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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought a narc was a grass

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

If there’s no important ties I just block. Nobody needs that in their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do? "

Be civil. Smile while thinking "fuck off!!!"

Don't let them know it bothers you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought a narc was a grass

I thought it was a fed

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I thought a narc was a grass

Or a narcotics officer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought a narc was a grass

I thought it was a fed

Basically yes. A narcotics officer but used as an insult to someone who grassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought a narc was a grass

Or a narcotics officer"

That’s what I thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do? "

As Saff said, but if there's personal ties then with patience. I'd like to say with patience and virtue, but it really doesn't feel very virtuous living what is essentially a lie.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

"narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do? "

If there are issues that prevent you from cutting that person out of your life such as children finances ect then give them as little of your time as possible try not to get drawn into their games.

If there’s no reason they should ever be around you then ignore every contact and block the route it came in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do? "

Avoid them, cut them out as much as possible.

People that are draining like that aren't worth your time.

Always be nice when you see them. As people like that aren't happy people and some just thrive of negativety.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Hoody Hooo

LvM

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I thought a narc was a grass

a police officer whose job is to catch people who produce, sell, or use illegal drugs.

*courtesy of our friend Mr Google

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do?

Avoid them, cut them out as much as possible.

People that are draining like that aren't worth your time.

Always be nice when you see them. As people like that aren't happy people and some just thrive of negativety."

OP, Google "grey rock".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought a narc was a grass

That is Nark.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I thought a narc was a grass

I thought they were the "Narcotics" police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP means narc as in narcissist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought a narc was a grass

I thought they were the "Narcotics" police"

Correct but also used as an insult to someone who grassed. Basically calling them a police officer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP means narc as in narcissist. "

That makes a lot more sense.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Doris is a mind reader

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought a narc was a grass

I thought they were the "Narcotics" police

Correct but also used as an insult to someone who grassed. Basically calling them a police officer."

Narc is an abbreviation of narcotics but nark is a much older word with different origins.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Narc is an abbreviation of narcotics but nark is a much older word with different origins. "

He speaks Chaucerian ya know ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"narc realises they have lost all the control over you that they once had.

They contact you out the blue with the same sh***y attitude to the one they had when they discarded you from their life.

How long can you remain nice to a person whose lies had a hand in nearly wrecking your life and other lives. Why do they still behave this way and keep taking advantage of your good nature.

What do you do?

Avoid them, cut them out as much as possible.

People that are draining like that aren't worth your time.

Always be nice when you see them. As people like that aren't happy people and some just thrive of negativety.

OP, Google "grey rock". "

There's me thinking it was going to be pics of hot guys in grey joggers

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Narc and nark are both acceptable Scrabble words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Narc is an abbreviation of narcotics but nark is a much older word with different origins.

He speaks Chaucerian ya know ^

I like old Wives Tales

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've kinda laughed off the interaction

These people know what they're doing and if they don't, there is no hope for them ever finding true Peace and Contentment in life.

It's 2022 narc = narcissist

So last century for narcotics

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"I thought a narc was a grass

In this context, narcissistic controlling person.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

My tolerance has warn thin now over the years and slowly detaching myself from her sphere of influence. But unfortunately we have children. They live with me and that is her prime access to meddling in my life and trying to cling on to some control. She try's to stir division between me, My Fiancée and my kids. She tries to contact me and get involved with my life and what I'm doing through the kids. I know she keeps tabs on me and My life and often by 'coincidence' when something good or interesting is going on in my life she tries to get involved. And she and her parents wont leve me be. Always trying to bring me back to the family fold with nice offers of dinner and to stay etc. This may seem lovely on the surface, but its sinister, controlling and I can see that now. I see her manipulation more now than ever (it has always been there) and how she uses the children (as her only and most emotive) link to access me.

It's my fault, I tried to create a cordial environment that I thought was best for everyone when I should have set clear boundaries from the start. But I'm nice, I didn't see it couldn't be freindly. And she's definitely stepped up her campaign of bothering me since the day she realised my relationship with My Girl was serious.

So I'm drawing clear boundaries now. Still being polite but no niceties like how are things, let me help you with that, etc, etc. All I want from her is when are you having the kids, when are they coming home. I don't want to know about her life and I don't want her in mine. She still tries to meddle. The games she plays using the kids I don't have much control over. But when she sends me messages or trys to talk other than what I see to be essential communication about the kids I just ignor now.

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