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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne

i give up on this site no one seems want meet up

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The men greatly outnumber the women. It's not a free for all fuckfest.

Don't take it personally.

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne


"The men greatly outnumber the women. It's not a free for all fuckfest.

Don't take it personally. "

cant even get a chat going with anyone either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people are still feeling the effects of lockdown. Don't ge disheartened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to a social gathering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If what you’re doing isn’t working, then you need to try something different?

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne


"I think people are still feeling the effects of lockdown. Don't ge disheartened "
even just chat be good start lol

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[ Chat removed by poster at 08/05/22 09:03:30]"

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne


"If what you’re doing isn’t working, then you need to try something different?"
ive tired lots different approaches

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t. "

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

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By *wales_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If what you’re doing isn’t working, then you need to try something different?"

This is the best advice you will receive today OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you asked for advice on your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a tough place OP, stick with the forums, join in and some conversations may unfold from there.

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne

clubs are hard get to as there in middle no where an i dont drive

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag "

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"The men greatly outnumber the women."

Fancy a gangbang?

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne

tired lots different approaches with people here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww well people are trying to help and it seems you have an answer for everything so bye then

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne


"Have you asked for advice on your profile? "
no i haven't done that

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha "

It's tough for a single guy, but effort in = rewards out, if you get my drift x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t. "

This ^. Sorry I couldn’t help it also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not easy believe me it’s been 5 years hunting for us on and off and we’re still here living in hope

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne


"It’s not easy believe me it’s been 5 years hunting for us on and off and we’re still here living in hope "
thanks for the support

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha

It's tough for a single guy, but effort in = rewards out, if you get my drift x"

Tough for anyone. Depends what you’re looking for

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne

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By *etmeteaseyou1 OP   Man
over a year ago

sittingbourne

just looking for couples or woman

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha

It's tough for a single guy, but effort in = rewards out, if you get my drift x

Tough for anyone. Depends what you’re looking for "

Oh, not for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The men greatly outnumber the women. It's not a free for all fuckfest.

Don't take it personally. cant even get a chat going with anyone either "

Take a look at our profile, we still receive around and up of thirty messages per day with our profile clearly stating we're not looking to meet.

After replying we're not looking, many suggest we can just chat until we are looking.

We don't have the time or will to chat to so many.

Now, imagine how many more messages we receive when we are looking.

A well thought out profile bio, good pictures, profile reading and messages to grab the attention can help.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"It’s not easy believe me it’s been 5 years hunting for us on and off and we’re still here living in hope "

Is Hope in Northamptonshire?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha

It's tough for a single guy, but effort in = rewards out, if you get my drift x

Tough for anyone. Depends what you’re looking for

Oh, not for you x"

Bloody is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just looking for couples or woman"

There's a couple of Kent socials going on, check out the meets and events section

Px

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha

It's tough for a single guy, but effort in = rewards out, if you get my drift x

Tough for anyone. Depends what you’re looking for

Oh, not for you x

Bloody is!"

Wait.....what! I'm not having that. Classy lady like you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t.

It's true though. Clubs are also social venues.

Just be yourself OP. It's not instashag

Yeah I know. It just seems to be the answer to everything haha

It's tough for a single guy, but effort in = rewards out, if you get my drift x

Tough for anyone. Depends what you’re looking for

Oh, not for you x

Bloody is!

Wait.....what! I'm not having that. Classy lady like you x"

It's difficult for all, only in different manners.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"clubs are hard get to as there in middle no where an i dont drive"

I don't drive either, but you know what I did if I really wanted to go somewhere?

Planned it and made the effort.

I haven't had a holiday in 19 years, I could take on a 2nd job to afford one but the truth is I can't be arsed. I'm already exhausted from the one I do have. But... if I REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted that holiday I could make more effort and get a 2nd job.

Priorities ain't it. You either can be arsed and will need patience, planning, prepared ro overcome obstacles and motivation or ya can't and will remain stagnant in achieving that goal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i give up on this site no one seems want meet up"

I gave up on this site a long time ago op. As a general rule, it’s not great.

But I never gave up on people.

Talk to people, keep talking to more people and then you find some that you like. And then you begin to ignore those that ignored you.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Maybe you need to ask for some profile advice. Many clubs are near train stations so that’s no excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you need to ask for some profile advice. Many clubs are near train stations so that’s no excuse "

Do you live near a train station?

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Personally speaking, I’ve had more chats on here than I’ve ever had with strangers in pubs (for example)

Some have led to meets, others haven’t, but I’ve enjoyed them all.

That’s probably not much help to the OP, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is start with taking a good look at your profile. It’s the first and often only thing you’ll get measured on, at least initially.

Check out some other guys, there are some amazing guys/profiles on here who can provide some good inspiration/ideas for you - and the flange is literally queuing up to nosh them off!**

For what it’s worth and it’s only my opinion:-

- put your dick pics in private. Nobody cares until you’ve made them smile.

- pics with an untidy/disorganised mess in the background could give an impression, perhaps a false one, of your hygiene standards.

- talk more about yourself in your profile , not just what your end/game and target is. Talk about you.

- be positive

- finally and perhaps most importantly: start out any conversation (with a woman , assuming that’s what you’re looking for) as though she were your sister or mother and you’re reminding her hist how polite/decent a man you are. And try and make her laugh as though she’s one your best friends.

If that all fails, try adultwork

** I almost definitely elaborated, just for the sake of the story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The men greatly outnumber the women. It's not a free for all fuckfest.

Don't take it personally. cant even get a chat going with anyone either "

I feel your pain. I've pretty much given up on messaging, etc, so I just sort of hang out here now.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"clubs are hard get to as there in middle no where an i dont drive

I don't drive either, but you know what I did if I really wanted to go somewhere?

Planned it and made the effort.

I haven't had a holiday in 19 years, I could take on a 2nd job to afford one but the truth is I can't be arsed. I'm already exhausted from the one I do have. But... if I REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted that holiday I could make more effort and get a 2nd job.

Priorities ain't it. You either can be arsed and will need patience, planning, prepared ro overcome obstacles and motivation or ya can't and will remain stagnant in achieving that goal.

"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i give up on this site no one seems want meet up"

Amen!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laters then.

See ya on ya next profile.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I couldn't possibly comment on how the content of your profile - or lack thereof - might affect your success on Fab, as it would result in me getting a forum timeout.

....

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LvM

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"i give up on this site no one seems want meet up"

OP, only you can decide if this site is for you. It's certainly not always easy. But don't make this site the ONLY way you try to meet people: there's a big, bad non-Fab world out there too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"clubs are hard get to as there in middle no where an i dont drive"

After having a looking about on the Internet for less than 10 minutes I found that Pleasures in Kent is less than 20 miles from your location and you can bus it in 1 hour and 15 minutes. If you look in the club reviews section on here, there's loads of reviews on Pleasurea for you to browse to see if you would like to attend without even getting off your arse.

It's all about the effort. If I wanted to make some connections with people in the lifestyle to show what type of bloke I am, would I spend 10 minutes on the Internet and then 1 hour and 15 on a bus?.....To bloody right I would.

Do with this information what you will. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester

This is a great mantra to have in your mind when facing life's obstacles....

Improvise, Adapt & Overcome... See the yanks do sometimes get it right ??

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

We can’t all be everyone’s cup of tea…. Have you tried a social gathering ?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

More men than women op, just treat fab like a social club and have a laugh.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"

Do with this information what you will. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

"

Also, You can lead a horse to water, but a pencil must be lead.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Maybe you need to ask for some profile advice. Many clubs are near train stations so that’s no excuse "

You can give profile advice if it is relevant. Says so in da rulz

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op au revoir

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down


"Get yourself to a social gathering "

Yep, get yourself to socials. It will open up the site to you in a whole different way.

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea


"Get yourself to a club.

Sorry couldn’t resist .

Stick with it op. It may happen. If you leave it won’t. "

Listen to Nora. She knows! Seriously, go to a Greedy Girls event at a club and meet people.

Use your visit to network and if you're lucky you may even get to play. If you don't get a play on your first visit, go back again as some people you'd have spoken to may remember you.

As you get known your chances of playing increase. And if people you play with like what you do word gets around pretty quickly.

But stick with it because it takes time and effort. It is well worth it though.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"Get yourself to a social gathering "

This…definitely this

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Profile, pictures, effort.

You need to be interesting enough to stand out from the crowd.

Failing that buy a house near a train station.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent


"clubs are hard get to as there in middle no where an i dont drive

After having a looking about on the Internet for less than 10 minutes I found that Pleasures in Kent is less than 20 miles from your location and you can bus it in 1 hour and 15 minutes. If you look in the club reviews section on here, there's loads of reviews on Pleasurea for you to browse to see if you would like to attend without even getting off your arse.

It's all about the effort. If I wanted to make some connections with people in the lifestyle to show what type of bloke I am, would I spend 10 minutes on the Internet and then 1 hour and 15 on a bus?.....To bloody right I would.

Do with this information what you will. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

"

This is actually a very helpful post.

Apologies for my earlier flippant comment. The OP would be wise to take heed.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"The men greatly outnumber the women. It's not a free for all fuckfest.

Don't take it personally. cant even get a chat going with anyone either "

Do you send messages worth replying to? Most of the messages we get from single men are just rubbish.

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By *ovetoedgeMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"clubs are hard get to as there in middle no where an i dont drive"

Have to make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye have a beautiful time. *waves*

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