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"‘Don’t be shy put some more’ video. You are welcome " See, now I can never ever ever add more videos | |||
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"Because it shows that the person saying it doesn't actually understand why you're uncomfortable about what they're asking. LvM" Thank you, yes, I think that it is | |||
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"What is it about this phrase that I find irritating….. I don’t not do thing because I’m shy, it’s generally because I choose not to. Thoughts please? Your over thinking it ." Why….. | |||
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"I am shy and it annoys me too. Like I choose to be paralysed by shyness at inconvenient times " I’m sorry | |||
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"It feels kinda manipulative. As a teen I have used that term, there's one tale I like to tell and it makes me cringe every time now." Yes, it feels kind of manipulative to me too | |||
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"Think it's supposed to deminish your feelings. And try and make out you're in the wrong for not liking xyz. " | |||
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"What is it about this phrase that I find irritating….. I don’t not do thing because I’m shy, it’s generally because I choose not to. Thoughts please? Your over thinking it . Why….. " I'm not going to explane you asked me what I thought I gave you my honest answer, to go any further could be considered as mansplaining. | |||
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"What is it about this phrase that I find irritating….. I don’t not do thing because I’m shy, it’s generally because I choose not to. Thoughts please?" Don't be shy, take your knickers off and sit on my lap | |||
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"Don't be shy, show us your rectum. " Pfft, todays pic are so far out of my comfort zone as it is | |||
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"I am shy and it annoys me too. Like I choose to be paralysed by shyness at inconvenient times " Yep me too, as Hippy has seen | |||
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"What is it about this phrase that I find irritating….. I don’t not do thing because I’m shy, it’s generally because I choose not to. Thoughts please? Your over thinking it . Why….. I'm not going to explane you asked me what I thought I gave you my honest answer, to go any further could be considered as mansplaining." Explaining your thought process is not mansplaining, but up to you | |||
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"This proper irritates me also - I think people use it in the hope that you will do something just to prove your not - like being shy is a negative. It’s quite a manipulative phrase - telling someone not to be something is pointless, shyness is not easy to overcome, a person can be aware of it and perhaps want to improve it but it doesn’t help when someone’s trying to shame them for being that way which is what I feel the phrase does xx" I think this hits the nail on the head | |||
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"Don't be shy, show us your rectum. Pfft, todays pic are so far out of my comfort zone as it is " They are all really beautiful done! The one with you falling over and your feet in the air made me laugh too! | |||
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"Think it's supposed to deminish your feelings. And try and make out you're in the wrong for not liking xyz. " Who actually likes x y and z though. I'm all about the p q and r personnally | |||
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"This proper irritates me also - I think people use it in the hope that you will do something just to prove your not - like being shy is a negative. It’s quite a manipulative phrase - telling someone not to be something is pointless, shyness is not easy to overcome, a person can be aware of it and perhaps want to improve it but it doesn’t help when someone’s trying to shame them for being that way which is what I feel the phrase does xx" | |||
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"Don't be shy, show us your rectum. Pfft, todays pic are so far out of my comfort zone as it is They are all really beautiful done! The one with you falling over and your feet in the air made me laugh too! " So clumsy | |||
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"Would you rather they just told you to “stop being such a fucking cock tease?” " No, I refuse | |||
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"Would you rather they just told you to “stop being such a fucking cock tease?” No, I refuse " #clunge! | |||
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"Would you rather they just told you to “stop being such a fucking cock tease?” " I'd be telling them to zip it as I like the cock teasing | |||
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"What is it about this phrase that I find irritating….. I don’t not do thing because I’m shy, it’s generally because I choose not to. Thoughts please?" Its the connotation that you should do what someone else wants rather than make your own decision with the added implication that there is a "reason" you aren't doing what they want. | |||
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"Maybe he only wants a goer like nora " I am actually shy sometimes. More than people think. | |||
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"Pfft, todays pic are so far out of my comfort zone as it is " • That was also my thinking, but it hasn't diminished any deference to your profile. It's YOUR profile. In regards to the "don't by shy": I don't know about the context is but it's sounds like a disingenuous throwaway remark. | |||
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"Maybe he only wants a goer like nora I am actually shy sometimes. More than people think. " about as shy as saffy shes game as fook | |||
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"Maybe he only wants a goer like nora I am actually shy sometimes. More than people think. about as shy as saffy shes game as fook " | |||
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"Like a lot of questions posed on here, context is everything. I'm not sure whether I'm alarmed, disappointed or both in the automatic negative perception that prevails here. Can be positive encouragement or it can be manipulation, depends on context Hippy." Agreed its all in the context and the delivery too | |||
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"It falls into the same category as men saying things like ‘give us a smile, you’re so much prettier when you smile’, it’s ridiculously offensive. It makes women feel that they are only meant to be happy and pretty and in the case of ‘don’t be shy’, also outgoing or forward, and it's a passive way to engage into an unwanted conversation. The fact that so many men still just don’t understand this is appalling." This is awesome | |||
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"Don't be shy is a form of manipulation. It's me telling you to do what I want you to do, regardless of any personal feelings you may have. Don't trust your gut, just do what I want. " I think so, but wondered if it was me | |||
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"I also dislike this phrase " I’m glad it’s not just me | |||
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