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Are you good at replying or are you a mess like me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You can only be one? Which are you? Tell us

I literally cannot keep on top of iMessages, whatsapps, Twitter DMs, Instagram DMs, dating app messages and messages on here and end up ignoring bare people unintentionally. Fucks up my anxiety lmao

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you reply to clothed people and only ignore the bare ones ?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Dead good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you reply to clothed people and only ignore the bare ones ?"

Clothes people stand more of a chance but to be honest, Sally, anyone can get aired by me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dead good "

You’re a teacher? Teach me? PLEASE!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a mess… although occasionally I’ll have a blitz and attempt to catch up, but still slightly fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should think yourself lucky, fella - most guys on any dating site and especially on FAB couldn’t get a reply out of Alexa.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Pretty good when I in the mood

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Dead good

You’re a teacher? Teach me? PLEASE!! "

Faster finger and thumbs first, innit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply within 0.4 seconds and if anyone takes longer than 10 mins to reply to me I start thinking they are angry or annoyed or just generally hate me. If they leave me on read I need at least 3 big glasses of wine to calm down.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m a mess like you , I showed someone my WhatsApp and she horrified the amount of unread messages going back months, I often get deleted messages and then their photos just disappear when they give up but I refuse to be a sl*ve to messaging ,if it’s important my friends can.always call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the conversation goes dry, so do I.. in this case I am a pain for not replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terrible, I always think I need to perfect every message and take my time so it can take me hours to get back to people. Soz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a rule breaker, OP, I know you said you can be only one but I’m a mix of the two .. I try to keep up and be prompt but sometimes I want to give a proper reply to someone rather than a rush job so defer from replying immediately .. then it might spill over into the next day or so ..

they probably think I’m semi ghosting them but I’m not. And I hope they’re reading this!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dead good

You’re a teacher? Teach me? PLEASE!!

Faster finger and thumbs first, innit? "

‘Innit’? Wow maybe I’m actually the one teaching you!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not a mess, no

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Dead good

You’re a teacher? Teach me? PLEASE!!

Faster finger and thumbs first, innit?

‘Innit’? Wow maybe I’m actually the one teaching you! "

Our son - I like to annoy him with it. That, and puns

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I'm pretty bad to be honest, I don't even get that many messages! Sometimes a text from a friend or my brother will sit unread for a week or two before I get around to responding

But then again, I also get anxious if someone leaves a message of mine for too long Can't win

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not a mess, no "

Oh hello!

So you’re ignoring my message because you’re not interested not because you can’t keep on top of your messages? Cool cool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should think yourself lucky, fella - most guys on any dating site and especially on FAB couldn’t get a reply out of Alexa. "
this made me chuckle. But you should know, on here I’m not drowning in messages from interested people. I’m like the rest of the men on here

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Really good but then my private 1to1 chat circle Is small on purpose.

Big chat groups can easily go a couple of hundred messages before I even get time to open it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a mess like you , I showed someone my WhatsApp and she horrified the amount of unread messages going back months, I often get deleted messages and then their photos just disappear when they give up but I refuse to be a sl*ve to messaging ,if it’s important my friends can.always call."

This is me. My WhatsApp is a mess. I haven’t even replied to my mum from a week ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not being paid to be here

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Compared to some of the people above I’m pretty good. I’ll rarely reply immediately but generally do within a day or two unless it’s someone I’m really not interested in. I like regular(ish) contact with friends and family but not too regular.

I can’t do with needy people though - those who message many times a day with superfluous crap - it does my head in and eventually I ignore them for their sake and mine. If they need that level of attention/commitment then they’re not for me and I’m not for them.

Only my kids and close friends/family get my attention 24/7 if they need it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty good if I'm not busy, but we all have lives and they take over.

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By *rincessPuddleDuck22Woman
over a year ago

.•°°

I'm really bad at replying even in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm excellent at replying. Except to men who are nice but I don't fancy, in which case I prevaricate for days.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I have about one a fortnight so I’m good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm really bad at replying even in person. "

Relatable

In person I’m barely even there sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have about one a fortnight so I’m good "

If you left them for a few months, you’d have more to juggle. Do it for the thrill man trust me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I'm excellent at replying. Except to men who are nice but I don't fancy, in which case I prevaricate for days. "

Explains a lot about our interactions- Thanks Bertie. I’m crying now.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Close friends and family I’m average to poor… anyone else it’s pot luck. I’m not a fan of millions of chats and simply can’t. If I get overwhelmed I switch everything off and ignore completely.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"Close friends and family I’m average to poor… anyone else it’s pot luck. I’m not a fan of millions of chats and simply can’t. If I get overwhelmed I switch everything off and ignore completely. "

Very true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'm excellent at replying. Except to men who are nice but I don't fancy, in which case I prevaricate for days.

Explains a lot about our interactions- Thanks Bertie. I’m crying now. "

You big fibber!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I currently have 11 un opened chats on WhatsApp so make of that what you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible. I don't get much time to look at my phone so will have a quick glance at messages when I get a spare minute and think "I'll reply to that later".

But then I forget...

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Hmmm not too shabby I don’t think but quite often something pops up to distract me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say I am good at replying I don’t like to leave it or the yellow box showing on here

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I’d say I am good at replying I don’t like to leave it or the yellow box showing on here "

I would have thought you would have a pa for all yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I currently have 11 un opened chats on WhatsApp so make of that what you will "

I have 14. So you’re close to being a mess like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d say I am good at replying I don’t like to leave it or the yellow box showing on here

I would have thought you would have a pa for all yours "

Give over

Little miss proud as punch

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m fairly good at replying.

C on the other hand…I leave messages on here for her and they’ll still be there a few days later…then I never know to delete, reply or just ignore

K

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I wouldn't say I'm a mess but I'm not great with everyone, unless someone catches me in the right mood, when I've got some free time and I want to talk to them. Or they give me serious fanny flutters and warm fuzzies.

Otherwise, I'll wait until my headspace is more with it. Engaged. It's not really fair for them to get my abrupt, short replies, dripping in lacklustre waffle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a mixed bag. Sometimes I do, sometimes I can’t get my head into it.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I’d say I am good at replying I don’t like to leave it or the yellow box showing on here

I would have thought you would have a pa for all yours

Give over

Little miss proud as punch "

HaHa ... that day is coming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d say I am good at replying I don’t like to leave it or the yellow box showing on here

I would have thought you would have a pa for all yours

Give over

Little miss proud as punch

HaHa ... that day is coming "

Oh that made me laugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a mess!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Context all important!

I am excellent with work email: on it like a bonnet. Terrible at any life admin. Socially, mixed bag: I'm very good at keeping on top of messages and read them all (no unread WhatsApps here, thank you), but can be slow to reply if I'm not engaged and can just let group chats carry on around me! On here, I like to think I'm at the better end of my social mixed bag...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fucking terrible.

I'm sorry to all the lovely forum people who have messaged me over the last year or so, I just can't do it. I suck massively at anything more than a very brief message.

I only really chat and respond to people I'm super close with. I just don't have the mental energy to hold conversation with people the last few years.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m great at all msgs apart from on here, no idea why, then I have a purge and end up deleting all because I can’t be assed so apologies

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

A total utter mess.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A bit of a mess, depending on what's going on. Fab tends to be the worst, where I often feel in no fit state to look at the inbox. I appreciate my friends and want to respond quickly, here and elsewhere. Unfortunately, the inbox here is often an assault to the senses and sanity.

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By *ownwithafeatherMan
over a year ago

Watford

I can't even leave the reactions in Teams unchecked. I may be slightly obsessive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the best solution would be to not have so many messaging apps/platforms and you wouldn't have these problems

Thank me later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly this thread has been really helpful for me. It's making me realise that leaving my messages hanging probably isn't personal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply? I've just swept the spiders webs out of my inbox...

No, nothing to reply to.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't get that many messages that I can't keep up... Over all platforms.

If it was overwhelming I'd probably shut a few off.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I try do. But I have days I just don’t want to be sociable and “talk” to anyone. The ping ponging can get me feeling a bit weary. And it’s totally not them or the content, it’s all me.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

On the rear occasion when I get a reply. I tend to read and be a little bit witty back

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By *onewolf444Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I always take the time to reply to personal and fab messages. It's only polite. Even if a no thank you or I'm so busy I'll message properly when I can.

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