FabSwingers.com forum: Would you view someone as relationship material

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its better than a dating site as at least the sex part being important is front and centre likes and dislikes are more out in the open more likely to be open about fantasies i think generally more open yes theres a fair share of fuck n fuck off types but you get them anywhere well thats what i think anyway "

Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"If you knew a potential partner had been on here? Question mainly for men, I'm on dating sites and do want to find a long term partner but I worry about someone finding out I've been on here and what they would think about it. So would it put you off someone? "

If I were looking then no it would not as it means they've got the same past time as me

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yes to answer the question. Most subjects are out in the open and you can get to know someone in chat (forum/pm/cam) very easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes why not just because someone on here dose not make them any less desirable

Just because someone my have had loads off sexually partners dose not make them any less desirable

Wouldn’t bother me one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be a pleasure to meet many on here for more than a meet, am sure lots of potential for a serious relationship

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Honestly, I don’t know that in future I would consider someone that hadn’t been on here, or somewhere similar or was at least living this kind of life.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It would if they’re into this lifestyle yeah. I don’t want a relationship but if I did that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here

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some will think that thats why they are here its a shagging site primarily so some will want an easy lay but thats no different to 2 folks meeting in a pub or club or launderette

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here

some will think that thats why they are here its a shagging site primarily so some will want an easy lay but thats no different to 2 folks meeting in a pub or club or launderette "

Or the dating sites, most are just hook ups now

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?

So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if I was single I’d prefer to meet someone that is into this.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?

So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of?

Also no it wouldn't put me off because I'm on here but it might put people off that aren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just be completely open and honest with them.

I’m also in the same situation as you and looking for a long term partner.

Fabs for me now is just about the forums and that’s it really.

I’ve had my fun and that has be a lot of fun but now for me it’s about finding someone who we both just want each other if that makes sense?

I’ve even told one I’m talking to off of here about fabs.

She was curious and we chatted about it and it seems like she’s very cool about it as it’s now in my past so to speak.

But if you can’t be completely honest then that could cause issues.

If you aren’t then what makes you think they are I guess.

And those that don’t accept us for who we are don’t deserve our time really. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would put me off completely. Men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, in fact I'd be very turned on by it. I'm also on a dating site and would love to find a partner for life. especially if we enjoyed the same activities;-) x

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

I would want to carry this lifestlye on with that person so them being on here would be a bonus.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

No it wouldn't put me off at all. It would save an awkward conversation later on in the relationship!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I met my partner on here, so that should confirm my view on it.

There are, however, some people that wouldn't date people from here...on a past thread I can remember rolling my eyes at a post which was something along the lines of "girls on here are alright for fun, but none of them are wifey material"

I've seen many posts along the same lines in the past.

I think the universal answer to questions like this is "some will, some won't, find the people that are compatible with you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep totally agree with that but I mean would you think someone was easy or not to be respected if you knew they had been on here

some will think that thats why they are here its a shagging site primarily so some will want an easy lay but thats no different to 2 folks meeting in a pub or club or launderette

Or the dating sites, most are just hook ups now "
exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in here. So my view is from only one point of view.

But yeh, relationships can start anywhere. Love rules and will bite your ass when you least expect it.

So what, they’re a swinger….you love em right?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I would see a massive red flag in any potential partner if they were judgemental or tried to make me feel bad for my sexaul past. Our sexuality and how we express this is part of us. I would resist choosing someone who didn't love and respect me for all I am or someone that wanted to control me and mold me into a box that didn't fit.

I met My Girl on here and we are engaged. We are together because we love each other, build each other up and want to share all that we are together. Love should not be a cage. We should be free individuals and with that person because we chose their love, their company and because we are loved back for who we are. Not because they've put us in a box or don't love all that we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m in here. So my view is from only one point of view.

But yeh, relationships can start anywhere. Love rules and will bite your ass when you least expect it.

So what, they’re a swinger….you love em right? "

This too, I mean I guess where you meet doesn’t matter.

Love can come from meeting anyone in any place I guess.

But for me I personally that I want that exclusivity of a relationship.

Where both only want the other.

So for me that’s not something I’d find on fabs and that’s cool.

I’ve had amazing times and met some truly beautiful people here who I will always continue to call friends.

But now it’s the long game and that’s not with fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?

So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of?

The clue words that you casually throw into the conversation to see if they're on your wave lenght

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Isn't this a standard question now when talking to someone on a dating site?

So if I said the word fab or fet to you, what do you think of?

The clue words that you casually throw into the conversation to see if they're on your wave lenght"

Exactly

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

If a potential partner was aware of swinging and or fabswingers.com they would more than likely be quite open-minded and not have dated ideas about women

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

I wouldn't be put off at all. I'm on here, so why would I expect different (for want of a better word) "standards" from a romantic partner?

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

What people have done before you met them should have no impact on how you view them.

When you have met them and start a relationship that’s when you decide on what you consider acceptable in the future.

If I met someone that used to be a escort or porn star pre that would not cause me a problem on how a view them and I would still date/marry them no problem or jealousy.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

A wise friend of mine once said to me "if she doesn't make you a better person & you her then what's the point of being together?"

So, to answer your question "Op" why not? Past is in the past & irrelevant to me. I don't want to know.

I suppose you can only be honest with her & talk about anything & everything. Oh & no secrets... They weigh you down!

Do I need to take me rosy tinted glasses off now?

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

"Personally if I was single I’d prefer to meet someone that is into this. "

I am single and would prefer if a future partner was into it.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"A wise friend of mine once said to me "if she doesn't make you a better person & you her then what's the point of being together?"

So, to answer your question "Op" why not? Past is in the past & irrelevant to me. I don't want to know.

I suppose you can only be honest with her & talk about anything & everything. Oh & no secrets... They weigh you down!

Do I need to take me rosy tinted glasses off now?

Sums it up very nicely - I would second that and no, it is not unrealistic!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Most of the guys I've met on here are also on regular dating sites, so they couldn't really use that excuse.

It's 2022... Women are allowed to enjoy sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Relationship material. Hmm, surely anybody is suitable to he in a relationship with if you suit each other. If something about you (or them ) puts you off being with them it just means you're not compatible, it doesn't mean either of you aren't suited to be in a relationship with anybody.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Honestly, I don't get the whole "relationship material" vs "only good for a shag" thing. If I like and get on with someone, I don't put them in a box. Maybe it's easy for me to say as I'm in a relationship, the nature of any additional relationships is more clear than if I were single?

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationship material. Hmm, surely anybody is suitable to he in a relationship with if you suit each other. If something about you (or them ) puts you off being with them it just means you're not compatible, it doesn't mean either of you aren't suited to be in a relationship with anybody."

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We met on Fab…

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Just shaggable or not

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I would be very happy to have a proper relationship with a lady who had been on Fab and I have met some lovely people on here.

The apocryphal Islamic gift for suicide bombers of 72 virgins in heaven is the single most awful thing I can imagine. Give me a sexy experienced lady any day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about you?

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By *orticia1313Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I would see a massive red flag in any potential partner if they were judgemental or tried to make me feel bad for my sexaul past. Our sexuality and how we express this is part of us. I would resist choosing someone who didn't love and respect me for all I am or someone that wanted to control me and mold me into a box that didn't fit.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s entirely personal. It would put me off, but that doesn’t mean it would put others off. And theirs plenty that it would turn on!

If you bring on here turns them off then they aren’t for you. Don’t be ashamed or feel judged for doing things you like, especially when your hurting no one’s

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By *iss ImperfectWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Ultimately, I’m looking for a relationship and think that you get way more honesty on sites like Fab than more generic dating sites. I wouldn’t want to hide this part of myself now either…. Took way too long to find it! Lol

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I met my partner on here, so that should confirm my view on it.

I've seen many posts along the same lines in the past.

I think the universal answer to questions like this is "some will, some won't, find the people that are compatible with you"

Agree

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Okay, as a man this is my viewpoint on it. If I was searching on dating sites / apps for a lady to potentially become a long term partner, if she told me she had a Fab / Fet / Whatever profile upfront then I'd be fine with it (encouraged we would be compatible long term, even). I wouldn't be fine, however, with meeting a potential long term partner on a dating website / app who hid / didn't tell me about their Fab account.

If you want to meet someone who will love you and accept you for who you are, then you can use telling them about Fab as a kind of litmus test for what kind of person they are and weather or not you're compatible with them. If they get upset or judgemental about it, then would you really want to be with them in the long run?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No not at all, I'd rather date someone from here, I need a man who I can express myself with and that involves kink

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By *orticia1313Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Most of the guys I've met on here are also on regular dating sites, so they couldn't really use that excuse.

It's 2022... Women are allowed to enjoy sex.

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't come out with it as a pickup line, but being open and honest if asked about your past is fair enough as you get to know someone.

We both mentioned to each other that we'd had threesomes in the past long before I (hubby) suggested swinging. Before we were married if I recall correctly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly don't think it's impossible to believe you can't find a potential partner on her...

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By *orticia1313Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

If you met someone and your history was an issue for them then that's their problem, not yours.

Whether that's because you've been on here, had 4 previous husband's or 11 kids, any future partner needs to accept you for you.

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