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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone I'm a little puzzled, I regularly read on ladies profiles that they do not like rude guys and guys that send cock pics etc. Now I'm an easy going guy I'm not a prosumptious type and I have respect for everyone especially the ladies due to the fact they have to put up with these irritating messages which I have seen as my ex used to be on here who have been best mates with for a very long time and she has shown me some of the messages they get. So I try to be courtious and understand myself but after many months of trying to make first contact and trying to make friends on here as a single guy I still get blocked and ignored I realise I may not be everyone's cup of tea but I would like to actually make friends I've even tried arranging a night or day out and have put up an anyone interested post on several occasions and got nothing does any one have any suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just good luck

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Don’t measure yourself by how you think others act.

The reality is that not everyone is a good fit for everyone else.

Like any relationships it takes time to build, find common interests etc.

Your best bet is getting to organised socials, letting people get to know the real you, and have less reliance on fab for finding meets.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Patience, reality rather than expectation then pick the right audience.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Go to a club

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Accept that that is often the reality of being on Fab

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Go to a club"

This. And group socials.

Just remember, OP. Being courteous is the most basic thing that someone can do, that in itself is not a reason for people to meet you.

You don’t get points for not sending cock pics or pestering people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing you have to understand is the sheer number of messages, winks and friend requests we can get. We only block people (not just guys) that continue to do all of the above after deleting previous of all the above. It may be you are a decent guy, but if you don’t show us you have read our profile and respected the content you are likely to be blocked. If we say we only want to meet local people then why contact us if you are 150 miles away. If we say we are not meeting at the moment, why ask if we are free now. If we say have a face pic, then send one, if we say not crap message, why send one? We don’t respond to profiles with only one or two public dick pics because it shows nothing but a dick and there are thousands to pick from.

As you can see, so many reasons you could be blocked x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's great your sending conscientious respectful messages. And that your getting out there on the forums. All steps in the right direction. Unfortunately being an around descent guy or a good looking guy doesn't give you a pass into conversation or peoples time. People are quite particular with what they are looking for, it's very subjective. And not every one is looking for a man every night or indeed any new man. This is the Internet and its very fickle.

I would say don't be disheartened or drawn into the myth that bad boys do well. The reality is its an uphill struggle and up to you if you want to continue this game. As others had said maybe try a club. It's kind of swingers speed dating where you can display your character in the real world and get real world exposure that you can't get on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou all for your replies unfortunately clubs are few and far between in the area I live but we have plenty of pubs and coffee shops lol but the fact that I have had some positive feedback I can work on helps thanks again everyone

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Join in with forum/cam room chat. Sense of humour goes a long way. Many more men than women on here so you need to stand out. Good luck op!

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