affect the ability to orgasm. " I put a powerful vibrator / wand on to her clit the other night and there was no reaction ! Most women I've used that on are screaming even on the lowest setting so I'm guessing her sensitivity has reduced dramatically? Either that or I'd forgotten to plug it in !! | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Very very rare that any man makes me orgasm, don’t care how good or gorgeous they are. I can do it myself in minutes though Do you ever show the bloke how you like it?" Personally I find it's a mental issue rather than a physical one, that doesn't mean what he's doing doesn't feel amazing. | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Yes. I don't orgasm (with a man). Also certain meds can affect the ability to orgasm. I put a powerful vibrator / wand on to her clit the other night and there was no reaction ! Most women I've used that on are screaming even on the lowest setting so I'm guessing her sensitivity has reduced dramatically? Either that or I'd forgotten to plug it in !! " I find that hard to believe lol. I do love the wand myself and a few of my friends have them. We all like different settings and intesty | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Yes. I don't orgasm (with a man). Also certain meds can affect the ability to orgasm. I put a powerful vibrator / wand on to her clit the other night and there was no reaction ! Most women I've used that on are screaming even on the lowest setting so I'm guessing her sensitivity has reduced dramatically? Either that or I'd forgotten to plug it in !! I find that hard to believe lol. I do love the wand myself and a few of my friends have them. We all like different settings and intesty" I will just have to keep practicing | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Yes. I don't orgasm (with a man). Also certain meds can affect the ability to orgasm. I put a powerful vibrator / wand on to her clit the other night and there was no reaction ! Most women I've used that on are screaming even on the lowest setting so I'm guessing her sensitivity has reduced dramatically? Either that or I'd forgotten to plug it in !! I find that hard to believe lol. I do love the wand myself and a few of my friends have them. We all like different settings and intesty I will just have to keep practicing " They do nothing for me, just irritating! | |||
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"I'm 5 years post menopausal and yes my sex drive plummeted for a while, due to the obvious changes in our bodies but also how I viewed myself. I felt 'sexless', what with media portrayal of post menopausal women as being blue rinsed, twin set and t skirt wearing matrons, who only live for WRVS meetings, plus some guys who mean very well when they say oh you look great 'for your age' . No, I'm not as firm as I was, yes, I have a few laughter lines. However, HRT has helped to a point and although I may not have sex with the frequency I used to as a younger woman, I have accepted that the sex I do have now is more adventurous and fun. Us older ladies are still attractive sexual beings, and hopefully the recent shift in menopause awareness amongst people will mean that we no longer have to sit at home alone knitting (yes, I can knit) while it's socially more acceptable for men my age to still be out there having sex. Moan over lol. " I didn’t know Mrs had posted this so I would like to add my tuppenceworth, I had the good fortune to have met her 21/2 years ago and I think she is a beautiful and very very attractive lady and I know for a fact most people who meet her think the same She is sexier than any woman half her age | |||
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"Do post menopausal women find it hard to orgasm? I was with a lady at the weekend and I'm pretty damn sure she didn't cum? Now I'm no stud but I normally manage to get the lady to achieve this. Just wondered what the state of play is? Yes. I don't orgasm (with a man). Also certain meds can affect the ability to orgasm. I put a powerful vibrator / wand on to her clit the other night and there was no reaction ! Most women I've used that on are screaming even on the lowest setting so I'm guessing her sensitivity has reduced dramatically? Either that or I'd forgotten to plug it in !! I find that hard to believe lol. I do love the wand myself and a few of my friends have them. We all like different settings and intesty I will just have to keep practicing They do nothing for me, just irritating!" Yah I find it very hard to get off with the wand. | |||
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"Due to reasons beyond my control my body was forced to go straight into the menopause almost a year ago now. I was put on hrt and it has helped my symptoms. My biggest problem now is lack of a sex drive. I had a very full and active sex life up to the menopause. I latterly have no interest in sex or haven't done. I'm not sure why I'm even writing this. Guess I'm just wondering I'd people have experienced the same? Did your sexdrive come back ? If it any tips on what one can do to help themselves get there mojo back? " Both parties here have hormone issues. Babe with menopause. When started menopause, sex drive dwindled for around 6months. But once on HRT etc, sex drive back to normal, if anything much higher. Just suffers with some dryness after prolonged sex . The testosterone thing for women is not commonly known about, but women DO have it and usually lose it in menopause. It's just men have it on massive amounts. Women produce much lower amounts along with oestrogen, through the ovaries. Gone through possibly male equivalent , I think, because of a brain/glandular injury. But an understanding partner is more than half the battle (if that's how you see it) , won. | |||
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"Can any women advise of any natural products or anything I can buy over the counter to help with my labido? So want to please hubby for his sake and get the sex back on track, but I'm so uninterested in sex right NOW with my menopause so need something to help me. PLEASE " Do you want your sex drive back? There’s nothing natural over the counter- speak to your GP | |||
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"Can any women advise of any natural products or anything I can buy over the counter to help with my labido? So want to please hubby for his sake and get the sex back on track, but I'm so uninterested in sex right NOW with my menopause so need something to help me. PLEASE " Have you been to the doctors? I think that’s the best bet x | |||
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"Been there, GP's currently so unhelpful " Oh sorry. I missed this comment! | |||
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"Glad I found this post. I was diagnosed with estrogen positive breast cancer in 2018. My ex- partner rejected me emotionally and sexually. I went through a really quick intense menopause. Anyhow, treatment took priority for me..so I neglected what was happening with my vagina. I have recently been diagnosed with vaginal atrophy by my GP. I have had a referral to see a gynaecologist, but decided to address things ASAP. So I have been and had my first treatment of vaginal rejuvenation today. It’s uncomfortable, but I’m hoping that it will help me get back into the swing of things! " Been told that is an incredibly painful condition. Hope your treatment and your rejuvenated vag all go well! X | |||
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"Glad I found this post. I was diagnosed with estrogen positive breast cancer in 2018. My ex- partner rejected me emotionally and sexually. I went through a really quick intense menopause. Anyhow, treatment took priority for me..so I neglected what was happening with my vagina. I have recently been diagnosed with vaginal atrophy by my GP. I have had a referral to see a gynaecologist, but decided to address things ASAP. So I have been and had my first treatment of vaginal rejuvenation today. It’s uncomfortable, but I’m hoping that it will help me get back into the swing of things! " Off to look up vaginal rejuvenation | |||
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"I THINK I am premenapausal. But. My sex drive has gone haywire. Just want it continously! Maybe I'm odd lol" Makes two of us then. I was always horny at that stage. | |||
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