FabSwingers.com forum: It’s all so frightening

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The post on emotions got me thinking - that means I’ve had to sit and concentrate on my heart and head today !!

Why am I so sure I don’t want a relationship?

I can meet with emotions, but I know I can walk away without thinking ‘fuck, I like him/her’

I’m scared of becoming a ‘couple’ as in my younger days I HAD to have some kind of relationship as I wanted and needed that love.

I’m admitting it’s frightening thinking that I’d have to welcome someone into my craziness.

So - whatever your situation, what scares you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daddy long legs.

I hate their long, snappy legs.

I’m not a bit frightened of spiders but these things give me the creeps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Daddy long legs.

I hate their long, snappy legs.

I’m not a bit frightened of spiders but these things give me the creeps."

They are an enigma to the natural world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Daddy long legs.

I hate their long, snappy legs.

I’m not a bit frightened of spiders but these things give me the creeps.

They are an enigma to the natural world"

They chase after you, they are just mean!

I think they feed off the screams!

I wouldn’t hurt one though, I just run away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big debt… been there and got out of it… don’t want to ever go there again… when you are short of cash you can be in a bad place especially with dependents.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Clowns

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Being alone. I hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The big black dog ever coming back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Putin.

Good call

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big debt… been there and got out of it… don’t want to ever go there again… when you are short of cash you can be in a bad place especially with dependents."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clowns

Never had a fear of clowns

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being alone. I hate it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The big black dog ever coming back.

Mr"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Daddy long legs.

I hate their long, snappy legs.

I’m not a bit frightened of spiders but these things give me the creeps.

They are an enigma to the natural world

They chase after you, they are just mean!

I think they feed off the screams!

I wouldn’t hurt one though, I just run away

The scariest thing about them is that their leg actually grows back if it snaps off!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Daddy long legs.

I hate their long, snappy legs.

I’m not a bit frightened of spiders but these things give me the creeps.

They are an enigma to the natural world

They chase after you, they are just mean!

I think they feed off the screams!

I wouldn’t hurt one though, I just run away

The scariest thing about them is that their leg actually grows back if it snaps off!

That’s scary …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heights, the sea, public speaking.

Having said that, sometimes I can overcome these 3 and relish the challenge. There's a thrill mixed with the fear, if that makes sense.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

The Taxman.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Heights, the sea, public speaking.

Having said that, sometimes I can overcome these 3 and relish the challenge. There's a thrill mixed with the fear, if that makes sense."

Perfect sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dying alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dying alone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being needed x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Dolls !

Irrational I know, always disliked them from a young age. I won’t watch a movie with them in or will close my eyes & ears if they appear

I got bought a Tiny Tears, it ended up being pushed & covered up at the back of the wardrobe, until mum found it and put it out again. So to stop this I broke its legs off, thinking that would be the end of it. Two months later come home, we have a surprise for you….. they’d sent TT to the dolls hospital to be fixed

Grateful I had a son !

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Failing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not being needed x"

I get that

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Dolls !

Irrational I know, always disliked them from a young age. I won’t watch a movie with them in or will close my eyes & ears if they appear

Grateful I had a son ! "

I hear you! I’m the same. Clowns and dolls. And I got 2 girls. Baby annabelle and Barbie was all I could deal with. Then they brought out those real life freaky things when youngest was small! No chance. Nearly had a heart attack once when I opened my chest freezer and an Elsa doll was staring at me! Almost finished me off

. She wanted to see if she’d get the frozen powers!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dolls !

Irrational I know, always disliked them from a young age. I won’t watch a movie with them in or will close my eyes & ears if they appear

Grateful I had a son ! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dolls !

Irrational I know, always disliked them from a young age. I won’t watch a movie with them in or will close my eyes & ears if they appear

Grateful I had a son !

. She wanted to see if she’d get the frozen powers!"

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Killing myself with glucose drinks and high sugar food.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Killing myself with glucose drinks and high sugar food.

Gosh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cows.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cows."

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Dolls !

Irrational I know, always disliked them from a young age. I won’t watch a movie with them in or will close my eyes & ears if they appear

Grateful I had a son !

. She wanted to see if she’d get the frozen powers!"

at Elsa in the freezer, she has the power to freeze mum in fear

Braver lady than me, I couldn’t have them in the house & and I’ve never bought any for nieces / younger cousins.

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There are lots of stuff like that.

I had a long conversation with a friend yesterday who said that they were feeling helpless trying to be supportive to someone they care about when they know nothing can really change their situation. That has made them really upset and affecting their own well being. In some ways I also felt helpless as was not sure what to say other than all they can do is be their for them and I am here for my friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are lots of stuff like that.

I hear you

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"There are lots of stuff like that.

I hear you

Thank you, much appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are lots of stuff like that.

I hear you

Thank you, much appreciated x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cows?

What about baby ones..or highland calves (those ones with the long hair are the cutest creatures.)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cows?

What about baby ones..or highland calves (those ones with the long hair are the cutest creatures.)"

I agree … they are cute

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Putin.

Don't be. I've read the news in Russia today. Everything is going to plan, the people are being saved and the NAZIs are being vanquished. It's all OK and if the evil NAZI puppet Johnson trys to makes threats we can explode a huge nuclear torpedo to cause a huge 500ft radioactive tsunami and drown all of the UK.

So you see there really is nothing to worry about. Shame some people believe everything they read in the Free World media.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Not finding love again and being alone, but also finding it and losing the person. Watching your partner die fcks you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dying and breaking my daughters heart

Being on my own and lonely when I’m old

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Dying and breaking my daughters heart

Being on my own and lonely when I’m old "

Yep....

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I fear melting down in social situations. Social situations scared me with new people, especially groups (no so much one on one). No so much these days (although I hide it well its still there). Mainly through exposure and practice. This scene especially the club scene has help a lot.

But I can still melt down, make social faux pas. But I've come to understand myself more and understand there's neurological reasons for this and why I dont always read social situations well. I understand thanks to My Girl that I'm far more attune to my social errors than the people around me, so not to stress. I've realise that everyone is weird anyway and just to give less fucks in general. So I now just do me and accept and own when I get socially out of my depth and weird. But group situations are still scary and sometimes I do still go off the edge (often with bizarre behaviour to the amusement of My Girl).

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I fear my resin vat running out 3/4 way through a printing project and wasting like 9 hours of time ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not finding love again and being alone, but also finding it and losing the person. Watching your partner die fcks you up "

Sending love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dying and breaking my daughters heart

Being on my own and lonely when I’m old "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fear melting down in social situations. Social situations scared me with new people, especially groups (no so much one on one). No so much these days (although I hide it well its still there). Mainly through exposure and practice. This scene especially the club scene has help a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The neighbours pussy shits the life out of me...its a friggin black hairy monster that ate the other neighbours cock...

I so miss that cock waking me in the morning...

Harold is the cats name, dont think the cock had a name but the hens are missing him..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The neighbours pussy shits the life out of me...its a friggin black hairy monster that ate the other neighbours cock...

I so miss that cock waking me in the morning...

Harold is the cats name, dont think the cock had a name but the hens are missing him.."

Ahhh

The innuendo frightens you

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Getting old, losing independence but having no one I trust to rely on, losing mobility or mental acuity and being confused and disoriented or ending up in some shitty home for years waiting to die. I would much rather bow out on my own terms at some point that go through any of that and it should be made so much easier and acceptable to do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Getting old, losing independence but having no one I trust to rely on, losing mobility or mental acuity and being confused and disoriented or ending up in some shitty home for years waiting to die. I would much rather bow out on my own terms at some point that go through any of that and it should be made so much easier and acceptable to do that. "

I get this

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Only thing I’m scared of are buttons

since primary school and having those creepy jars full for craft !! They look smelly

Usually I’m rational!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Becoming a burden to others and being operated on cut open . I woke up on the operating table as a kid during a routine operation and have a irrational fear of being operated on or cut open because of that fact .

But that's a fear I can control so it's a fear but the real thing that really scares me is the thought of becoming a burden to others in my old age because that possibility is out of my control .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only thing I’m scared of are buttons

since primary school and having those creepy jars full for craft !! They look smelly

Usually I’m rational! "

I understand this !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cows?

What about baby ones..or highland calves (those ones with the long hair are the cutest creatures.)"

My ex was cute it didn’t change the fact she was evil. I apply the same logic to cows.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Becoming a burden to others and being operated on cut open . I woke up on the operating table as a kid during a routine operation and have a irrational fear of being operated on or cut open because of that fact .

But that's a fear I can control so it's a fear but the real thing that really scares me is the thought of becoming a burden to others in my old age because that possibility is out of my control ."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know what I'm afraid of which is more frightening than knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've kinda have got to the point now where I'm content enough with not being here so not much scares me anymore, what will be will be.

In terms of silly things, balloons.. evil things!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Although having said the above I am quite frightened of the eye surgery I'm due to have

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know what I'm afraid of which is more frightening than knowing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've kinda have got to the point now where I'm content enough with not being here so not much scares me anymore, what will be will be.

In terms of silly things, balloons.. evil things!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Although having said the above I am quite frightened of the eye surgery I'm due to have"

Sending love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that scares (or ramps up my anxiety) is my daughter hurting herself (she’s 4 years old). I feel physically sick if she gets hurt - Hubby

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By *tinerant scribeMan
over a year ago

County Durham

Irrational (because the risk is so slight): suffering major burns or electrocution.

Rational: loneliness in old age, poverty in old age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What scares me the most is failing to make the most of this life.

I have big dreams and ambitions and it scares me that I will leave so much potential on the table when I’m gone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only thing that scares (or ramps up my anxiety) is my daughter hurting herself (she’s 4 years old). I feel physically sick if she gets hurt - Hubby"

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I've got a phobia with Big spiders. They freak the shit out of me and I fall into some sort of panic mode. Heart rate increases, I go all clammy, fidgety and I can't relax until its dealt with.

Thats a phobia though.

I'm 45 and single. I'm scared of going old alone. I've never been successful when dating women. I dont have a huge pool of friends and everyone has already settled in life with partners, kids etc...

I think the boat has already sailed for having a family. Just don't like the idea of being alone. That sucks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Irrational (because the risk is so slight): suffering major burns or electrocution.

Rational: loneliness in old age, poverty in old age. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What scares me the most is failing to make the most of this life.

I have big dreams and ambitions and it scares me that I will leave so much potential on the table when I’m gone.

You’re still young, and a great mind

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I didn’t worry about my kids when they were young but now they are older I worry something will happen to them (probably as I’m not with them all the time making sure they are safe)

Also the thought of getting older and not able to look after myself or be a burden to my family

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've got a phobia with Big spiders. They freak the shit out of me and I fall into some sort of panic mode. Heart rate increases, I go all clammy, fidgety and I can't relax until its dealt with.

Thats a phobia though.

I'm 45 and single. I'm scared of going old alone. I've never been successful when dating women. I dont have a huge pool of friends and everyone has already settled in life with partners, kids etc...

I think the boat has already sailed for having a family. Just don't like the idea of being alone. That sucks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I didn’t worry about my kids when they were young but now they are older I worry something will happen to them (probably as I’m not with them all the time making sure they are safe)

Also the thought of getting older and not able to look after myself or be a burden to my family "

I have the fear of being a burden

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By *iddylad87Man
over a year ago

kidderminster

The thought that in a few weeks, mum won’t be here.

The thought that I’ll get close to someone and they will leave, lots of things xx

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"The neighbours pussy shits the life out of me...its a friggin black hairy monster that ate the other neighbours cock...

I so miss that cock waking me in the morning...

Harold is the cats name, dont think the cock had a name but the hens are missing him..

Ahhh

The innuendo frightens you

I love that the word innuendo sounds like a euphemism for something dirty. And don't get me started on the word euphemism...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The thought that in a few weeks, mum won’t be here.

The thought that I’ll get close to someone and they will leave, lots of things xx"

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

Electricity even walking under pylons in the country hearing the buzz of the charge. Cold sweat time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Electricity even walking under pylons in the country hearing the buzz of the charge. Cold sweat time"

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