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By *alty surprise OP   Man
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Why are people so negative on here about no meets ,no hook ups ...I don't do very well on here ,but I persevere.maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree it’s not the sites fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it’s easier to complain and slag off the site to compensate for one’s own failings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Because people love to moan

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some people have a sense of entitlement exasperated by innate laziness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like any other social media platforms this site is just a method of connecting

Just because you are here does not guarantee success but being here at least gives you a chance, it's up to you how you go about taking that chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"……..maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site "

Failing? I never knew I was taking some kind of test. Am I being marked on how many women I can bed?

*asking for all my friends.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Why are people so negative on here about no meets ,no hook ups ...I don't do very well on here ,but I persevere.maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site "

Totally agree. Usually the ones moaning have no effort into themselves on here

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By *illbe9999Man
over a year ago

Holmfirth

The trick is not to rely completely on this site.

If you did it could prove to be very depressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s easier to blame everyone else rather than correct where they’ve been going wrong.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Emotional damage….

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"……..maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site

Failing? I never knew I was taking some kind of test. Am I being marked on how many women I can bed?

*asking for all my friends. "

Ha, absolutely...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's because for a lot of people who just want straightforward, uncomplicated sex it can prove very difficult. This leads them to question themselves.

After reading the thread asking why men don't talk (well before that too) I can understand why they don't. At base the negative type threads are really asking for reassurance and confirmation. It's rarely given

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some think it's #instashag x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often people have high expectations of what they will get from this site and the reality often falls short of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said OP, FabSwingers is a very good in comparison to most...

We are but a funny species, and simply like to moan, etc. about one thing or another - no need for it...!

Life’s short, make the most of it trying to live it happily and having fun with like minded peeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's a fuck site so it's not my fault.

I've seen swinger porn and read verifications. People fuck strangers in every hole, spunk everywhere.

I have a profile and I'm horny so why aren't people tearing my pants off???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sign of the times nobody wants to work hard or put in any effort

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Because it's everyones fault but their own I reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it's a fuck site so it's not my fault.

I've seen swinger porn and read verifications. People fuck strangers in every hole, spunk everywhere.

I have a profile and I'm horny so why aren't people tearing my pants off???"

I’d like to tear off your pants…..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why are people so negative on here about no meets ,no hook ups ...I don't do very well on here ,but I persevere.maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site "

Possibly some people don't have your strength of character and self esteem. Possibly they crave a little intimacy or sexual release

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By *heLongTongueMan
over a year ago

boston


"Because it’s easier to complain and slag off the site to compensate for one’s own failings. "

This….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people so negative on here about no meets ,no hook ups ...I don't do very well on here ,but I persevere.maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site "

Because it's easier to blame external circumstances or other people than look at yourself. Same applies every area in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In life expect nothing and if you’re lucky enough to get something treat it with respect.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Why are people so negative on here about no meets ,no hook ups ...I don't do very well on here ,but I persevere.maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site "

Prices universal law …. The square root of the members are having 50% of the success. Success isn’t shared equally , so with 10K men , 100 will be getting 50% of the meets. As membership grew over the last few years , success grew linearly, lack of success grew exponentially. That’s why there’s so much more negativity now than 5-6 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just negative people, everything is always wrong, something is always drama.I think they enjoy it in a way, see Colin Robinson. Energy Vampires are real!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people start off with the Instashag entitlement but some are just lonely. And need some reassurance that they're desirable to someone. Unfortunately this isn't a good place for reassurance.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

There's no wrong or right answer. There's no E=MC².

But I love the races on here, the Science Is Sexy masterclass turns me on.

The sex isn't too bad either.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Why are people so negative on here about no meets ,no hook ups ...I don't do very well on here ,but I persevere.maybe some people should take a look at themselves and wonder why they are failing and try to correct it ,instead of slagging off the site

Prices universal law …. The square root of the members are having 50% of the success. Success isn’t shared equally , so with 10K men , 100 will be getting 50% of the meets. As membership grew over the last few years , success grew linearly, lack of success grew exponentially. That’s why there’s so much more negativity now than 5-6 years ago "

Agree to an extent but not with your final statement. I’ve been here over 8 years. As soon as I joined the forums (after a few months) I noticed threads from guys complaining about lack of meets/return messages/‘genuine’ women etc etc etc. I used to offer constructive advice but gave up once I realised that wasn’t what they were looking for - they just wanted to vent.

Just like in the real world (in my opinion) it’s a combination of looks and personality that attract the opposite sex.

I know a few guys who are very popular on here but not in the real world - and vice versa - but not many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's because for a lot of people who just want straightforward, uncomplicated sex it can prove very difficult. This leads them to question themselves.

After reading the thread asking why men don't talk (well before that too) I can understand why they don't. At base the negative type threads are really asking for reassurance and confirmation. It's rarely given"

A voice of reason.

Frustration can get the better of the most patient people op, especially if they've followed all the advice on here. It doesn't make them arseholes, they just need to adjust their expectations accordingly. Some do, successfully to, others just disappear into the ether. To be honest, point scoring bs threads like this bother me more.

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