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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't accommodate, (which will often be interpreted as being a cheating spouse or partner), and you only have cock photos in your public gallery. Relying on being a "professional" is unlikely to help much either.

Are you reading the profiles of the people you contact and writing a polite message showing you've read it?Or do you send one line messages or cut and paste messages? Are you sure you are contacting people whose criteria you match?

There are a lot of single men here compared with women and couples so your profile needs to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't accommodate, (which will often be interpreted as being a cheating spouse or partner), and you only have cock photos in your public gallery. Relying on being a "professional" is unlikely to help much either.

Are you reading the profiles of the people you contact and writing a polite message showing you've read it?Or do you send one line messages or cut and paste messages? Are you sure you are contacting people whose criteria you match?

There are a lot of single men here compared with women and couples so your profile needs to stand out."

Agree with this, and a lot of your sentences start 'I am', which I find a bit egocentric. But that's my issue, as at work when I read CVs like that, they tend to end up filed under bin.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't accomodate", "discrete", "limited" time - I suspect most people reading those 3 things on the same profile will suspect that you are cheating. Even if you arent the limyted time is not a good selling point. I'd read that as abusy life and potentially likely to cancel, or be running late etc. Most people have busy lives highlighting that means you are either exceptionally busy or we are back to the cheating suspicion.

As others have said your profile reads very egocentric, all about you and more than a touch arrogant. Combined with this thread, I suspect a sense of entitlement which, as you are finding out is unjustified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "

why would you think what you do for a living would make a difference on here?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


""Can't accomodate", "discrete", "limited" time - I suspect most people reading those 3 things on the same profile will suspect that you are cheating. Even if you arent the limyted time is not a good selling point. I'd read that as abusy life and potentially likely to cancel, or be running late etc. Most people have busy lives highlighting that means you are either exceptionally busy or we are back to the cheating suspicion.

As others have said your profile reads very egocentric, all about you and more than a touch arrogant. Combined with this thread, I suspect a sense of entitlement which, as you are finding out is unjustified."

Sorry OP, but I agree with the other comments, especially this one.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I agree with the others

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discreet, cannot accommodate, limited time are all reasons why I wouldn't find your profile appealing.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think as a professional man that makes you so much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

"

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok peeps I get it thanks for the pointers.

Out of interest I'm in the military and have been for almost 30 yrs. I live in military accn with about 50 others which makes accommadating very dificault. I work long hours and coach at a school during the week, cadets in the evening and at a rugby club at weekends so my time is very limited.

Thanks again for your comments I think the best one is the lack of photos. What would you suggest I add?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?"

Giz a go on yer yacht kidder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok peeps I get it thanks for the pointers.

Out of interest I'm in the military and have been for almost 30 yrs. I live in military accn with about 50 others which makes accommadating very dificault. I work long hours and coach at a school during the week, cadets in the evening and at a rugby club at weekends so my time is very limited.

Thanks again for your comments I think the best one is the lack of photos. What would you suggest I add?"

Why not add some of what you have just said to your profile?

On pics, black and white tease shots work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok peeps I get it thanks for the pointers.

Out of interest I'm in the military and have been for almost 30 yrs. I live in military accn with about 50 others which makes accommadating very dificault. I work long hours and coach at a school during the week, cadets in the evening and at a rugby club at weekends so my time is very limited.

Thanks again for your comments I think the best one is the lack of photos. What would you suggest I add?

Why not add some of what you have just said to your profile?

On pics, black and white tease shots work for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name is Ray Doyle, I'm a professional too but have the same problem that women wont take me taken seriously. I drive a Ford Capri 3.0 S Mark III around the streets of Derby where I grew up and nothing says 'good times' like sliding across the freshly turtle-waxed bonnet in a camel-coloured overcoat.

I keep myself in shape by practising Karate, but I also enjoy art and music too. I mean, what's not to like, ladies?

I wonder if its the bubble perm hairstyle and 70s dress sense that's putting off potential meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My name is Ray Doyle, I'm a professional too but have the same problem that women wont take me taken seriously. I drive a Ford Capri 3.0 S Mark III around the streets of Derby where I grew up and nothing says 'good times' like sliding across the freshly turtle-waxed bonnet in a camel-coloured overcoat.

I keep myself in shape by practising Karate, but I also enjoy art and music too. I mean, what's not to like, ladies?

I wonder if its the bubble perm hairstyle and 70s dress sense that's putting off potential meets?"

I preferred yer mate Bodie, maybe a 3some could happen there though. I got a Farrah Fawcett hairdo and wear blue eyeshadow and American tan tights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I preferred yer mate Bodie, maybe a 3some could happen there though. I got a Farrah Fawcett hairdo and wear blue eyeshadow and American tan tights. "

You throw on a pair of white Stilleto heels to go with those American Tan tights andI'm already sporting a semi!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So back the op - how do you envisage the meet ? Do the folk you meet have to accommodate ?

And also fit in with your spare time ? Think about it like this - you can already see how unappealing it is with the restrictions - perhaps you should expect less and realise that there are do many other 'easier' options out there for couples ?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "
you need to add "not a sausage" after the still nothing !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above

Just a suggestion fella - relax and let things take there own pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "

Because you are cheating on you wife and, shockingly, not everyone is ok with that.

At least, that's how you look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?"

Oh helloooooooo

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo "
trust you your a tart he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My name is Ray Doyle, I'm a professional too but have the same problem that women wont take me taken seriously. I drive a Ford Capri 3.0 S Mark III around the streets of Derby where I grew up and nothing says 'good times' like sliding across the freshly turtle-waxed bonnet in a camel-coloured overcoat.

I keep myself in shape by practising Karate, but I also enjoy art and music too. I mean, what's not to like, ladies?

I wonder if its the bubble perm hairstyle and 70s dress sense that's putting off potential meets?"

they didnt do a 3lt carpi did they?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "
is the veri false then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "

baby can i say you have a face photo for your file but no face photos on file shame you look a very yummy guy to great file

lipstick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he"

Shut up you!! Money talks

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks "
ive got loose change in my piggy bank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My name is Ray Doyle, I'm a professional too but have the same problem that women wont take me taken seriously. I drive a Ford Capri 3.0 S Mark III around the streets of Derby where I grew up and nothing says 'good times' like sliding across the freshly turtle-waxed bonnet in a camel-coloured overcoat.

I keep myself in shape by practising Karate, but I also enjoy art and music too. I mean, what's not to like, ladies?

I wonder if its the bubble perm hairstyle and 70s dress sense that's putting off potential meets?

they didnt do a 3lt carpi did they? "

They did do 3 litre capris. I had a few of them. One was silver. Went like a rocket!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks ive got loose change in my piggy bank"

s'more than I've got - I've got three IOUs and some washers in mine

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I preferred yer mate Bodie, maybe a 3some could happen there though. I got a Farrah Fawcett hairdo and wear blue eyeshadow and American tan tights.

You throw on a pair of white Stilleto heels to go with those American Tan tights andI'm already sporting a semi!

"

Don't tease. And a gypsy top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't accommodate, (which will often be interpreted as being a cheating spouse or partner), and you only have cock photos in your public gallery. Relying on being a "professional" is unlikely to help much either.

Are you reading the profiles of the people you contact and writing a polite message showing you've read it?Or do you send one line messages or cut and paste messages? Are you sure you are contacting people whose criteria you match?

There are a lot of single men here compared with women and couples so your profile needs to stand out."

not being able to accommodate is very rarerly interpreted as anything other than wanting to keep a part of your life private, ridiculous to assume that every person who can't accommodate on here is playing away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! you need to add "not a sausage" after the still nothing !"

you can talk love you dont even have photos on your file

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't accommodate, (which will often be interpreted as being a cheating spouse or partner), and you only have cock photos in your public gallery. Relying on being a "professional" is unlikely to help much either.

Are you reading the profiles of the people you contact and writing a polite message showing you've read it?Or do you send one line messages or cut and paste messages? Are you sure you are contacting people whose criteria you match?

There are a lot of single men here compared with women and couples so your profile needs to stand out."

It is only because there are more women than men on here. He has nothing to worry about, just persevere and you will get lucky -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks ive got loose change in my piggy bank

s'more than I've got - I've got three IOUs and some washers in mine

Wolf

"

That's you two blown out then pfffttt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! you need to add "not a sausage" after the still nothing !

you can talk love you dont even have photos on your file "

So what? I refuse to show any photos at any time and it hasn't affected meeting for me

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! you need to add "not a sausage" after the still nothing !

you can talk love you dont even have photos on your file "
the difference is i"m not complaining that i"m not getting any on here..my profile my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "

Just ignore any so called advice, your profile is fine and it really is only a matter of time before you get to meet someone. There is no problem whatsoever with your profile, it's far better than some I have read/seen. Chin up and if you are ever in Bristol drop me a line

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?"
hahahahahahahahah Or i have lunch every friday with Abramovitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh i love a good verbal scrap

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Body shots, torso shots and bum shots go down well - clothed, partially clothed or naked.

As a serviceman mention that and the fact that you live in work supplied accom so can invite round. Let people know if you are willing to get a hotel or share the costs or if you prefer to go to someones house.

If time is limited due to work constraints say that or people will think you are married/attached.

If you are married/attached say so. Some won't want to meet but it won't bother others but all like to know up front.

Some single women and couples expect a brief social meet over coffee in a public place (for safety and verification reasons) let us know if you're ok with that or not.

All of the above is without even reading your profile, based only on comments here. I'll go and check it out and get back to you with other points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So back the op - how do you envisage the meet ? Do the folk you meet have to accommodate ?

And also fit in with your spare time ? Think about it like this - you can already see how unappealing it is with the restrictions - perhaps you should expect less and realise that there are do many other 'easier' options out there for couples ?"

Thats a bit unfair we all have a life outside of fabs can meet at clubs, hotels parties etc a lot of people do not accommodate due to personal reasons do not have to jump to the first conclusion.

Bum and body shots work and as for profile looks good just break it up a bit and good luck and happy swinging.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks ive got loose change in my piggy bank

s'more than I've got - I've got three IOUs and some washers in mine

Wolf

That's you two blown out then pfffttt! "
hey, you live in the north west my piggy bank might let me lead the high life in some towns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bodie had the capri doyle had the rs2000 get in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks ive got loose change in my piggy bank

s'more than I've got - I've got three IOUs and some washers in mine

Wolf

That's you two blown out then pfffttt! hey, you live in the north west my piggy bank might let me lead the high life in some towns "

Is it true that Pumpkins are the work of the devil in Birmingham Sam?

Wolf

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Run a spell check.

Drop the professional comment - it makes no odds for NSA hook ups.

Break up the big paragraph.

Try to inject a little humour - it all sounds very formal.

Move the cock shots to private and get some bum/shoulders/torso ones instead.

Enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks ive got loose change in my piggy bank

s'more than I've got - I've got three IOUs and some washers in mine

Wolf

That's you two blown out then pfffttt! hey, you live in the north west my piggy bank might let me lead the high life in some towns "

That does not mean im not a classy bird Sam

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"What being professional has to do with this?

And what do you mean by being taken seriously?

This is an adult site, you come in and can leave freely

I have a mansion and a yacht...so what?

Oh helloooooooo trust you your a tart he he

Shut up you!! Money talks ive got loose change in my piggy bank

s'more than I've got - I've got three IOUs and some washers in mine

Wolf

That's you two blown out then pfffttt! hey, you live in the north west my piggy bank might let me lead the high life in some towns

That does not mean im not a classy bird Sam "
oooooh i like classy does that mean youll put down your chips if we have sex in a alley he he x

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Will Sam and Tease get a room please????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please???? "

*and* I'll mind any chips instead of them being put down.... nom nom nom :P

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please???? "

My door is padlocked and bolted

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please????

My door is padlocked and bolted"
great because i am inside the room hiding in your wardrobe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please????

My door is padlocked and bolted great because i am inside the room hiding in your wardrobe "

I thought that the kids had been squirting me face cream again, clearly not!!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please????

My door is padlocked and bolted great because i am inside the room hiding in your wardrobe

I thought that the kids had been squirting me face cream again, clearly not!! "
Right you both are going in the naughty corner

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please????

My door is padlocked and bolted great because i am inside the room hiding in your wardrobe

I thought that the kids had been squirting me face cream again, clearly not!! "
dont worry it will come out in a hot wash..............eventually ps whats the box of toys and the gimp mask in the bottom of the wardrobe ?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will Sam and Tease get a room please????

My door is padlocked and bolted great because i am inside the room hiding in your wardrobe

I thought that the kids had been squirting me face cream again, clearly not!! dont worry it will come out in a hot wash..............eventually ps whats the box of toys and the gimp mask in the bottom of the wardrobe ?"

Bend over and ile show you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"bodie had the capri doyle had the rs2000 get in there "

In the later ones they both had 3 litre capris, one silver, one gold. I have the box set...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My name is Ray Doyle, I'm a professional too but have the same problem that women wont take me taken seriously. I drive a Ford Capri 3.0 S Mark III around the streets of Derby where I grew up and nothing says 'good times' like sliding across the freshly turtle-waxed bonnet in a camel-coloured overcoat.

I keep myself in shape by practising Karate, but I also enjoy art and music too. I mean, what's not to like, ladies?

I wonder if its the bubble perm hairstyle and 70s dress sense that's putting off potential meets?

they didnt do a 3lt carpi did they? "

Yes they did, but driving it was all in the wrist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it as a profesional man I still can't get taken seriously on here??? I have a face pic but still nothing! "

Sorry, don't mean to offend but you did ask!

If you're genuinely a professional, that is a member of one of the recognised professions, why d'you think it's releavant to mention it in a place like this? I have to say that if a lady mentions 'professional' on her profile, I pass on to the next one as I've found that the way they conduct themselves on here is exactly the opposite to what I would see as being professional!

Just my opinion and experience!

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