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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you ever feel this way? You arrange a meet with someone,time day and where to meet.then on the day the person has put up an update.looking to meet today? Or free all day? What would you do? Remind them about your arranged meet? Block? Does it make you feel in reserve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would probably just do the same and then if they sed anything

I would say well we we’re meeting to day at xxx time

But but sins I am seconds I thought it would only be faire for you two be seconds also

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Nowt wrong with sloppy seconds in my opinion

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'd just say it to them .And honestly if I thought they had me as plan b then I'd cancel meeting them.There is no point in making them your plan A if you are their plan B. Cos the chances are they won't show or quite simply they aren't that into you and why would you want to meet anyone who thinks that little of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's how the site works. Game playing!!!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would block and move on.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"I would block and move on."

This.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I just wouldn't entertain such nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever feel this way? You arrange a meet with someone,time day and where to meet.then on the day the person has put up an update.looking to meet today? Or free all day? What would you do? Remind them about your arranged meet? Block? Does it make you feel in reserve?"

As a man I'd walk away but first I'd tell them why I was no longer interested .I.E thought you was meeting me ive seen what your upto good luck because you've lost your only guaranteed meet today with your disrespectful behavior .

I only fuck those who show me some respect treat me how I treat them and as I would never do that to someone I would not except it being done to me .

But OP I'm not a swinger I'm a completely different beast so it will be interesting to see what seasoned swingers think of this .

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

That's basically how I think sometimes things work. It definitely makes up a good % of the of the no show stats I reckon (often followed down the line with what you doing tonight after youve already seen their verification from the other night they said they had to be with their sick mum). It's annoying, especially when you have a busy life, kids and very limited free time that you can't afford to waste (especially when you've had to call in limited child care favours).

To play devil's advocate I suspect a lot of people in all categories do this when something (they perceive) better comes along. Its shitty, I'm not condoning it but ultimately everyone on here is here to fulfil their own desires as goal number 1. And no one owes anyone time or sex. I think this especially happens with people who cast their nets wide and suddenly experience the two buses at once scenario.

At the end of the day you can draw a red line at shitty behaviour or you can say that's how it is but I still fancy it. Personally for me it's a red. I just wished people wouldn't lie about and be honest, because it's ok to change your mind.

Clubs on the other just cut out the merry-go-round of bull shit.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'd have to say something, I'd send a message and then forget about them

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been a plan B and even a plan C and it's a shitty thing to do on anyone no matter who you are. Luckily I copped on both times so I didn't waste any more time on them.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

If I get even a sniff that someone isn’t 100% onboard with meeting me, then I walk away.

Everyone deserves to be treated with basic respect and decency, if they’re not into me, then I’d rather not meet than have them ambivalent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever feel this way? You arrange a meet with someone,time day and where to meet.then on the day the person has put up an update.looking to meet today? Or free all day? What would you do? Remind them about your arranged meet? Block? Does it make you feel in reserve?"

So here’s me. If I’m meeting you and I’ve put you in my diary. That is you, and anything else comes up I do not let anyone down as I myself would hate to become second best, and subbed because a better player is fit and available now. You wouldn’t get a second chance.

I don’t expect to be the best ( I might be) but have respect for me, you might be my best and my view would change quickly.

Posting a meet request looks a bit shit op.

*just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever feel this way? You arrange a meet with someone,time day and where to meet.then on the day the person has put up an update.looking to meet today? Or free all day? What would you do? Remind them about your arranged meet? Block? Does it make you feel in reserve?

So here’s me. If I’m meeting you and I’ve put you in my diary. That is you, and anything else comes up I do not let anyone down as I myself would hate to become second best, and subbed because a better player is fit and available now. You wouldn’t get a second chance.

I don’t expect to be the best ( I might be) but have respect for me, you might be my best and my view would change quickly.

Posting a meet request looks a bit shit op.

*just my opinion.

"

This!

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge


"Do you ever feel this way? You arrange a meet with someone,time day and where to meet.then on the day the person has put up an update.looking to meet today? Or free all day? What would you do? Remind them about your arranged meet? Block? Does it make you feel in reserve?"

Well if I had a meet with you planned, I wouldn't need a plan B.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton


"Do you ever feel this way? You arrange a meet with someone,time day and where to meet.then on the day the person has put up an update.looking to meet today? Or free all day? What would you do? Remind them about your arranged meet? Block? Does it make you feel in reserve?"

If this happened to me I'd just go about my own business.

Then when the where the fuck are you message arrived I'd say I'm having fun just like you, how many meetings did you get from your free all day status

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Ignore and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You deserve better then to be treated like a 2nd best Den so block forget and move on and just remember that a wank is better than meeting I disrespectful lover!!!!

Best of luck

Tony

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