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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I normally leave all this to Jules, but hey.

swinging has taught me a lot of things, but the most important lessons have been:

1. to love and respect my wife more than ever

2. people are not always what they seem

3. to look more beyond the physical to the personality

4. not to get hangups about my own body

5. to respect other peoples views and wishes

6. to enjoy life

Over to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i knew what i knew twenty years ago i would have become a swinger earlier rather than leave it till i was 30! Lol and to trust no one. Plus more people cheat so i would have probable found an ex on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sex can actually be great, not the get on, get off that I was used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust no-one.

There are some brilliant people out there.

Sex and love are two totally different things.

Respect and trust are hard earned and easily lost.

Have fun, have patience.

Relax.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

That I'm actually better at sex than I thought!

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

That me n my exwife were poles apart in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No longer have hang ups about my body.

If one person thinks i'm a fuggly the next will find me sexy.

The sex is great and i'm more open about what i want or like.

I find it a lot easier to talk to people rather than just sit there listening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To not get excited about a meet till they totally turn up ! To go with the flow and be open minded about fantasy u never no what turns u on and being blindfolded defo does it for me as we'll as being told what to do (unlike in real life )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To trust no one, except my closest friends on here. Anyone else could be a journalist/stalker/jealous person/nasty perve... Delete as appropriate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there are other people out there who have a healthy attitude towards sexy fun as I do, and sometimes a social meet is as nice a a fun meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

excelent thread

When i was married and played with wife on swinging scene i can honestly say we felt more connected and didnt want to stray. The sex was great and we Both enjoyed everything.

With regards to respect; im sure im not only person here that will that without respect its just a shag without feelings - you have to like the person/people before you give your body up i guess.

Yes since being single i have sadly came accross many time wasting silly people who love to play mind games - goes with the teritory i guess again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To trust no-one even a close friend one day can let you down the next.

That there's a whole world out there I didn't know about.

How to make love to a lady properly.

That its easier to talk about sex than bottle it up inside.

Now realize how boring my sex life was 10yrs ago!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

How to spell Professional

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"How to spell Professional "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That men really will shag anything

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Thought it was poffessonal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I normally leave all this to Jules, but hey.

swinging has taught me a lot of things, but the most important lessons have been:

1. to love and respect my wife more than ever

2. people are not always what they seem

3. to look more beyond the physical to the personality

4. not to get hangups about my own body

5. to respect other peoples views and wishes

6. to enjoy life

Over to you?"

you shouldve done all those things before you started swinging son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust no-one.

There are some brilliant people out there.

Sex and love are two totally different things.

Respect and trust are hard earned and easily lost.

Have fun, have patience.

Relax.

"

I like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How to spell Professional "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have leanrt that even when honest, I will still get it wrong but I have also learnt not to let it bother me, its their loss....

Life is for living and as long as my husband has no issues then I can play.

S xxxx

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not to use someone else's hotness as a measure of who they will fancy - have met and played with lots of gym bunnies with model looks who think my body shape is their ideal.

Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.

So now I give it a punt and if the answer is no I don't let it get me down since I have a host of fitties in my phone and there are more out there!

It's also made me take rejection in other circles much better - water off a ducks back! And I've had more confidence talking to the gorgeous in social situations only to discover that many are shy and that most won't approach them so if we haven't played we've still had fun conversations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That it doesn't matter that I'm not skinny.

That people don't care that I've got scars.

That its ok to think women are sexy.

That my submissive side can be brought out.

That I'm allowed to be 26, single and have a bloody amazing sex life.

Oh and that I'm not sure I have a type!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

That a timemachine really pulls the chicks

...form an orderley queue ladies, I'll be right with you once I've changed my ionic diffusion injectors...

Chikka-chikka-pow-wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some men like kissing, men who tell you how nice they are usualy arent.

i am quite lucky to have such a nice hubby. some men are good at foreplay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's teaching me(as I believe that learning is an ongoing thing) how to have more confidence, that I'm nowhere near as bad in bed as I used to believe, that sexiness is just as much to do with personality(if not more) as it is looks...

...and to make sure I join the queue for the buffet at Chams at least 15 mins before it's served

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems I'm not the crap shag I thought I was!!

Or are women really that easily pleased??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That my ex was the problem in bed and not me.

That I am far better at sex than I realised (God that sounds sooo conceited!)

That wa-a-a-a-y too many people live completely unrewarding sex lives - and just accept it.

That I know who I am, am happy with it.

Pork

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"It's teaching me(as I believe that learning is an ongoing thing) how to have more confidence, that I'm nowhere near as bad in bed as I used to believe, that sexiness is just as much to do with personality(if not more) as it is looks...

...and to make sure I join the queue for the buffet at Chams at least 15 mins before it's served "

Especially at a bbw night

It's shown me that I am not alone. O have always had a keener interest in sex than my friends, always known I was a bit submissive etc and I am enjoying exploring that side of me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Confidence

Self awareness

Not taking myself so seriously

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By *aybe_amyWoman
over a year ago

Wales

1. Not to be as naive and trusting as I used to be. (One of my early meets nicked my unlocked iPhone).

2. There's a LOT more bi men out there than people realise.

3. I've learned to take care when texting (after texting a friend mid-meet to say it wasn't going well, only to accidentally send it to my meet)!

4. If planning on shaving in the hotel rather than at home, it's all very well remembering to take a new blade, but it's no good without the razor.

5. Certain hotel chains are swines, after they tried to charge £500 for trashing a hotel room. (I hadn't btw). I later saw on Watchdog they tried it on with lots of other people.

6. Being in love with someone that enjoys swinging as much as me is blinking awesome

7. Whilst there are some vile, nasty people lurking on this website, there's also some proper diamonds, thank god!

8. Never go anywhere without an ample supply of condoms, you never know...

Oh and a general tip, not necessarily learned from swinging.... Never, ever, go shopping in Tesco with love eggs in if you have a nasty cough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and a general tip, not necessarily learned from swinging.... Never, ever, go shopping in Tesco with love eggs in if you have a nasty cough. "
ROFPMSL!!!!

Oh come on! You've got to tell the whole story now - it's Friday after all....

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"That my ex was the problem in bed and not me.

That I am far better at sex than I realised (God that sounds sooo conceited!)

That wa-a-a-a-y too many people live completely unrewarding sex lives - and just accept it.

That I know who I am, am happy with it.

Pork"

Same here for both of us...so glad we have ex's and met each other.

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By *aybe_amyWoman
over a year ago

Wales


"Oh and a general tip, not necessarily learned from swinging.... Never, ever, go shopping in Tesco with love eggs in if you have a nasty cough. ROFPMSL!!!!

Oh come on! You've got to tell the whole story now - it's Friday after all....

"

I NEARLY lost em! Not quite, thankfully, but it felt like it was touch n go. It was a really bad cough mind. I think if I'd had a sneezing fit (I tend to sneeze at least 5 times, sometimes as much as 8), then it could've been 'clean up on aisle 7 please'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to take rejection so personally either here or in general and that some very sexy ladies find me desirable which has helped me be more confident in every day life too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and a general tip, not necessarily learned from swinging.... Never, ever, go shopping in Tesco with love eggs in if you have a nasty cough. ROFPMSL!!!!

Oh come on! You've got to tell the whole story now - it's Friday after all....

I NEARLY lost em! Not quite, thankfully, but it felt like it was touch n go. It was a really bad cough mind. I think if I'd had a sneezing fit (I tend to sneeze at least 5 times, sometimes as much as 8), then it could've been 'clean up on aisle 7 please'!"

Bet they even have a 'Caution - slippery floor' sign just for such an 'eventuality' ....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well i have been swinging most of my adult life, but what its taught me is, you can find the love of your life in the most bizzare places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I normally leave all this to Jules, but hey.

swinging has taught me a lot of things, but the most important lessons have been:

1. to love and respect my wife more than ever

2. people are not always what they seem

3. to look more beyond the physical to the personality

4. not to get hangups about my own body

5. to respect other peoples views and wishes

6. to enjoy life

Over to you?"

The more mature woman is preferable to the younger woman...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To expect the unexpected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That there are still lots of people around who are still hung up about sex and their bodies despite the changes in society which took place in the late 60s and 70s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging has taught me that I actually enjoy sucking cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the people who smile and are openly friendly aren't always as honest and as friendly as they pretend to be.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

theres lots of liers out there

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"That men really will shag anything "
and theres some filthy women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That the people who smile and are openly friendly aren't always as honest and as friendly as they pretend to be. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that I prefer slides and the roundabout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe the amount of people that have said how poor at sex the thought they were it has truly shocked me, it has taught me to be more tolerant of other people, I'm still miserable but less so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That there are still lots of people around who are still hung up about sex and their bodies despite the changes in society which took place in the late 60s and 70s.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's not all about the sex, even when it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not all about the sex, even when it is."

That's profound for a Friday....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It's not all about the sex, even when it is.

That's profound for a Friday....

"

Is there a forum day for profound statements? I think it's glib enough for a Friday.

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